Kukho umfana obukhe wambona. Umfana oye waqala ukuba uyamthanda kwaye unokuzibona usebudlelwaneni naye. Kukho amandla okwenene ekamva kunye, emehlweni akho.
Kodwa ngelixa ucacile malunga naloo nto, ayisiyiyo kwaphela.
Sele unawo 'Incoko' malunga nokuba izinto zihamba phakathi kwakho , kwaye konke akutshoyo kukuba akazi nje ukuba ufuna ntoni.
Akaqinisekanga ngento ayifunayo, kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba akaqinisekanga ngawe, naye.
Kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo, udidekile. Yintoni kanye le azama ukuyithetha? Yintoni uzama ukubonisa?
Awazi ukuba uyitolike njani le nto akuxelela yona, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo awuqinisekanga malunga nokuba kufuneka uye phi na apha. Ngaba ufanele ulindele kuye ukuba enze isigqibo? Ixesha elingakanani? Ngaba ukulungele?
mangaphi amaxesha edrag enkulu yebhola
Wonke umntu, ewe, wahlukile kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba uzama ukucacisa umyalezo wakhe we-cryptic kwaye ufumanise ukuba inyathelo lakho elilandelayo kufuneka libe yintoni, emva koko funda.
Yintoni uzama ukukuxelela?
Ngelishwa, akukho mpendulo, ichanekileyo kuwe apha. Ukuba ukuxelela ukuba akayazi into ayifunayo, kunokuba yindlela yakhe yokuzama ukubonisa naliphi na inani lezinto.
Okanye, ukuzama uku thintela ukunyaniseka ngalo naliphi na inani lezinto.
Usenokungaqiniseki ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwingqondo yakhe… kodwa usenokuba nembono entle kwaye angaziva enomdla okanye angakwazi ukwabelana ngayo nawe.
Ezi zizizathu ezimbalwa ezingunobangela onokuthi uchaze oku, ngokuphandle, kunye nokuziphatha okukhathazayo.
1. Akakulungelanga ubudlelwane.
Isenokuba uzama ukuthi, nzulu, akakakulungeli. Oko kunokuba zizizathu ezininzi ezahlukeneyo.
Mhlawumbi usandul 'ukuphuma kolunye ulwalamano. Okanye mhlawumbi unengxaki ezithile ngomsebenzi, usapho, okanye impilo yakhe yengqondo, kwaye akakho nje kwisithuba seentloko ezifanelekileyo ukuze akwazi ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha ngoku.
Nokuba yintoni na, akazi ukuba angakuchaza njani oko.
2. Ulilungisa hayi oko kungena kuwe .
Ngamanye amaxesha, eli licebo oza kulisebenzisa umntu xa bengakuthandi kangako. Bayakuthanda ngokwaneleyo ukuba gcina ujikeleze de kufike omnye umntu, kodwa abaziva banele ngokwaneleyo ukuba bafuna izinto zenzeke.
Ke, ukuba ubabuzile ukuba izinto zihamba phi phakathi kwakho, le isenokuba licebo labo lokufuduka, ukuze babe nenkampani yakho ngelixa ibalungele kwaye akufuneki bavume ukuba abaziva.
3. Usoyika ukuzibophelela.
Umba inokuba kukuba esoyika ukuzibophelela kuwe. Oku akubonakalisi kuwe kukubonakalisa nje kwinqanaba lakhe lobomi.
Abantu abaninzi, kubo bonke ubuni besini, bayasokola ngombono wokuzibophelela kumntu omnye, nokuba kungenxa yokuba abafuni kubotshwa, bayoyika ukuyeka ukulinda, okanye bayoyika ukuba bangavumela omnye umntu phantsi.
Ukuba uyakuxelela akaqinisekanga, kusenokwenzeka ukuba akakhange aqonde unemicimbi yokuzibophelela .
4. Uyazoyika iimvakalelo zakhe.
Ukukuxelela ukuba akaqinisekanga ukuba ufuna ufuna oko kungathethi ukuba akonwabanga ngawe okanye ucinga ngethemba lobudlelwane.
Kungenzeka ukuba ngokwenene ngokwenene, uyakuthanda ngokwenene, kwaye ukhululekile. Mhlawumbi akazange azive ezi mvakalelo ngaphambili, kwaye akazi ukuba enze ntoni ngayo okanye indlela yokuyibonisa ngayo.
5. Uyoyikeka ekuvakaliseni iimvakalelo zakhe.
Ingxaki inokuba kukuba umbi kakhulu xa evakalisa indlela aziva ngayo ngokupheleleyo.
Mhlawumbi uyakuthanda, okanye mhlawumbi uyoyika, okanye mhlawumbi zizinto ezininzi. Nokuba yintoni na, usokola kakhulu ukufumana amagama.
Ndidinga ikhefu ebomini bam
Ngokuqinisekileyo, yinto engafaniyo, kodwa amadoda, ngokubanzi, avulelekile kwiimvakalelo zabo.
6. Ngokwenene akayazi into ayifunayo.
Kwaye okokugqibela kodwa kungaphelelanga apho, thelekelela ntoni? Inokuba uthetha inyani.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba, kwixa elidlulileyo, khange ukwazi ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nokuba ufuna ntoni na.
Uyazama, kodwa awungekhe ukwazi ukuyenza ingqondo yakho, ulala ucinga enye into, emva koko uvuke ngentsasa elandelayo utshintshe ingqondo yakho.
Mhlawumbi ngenene akaqinisekanga ukuba ufuna ntoni, kuwe nangaphandle kobomi ngokubanzi.
Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo?
Ndiyathemba ukuba, xa ufunda oku kungasentla, enye yeendlela onokuzikhetha yaxhuma kuwe, kwaye wakwazi ukubeka umnwe wakho kwesona sizathu sokuba akuxelele ukuba akaqinisekanga ngento ayifunayo.
Kodwa ngoku, lixesha lokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba uza kwenza ntoni ngayo.
Ukuba wenza isigqibo, emva koko kuya kufuneka uthathe izintso kwaye uqale ukwenza izigqibo ngokwakho.
Nazi ezinye zezimvo zendlela oza kuhamba ngayo uye phambili.
1. Cinga ngezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka - yiba nokuzingca.
Okwangoku, ucinga ngaye kunye neemvakalelo zakhe. Ke, kuya kufuneka wenze okufanayo.
Ukuba u-umming kunye ne-ahing, lithuba lakho elifanelekileyo lokucaca malunga neemvakalelo zakho kunye nento oyifunayo kubudlelwane.
Ngaba ngokwenene, ngokwenyani unje ngalo mfo ? Ngaba uyalibona ikamva kunye naye?
Ngaba ujonge ulwalamano olunzulu? Ngaba uzibona kunye neqabane elide, okanye uyabonwabela ubomi wedwa?
Kubudlelwane, yintoni ebalulekileyo kuwe? Ngaba ulungile ngokuthatha kancinci kwaye ubone ukuba izinto zihamba njani, okanye ufuna umntu ocacileyo ukuba uziva njani?
Thatha ixesha lokucingisisa ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye nezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kwakho, nokuba ingaba lo mfana uhambelana ncam nazo.
2. Thembela emathunjini akho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, iimvakalelo zethu zesisu zinokuba ngokubonakalayo ngaphandle kwempawu. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi banyanisile emalini.
Likuxelela ntoni ithuku lakho? Beka impendulo ofuna ukuyiva ngaphandle kwengqondo yakho kwaye Thembela le nto izama ukukuxelela yona .
Ngaba likho ngokwenene ithemba lokuba uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba nguwe? Okanye udlala ngeemvakalelo zakho?
Ngaba ngenene nobabini ninalo ikamva, okanye yinto nje yexesha ngaphambi kokuba izinto ziphele phakathi kwenu?
3. Ukuba awuqinisekanga, mnike ixesha.
Ke uthabathe ixesha lokucingisisa ngendlela oziva ngayo, kwaye une-inkling yento azama ukukuxelela yona xa esithi akaqinisekanga ngento ayifunayo.
Kodwa, ukunyaniseka, awukaqiniseki ngokupheleleyo malunga nokuba angakulungela na.
Kule meko, kulungile ukuba ube nomonde, uhambe nayo, kwaye ubone okwenzekayo.
Njengokuba iiveki zidlula kwaye nichitha ixesha elininzi kunye, iimvakalelo zakho ziya kucaca, kwaye ngethemba lokuba naye uzakwenza njalo.
Kodwa kungcono kungcono ungafaki onke amaqanda akho kwibhasikithi yakhe ngeli xesha. Sukuzivalela kwezinye, ezinokubangela umdla kwezothando ngenxa yakhe de abe ukulungele ukuba phambi kwakho malunga neemvakalelo zakhe.
4. Ukuba ucacile malunga nento oyifunayo, mnike isigqibo.
Kwelinye icala, unokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uqinisekile ngento oyifunayo.
Ufuna ubudlelwane, kwaye ufuna umntu ocacileyo malunga neemvakalelo zabo. Umthanda kakhulu lo mfo, kodwa awukulungelanga ukumlinda ajonge ingqondo yakhe kuye.
Kule meko, lixesha lokugqibela. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awuzukuhlala ulinde ngomonde ngelixa esenza izinto, uya kukunika impendulo, indlela enye okanye enye.
Nyaniseka kuwe kwaye ube nomusa kuwe, kwaye ngekhe uhambe kude kakhulu.
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