Unalo olu luvo lokuba into ayilunganga ncam kubudlelwane bakho.
Kodwa awuqinisekanga ukuba izama lakho lithetha ntoni kuwe.
Mhlawumbi, kwixa elidlulileyo, uzikhathalele kwaphela ezi mvakalelo zikusemngxunyeni wesisu sakho… ngamanye amaxesha iba neziphumo ezibi.
Kudala ufumana ezinye zeengcinga ezifanayo kunye neemvakalelo malunga nolwalamano lwakho lwangoku.
Kodwa awuqinisekanga ukuba ungabachonga njani ngokufanelekileyo okanye uqonde ukuba bathetha ntoni.
Kubudlelwane, amathumbu akho anokuzama ukukuxelela zonke iintlobo zezinto- ezinye azibi, kodwa ezinye zilungile.
Mhlawumbi kukho iiflegi ezibomvu ezikhulayo ngapha nangapha, kwaye uyazityeshela, okanye uzixelele ukuba ayinamsebenzi kuba uyazithanda…
ukuba wenzeni isithandwa sakho ngomhla wokuzalwa kwakhe
… Kodwa uyazi nzulu ezantsi ukuba ibalulekile.
Okanye mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba uyabathanda, kodwa amathumbu akho akuxelela ukuba ayilothando lokwenene. Okanye ukuba luthando ngaphambili, kodwa ngoku luphelile.
Okanye mhlawumbi yenye indlela ejikelezayo. Mhlawumbi uyazi nzulu ezantsi ukuba lo mntu ukulungele, kodwa uzama ukuziqinisekisa ngenye indlela, kuba woyika ukuzibophelela okanye umzabalazo wokuvumela umlindi wakho kubudlelwane bezothando.
Nokuba ithuku lakho lukukuba olu lwalamano lulungile kuwe okanye akunjalo, kukho izinto ezithile ezinokukunceda uvumele loo mkhwa ukukhokele.
1. Qiniseka ukuba ufumana ixesha lakho ngokwakho lokucinga.
Ukuba usebudlelwaneni, mhlawumbi uchitha ixesha elininzi naloo mntu. Usenokuhlala nabo.
Kwaye oku kungasibamba isigwebo sakho.
Amaxesha amaninzi akude ude ufumane indawo kubo apho ukwaziyo ukujonga iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ufumanise ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni entliziyweni yakho.
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Umzekelo, mhlawumbi amathumbu akho uzama ukukuxelela loo nto olu ayilo thando lokwenene, kodwa yinkanuko nje .
Awuyi kufumana ukucaca kuloo nto de ube unendawo ethile ekutsaleni komzimba oziva ubhekele kubo.
Okanye mhlawumbi ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo kuyinto encinci kwingqondo yakho yokuzibophelela, kodwa ukuba kude nabo kukwenza uqonde ukuba uyabakhumbula kwaye uyabathanda.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ngekhe ufumanise ukuba uziva njani ngokwenene ngomntu ukuba uhlala naye rhoqo.
Ufuna indawo yokuphefumla.
2. Gcina ingxelo.
Ijenali inokuba yindlela entle yokulandelela kunye nokuqonda iingcinga zakho.
Ukuba ubhala ngokunyaniseka kwaye ngaphandle kwesigwebo, kunokukunceda ufike emazantsi eemvakalelo zakho kunye neminqweno.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, iinkumbulo zethu zinokuba mfutshane kakhulu xa kufikwa kwimicimbi yentliziyo.
Unokuziva ungonwabanga malunga nolwalamano lwakho kwiveki enye, kodwa ubukrelekrele ngayo ngokulandelayo, oko kuthetha ukuba uzilahla ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo ezingalunganga.
Ukuyibhala yonke phantsi kuthetha ukuba ungabuyela umva ngaphezulu kwamagama akho kwaye khangela iipateni.
Oku kuyakukunceda ubone ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba uvakalelo lwesisu olukuxelela into ayilunganga ncam.
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3. Thetha ngomntu omthembileyo ngokungagungqiyo.
Ukubhala izinto phantsi yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubonisa indlela oziva ngayo. Kodwa ukuwathetha ngomlomo kuhlala kungcono.
Ngoku, akufuneki uxoxe ngezi mvakalelo naye nabani na.
Ufuna umntu omaziyo ukuba unomdla kwaye uyakuthanda…
… Kodwa umntu ongoyikiyo ukunyaniseka kuwe, kwanaxa besazi ukuba awuyi kuyithanda into abayithethayo.
Olona hlobo luhle ngumhlobo oya kuphulaphula nje, ngaphandle kokugweba, ngelixa uchaza iimvakalelo onazo.
Uyayazi into ekufuneka uyenzile, nzulu ezantsi, ke awudingi nyani ingcebiso yabo ufuna nje indlebe yokumamela ukukunceda uthethe ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye uziqonde.
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4. Cinga ngonyango.
Ukuba awuva ngathi unaye umntu ebomini bakho onokuthi uthethe naye malunga noku, okanye ukuba uziva ngathi sisiphumo sengxaki enzulu, njengemicimbi yokuxhomekeka okanye uloyiko lokuzibophelela, unokucinga ngokujika ingcali.
Abanye abantu bayathandabuza ukuya kumcebisi okanye kunyangi, kodwa ukuba le micimbi iyakuthintela ekwenzeni ubudlelwane obunempilo, obonwabileyo, obuhlala ixesha elide, isenokuba lixesha lokuba nesibindi kwaye ubaphathe ngqo.
Iya kuba yinto enzima ukusebenzisana nayo, kodwa unokwenza izinto ngawe ezinokutshintsha ubomi bakho bube ngcono.
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5. Ukuba uyayichasa imbono yokuthetha ngayo, cinga ngokuba kutheni kunjalo.
Ukuba uziva uxakekile ngumbono wokubhala malunga noku, makungathethi nokuthetha nomhlobo okanye ingcali ngayo, kuya kufuneka ubuye umva kwaye ucinge ukuba kutheni le nto ungenako ukujongana nalo mba.
Yintoni le uyibalekayo?
Ngaba uyoyika ukuba wedwa, ngoko awufuni kuyamkela into yokuba lo mntu angakulungeli?
Ingaba uyoyika ukuba abantu bangathini ukuba ubudlelwane abuphumeleli?
Ngaba woyika ukonzakala xa uthe wathulula intliziyo yakho nomphefumlo wakho kolu lwalamano?
Iziphumo kukuba ukungafuni kwakho ukujongana nale meko kunento yokwenza noloyiko ngandlela thile, imilo, okanye ifom.
Uloyiko lusempilweni ukuya kwinqanaba elithile, kodwa awunako ukuluvumela ukuba luqhube ubomi bakho.
Unokukufumanisa kunzima, kodwa kuya kufuneka unyanzelise ukungavumi kwakho ukuhlalutya ezi mvakalelo.
Ndithembe, uya kuziva ngcono ngayo.
6. Sukukwenza ukukhawuleza kwezigqibo zomzuzu.
Iimvakalelo zesisu yinto ekufuneka sikhokelwe yiyo, kodwa hayi ngokungxama.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ngomzuzwana wokucaphuka, unokucinga ukuba isisu sakho sikuxelela into, kwaye uyenze, emva koko uzisole ngesi sigqibo kamva.
Kubalulekile ukuzivumela ukuba uphole, ufumane indawo, kwaye ucinge ngemeko okuyo ngaphambi kokwenza naziphi na izigqibo ezinkulu.
Qinisekisa ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zihlala zikuxelela ukuba kukho into engalunganga…
… Ayikuko ukuba uvumela nje ixesha elinanye ukushukunyiswa sisiphumo sempikiswano okanye ukuqonda okufikileyo.
imiqondiso akanamdla kuwe
Kuya kufuneka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba yile nto uyifunayo ngokwenene, kuba xa zithe zathethwa izinto ezithile, azinakho ukungaxelwa.
7. Kodwa musa ukuvumela izinto ziqhubeke.
Akufanele wenze ngokunyanzelwa, kodwa akufuneki uvumele izinto zirhuqe nazo.
Ukuba amathumbu akho akuxelela into ongafuni ukuyiva, uya kuzama ukuyityeshela.
Ukuba ikuxelela ukuba ubudlelwane abulunganga, kodwa awufuni kuyamkela, unokuzama ukuzityhalela kude ezo ngcinga.
Ukuthatha ixesha lokucingisisa ezi zinto kulungile, kodwa akulunganga kuni nobabini ukuvumela into ukuba iqhubeke ukuba uyazi ukuba ayizukusebenza ekuhambeni kwexesha.
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Ukumamela iimvakalelo zakho zesisu malunga nolwalamano kuya kukusindisa kwintlungu ebuhlungu.
Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho, thetha iimvakalelo zakho, ucinge ngezona zinto zingunobangela, emva koko uthembeke kwiqabane lakho.
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