Uxinzelelo yinto engenakuphepheka ebomini.
Uxinzelelo, ke ngoko, yinto oza kujongana nayo kubudlelwane bakho.
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Xa iqabane lakho lixinezelekile, ukuthanda kwakho kuya kuba kukubanceda.
Kodwa ungayenza njani loo nto?
Nokuba ngumyeni wakho, inkosikazi, isoka, okanye intombi yakho enexinzelelo, nazi ezinye iingcebiso eziluncedo zokukunceda ubancede baphumze umzimba nengqondo.
1. Bathuthuzele.
Okokuqala nokuphambili, kufuneka ubekhona kwiqabane lakho ukuze ubathuthuzele ngeli xesha loxinzelelo.
Banga. Makhe bakhale egxalabeni lakho. Zibethe iinwele njengoko zibeka iintloko emathangeni akho.
Ukuthinta ngokwasemzimbeni kuyomeleza kwaye kunokunceda kwiziphumo ezingxamisekileyo zengqondo zoxinzelelo.
Isebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuba abahambi kwizinto bodwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ubukho bakho banele ukuba ubathuthuzele.
2. Baqinisekise ukuba yonke into iza kulunga.
Uxinzelelo lunokusenza ukuba sicinge izinto ezingathandekiyo, hayi malunga noxinzelelo kuphela, kodwa ngazo zonke iinkalo zobomi.
Mqinisekise umlingane wakho nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, izinto ziya kuba ngcono ngolunye usuku kungekudala.
Bakhumbuze ukuba awuyi ndawo kwaye ubudlelwane bakho buza kukhula bomelele.
Kuyakubazisela intuthuzelo ngokwazi ukuba ilizwe labo alizukuwa, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ngokunxulumene nomthombo woxinzelelo lwabo.
I-caatat encinci kuphela ukuba uxinzelelo lweqabane lakho lubangelwa sisongelo sobomi okanye imeko yempilo ethintelayo. Kule meko, qhubeka nje ubaxelele ukuba uya kuthatha usuku olunye ngexesha kwaye ujongane ndawonye.
3. Mamela oko bakuthethayo.
Iqabane lakho liya kuziva lixhaswa ngakumbi nguwe ukuba umamela ngenyameko kwinto abayithethayo.
Ngamanye amagama, bayeke baphumeze bazive beve.
Ukutsho nje ukuxhalaba kwabo okanye ukukhathazeka ngokuvakalayo kunokwanela ukuthatha amanqanaba oxinzelelo.
Ngokuqinisekisa ukuba uyayiqonda indlela abavakalelwa ngayo kwaye kutheni beziva njalo, uyazingqinisisa ezo mvakalelo.
Kuxhomekeke kwiqabane lakho, kusenokufuneka ubaphembelele ukuba bavuleleke kuwe kwaye babelane ngento abayicingayo kunye neemvakalelo zabo.
'Thetha nam' elula ihlala yanele ukuba iqabane lakho lizinike imvume yokuphalaza amathumbu.
4. Zama ukubaphazamisa kumthombo woxinzelelo lwabo.
Uxinzelelo luhlala luthumela iingqondo zethu ku-overdrive njengoko sihamba ngaphezulu kwezinto kaninzi.
Indlela elungileyo yokunceda iqabane lakho kunye neziphumo zoxinzelelo kwangoko kukuphazamisa.
Pheka isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye-mhlawumbi uzama iresiphi entsha. Gxininisa ekubukeni umboniso wabo owuthandayo. Hlala uxakekile ngeempelaveki.
Jikela ingqalelo yabo kuyo nayiphi na into engengomthombo woxinzelelo lwabo.
Oku akuyisombululi ingxaki yengcambu, kodwa kuyanceda ukunciphisa iimpawu zoxinzelelo.
Kwaye uyakumangaliswa yinto yokuba ixesha elithile elingasetyenziswanga ukucinga malunga nomcimbi okhoyo unokugxila kwingqondo yeqabane lakho kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba bafumane isisombululo.
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5. Bancede benze isicwangciso sokujongana nonobangela woxinzelelo lwabo.
Uxinzelelo lunokuncitshiswa ngokujonga nje ukukhanya okuphela kwitonela.
Ke buza iqabane lakho ukuba ungabanceda baqulunqe isicwangciso sokuzikhupha nakweyiphi na into ebangela uxinzelelo.
Yahlula izinto phantsi ngamanyathelo amancinci ahambisa iqabane lakho lisondele kwindawo apho lingasaziva linoxinzelelo malunga nale nto.
Emva koko buza ukuba ungenza ntoni ukubanceda bathathe loo manyathelo.
Yazi nje ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke imithombo yoxinzelelo enokoyiswa ngesicwangciso.
Thatha usizi lokuphulukana nomntu omthandayo - akukho manyathelo enokuthathwa. Kuya kufuneka uyiyeke iqhubeke ikhosi yayo kwaye uthembe ukuba ixesha liya kuphola.
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6. Ukwenza lula umthwalo wabo.
Uxinzelelo luhlala lusenza mandundu xa thina ndiziva ndonganyelwe ngoxanduva lwethu lonke.
Unganceda ukunciphisa inkxalabo yeqabane lakho ngokuthatha olo xanduva ngokwakho - okwethutyana.
Ngaba zikhona iindlela onokunceda ngazo ngakumbi endlwini?
Ngaba ungathatha elinye ithuba lokujonga abantwana ukuze iqabane lakho lidibane?
Ngaba ungayikhathalela into ehambelana ngqo noxinzelelo lwabo?
7. Zilungiselele ukutshintsha izicwangciso.
Ukulandela ngokusondeleyo kwinqanaba langaphambili, unokufuna ukuthathela ingqalelo imeko yangoku yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo ngokutshintsha izicwangciso osele uzenzile.
Mhlawumbi olo hambo kwilizwe liphela elibandakanya imoto ende okanye uloliwe uhambo lunokuhlengahlengiswa.
Mhlawumbi ungaya wedwa kwitheko lokuzalwa lomhlobo wakho kunokuba ulindele ukuba babeke ubuso obukhaliphileyo ukufihla amaxhala abo.
Ngaba unokubeka ukuzingelwa kwendlu kwi-backburner okwethutyana de babe bakwindawo engcono?
8. Bakhumbuze eyona nto ibalulekileyo.
Uxinzelelo lunokusenza sikholelwe ukuba into ebaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba injalo.
Mhlawumbi banexinzelelo emsebenzini. Banokuphelelwa yingcinga malunga nayo.
Ngalo lonke elixesha bayalibala ukuba zeziphi ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ebomini: izinto ezinje ngempilo, usapho, uthando eninalo omnye komnye, ukonwaba kwendalo.
Kulula ukubutyeshela ubutyebi ebomini bethu xa sigxile kwinqanaba leentlungu, kungumsebenzi wakho ukukhumbuza ngobumnene iqabane lakho ukuba basikelelekile ngeendlela ezininzi.
9. Musa ukunyuka xa bekhawuleza.
Uxinzelelo lunokulenza iqabane lakho licaphuke ngakumbi kwaye lityekele ekuqhambukeni kunesiqhelo.
Esi ayisosizathu sokuba bakuphathe kakubi, kodwa sisizathu sokuba uzame ukuvelana nemeko yabo.
Ukuba kwaye bakukhuphela nini ukukhathazeka kwabo ngamazwi, xhathisa umnqweno wokuziphindezela.
Qonda ukuba ayizizo ezokwenyani ezithetha ezi zinto, kodwa ukuba uxinzelelo lwabo ludlala indima enkulu kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo.
Ngokuhlala uzolile, ukhuthaza ukwehla kwemeko yexesha elinzima.
Ndiyathemba ukuba bazakuqonda kungekudala ukuba babephosakele kwaye bayaxolisa kuwe.
Kodwa nokuba abanako ukuzizisa ukuba bathethe loo magama, kufuneka behlise umoya phantsi kwexesha.
Ukumisela nokunyanzelisa imida.
Njengokuba kunceda ukuhlala uzolile xa benomsindo okanye benomsindo, akufuneki ubavumele ukuba bagqithe uphawu.
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Uxinzelelo lwabo ayisosizathu esivakalayo sokuba bakuphathe kakubi-ngomlomo, ngokweemvakalelo, okanye ngokwasemzimbeni.
Kuya kufuneka sele unemida ethile kulwalamano lwakho, kodwa inokukunceda ukuzikhumbuza kunye neqabane lakho malunga noku ukuba baphambuka kakhulu emgceni.
Ukuba umda uwele, themba ukuba kulungile ukubeka umgama phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho-nokuba okwethutyana-ukuzikhusela kwaye uvumele izinto zipholile.
Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kuya kufuneka uthethe ngako emva koko neqabane lakho ukuqinisekisa ukuba akwenzeki kwakhona.
11. Zikhathalele nawe.
Njengokuba unganqwenela ukuthatha omnye umsebenzi onzima ofunekayo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lweqabane lakho kwaye uncede imeko, ungazihoyi kwinkqubo.
Kuya kufuneka uzikhathalele ukuze ukwazi ukunceda iqabane lakho ngale nto.
Yitya ke ukutya okunezondlo, zilolonge rhoqo, ulale ngokwaneleyo, kwaye uzenzele izinto ezincinci ukugcina amandla akho ephezulu kwaye eqinisekile.
12. Funa uncedo lweengcali.
Ukuba uxinzelelo lweqabane lakho luphantsi kakhulu ukuba bajongane nalo okanye ukuba uncede wedwa, funa uncedo lomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo.
Yiya nabo ngenkxaso yokuziphatha, nokuba ulinde ngaphandle ngexesha lokudibana kwabo.
Bakhumbuze ukuba linyathelo elikhulu ukwamkela xa ufuna uncedo kwaye ababuthathaka okanye basilele ukulucela.
Ngamanye amaxesha amava obuchwephesha afanelekileyo anokubonelela ngesikhokelo kunye nezixhobo ekufuneka zenziwe liqabane lakho ukujongana noxinzelelo kunye nomthombo wako.
Ukujongana neqabane elinoxinzelelo kunokubeka uxinzelelo kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane.
Banokuba kude okanye benze ngeendlela ongaziboniyo.
Kuya kufuneka usebenze nzima kabini ukubanceda kwaye uzigcine usempilweni ngaxeshanye.
Isitshixo kukwazi ukuba akukho ngxaki inkulu kangangokuba ayinakoyiswa, kwaye izinto ziya kuba ngcono ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Kwaye ukuba ungaphumelela kula maxesha anzima, ubudlelwane bakho buya komelela ngakumbi.
Ke, ewe, sukuyicekisa indlela ekunokuba ngumceli mngeni ngayo ukuba neqabane eliphantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu, kodwa ungacingi ukuba liyakukukrazula omnye komnye.
Unaye lomntu ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi - gcina ezi zinto engqondweni ngexesha lesiphithiphithi esizayo.
