Uloyiko sisixhobo esibalulekileyo seemvakalelo kookhokho bethu njengoko sasiyinxalenye yomlo obaluleke kakhulu okanye impendulo yendiza. Kwilizwe lanamhlanje, kunokuthiwa uloyiko lusasebenziseka kuba lusenza silumke kwaye oku kusenza ukuba singabi sengozini yokwenza izigqibo ngokungxama-kwaye ezinokuba yingozi.
Kukho, nangona kunjalo, ubhubhane woloyiko olungafunekiyo kwaye olungenachaphaza luyakuthintela ekufuneni kwakho ulonwabo, uvuyo kunye ulwaneliseko .
Kweli nqaku, siza kuvavanya ezinye zeendlela uloyiko olungene ngazo kubomi bethu kwaye zalawula iingcinga nezenzo zethu. Ndiyathemba, ukuphela kwayo, uya kuvuma ukuba olu loyiko, kunye nabanye abafana nabo, alunangqondo kwaye alunantsingiselo.
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1. Ukungaphumeleli
Akukho mntu uzimisele ukusilela kwinto ethile, kodwa wonke umntu uyakusilela amaxesha amaninzi ebomini babo. Nangona kunjalo, nge uloyiko lokusilela , abantu bakhubazeka kwaye bahoywa nokuzama, kwaye oku kungathathwa njengoyena ndoqo wazo zonke.
Umcimbi kukuba ukusilela akubonwa, njengoko kufanelekile, ngokungafezekisi injongo ozibekele yona. Kubonwa njengehlazo eliqhotyoshelweyo emntwini, ileyibhile edlalwa ngabanye, nelahleko yento ethile ngaphakathi.
Endaweni yokuba ukusilela kwinto ethile kufanele kubonwe njengethuba lokuyifunda kunokukuxelela ngakumbi malunga nawe, kunokukufundisa ukucinga ngokugxekayo , kwaye inokukwenza ukuba uzilungiselele ngakumbi kumzamo wakho olandelayo.
Njengeentsana neentsana, siyasilela ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye oku kuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yenkqubo yokufunda. Ngexesha elithile ebomini bethu - mhlawumbi xa siqala Ukukhathalela oko abanye bakucingayo ngathi -Siqala ukuba neentloni zokoyisakala endaweni yokuyamkela njengenxalenye yohambo lwethu.
2. Ukwaluphala
Ukwaluphala akunakuphepheka, kodwa imeko ngokubanzi yenye yokwala siyala ukucinga ngokuguga ngenxa yazo zonke iimpembelelo zokwenza njalo.
Kuyakufika ixesha laxa impilo yethu iza kuqala ukubuna, iingqondo zethu zinokuqalisa ukusilela, kunye namandla ethu okwenza izinto ezithile aya kuncipha. Oku kunokubonakala kusothusa, kodwa xa ujonga ubungqina, ibonakala ibonisa olo lonwabo luyanda xa sifika kwiminyaka yobudala yomhlalaphantsi nangaphaya.
Ngelixa oku kungangavakali ngathi yinyani oyaziyo kwaye uyakholelwa, kusenokwenzeka ukuba umbono wakho wobomi babantu abadala ugutyungelwe luloyiko lwakho. Susa oku kwaye ungangakhathazeki kangako ngokuhamba kweminyaka.
3. Ukufa
Isiphelo sokugqibela, ewe, kukufa kwaye le yinto uninzi lwabantu oloyikayo kwinqanaba elinye okanye kwelinye. Olu loyiko mhlawumbi luvela kwenye yezinto ezintathu: iintlungu, ukushiya abantu obathandayo ngasemva, kunye nokungaziwayo.
Intlungu yomzimba akufuneki yoyikwe kuba inokulawulwa ukuya kuthi ga apho iphela iba yingxaki kwaye uninzi lwabantu abaswelekileyo lwenzeka ngoxolo.
Malunga nosizi kunye nokubandezeleka kwabanye, uninzi lwabantu luya kudlula inkqubo yendalo ebuhlungu kwaye ngokukhawuleza babuyele kwimeko yabo yangaphambili. Ewe, kukho iimeko apho usizi lungaze luphele ngokupheleleyo, kodwa nakwezi meko, abantu baya kuqhubeka nobomi babo.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kokungaziwayo okukhulu okuhamba nokufa. Thina boyika ukufa , hayi kuba sifuna ukubambelela ebomini, kodwa kungenxa yokuba asinakuqiniseka ngokulandelayo. Eyona nto kukuba, nokuba akukho bomi basemva kokufa asiyonto ekufanele ukuba siyikhathalele ngoba kuba ikho, ke intle, kodwa ukuba ayikho, ngekhe ubekhona ukuze wazi ukuba akukho.
4. Ikamva
Ngaphandle kokuguga kunye nokufa, abantu abaninzi bayoyika ikamva eliqhelekileyo kuba kugcwele ukungaqiniseki. Olu loyiko luhlala luvela ngenxa yomkhethe ekucingeni kakubi apho umntu aqinisekile ukuba ikamva linengozi.
Kwaba bantu, uluvo lokuba ikamva linokuqaqamba kunangoku, lokuba izinto ezintle ziyakwenzeka, azikho nje. Babona kuphela umngcipheko, iingozi ezinokubakho, kunye namafu amnyama aqokelelelana phezulu.
Kangangokuba umbono oqinisekileyo unokuba ngcono, ekuphela kwendlela yokwenene yokuphila kuku Ukujikisa ingqalelo yakho kumzuzu wangoku kangangoko unako. Ukoyika ikamva kufana noloyiko ngalo lonke ixesha ujika kwikona - ngekhe wazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uza kufumana ntoni, kodwa de kwenzeke into embi, kutheni uchitha imihla yakho uzixhalabisa ngayo?
5. Ukuma ngaphandle
Abanye abantu bayayonwabela indima yabo njengabantu bangaphandle kwaye aboyiki ukuveza izimvo zabo, nokuba bambalwa abanye abantu abanokuziqonda. Uninzi lwethu, nangona kunjalo, uluvo lokwahluka, lokuma ngaphandle komqolo wokuqhelana nalo lusizalisa ngoloyiko.
Sinexhala lokuba oontanga bethu baza kusijonga njani, bazakucinga ntoni ngathi, kwaye bazakusiphatha njani. Olu loyiko luthintela ukubonakalisa kwethu kwaye lusikhokelele kwindlela yokuvumelana.
Kutheni le nto le mvakalelo ingenasiqhamo? Ewe, kuba nawuphina umntu okuphatha gadalala ngenxa yokuba ungubani akanguye umntu omele ukumfuna ebomini bakho. Abo bakwamkelayo akukhathaleki kusenokwenzeka ukuba bakwamkele-bade bakukhuthaze- ubuntu bakho, kwaye aba ngabantu ofuna ukubabeka kubo.
6. Ukuma ngeenkolelo zakho
Sonke sineembono kunye nezimvo malunga nokulungileyo nokungalunganga, indlela ekufuneka sibukhokele ngayo ubomi bethu, kunye nendlela uluntu ekufuneka luziphathe ngayo luphela. Ezi nkolelo azinyanzelwanga, kodwa ngalo naliphi na ixesha, ziyikhampasi okhokelwa yiyo.
Ke kutheni le nto silungile ukugcina imilomo yethu ivaliwe kwaye sijika enye indlela xa sibona okanye sisiva izinto ezichasene neenkolelo zethu? Bambalwa kakhulu abantu abazimiseleyo ukuphakama bathethe phandle kuba boyika ukugculelwa okanye ukohlwaywa.
Kwaye, ewe, ezi zinto zinokuba namava, kodwa ngokungavakali ilizwi lakho, uyavumelana ngokupheleleyo nokuziphatha kwabanye nokuba awuvumelani nentloko yakho.
Uloyiko lukuthintela ekuboniseni isiqu sakho sokwenyani kwaye oku kwenza ubomi besiqingatha kuphela baphila.
7. Ukwahlukana
Olunye ulwalamano aluhlali umgama. Ewe abanye abantu badlula kwinani labo ngaphambi kokuba badibane nomntu olungileyo.
Kukho ezo, nangona kunjalo, apho ubudlelwane buhlala bugutyungelwe kukoyika ukwahlukana okuzayo. Abanakunceda kodwa babe nethemba lokungazithembi, ikakhulu ngenxa yamava adlulileyo.
Kodwa uloyiko Ukuqhekeka Ngaba, ngokwayo, inokuba sisibane esikhanyisela i-fuse ethi ikhokelele kwintliziyo ebangela ukudubula. Ukuhambisa olu loyiko kubudlelwane kudala kwangoko ixhala , paranoia, kunye nokungaqondani.
Akukho xabiso lokusinda ngokuba nolo loyiko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubudlelwane bungayi kujika bube 'ngokonwaba ngonaphakade', kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ngekhe ubonwabele ngelixa buhleli. Kwaye ukuba kufuneka ifikelele esiphelweni, ubuncinci uyazi ukuba khange uyonakalise ngokunikezela kuloyiko.
8. Ukwala
Ukulahlwa nangubani na, kuyo nayiphi na into, kunokuba yintlungu ebuhlungu ekuzithembeni kwakho ukuba uyayivumela. Uloyiko lokuzibuza umbuzo ngokwakho lunokukhula ukuba uyasilela ukubona elinye icala lengqekembe ngokuthi ngokuthatha ithuba, uzinike amathuba okukhula.
Ngokufana nokusilela, kubi kakhulu ukuba ungathathi umngcipheko kunokuba uyithathe kwaye uyaliwe. Nokuba ngumsebenzi, umdla wothando, uphicotho lweqela okanye iqela, okanye enye into oyinqwenela kakhulu, umvuzo wokuzama isandla sakho ungaphezulu kakhulu komngcipheko wokwaliwa ukuba uyakwazi ukuphatha ukwaliwa njengoko kufanele ukwenziwa- njengamanzi emqolo wedada.
Ukuba ungafunda ukubona ukwaliwa njengengekho ngaphezu kokubuya umva okwethutyana, awusayi koyika.
9. Tshintsha
Abantu, ubukhulu becala, bayamelana notshintsho kuba kunokuziva ngathi kukuphazamiseka ngamanye amaxesha. Ngandlela ithile, abantu abaninzi bafuna ukwenza uhlobo oluthile lotshintsho ebomini babo, kodwa basilele ukwenza njalo ngenxa yokuba benomkhenkce luloyiko.
Ibuyela, ngokuyinxenye, ukuya uloyiko lwento engaziwayo namaxhala okwehluleka. Utshintsho lufuna umngcipheko, utshintsho lufuna isibindi, kwaye utshintsho aluhlali luqinisekiswa ukuba luhambe kakuhle. Ngenxa yoku, thina uloyiko lutshintsho kwaye ukhethe ukuzinza kwinto elandelayo elungileyo: ukukhalaza ngokungabikho kotshintsho.
Baninzi abantu abanokuthetha bade babe luhlaza ebusweni malunga nendlela abafuna ukuyenza ngayo okanye indlela abaza kuyenza ngayo, kodwa xa kutyhalwa kuza kutyholwa, bafumana izizathu zokuba bangakwenzi oko.
Kodwa utshintsho luyindalo kwaye uloyiko kukoyika ukuphila. Ukubalekela utshintsho, umntu kufuneka azenze ngathi uphila kuba utshintsho alunakuphepheka.
Iinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo
Kolu hlanga lwehlabathi sihlala kulo ngoku, sichanabekile-ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elinyukayo-kwiinkcubeko ezahlukileyo kwezethu kwaye ziyafana phantse kuwo onke amazwe ehlabathi.
Ukudityaniswa kwehlabathi kunye nonxibelelwano olukhawulezileyo kuthetha ukuba ishishini lelamazwe aphesheya, ukonwaba kukwamanye amazwe, kwaye nokutya kungamazwe aphesheya. Ngaphezulu koku, ukufuduka kukhulu ngoku kunalo naliphi na ixesha kwimbali yethu, oko kuthetha ukuba abantu ababekhe bohlulwa yimida yomhlaba, ngoku bahlala kwaye basebenza kunye.
Uloyiko lwangaphandle lubekhona ukusukela kwixesha lendoda yokuqala apho izizwe zazizokulwela indawo kunye namalungelo okuzingela. Olu loyiko lubonakala ngathi lufumene indlela kwihlabathi lanamhlanje apho imicimbi efanayo ingekhoyo.
Ngoku kubonakala ngathi siyoyika ezinye iinkcubeko kuba sicinga ukuba ziya kunyibilika ezethu okanye ngenxa yokuba kukho iyantlukwano ngokwenkolo. Sisoyika nje kuba siziva sikude nabantu bezinye iinkcubeko kunabantu besithethe sethu.
Kodwa, xa ucinga ngako, ayenzi ngqiqweni into yokuba umntu ongamaziyo angumntu wasemzini kwaye ukholelwe ukuba uza kuthanda ukuvana nomntu othile kuba wabelana ngelifa lenkcubeko kukukholelwa ukuba ungquzulwano alukho kwimida yenkcubeko. Iya.
Ukufumana ubuntu bomntu obamkelekileyo kunye nokukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nabo akunanto yakwenza nenkcubeko, ubuhlanga, okanye iinkolelo zonqulo. Inayo yonke into enokuyenza ngamaxabiso ekwabelwana ngawo, umdla owabelwana ngawo kunye nokunye, okunentsingiselo, okuqhelekileyo.
