Ukuba krakra yinto ehlala inxulunyaniswa nabantu abadala.
Ayilogama onokuthi ulisebenzise xa uthetha ngomntu okwi-20s, 30s, okanye 40s!
Nangona kunjalo, ubukrakra yimvakalelo efanelekileyo kakhulu uninzi lwethu olunengxaki nayo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo ebomini bethu.
Olu luvo lubangelwa yinzondo kunye nokuzisola, phakathi kwezinye iimvakalelo, kwaye kubalulekile ukuphinda into oyifumanayo iyasebenza.
Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awufanelanga ukuba ujonge ukunciphisa.
Ufuna ukuyeka ukuba krakra?
Nazi iingcebiso zethu ezili-10 eziphezulu xa kuziwa ekuqhubekeni usuka kubukrakra kwaye ujonge kwikamva eliqinisekileyo.
1. Thatha inyathelo ubuye umva.
Kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa ziimvakalelo zethu. Uninzi lwethu lulibale nje ukuzinika indawo yokuphefumla.
Ngokuzisusa kwimeko ebangela uvakalelo, sinokufumana umbono omtsha.
Ukukrakra kunokuhlala kukhokelela ndiziva ndonganyelwe , enokwenza yonke into ibe yinto edidayo kwaye uzive umbi kakhulu kunokuba injalo.
Ndiziva ngathi awungowakho
Thatha ixesha lokuzikhulula kula mava ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke namanye amanqaku angezantsi.
Yibhale phantsi.
Abanye abantu bakufumanisa kunzima ukuqhubekeka neemvakalelo engqondweni.
Ngokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho ngepeni nephepha, uya kuba nakho ukukhulula indawo ethile entlokweni yakho.
Isenzo sokubhala izinto phantsi singenza umohluko omkhulu kwindlela oziva ngayo.
Yindlela yokulawula imeko ngelixa uvuma ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo ekucaphukisayo.
Ushicilelo ngumsebenzi omnandi kwaye unokwenza umahluko omkhulu kwindlela ozijonga ngayo iimeko.
Ukuba uyasokola neemvakalelo zobukrakra, le yindlela elungileyo yokujonga izinto ngokuchanekileyo kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ufumane indlela yokuqhubeka.
3. Thetha phandle.
Le ndlela isebenza ngcono kwabanye abantu kwaye singacebisa ukuba siyisebenzise ecaleni kokubhala kwakho.
Ngokuvakalisa indlela oziva ngayo ngokuvakalayo, ujongene neemvakalelo zakho.
Oku kuvunywa kuya kunceda susa ezo mvakalelo zetyala , Eziqheleke kakhulu phakathi abantu abakrakra .
Ukufihla izinto kude kube ngathi kuyabanceda ukuba banyamalale….
… Kodwa eyona nto ichaseneyo ihlala isenzeka!
Ukucinezela okanye ukukhanyela ezo mvakalelo zoxinzelelo kunye nenzondo kunokubenza babe mandundu ngakumbi kuba imeko yeentloni okanye ityala libajikelezile.
Izinto esizama ukuzifihla ngokukhawuleza ziziva zibi ngakumbi kunokuba zinjalo kuba siyazigxotha.
Ukuziva unetyala yinxalenye enkulu yenzondo, nokuba kukuziva unetyala ngezigqibo zethu kwixa elidlulileyo okanye ukuziva unetyala kwaye uzisola ngendlela esimenze ngayo umntu.
Thetha nomntu omaziyo onokumthemba kwaye uzive unokuthetha naye ngokukhululekileyo.
Okanye, zama uhlobo lonyango oluthethwayo kunye nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo onokukunceda usebenze ngeengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho.
Ukunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu kwezi ntlobo zemisebenzi-uya kuyikhupha into oyifaka kule nto.
4. Musa ukuthetha kakhulu.
Siyazi, siyazi-ingcebiso ephikisanayo!
Nangona sikholelwa ukuba kubalulekile ukuthetha ngezinto, khumbula indlela othetha ngayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuthetha ngezinto kunokubangela ukuba uphinde uzive iimvakalelo ngokungathi kokokuqala ngqa.
Imvakalelo zobukrakra ziyakhula ngokuhamba kwexesha, ke kuyacaca ukuba nazo zithatha ixesha ukuphela.
Ngokuya usiya kwindlela oziva ngayo kunye noko ukhe wehlelwa kuko (kwaye kutheni uziva unzima kakhulu), amathuba owanikezelayo wokuphinda usebenze kwakhona.
Siyakholelwa kumandla okubonakalisa-into ocinga ukuba iba yiyo.
Thetha ngezinto xa uziva ufuna, kodwa zibekele imida ethile.
Unokukrokra kwaye ukhalaze kangangoko ufuna kwiintsuku ezibekiweyo zeveki, kodwa zinike (kunye nomntu ophuma kuye!) Ikhefu rhoqo rhoqo.
Xa sikhathazekile, ngokwemvelo sifuna ukufumana inkcazo kunye nesisombululo. Ukuyigqitha imeko ekuphazamisayo unako kubonakala ngathi yindlela elungileyo yokufumana olu hlobo lokuvalwa.
Nangona kunjalo, inokuthathwa kakhulu kwaye ungaphela usenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi kuwe.
Fumana ibhalansi phakathi ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho uziyeke uphile.
5. Camngca.
Ukucamngca ngumsebenzi osebenzayo wokuphucula onokuthi ubandakanyeke kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Nokuba uthatha nje imizuzu eli-15 ngosuku kuwe, uya kuqala ukuqaphela utshintsho olukhulu kwindlela oziva ngayo.
Ngokufumana ixesha lokuba wedwa yonke imihla, unokujonga ukuba ungakwenza njani ngokwenene zive.
Imvakalelo yobukrakra ihlala ibandakanya konke oko ngokukhawuleza kube nzima kwaye kudle yonke ingcinga evukayo.
Oku kuqhelekile, kodwa akunampilo.
Uninzi lwethu luye luzinze kwezi mvakalelo zokuba krakra kangangokuba silibale ukujonga indlela esenza ngayo imihla ngemihla.
Ukuphendula kwethu emadolweni kuya kuba mbi ngokukhawuleza xa siziva sikrakra.
Umzekelo, ngokuzenzekelayo siya kubona okona kubi nakweyiphi na imeko, sikhawuleze sicinge ukuba abantu baneenjongo ezimbi, kwaye siziqinisekise ukuba siziva singekhoyo kuba sicinga ukuba sisimo sethu sendalo.
Uninzi lwethu luziphendula ngokuzenzekelayo 'ndidiniwe' xa lubuzwa ukuba sinjani ngaphandle kokucinga nokuba oku kuyinyani okanye ngumkhwa nje.
Sebenzisa ukucamngca njengesixhobo sokuphonononga indlela oziva ngayo ngaphakathi, hayi indlela oziva ngayo cinga uziva.
Ukucamngca kusenza sivavanye indlela esivakalelwa ngayo kwaye kunokusinceda sishenxise iimvakalelo zobukrakra ngokuvavanya ubomi bethu kunye nokungena nzulu ezingqondweni zethu.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Ngaba Ndinetyhefu? Iindlela ezili-17 zokuxelela ukuba unetyhefu (+ Ungayeka Njani)
- Imibuzo eli-17 oza kuyiphendula xa uziva ushiywe ngaphandle okanye ukhutshiwe
6. Fumana impompo yegazi lakho.
Sonke siyazi ukuba umthambo yeyona nto iphambili kwindlela yokuphila esempilweni, kodwa siyazi nokuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani na ukungena kubomi bethu obuxakekileyo.
Ukuzivocavoca, nokuba usebenza, usebenza, okanye uziqhelanisa neyoga, ukhupha ii-endorphins ezisenza sizive ngcono.
Ngokwenza ngokubonakalayo ukwenza okuthile ukutshintsha indlela esicinga ngayo, asizukuzinika nje isihlonipho esifanele thina, sikwavumela utshintsho olwenzekayo emzimbeni.
Ukuziva ubukrakra kwabanye abantu kuhlala kubangelwa kukungazithembi esikufumanayo ngathi, nokuba kusekelwe kubuntu bethu okanye kwinkangeleko yethu.
Asikucebisi ukuba uthathe nawaphi na amanyathelo abukhali ukutshintsha nokuba yeyiphi kwezi zinto kuwe, kodwa ukuzilolonga kulunge kakhulu empilweni yakho yomzimba, yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo.
Ngokuthatha ulawulo oluthile kwaye sithathe isigqibo sokuzijonga, indlela esiziva ngayo ngathi iya kutshintsha.
Okukhona siziva ngcono ngeziqu zethu, kokukhona siba nentembelo ngakumbi kwaye singonwabi malunga nabanye.
7. Jongana nayo!
Ukuziva ubukrakra kunokubonakala ngathi akuveli nganto.
Ngesiquphe, sizifumana siziva sicaphukile okanye sigcwele ukuzisola.
Kwakhona, oku kuqhelekile. Akuwedwa xa uziva ukhathazekile, ucaphukile, okanye unomsindo-into ebalulekileyo kukuqhubeka noku.
Njengokuba uzivumile iimvakalelo zakho ngokuthetha okanye ngokubhala, lixesha lokuba uthathe inyathelo elilandelayo.
Chonga ukuba ngubani onephutha apha. Siza kuza ekuphenduleni ngokuzayo, kodwa, okwangoku, masiqwalasele ekusebenzeni ngcono nabo basingqongileyo.
Ukuba uziva ngokwenyani ukuba omnye umntu unoxanduva okanye uxanduva ngendlela oziva ngayo, bajongane nabo.
Ukuba awonwabanga koku, singacebisa ukubandakanya umhlobo ongumlingane ukuba abe ngumlamli.
Olu ngquzulwano alwenzelwanga ukuba lube ndlongondlongo, lube nolunya, okanye lube nomsindo!
Kufanele ukuba ibe yinkqubo esempilweni ekuvumela ukuba uchaze indlela oziva ngayo kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, ufumane ukuvalwa.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba yalatha umnwe wokusola , kodwa ukucacisa ngokuphandle nangokunyanisekileyo ukuba kutheni uziva indlela oziva ngayo.
Uluvo apha ayikokungxola nokukhalaza, kodwa kukuza kwisisombululo.
Fumanani indlela eya phambili eya kulungela nina nobabini, nokuba oku kuthetha ukulungisa izinto okanye ucele omnye umntu ukuba azi ngakumbi ngeemvakalelo zakho.
8. Phendula.
Ngelixa kubalulekile ukuba usebenze ekuphuculeni imeko-bume yakho, kufuneka yamkela uxanduva oluthile ngendlela oziva ngayo.
Cinga ngendlela osabela ngayo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye yintoni enokubangela ezi mvakalelo zobukrakra kuwe.
Ewe kusenokwenzeka ukuba abanye abantu bakwenza uzive ungalunganga okanye ungakhathaleli iimvakalelo zokuzisola, kodwa kuya kufuneka ujonge ngaphakathi.
Kutheni le nto ungxama uye kwezi mvakalelo zobukrakra?
Kutheni usilwa nezinye iimvakalelo ngaphezulu kunezinye?
Yintoni indima oyidlalileyo kwindlela oziva ngayo?
Le mibuzo inokuziva ingonwabanga kwaye ayisoloko imnandi ukuyiphendula.
Yimpawu yabantu yokuzikhusela, nto leyo ethetha ukungahoyi indlela esibandakanyeka ngayo ezingqondweni zethu.
Zibonise imbeko kwaye uzivumele ukuba uqhubekeke neemvakalelo emva kwento eyenzekayo.
Uya kufumanisa ngokukhawuleza yintoni ebangela ezi mvakalelo kwaye ungathatha amanyathelo asempilweni ukuthintela ezi zinto zibangela okanye uhlengahlengiso kwindlela oziphethe ngayo ngokufanelekileyo.
9. Zibekele iinjongo kwaye wenze izicwangciso.
Ngokuthatha inxaxheba kunokuba uthathe inxaxheba kubomi bakho, ungaqala ukubumba indlela oziva ngayo kunye nendlela oziva ngayo ngekamva lakho.
Khetha izinto oza kuzongeza kwikhalenda yakho eziza kukwenza uzive ulungile.
Oku kunokuba kukuya kwiklasi ye-salsa, ukudibana nabahlobo ukuze basele emva komsebenzi, okanye ukumane ucwangcise ixesha elithile lodwa lokudodobala emva kosuku loxinzelelo.
Unokucinga ixesha elide, nangokongeza kwi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeenjongo kunye nokuzibophelela.
Bhalisela iklasi yeekheramics, bhukisha iholide kungekudala, okanye ude ujoyine umthambo kwaye uzibonakalise ukuba ufanele ukuzibophelela kuwo.
Ezi ntlobo zemisebenzi azikwenzi uzive ulungile, kodwa zikwabonakalise ukuba uthatha ukhathalelo lokuzimela.
Xa siziva sikrakra kwaye sicaphukile, siyasongelwa kwezi mvakalelo zingalunganga kangangokuba sihlala sityeshela oko sikudinga ngokwenene njengabantu.
Yenza ubomi obufunayo nokuba awuziva ubufanelwe.
Uya kukhawuleza uqhele ukonwabela izinto kunye nokuba nezinto onokuthi ujonge kuzo, ezinokuvakala ngathi lolona tshintsho lwamkelekileyo emva kweemvakalelo zokuzisola, zokucaphuka kunye nomsindo.
Uzixabisile izinto ezikwenza wonwabe, kwaye ulawula ukuba uyazenza okanye awuzenzi.
10. Chonga ikamva lakho.
Siva kuphela iintlungu ngokunxulumene neziganeko ezidlulileyo kuba sibambelela kuzo njengendlela eqhubekayo yokuziva ukhuselekile.
Okuncamathisela kwixa elidlulileyo yinto ehlala ivelisa iimvakalelo zobukrakra, inzondo kunye nokuzisola.
Ukungonwabi kwethu akuchazi ukuba kunxibelelene neziganeko zangaphambili, kodwa kukungafuni kwethu ukuziyeka.
Ukuziva ubukrakra kunokunxulunyaniswa neemvakalelo zeshishini elingagqitywanga kunye nokusilela kokuvalwa.
Thatha isigqibo sokuba ufuna ikamva elingazibandakanyi ezi mvakalelo, emva koko wenze oko kufuneka ukwenze ukufezekisa oko.
Ukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo kunokuba nzima, kodwa ikuvumela ukuba uqhubele phambili ngokukhululekileyo kwaye wenze ikamva ongalifanelanga kuphela kodwa oya kulonwabela ngokupheleleyo.
Kuvakala kulula kakhulu kunokuba kunjalo, njengoko zininzi izinto ezinxulumene nokuzikhathalela, ukuqhubela phambili, kunye nophuhliso lomntu.
Oko kwathethi, ukusebenza nzima ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuhlawula kwaye uyakuziva ulunge ngakumbi, wonwabile, kwaye wondleke- kanye njengoko kufanelekile ukuba uzive.
