Ubuxoki ngokushiywa kuxa umntu eshiya ulwazi olubalulekileyo okanye esilela ukulungisa ukungachani kwangaphambili ukuze afihle inyani kwabanye.
'Khange ndixoke andikuxelelanga nje.'
ukudikwa ngobomi kufuna utshintsho
Ahhh, la chestnut indala. Ngoku ndiyive phi le nto ngaphambili?
Abanye abantu bajonga ukushiya njengobuxoki obumhlophe kuphela, kodwa njengokuxoka okuthe ngqo, kuba ngokushiya ulwazi, awusekho elubala.
Ukunqongophala kokungakhuseleki kunye nokungafihli nto kuthintela unxibelelwano, kwaye kutshabalalise ukhuseleko olulindelweyo kubo bonke ubudlelwane obusondeleyo- nokuba bubuhlobo okanye ubuqabane bothando.
Ukuxoka ngokushiywa akusoloko kuhloselwe ukuba kube yingozi kuhlala kucingelwa njengesenzo esenziweyo ukusindisa iintlungu okanye iintloni. Kodwa isenokuba nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane.
Nokuba umonakalo awukhawulezi ukwenzeka, ulwazi olishiyiweyo luya kuthi ekugqibeleni luvele. Ukuwa koku kunokubangela iingxaki ngakumbi kunokuba bekuya kuba njalo ukuba ulwazi kwabelwana ngalo kwangoko, kwaye noxanduva lwenziwe ngumntu owabelanayo.
Kutheni le nto sikhupha iziQendu eziBalulekileyo zoLwazi?
Kukho izizathu ezithathu zokuba abantu baxoke ngokushiywa:
- Uloyiko (ekufumaneni isiphelo somsindo, impindezelo, okanye isohlwayo)
- Ukuziva unetyala (ngomsebenzi obangele ukuba balale kwindawo yokuqala)
- Iintloni (ngenxa yokonakala kwegama labo, kwaye bayakuqondwa njani ukuba yonke inyani iyaziwa)
Baxoka Njani Abantu Ngokushiya?
Ayikuko nje ukushiya inkcukacha ezithile, ukuxoka ngokushiya kungathabatha enye indlela: ukulawula impendulo yakho kuvelwano lovelwano, okanye ukukhusela umdla wakho.
Kukho amacala amabini kwibali ngalinye - ngaba wabelana ngelakho kuphela? Ukuba uguqula iimpendulo zakho ukushiya ubukrakra bento eyenzekileyo, awunyani, kwaye kuyaxoka.
Unenkxalabo malunga nendlela oza kuvela ngayo kuluntu kunokuba unokwabelana ngenyaniso, kwaye imibala leyo indlela abanye baya kuphendula ngayo kuwe. Ithetha ntoni le nto? Ngenye, awufumani izimvo ezinyanisekileyo kuba awubaniki lonke ulwazi-ihafu yenyani ibonelela ngeempendulo ezibhakwe ngesiqingatha.
Umzekelo, ukuba uxelela umhlobo wakho malunga nokulwa nomama wakho kunye nendlela ebengenangqondo ngayo kuba uloliwe uye walibaziseka ebangela ukuba ufike emva kwexesha ngeyure yepati yosuku lokuzalwa kwakhe, baya kuthi ngokunqwala intloko bavelane, kuba masijongane ngamanye amaxesha sikwinceba yabanye. Izinto ziyenzeka, itekhnoloji iyasilela, oololiwe bayaphuka, okanye baphinde banikwe indlela.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awukhathaleli ukuxelela umhlobo wakho ukuba umkile endlwini isiqingatha seyure emva kwexesha kuba ubuxakekile uskroba nge-Twitter, emva koko uqaphele ukuba kufuneka ukhawuleze, emva koko uxokise umama wakho malunga nokulibaziseka koololiwe… impendulo yabo ingahluka njani ?
ukuba wenzeni xa ukuthandana kodwa njengomnye umntu
Awukawuzocanga umfanekiso opheleleyo kuba uyoyika indlela onokujongeka ngayo, kubo, kunye nomama wakho. Kumama wakho, kungabonakala ngathi ukuskrola kwimithombo yeendaba kwakubaluleke ngakumbi kunaye (kuba ukufika emva kwexesha kusithiwa, ndilungile andikuhloniphi kwaye ndisebenzisa ixesha lakho). Kumhlobo wakho, ubuya kubonakala ungakhathali kwaye ukrwada, kwaye yinyani leyo.
Okokugqibela, uyazi ukuba umhlobo wakho angalithatha icala likamama wakho ukuba zonke iinyani zibekiwe, ke ubaxelela ingxelo ehleliweyo yeziganeko. Emva koko, umama wakho ujongeka ngathi 'ungumntu ombi,' kwaye uphume unuka iiroses.
Lo ngumzekelo nje omncinci wendlela abantu abaxoka ngayo yonke imihla. Ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ezizigidi, ulwazi oluncinci lishiywa ngaphandle kwincoko. Into esiyifumanayo sisiqingatha sebali kunye nezinto ezibonakala ngathi azibalulekanga ezibuyayo zisiphazamise kamva.
Uyagculela, “Ukuxoka ngololiwe kulibazisa njani emntwini?” Ukushiya ulwazi kulonakalisa njani wena, kunye nobudlelwane bakho?
Nazi iindlela ezine zokuxoka ngokungashiyi zenzakalisa wonke umntu.
Yonakalisa Impilo Yakho
Ngelixa uninzi lwabantu lucinga ukuba bayaligcina elinye iqela ngokushiya iinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo, abaziqondi ukuba bazenzakalisa bengaqondanga.
Ukugcina iimfihlo kuxinzelelo. Inokubangela ukulahleka kokulala, kunye noxinzelelo olonyukayo. Ngoba? Ngenxa yokuba uxakeke kukuzama ukugcina ingxaki isongelwe, kunye nokugcina ibali lakho liqondile, ngelixa usoyika ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba imfihlo iye yaphuma.
Ibinzana, 'Inyaniso iya kunikhulula' ayikaze ifaneleke ngakumbi. Ngokuvula ngokupheleleyo nangokunyaniseka komnye umntu, uzikhulule umthwalo wokufihla olu lwazi kwaye uzixhalabise malunga nokuwa.
Ukuphulukana nokulala, kunye noxinzelelo, ekugqibeleni kuya kuba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo yakho. Into ebuhlungu kukuba, inokuthintelwa ngokupheleleyo, kwaye iphelele ezandleni zakho.
Ukonakalisa Wena ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuxoka ngokushiya kungashiya incasa embi emlonyeni wakho. Ukongeza kwimiba yokuxinzelela kunye nokulala, kunokukwenza uzive ungokoqobo. Uziva njengenkohliso , kwaye ngokweemvakalelo, oko kunokuthatha umthwalo wokuzithemba kwakho.
Kumzekelo okhankanywe apha ngasentla, ngaba uziva ulungile emva kokuba upeyinte umama wakho ukuba abe nguzwilakhe ongenangqiqo? Ngaba oko kuhlala kakuhle kuwe? Usenokuba uligcinile igama lakho kumhlobo wakho, kodwa ungaqondanga wenze umama wakho ajongeke kakubi ngendleko zakho.
Ukuba unayo nayiphi na into enesidima, uya kuziva ungalunganga ngayo ngaxa lithile. Ukuzikhusela kwiindleko zokwenza ukuba omnye umntu akhangeleke kakubi kuya kuhlala kukukhathaza. Uyazi ukuba uyabenzakalisa, kwaye unefuthe kwindlela abanye abantu abaya kubajonga ngayo. Kukho izinto ezingenakuthengwa ngemali, kwaye ukuzihlonipha yenye yazo.
ukunqongophala kwemfesane kubudlelwane
Konakalisa ukuthembeka kwakho
Ukuxoka ngokushiya kubangela ukungathembani. Nje ukuba umntu obezifihlile izinto ekufumaneni, amathuba azo ndikuthembe kwakhona Uye waphuma ngefestile.
Ayinamsebenzi nokuba yenzelwe ukulungelwa kwabo, okanye inyathelo lokhuselo, iya kuvela nje njengesingxengxezo, okanye yintoni kanye kanye: ukuzigcina ungangeni engxakini.
Emehlweni aloo mntu, ukuxoka, bubuxoki. Akukho mthunzi ungwevu xa umntu eziva exokisiwe. Yiloo nto abantu abayiphosayo xa bekholelwa ukuba ngokushiya into abangayi kuxoka, kodwa behamba kwindawo enenkungu yenyani.
Nje ukuba ulwazi luphume, ukuthembeka kwakho kuyadutyulwa kwaye kuyakuthatha ixesha elide (ukuba khe kwakho) ukuyifumana kwakhona.
Kukuzingca
Okokugqibela, kodwa kungaphelelanga apho, ukuxoka ngokushiya kukuzingca njengesihogo. Yivume. Kwinqanaba elinzulu, ukushiya into ayisiyiyo kwaphela malunga enye Iimvakalelo zomntu zimalunga nokuzikhusela ekubonakaleni kubi.
Ukuba ngenene unengxaki yokucinga malunga noxinzelelo kunye noloyiko olujikeleze ushiye isiqwenga solwazi, amaxesha alithoba kwalishumi, emathunjini akho uyazi ukuba kungokugcina ulusu lwakho.
Ukuthi yayiyiyo “Khusela omnye umntu” ihlala ikhutshelwa ngaphandle. Yindlela elula yokuphambuka kwimfuno yakho yokulawula isiphumo semeko apho unokubonwa ngokungalunganga.
Kutheni usenza konke oku kuwe, nakubantu obakhathaleleyo? Akukho nto iziva ingcono kunokukwazi ukujonga umntu ebusweni usazi ukuba ungoyena mntu uqinisekileyo.
Ukunyaniseka kukwabonisa inqanaba lokuqola kunye nemfesane. Xa ungaxakekanga ukonga ubuso ngokuncama abanye, kwaye unoxanduva ngokupheleleyo ngezenzo zakho, ayisiyonto inika amandla ngokumangalisayo, kodwa ikwanovelwano olukhulu.
Ibonisa amandla ngokuba sesichengeni. Ngumntu ukwenza iimpazamo - sonke siyayiphazamisa indlela yethu ebomini. Akukho bantu bagqibeleleyo kule planethi, ke masilahle i-façade, samkele ubuqhetseba bethu, sizisuse uthuli, kwaye siqhubeke nobomi ngokunyaniseka, kwaye ngokuzeleyo.
ukuba wenzeni xa sidikiwe
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