Ulwalamano lwakho luswele nto.
Into leyo ukusondelelana ngokomzimba kunye / okanye unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo.
Mhlawumbi uziva Andonelisekanga kwaye andonwabanga , kwaye babuza kanye iziseko ze bond onayo neqabane lakho.
Ngelixa kukho inani lezinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo, bexesha elide okanye umtshato, iingxaki ngokusondelelana kunye nonxibelelwano kakhulu eqhelekileyo.
Oko akubenzi bangabi buhlungu kangako ukuhlala kuyo, kodwa kufuneka ikwalathe kwinto yokuba banokoyiswa.
Inyani yile, uninzi lwezibini ezinamava okusilela ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo ukusondelelana kwinqanaba elithile lolwalamano lwazo ziyaqhubeka nokwenza izinto zisebenze ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Bafumana iindlela zokuphinda bafumane kwaye baphinde bakhe olo nxibelelwano.
Nawe unako.
Ukuba ungathanda ukubuyisela umva kulwalamano lwakho kwaye uphinde ufumane ulwalamano olusondeleyo kunye nonxibelelwano olubonakala lulahlekile, unokwenza ntoni?
Ewe, ukuqala, unokulandela eli cebiso:
1. Nciphisa ulindelo lwakho
Ndiyazi ukuba ayivakali intle. Iyavakala ngathi ndiyakuxelela ukuba uhlale ngokulula kwisandla osiphetheyo. Kodwa ayisiyiyo le ndiyithethayo.
Andithethi ukuba izinto ozilindeleyo kufuneka zibe sezantsi, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akufuneki zibenjalo phezulu ngokungekho ngqiqweni , nokuba.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lomzimba alunakuze lube ne-spark eyenzayo xa wawudibana okokuqala.
Yiyo yonke loo nto iphantsi kweehormoni ezinobunzima ezihamba zigeza xa usiva loo hit yokuqala uthando nenkanuko , kodwa ngokwendalo hlala kancinci emva kokuba utshintshele ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo .
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba sihlala sihlala kwimeko yokungazinzi enokubangelwa luthando olutsha, ngekhe senze nto.
Ukuba ulindele ukuba ibe ngathi iyasendle kwaye inomdla njengokuba yayinjalo xa wawudibana okokuqala, uzicwangcisela ukuphoxeka.
Unokuba namava amaxesha abuyela emva kwiintsuku zokuqala ukwazana, kwaye uya kuqhubeka nokufumana izinto ezintsha malunga nomnye njengoko nikhula nobabini kwaye imizimba yenu nezinto enizithandayo ziguquka, kodwa aninakulindela ubudlelwane bakho bomzimba buya kuqhubeka buphazamisa umhlaba iminyaka emininzi.
Eyona ndlela yokuxelela umntu omthandayo
Kukwabalulekile ukuba ungavumeli umbono wokuba amajelo eendaba athanda ukuqhubela phambili ( ukuba awunabomi bokwabelana ngesondo ngokuguqukayo emva koko uluhlobo oluthile lokusilela ) kukuchaphazela.
Akufuneki ujonge ubudlelwane bomzimba obuhlangabezana nale migangatho iphambeneyo, kodwa eyona ikwenza wonwabe, esekwe kunxibelelwano lokwenyani nge nokuqonda ye iqabane lakho.
Kuya kufuneka ugcine ulindelo lokwenyani olusondeleyo ngokweemvakalelo, kuba abanye abantu bakufumanisa kunzima ukudlula abanye.
Nangona akusoloko kunjalo, amadoda afumana ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo komceli mngeni ngakumbi kunabafazi.
Ukukuqonda oku kunye nokwamkela ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile kuyakuvumela ukuba ube nengqiqo ngakumbi kwiinkolelo zakho malunga nokuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo bujongeka kanjani.
2. Thethani
Ndiyazi ukuba sele uyazi lubaluleke kangakanani unxibelelwano , kodwa xa kufikwa kwimixholo ekhohlisayo enjengokwabelana ngesondo, usenokuba unethemba lokuba ngekhe uhlale phantsi kwaye ube nengxoxo enkulu ngayo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlala phantsi kunye kunye nokuba nengxoxo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo ngokubhekisele kulwalamano olusenyameni kunye nokunxibelelana kubudlelwane bakho lelona nyathelo lokuqala lokusombulula ingxaki.
Kufuneka wazi ukuba nobabini kwiphepha elinye, ukuba akukho qabane eligxeka elinye , kwaye nobabini nizimisele ngokusebenza kuyo.
Into ebalulekileyo apha kukuba ungaze ube nale ncoko emva kokuba nisondelelane, njengoko elo lixesha lokuba nobabini Ndiziva ndisesichengeni kwaye, ngazo zonke ezo hormone zijikeleza ngokungxama, iimvakalelo zinokubaleka ngokulula.
3. Thetha kugqirha
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukunxibelelana kwesibini kunokuba kungalunge ngokwaneleyo ukuba bahlale phantsi bathethe ngemicimbi yabo.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukubanomntu wesithathu okhoyo kunokunceda ekusombululeni ingxaki yendoda nomfazi (okanye nayiphi na indibaniselwano yayo) enokuba nayo.
Ubudlelwane okanye ingcali yezokwabelana ngesondo inokukhokelela kwingxoxo kwezona zinto zibalulekileyo, gcina izinto zilungile ukuba ziqala ukuphuma kwisihloko, kwaye zisebenze njengomlamli kwimeko yokungaboni ngasonye.
Kwaye banokunika ingcebiso ekhethekileyo yokujongana nemicimbi ethile isibini esingajongana nayo.
Rhoqo, kuya kuthatha iiseshoni ezininzi kwithuba elithile, kodwa iziphumo zihlala zixhasa utyalo-mali.
4. Qala ngokuNcinci
Ukusondelelana komzimba akusikho konke malunga nesondo. Izinto ezifana nokubambana ngezandla, ukudibana ngokufanelekileyo kwamehlo , Ukuphatha iingalo zabo, okanye ukwangana kubalulekile, ukuba akunjalo, kubalulekile.
Yizinto ezincinci ozenzayo imihla ngemihla ezazisa iqabane lakho ukuba ukhathalele kwaye ugcina uqhagamshelo lomelele.
5. Fumana ukuthandana
Ezothando azikho malunga nezimbo zomzimba ezi-flashy. Imalunga nokonwabela ubuhle ebomini kunye nenkampani yomnye nomnye ngaxeshanye.
Ukuxakeka njengoko ndiqinisekile ukuba ukhona, kubalulekile ukukrola ixesha lomnye, kwaye bonisa iqabane lakho ukuba ubeke ngokunyanisekileyo ingcinga.
Thatha ixesha elongezelelekileyo ukubaphekela isidlo esikhethekileyo, kuba. Yenza ubuchule kwaye ucinge ngaphandle kwebhokisi. Thatha iqabane lakho uye nalo kwipikiniki kwindawo enombono. Jonga ukutshona kwelanga. Babonise ukuba wonwabile uchitha nje ixesha kwinkampani yabo, kwaye ufuna ukwenza iinkumbulo.
6. Yaphula Rhoqo
Abo imizekelo yezimbo zothando Ngaba zezinye zeendlela onokuthi uphazamise ubomi bakho obungeneyo.
Isiqhelo sizisa izibonelelo ezininzi, ngakumbi xa ubomi buxakekile nabantwana okanye eminye imisebenzi ekufuneka igcinwe.
Kodwa isiqhelo siyakuvumela ukuba unxweme ngobomi ngaphandle kokuhoya ngokwenzekayo . Yi-autopilot yohlobo.
Ngokobudlelwane, awunakuze uqonde ukuba ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba kuye kwancipha.
Ke, thatha amathuba amaninzi kangangoko unakho ukwahlukana nesiqhelo kwaye wenze izinto ezintsha nezisahlukileyo. Okanye, ubuncinci, izinto ongazenzi rhoqo.
unokuzithemba njani ngokweemvakalelo
Ndwendwela iindawo ezintsha kunye, zama imisebenzi emitsha, dibana nabantu abatsha njengesibini, wandise iihorizons zenkcubeko yakho…
… Yenza nantoni na eyenza ukuba wena neqabane lakho niphinde niqwalaselane endaweni yokuqhubela phambili ebomini njengabakhweli nje.
Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kukhula kwakhona wakubaleka kwi-monotony yobomi obuqhutywa rhoqo.
7. Yenza Izinto Ngaphandle
Njengokuba ukwenza izinto ezintsha kunye kunganisondeza nina nobabini, kuya kufuneka uthathe ixesha lokwenza izinto ngokwahlukana.
Oku kuluncedo ngakumbi ukuba wena neqabane lakho nichitha phantse lonke ixesha lenu kunye. Ungakholelwa ukuba olu luphawu lobudlelwane obunothando, kodwa indawo kunye nenkululeko yokulandela izinto ngokwakho kubalulekile kwimpilo-ntle yomntu ngamnye.
Inika ixesha lokuphosa omnye nomnye kwaye ikwenze uyixabise into onayo xa ubuyela kuyo.
Kwaye kususa uxinzelelo ngokwemiqathango yokuba kwiipokotho zabanye ngalo lonke ixesha.
8. Yiba ngulowo uza kuvula kuqala
Rhoqo, xa elinye iqabane liqala ukuvala iimvakalelo zalo kancinci, omnye umntu uyalandela.
Yindlela ephantse yenzeka ngayo. Sithanda ukubabonisa abo basingqongileyo , kwaye ukuba iqabane lethu lisinika kancinci ngokweemvakalelo, nathi sinika imbuyekezo encinci.
Kuyafana nangayo nayiphi na indlela yokubonisa ngokweemvakalelo (okanye ukungabonakalisi). Umsindo uzalela umsindo. Uvuyo luzala uvuyo. Usizi luzala usizi.
Isisombululo kukuzivulela ngokwakho kwakhona kwaye vumela iqabane lakho likubone oku kwaye likubonise.
Kuya kufuneka ususe naziphi na iindonga ozakhileyo kwaye uqhubeke nokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye nothando lwabo ngazo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ngokubonelela ngemfudumalo yakho kubo, iqabane lakho liya kuziva ungakhathazeki kangako ngobuhlobo kwaye ukwazi ukuvula kwakhona kwakhona.
Yenza indawo ekhuselekileyo kwiqabane lakho ukuze ibe ngokwabo kwaye ulwalamano olusenyongweni kunye nonxibelelwano luya kulandela ngokwendalo.
Kwaye oku phantse kuhlala kukhokelela kulwalamano olusenyongweni olukhulu.
9. Xhasa kwaye ukhuthaze
Njengokuba kwaye xa iqabane lakho libonisa iingcebiso zokuba sesichengeni ngokuveza iimvakalelo zabo okanye ukuvula ezinye iindlela, bonisa ukuba uyawuxabisa lo mzamo kwaye unethemba elipheleleyo ngamava.
Iqabane lakho kufuneka likuqonde oko uyakubaxhasa nokuba kunzima kangakanani na kwinkqubo.
Okukhona bebona ukuba abekho kule yodwa, kwaye ngokukhuselekileyo baziva bevula, Okulandelayo baya kutyhala imida yabo yeemvakalelo.
Zama ukubayeka bahambe ngesantya sabo. Ukuba bebenemvakalelo irhoxisiwe okwethutyana okanye ukuba bebe njalo okoko nje ubazi, kuya kuthatha ixesha ukuba bafumane ukuzithemba okwaneleyo kumandla abo okusondela kuwe ngokweemvakalelo.
10. Zihoye
Kwilizwe lanamhlanje, ngentengiso kunye ne-Instagram, kukho uxinzelelo olunqwenelekayo lokujonga indlela ethile, ke ngokuqinisekileyo andizukuyongeza kuloo nto.
Ubuhle abulingani ngobukhulu, kwaye akufuneki ukuba uzame ukudibanisa nemigangatho engeyiyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukwala imigangatho yobuhle akuthethi ukuba akufuneki uzijonge ngokwakho.
Ukuthatha inkathalo engaphezulu kwindlela onxibe ngayo kunye nokuzilungisa kwakho kungenza umahluko omkhulu, ngokungathi awuziva unomtsalane, emva koko kunokwenzeka ukuba uyidlulisele kwiqabane lakho.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, njengoko sonke sixelelwe amaxesha amaninzi, kunzima ukwamkela uthando komnye umntu ukuba awuzithandi.
Yenza izinto ezikwenza uzive kamnandi , nokuba oko kulula njengokuthatha ixesha lakho, ukuhlamba, ukubhukisha usuku lwe-spa, ukutya ukutya okunesondlo kukushiya uphuphuma ngamandla, okanye ukwenza umthambo ngendlela ekushiya uzive umhle.
Ukuzilolonga akukho malunga nokufezekisa uhlobo oluthile lomzimba, njengoko kufanelekile kuza kuzo zonke iimilo kunye nobukhulu. Ukuzivocavoca kuthetha ukuba uya kuba namandla kwaye ngokubanzi ujonge ngakumbi ebomini, onomtsalane kwincwadi yakhe nabani na.
Xa ujonga esipilini, jolisa kwizinto ozithandayo, endaweni yezinto onokuthi uzitshintshe.
Kwangelo xesha, qiniseka ukuba uyalixhasa iqabane lakho xa bezenzela izinto, kwaye ungalibali ukubaxelela ukuba bahle kangakanani, ngaphakathi nangaphandle.
11. Uxinzelelo loxinzelelo
Kunzima ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho xa konke onokucinga ngako yimfumba yomsebenzi elinde kwidesika yakho ngentsasa elandelayo, okanye xa ujonga ii-imeyile zomsebenzi wakho rhoqo.
Amathuba kukuba iqabane lakho likwazi ngcono kunaye nabani na, ke baya kuba nakho ukuxelela imayile xa ungekho kweli gumbi kunye nabo.
Zonke iindawo zobomi bakho ziya kuphucuka xa ungacinezelekanga, hayi unxibelelwano lwakho kuphela neqabane lakho. Kuya kufuneka ubeke phambili.
Vumela umphunga ngokwenza umthambo kwaye ufumane umsebenzi okunceda ukuba uzolise ingqondo yakho exakekileyo, nokuba yiyoga, ijenali, ukucamngca, okanye ukufunda incwadi elungileyo.
Utyala iqabane lakho ukuba libekhona ngokupheleleyo xa ukunye nabo kwaye ubanike lonke ingqwalaselo ebafaneleyo.
12. Sukulindela ukuTshintsha ngokuBusuku
Izinto ezintle ziza kwabo balindayo. Yenza umgudu wokubeka ezi ngcebiso zingasentla kulwalamano lwakho, kodwa ungalindeli iziphumo ezikhawulezileyo. Ngexesha kunye nomonde, olo lwalamano uluthandayo luya kuphinda luphume kwakhona.
Kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba olunye uhlobo lokusondelelana lukhokelela kolunye. Ke ukuba kulula ukuqala kwicala lezinto zomzimba (kwaye asithethi nje ngesondo), yenza loo nto.
Okanye ukuba ufuna ukukhula kwicala leemvakalelo lezinto kuqala ukunceda ukulungisa umgama ophathekayo phakathi kwakho, loo ndlela kufuneka isebenze.
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