Ukhangele utshintsho olukhulu. Awonwabanga yindlela obuhamba ngayo ubomi bakho, kwaye ugqibe kwelokuba lixesha lokuba ukrwele umgca entlabathini, ucofe iqhosha lokuseta kwakhona, kwaye uqale ngokutsha.
Kodwa kuthetha ntoni ukuqala kwakhona kunye nokuqalisa kwakhona ubomi bakho, kwaye wenza njani malunga noku?
Ngaba kuya kufuneka ukrazule yonke into kwaye uqale kwasekuqaleni, okanye ngaba unokujolisa kwiindawo ezithile ebomini bakho onqwenela ukuziphucula?
Ngaba kufuneka ulahle isilumkiso emoyeni kwaye ujonge ukuguqula ubomi bakho ngobusuku, okanye ngaba kufuneka uthabathe inyathelo ngenyathelo?
Indlela yomntu wonke yokunika ubomi babo ukuqala kwakhona iya kwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko zabo, kodwa ukuba ufuna isiqalo esitsha, iingcebiso ezingezantsi kufuneka zikuncede ufike apho.
Kwaye khumbula, ukuqonda ukuba ufuna utshintsho linyathelo lokuqala lokwenza ukuba yenzeke. Ke ngokufunda le nto, sele uqalile ecaleni kwendlela eya kutshintsho.
Kuthetha ntoni ukuqala ubomi bakho kwakhona?
Ukuqalisa kwakhona okanye ukuqala kwakhona ubomi bakho malunga nokuphucula imeko yakho yangoku. Imalunga nokujonga ubomi bakho kunye nokuthatha isigqibo sokuba kufuneka utshintshe ntoni, kwaye emva koko wenze olo tshintsho lwenzeke. Imalunga nokuya kwicala elahlukileyo, ngokubekwa kwindawo ezahlukeneyo.
Isenokuba yinto ogqiba ukuba kufuneka uyenze ngenxa yeziganeko zamva nje ebomini bakho ezinje ngokoyikisa impilo, ukuphulukana nomsebenzi, okanye ukuqhekeka kobudlelwane.
Okanye kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufikelele kwinqanaba apho ungenakuqhubeka khona njengoko unjalo, nangasiphi na isizathu sezizathu.
Ukuqala kwakhona kunokuba ngaphezulu okanye kungaphantsi, kuxhomekeke kwinto oyifunayo. Emva kokuba ubuqalisile kwakhona ubomi bakho, inokubonakala ifana kakhulu nomntu wangaphandle, nangona uyazi ukuba kwenziwe utshintsho olukhulu. Kodwa kunokuba kungaziwa ngokupheleleyo.
Iingcebiso ezili-12 zokuqalisa ubomi bakho kwakhona:
1. Cinga ngemeko okuyo ngoku.
Ukwamkela ukuba ufuna utshintsho, inyathelo elilandelayo kukujonga ukuba uphi ngoku.
Thatha ixesha lokucinga ngazo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba nangona izinto ezininzi ebomini bakho zifuna ukubuyiselwa ngokutsha ngokupheleleyo, zininzi iindawo ezihamba kakuhle, kwaye awudingi ukuqala kwakhona kwasekuqaleni.
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Cinga ngobudlelwane bakho, umsebenzi wakho, imeko yakho yezemali, impilo yakho… Kufuneka uthembeke kwisiqu sakho malunga nokuba ziphi iingxaki, kwaye zeziphi ezona zinto ziphambili ekufuneka ujonge kuzo.
Kuya kuba luncedo ekubhaleni yonke le nto ukuze ibonakale ngakumbi.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba awuzubeka tyala wena okanye omnye umntu ngendlela izinto eziyiyo, uzamkele nje. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba awukwazi ukwamkela unengxaki, awusoze ukwazi ukuyisombulula.
Lixesha lokuba uyeke elidlulileyo. Nokuba uyazikhaba ngayo okanye uqhubeke nokuyihlaziya engqondweni yakho, akukho tshintsho.
Gqiba ngendlela oza kuyisebenzisa.
Abantu bahlala bebuza ukuba ukuqala ubomi bakho kwakhona kufuneka kube kukutshintsha okupheleleyo, kwangoko, nokuba ungazenza izinto kancinci kancinci.
Ukunyaniseka, oku kuxhomekeke kuwe, nangona bebengekho baninzi abantu abaya kuba kwimeko eyenza ukuguqula ubomi babo ngobusuku kube yinto efanelekileyo.
Ngenxa yezinye izibophelelo, uninzi lwabantu aluyi kuba nakho ukuqala kwakhona ubomi babo ngesiquphe ngokuthenga itikiti lokuya kwelinye icala lehlabathi okanye ukuyeka umsebenzi, okanye into eguqula ubomi ngokulinganayo. Akunakwenzeka nje kuninzi lwethu.
Ke, uninzi lwabantu luya kuthi ngokuthatha isigqibo sokujolisa ekutshintsheni iindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi babo nganye nganye.
3. Zilahle izinto ezikusindayo.
Ukuqokelelwa kwezinto esingazidingiyo kunokusibambezela, kusenze sizive sidangele kwaye sityhafile. Kanye njengokuba izinto zithatha indawo ebonakalayo kuwe, zithatha indawo yengqondo nayo-nokuba azisetyenziswa.
Ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu, kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukuba neyona ntwasahlobo icocekile kwaye uhlele zonke izinto onazo.
Jonga zonke izinto ezikungqongileyo kwaye, ukuba awusebenzisi into, uphinde uyenze ntsha, uyinike, okanye uyithengise.
Izambatho, izihlangu, iincwadi, izinto zasendlini… lungisa nantoni na eyaphukileyo kodwa iluncedo kwaye uthi ndlela-ntle kuyo nayiphi na into engekhoyo.
Uyakumangaliswa yindlela oziva ukhululeke ngayo xa indawo okuyo icocekile kwaye ingaxinani.
4. Yithi ndlela-ntle kubantu abakusindisayo.
Emva kokucinga ngobomi bakho, unokuqonda ukuba enye yezinto ekufuneka usebenzele kuzo ubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba kukho abantu abathile abakubambezelayo okanye abakuhlisela ezantsi, isenokuba lixesha lokuthi ndlela-ntle kubo.
Oku kunokubandakanya incoko enzima, kodwa unokukwazi ukuzikhetha kubantu owaziyo ukuba banetyhefu okanye banefuthe elibi kuwe.
Oko kuya kukunika ixesha elininzi labantu obathandayo.
5. Yeka iingcinga neemvakalelo ezikusindisayo.
Utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho luza kuhlala lungezinto zangaphandle, nokuba ngabantu, izinto, okanye okusingqongileyo. Kodwa olona tshintsho lubalulekileyo onokulwenza luya kuhlala lungaphakathi.
Iingcinga neemvakalelo ezingalunganga zihlala zisibuyisela umva ebomini. Yenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo sokuhambisa iingcinga ezikushiya uzive ukhathazekile, udiniwe, okanye ungafanelekanga kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Ukucamngca kunye nokufunda ukulawula okungcono kwiingcinga zakho kungenza umohluko omkhulu apha, kodwa kunjalo nokuthetha nengcali eqeqeshiweyo ukuba uneengcinga okanye iimvakalelo ongenakubonakala ngathi ungaphaya kwazo.
6. Yiba nombulelo ngakumbi.
Uninzi lwethu luyakhukhumala kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla de silibale ukuxabisa zonke izinto ezimangalisayo esinazo.
Ke, ngaphambi kokuba ubukhuphe ngokupheleleyo ubomi bakho kwaye uqalise kwakhona, kubalulekile ukuba nombulelo ngazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo osikelelwe ngazo.
Ukuziqhelanisa nombulelo kunokuyiguqula ngokupheleleyo imbonakalo kunye nembono yakho. Kungathetha ukuba ucacile malunga nezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kunye nendlela ofuna ukuthatha ngayo ubomi bakho obutsha.
Zama ukubhala phantsi izinto ezintathu onombulelo ngazo, ezinkulu okanye ezincinci, busuku ngabunye ngaphambi kokuba ulale.
Gcina umbulelo uphambili engqondweni yakho njengoko uqala kwakhona kwaye uqala ngokutsha ubomi bakho-unakho kwaye kuya kufuneka uthathe izinto uhambe nazo kwikamva lakho elitsha kwaye umbulelo uya kukuxelela ukuba zeziphi na izinto ezimele ukuba zezi.
7. Yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wobomi obufunayo.
Ngoku ukuba uqaphela ukuba awufuni ukuphila ubomi bakho, lixesha lokuba ugxile kwinto oyifunayo.
Uya kuqalisa ubomi bakho, kodwa uhlobo oluqalisiweyo luza kubonakala njani?
Musa ukoyika ukucacisa okanye amabhongo . Oku kuya kutshintsha kwaye kuguquke ngokuhamba kwexesha, kodwa kulungile ukuqala ngombono ocacileyo wokujolisa kunye nokulungelelanisa njengoko uqhubeka.
Sukuma nje kwizinto ezinje ngokuba uza kuhlala phi okanye uza kwenza ntoni ngomsebenzi. Cinga ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye nento ofuna ukuyiva kwikamva lakho elitsha.
Ukuba unobomi obunoxinzelelo ngoku, unokubeka phambili uxolo lwengqondo nomzimba ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into. Ukuba umncinci udikwe bubomi , unokwenza uchulumanco kwaye wonwabe kugxilwe kutshintsho lwakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba lula ukwenza into ofuna ukuziva kwaye uphinde usebenze umva ukusuka apho ukufumana iinkalo zobomi bakho Kuya kufuneka uthethe kuqala.
8. Yiba nomfanekiso ngqondweni womntu onqwenela ukuba nguye.
Mhlawumbi isizathu sokuba ufuna ukuqala kwakhona ubomi bakho kungenxa yokuba ukhule waba ngumntu ongasamaziyo-oneempawu okanye isimilo ongasithandi.
Kunokuba nzima ukuzijonga esipilini kwaye uyamkele inyani ekhohlakeleyo malunga nomntu ojonga ngasemva, kodwa njengako konke ukuziphucula, ukuchongwa kwengxaki linyathelo lokuqala lokuloyisa.
Mhlawumbi ulahlekile kukungakhathali okubangelwa ngumjikelo weendaba we-24/7 kunye nemidiya yoluntu.
Mhlawumbi uyabagxeka kwaye awuthembi abanye ngenxa yentlungu ebangelwe kuwe ngumntu osenyongweni.
Mhlawumbi unekratshi kwaye unengqondo esondeleyo kwaye oku kubangela ubunzima kubudlelwane bakho.
Ke, xa ujonge kwikamva, zibuze ukuba zeziphi iimpawu ezingalunganga onqwenela ukuzishiya ngasemva kwaye zeziphi iimpawu ezintle onqwenela ukuzenza.
Ngaba uyafuna ukuba nobubele, ukwamkela umntu ohlalisana nabanye? Ngaba uyafuna ukuthobeka ngakumbi kwaye ukulungele ukucela uncedo xa ulufuna? Ngaba uyafuna ukuba ngumntu oqeqeshwe ngakumbi kwaye osebenza nzima owenza izinto zenziwe?
Ngelixa iimpawu kunye nokuziphatha kuthanda ukuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye nokusebenza ukutshintsha, akukho nto inokukuthintela ekuphuculeni kuzo. Nokuba yinto onokuthi usebenze ngokwakho, okanye nokuba ifuna uncedo lwegqirha, ungafezekisa utshintsho olukhulu.
9. Zibekele iinjongo.
Zibekele iinjongo ezibonakalayo, ezinokufikeleleka, kunye nezinokwenzeka ngokusekwe kwizinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kunye nombono wakho wobomi bakho obutsha.
Yintoni ofuna ukuyizuza kwinyanga enye ukusukela ngoku, kwiinyanga ezintandathu ukusukela ngoku, kunyaka ukusukela ngoku, nakwiminyaka elishumi ukusukela ngoku?
Qiniseka ukuba iinjongo zakho zinokulinganiswa, ke uya kwazi ukuba uziphumezile okanye hayi.
Kwaye ngaphezu koko, ungagqithisi ekumiseleni iinjongo zakho. Ngelixa abanye abantu beya kufuna ukuguqula ubomi babo ngokupheleleyo bonke ngendlela enye, kusebenza ngakumbi ukugxila kwizinto ezizakwenza umahluko omkhulu kubomi bakho, kwezempilo, okanye kubudlelwane kuqala.
10. Yakha iinjongo zakho kwisiqhelo sakho.
Iinjongo ezinkulu zilungile, kodwa ukuba awusebenzeli kuzo yonke imihla kancinci ngekhe uzifikelele.
Ke khawucinge ngoku ukwenza inkqubo entsha , kwaye ungalwenza njani utshintsho oluncinci yonke imihla / iveki / inyanga eza kongeza kutshintsho olukhulu ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukuguqula impilo yakho, qiniseka ukuba ucwangcisa ukwenza umthambo rhoqo ngeveki, ukuqala ngeeseshini ezimfutshane, ezilawulwayo kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ukwakha ukusuka apho.
Ukuba uxinzelelo yingxaki enkulu kuwe okwangoku, fumana iindlela zokubandakanya imisebenzi yokuthomalalisa njengokucamngca, iyoga, okanye ubaleke kwincwadi elungileyo kwindlela yakho yesiqhelo.
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Wena kunye nentlalo-ntle yakho yimveliso yezinto ozenza rhoqo, ke zilungelelanise ezo zinto kunye neenjongo zakho kunye nekamva onqwenela ukuba nalo.
11. Gxila kwimikhwa yakho emibi.
Ukuqalisa kwakhona ubomi bakho kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha indlela ophila ngayo ibe ngcono, ke ngoku lixesha lokuba uthi ndlela-ntle kwimikhwa emibi oyaziyo ukuba ikubambile.
Qala ngokucinga malunga nezinto ezibangela imikhwa emibi. Umzekelo, ukuba ufikelela kwimidiza xa uxinezelekile, cinga ukuba kwenzeka kangaphi oko, kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi enye into onokuyenza ukuzolisa imithambo-luvo yakho kunokutshaya.
Nokuba ngowuphi umkhwa wakho, cinga ngento enokubambela kwaye ungatyhafi ukuba uyatyibilika ngokufuthi. Akukho namnye owaphula umkhwa ombi kwangoko ngaphandle kokutyibilika, ke sukuyisebenzisa njengesizathu sokuyeka.
12. Yiba nobubele kuwe.
Ukuqala kwakhona okanye ukuqala ubomi bakho kwakhona ayiyonto ilula ukuyenza. Ke, xa uqhuba ngale nkqubo, kufuneka uhambe ngokulula kuwe.
Yiba nomonde nobubele. Qiniseka ukuba uyazityhala, kodwa hayi kude kakhulu.
Lindela iindawo eziphakamileyo kunye nezisezantsi. Amaxesha xa wonwabile wenza olu tshintsho, kunye namaxesha apho unqwenela ukuba ngekhe uqale.
Kodwa yazi ukuba konke kuya kufaneleka ekugqibeleni.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kuhamba njani ngokuqalisa kwakhona ubomi bakho? Ngaba ufuna umntu ukuba akubambe ngesandla kwaye akukhokele? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
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