Kwincwadi yakhe ethi 'Ukufuna Komntu Ngentsingiselo,' owasinda ekuBulaweni ngenkohlakalo noGqirha wezifo zengqondo uViktor Frankl wathi umntu unokumelana nayo nantoni na ukuba nje unenjongo yokuzabalazela.
Ke kwenzeka ntoni xa singazi ukuba iyintoni injongo yethu, kanye?
Phantse sonke siye salwa nengcinga yenjongo yomntu ngexesha elinye okanye kwelinye.
Kweminye, inokwenzeka kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, xa ubomi bububomi bokuzama ukuqonda ukuba mabenze ntoni ngale minyaka ingama-40 izayo. Abanye banokujamelana nomzabalazo wabo emva kwengxaki yempilo okanye isiganeko esikhulu ebomini njengokuphulukana nomsebenzi, uqhawulo-mtshato, okanye ukuba ngumhlolokazi.
Ngexesha elithile, sonke sijonga esipilini kwaye sizibuze:
“Yintoni endifanele ukuba ndiyenza ngobomi bam? Ndifuna ukuba ngubani? Liliphi ilifa endifuna ukulishiya? ”
Konke oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu, kwaye kungakhuthaza noxinzelelo olufanelekileyo ukuba impendulo ayizi kwangoko.
Singaziva silahlekile ngaphandle kwengcinga yenjongo, okanye siziva ngathi sirhuqwa ngumsinga ongaziva ulungile, kodwa asazi ukuba masenze ntoni ngawo.
Ukuba uzama ukuqonda injongo yakho yobomi kwaye uziva ubambekile, kulungile. Yiyo loo nto silapha ukuze sincedane, akunjalo?
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Zama ukubekela bucala ixesha elithile xa ungenakulindeleka ukuba uphazanyiswe ngabanye, kwaye awunazibophelelo zingxamisekileyo zokuzimasa.
Thatha incwadi yakho kwaye ubhale phantsi zonke izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe. Ayizizo nje izinto ozonwabelayo, kodwa izinto ozenzileyo ezenza uzive uzingce ngawe, izinto ozenzayo ukunceda abanye abantu… izinto ezikwenza uzive uzalisekisiwe.
Emva koko, bhala phantsi eyakho ingxelo “yoluhlu lwamabhakethi,” kodwa jolisa ngakumbi kwizinto onqwenela ukuziphumeza ebomini bakho , endaweni yezinto nje onqwenela ukuziva.
Cinga ngezinto ezinje ngokufuna ukuseka indawo yokugcina izilwanyana zasendle, okanye ukwaziwa ngokudala umgca weesosi ezishushu, endaweni yokuziva ngathi kunjani ukubhabha uhamba ze.
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Ubuza imvume kabani? Ngaba ufuna ukuqinisekiswa kwabanye abantu malunga nokuba zingaphi iinjongo ezahlukeneyo ovunyelwe ukuba nazo?
Ntliziyo, unganazo iinjongo, iingxelo kunye neenjongo njengoko uthanda.
Ukuba nomdla wobomi obuninzi akunakwenzeka nje, kuyamangalisa. Umzekelo, ngexesha loKuvuselela, ukuba yipolymath (umntu ogqwesa kwizinto ezininzi) kwakulindelwe kwaye kukhuthazwe. Bekusandula ukwenziwa ngokufanelekileyo ukuba kugxilwe kwi-hyper kwinjongo enye okanye umsebenzi othile kulindeleke.
Abantu, ngokwemvelo yethu, izidalwa ezinokuziqhelanisa ezinomdla ohlukeneyo kunye neeseti zobuchule. Ke kutheni ungabinayo injongo engaphezulu kwesinye?
Umntu kufuneka akwazi ukutshintsha i-diaper, acwangcise ukuhlasela, ahlambe i-hog, adibanise inqanawa, ayile isakhiwo, abhale i-sonnet, alungelelanise ii-akhawunti, akhe udonga, asete ithambo, athuthuzele abafayo, athathe iiodolo, anike imiyalelo, ukusebenzisana, ukwenza yedwa, ukusombulula ii-equations, ukuhlalutya ingxaki entsha, ukufaka umgquba, ukucwangcisa ikhompyuter, ukupheka ukutya okumnandi, ukulwa ngokufanelekileyo, ukusweleka ngokungakhathali. Ubungcali zezinambuzane.- URobert A. Heinlein
Makhe sijonge kwezinye iingxelo ezinamandla zobomi. Mhlawumbi uya kufumana enye enokukhuthaza eyakho nayo, okanye ubuncinci ikunike indawo yokuqala yokufumanisa eyakho!
1. “Ndiyayimela imiba endikholelwa kuyo, ndithethelela abo bangazithetheleliyo.”
Olu hlobo lwenkcazo yenjongo yobomi lulungile kubantu abo ubulungisa nenceba zibaluleke kakhulu kubo.
Umzekelo, abantu abafuna ukusebenza nemibutho efana neAmnesty International, okanye amaqela ahlukeneyo amalungelo ezilwanyana.
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Ngaba ucinga ngokulandela ikhondo lomsebenzi wezomthetho? Okanye mhlawumbi ungathanda ukuzinikela ekuhlanguleni kwezilwanyana, okanye ekunyuseleni ingxowa mali amagqala, okanye nokuvolontiya kwiinkqubo zokufikelela kumakhaya?
Ngale nto njengemantra yakho, unyanzelekile ukuba wenze utshintsho olungaqhelekanga emhlabeni.
2. Ndizimisele ukulishiya ihlabathi likwimeko engcono kunangoku. ”
Ngaba ulitshantliziyo lokusingqongileyo? Ngaba uphethe iingxowa zomgqomo wokugcina epokothweni xa uphuma uhambo lokunyuka intaba ukuze uqokelele kwaye ulahle inkunkuma yabanye abantu?
Ke ingxelo efana nale inokuba ilungile.
Bhomboloza esibhakabhakeni xa uphosa iibhombu zembewu kumasimi angenanto ukuze uhlwayele iintyatyambo zomthonyama zomvumvuzeli, okanye ucoca ukuchitheka kweoyile kwihlabathi liphela.
3. 'Ndifuna ukubalisa amabali angaqhelekanga, kwaye ndikhuthaze abanye abantu ngokubhala kwam'
Ngaba ungumbali webali wendalo? Ngaba uphupha ukubhala inoveli (okanye uthotho lweenoveli!) Eziza kubandakanya abantu kwiminyaka ezayo? Yinto entle kakhulu leyo.
Umhlaba uphenjelelwa ngamabali, kwaye awona makhulu ayaxelwa kwaye abaliswa kwakhona kwizizukulwana. Ndiyathetha, basenza ukubaliswa kwakhona kunye nokulungiswa kweBeowulf, kwaye oko kwabhalwa kwiminyaka eyiwaka edlulileyo.
4. 'Ndibizelwe ukuzahlulela kwimpilo yam, ndincede nabanye abasendleleni efanayo nam.'
Kukho iinkolo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo kunye neendlela zokomoya kwihlabathi liphela, kwaye bonke banabalandeli abanikezele ubomi babo kwimisebenzi yokomoya.
Ukuba utsalelekile kubomi bokomoya, unokufumana ukuba ufuna ukungena kwi-ashram, kwikhaya loonongendi, okanye kwiemonki.
Okanye ungathanda ukuntywilisela kwizifundo zonqulo ukuze uzifundise abanye.
Ukuba unolu hlobo lokufowuna, ingxelo yobomi ebandakanya iinkolelo zakho inokuba ngumthombo wamandla kunye nenkuthazo kuwe.
5. “Ndiza kudala imisebenzi yobugcisa emangazayo enokonwatyiswa ngabantu kwiinkulungwane ezizayo. Lilo elo ilifa endifuna ukulishiya: ubuhle. ”
Ngaba uqaphele ukuba uninzi lwezokhenketho kwihlabathi liphela ujikeleze ubugcisa kunye noyilo?
Izigidi zabantu ziyathontelana ukuya eTaj Mahal, eLouvre, eFlorence, nakwezinye iindawo ezingenakubalwa apho banokuzonwabisa ngobuhle obenziwe ngabanye abantu.
Amagcisa, abayili, kunye nabayili bezakhiwo benze imisebenzi emangalisayo, eminye yayo ibisothusa abantu kangangamakhulu, kwanamawaka eminyaka.
Ukuba uphefumlelwe ukuba wenze ubuhle obunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo le yingxelo ye-mission kuwe.
6. Ndiceba ukuba lutshintsho endifuna ukulubona kulo mhlaba. ”
Le yingxelo yobomi ngokubanzi, kodwa inamandla nangona kunjalo.
Ukuba unengxaki yokufumanisa kanye le nto ufuna ukuyenza, kodwa uyazi ukuba ufuna ukwenza into ukwenza umhlaba ube yindawo engcono, ke le yindawo elungileyo yokwazisa.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ungasoloko utshintsha icala xa ushukuma. Isitshixo kukuqalisa kwaye ufumane amandla, akunjalo?
7. 'Ndifuna ukuphilisa abo bakhathazayo.'
Isiteyitimenti sobomi esinje siya kulungela nabani na ofuna ukuba kwinkonzo kwindawo yokuphilisa.
Oku kunokuba kukuphilisa ngokwasemzimbeni, njengogqirha okanye ugqirha we-physio / massage. Ngenye indlela, inokubandakanya iintlungu zengqondo, zokomoya, okanye zokomoya, ezinokuthi zinciphiswe ngonyango lwengqondo, ukucebisa, okanye enye inkxaso engeyiyo eyomzimba.
Ukuba utsalelekile kubugcisa bokuphilisa, kwaye ufuna ukunciphisa ukubandezeleka kwabanye abantu, emva koko ingxelo elula yemishini enje yile inokuba yile nto uyifunayo.
'Ndizokwakha ikhaya elinothando losapho lwam, kwaye ndixhase amaphupha abantwana bam kunye nemizamo.'
Ezi ntlobo zeengxelo zenjongo yobomi zilungele abo banosapho kunye nokukhulisa abantwana abakubeka phambili.
Ukuba abantwana bakho bangumhlaba wakho, kwaye ufuna ukunikezela ubomi bakho ekukhuliseni (kwaye ekugqibeleni utatomkhulu), ke into ekulo mthambo inokukulungela.
Abazali, abagcini, kunye nabazali abangabondli banokunceda ukuseta iziseko zabanye abantu ukuba sempilweni kunye nempumelelo.
Ukuba ngumzali yeyona nto inzima, kodwa ikwangomnye wemivuzo.
9. “Ndinqwenela ukwamkelwa ngokugqwesa kwikhondo lomsebenzi wam, kwaye ndithathe umhlala-phantsi ndisazi ukuba ndenze igalelo elikhethekileyo kwicandelo lam lobungcali.”
Ukuba ufumene ikhondo lomsebenzi owuthandayo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ungathanda ukunikezela ngobomi bakho kulo, oko kuhle kakhulu! Uyifumene injongo yakho, kunye nesiteyitimenti esiza kukunceda ukubasa.
Nanini na xa unosuku olubi, kwaye nabantu osebenza nabo okanye iiprojekthi osebenza kuzo zikwenza uzive utyhafile, khumbula le ngxelo.
Ngapha koko, zama ukuyiprinta ngohlobo oluhle kakhulu kwaye uyicinezele ngaphezu kwedesika yakho.
10. “Ndizimisele ukusebenzisa izakhono zam ukondla abalambileyo, ndifundisa abantu indlela yokuzikhulisela ukutya nokuzikhulisa.”
Ngaba ukutya kukuthanda kwakho? Ngaba uyafuna ukunceda ukuphelisa indlala, kwaye ngethemba lokuba uxhobisa abanye ngezakhono abazidingayo ukuze bazondle bona kunye neentsapho zabo?
Ke vumela ingxelo yenjongo yobomi enje ikukhuthaze.
Ukhuseleko lokutya ngumba onokuthi uchaphazele wonke umntu kwihlabathi liphela ngaxa lithile, ke ngoko ukwazi indlela yokukhulisa nokupheka ukutya kubalulekile.
Kwaye ukuba unako ukufundisa abanye ezi zakhono, unokwenza utshintsho olukhulu kweli hlabathi.
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11. 'Ndifuna ukuqokelela ulwazi, emva koko ndabelana ngalo nabanye.'
Ngaba uyaphumelela kwizifundo? Kwaye uyathanda ukwabelana ngako konke okufundileyo nabanye abantu? Ke ukufundisa kuyavakala njengeyona njongo yobomi iqinisekileyo kuwe.
Kukho ubungakanani obothusayo bobulumko nolwazi phaya emhlabeni. Kuninzi onokukufumanisa, kwaye uyonwabele, kwaye emva koko wabelane nabanye.
Nokuba injongo yakho kukufundisa, okanye ukubhala, uya kunyanzeleka ukuba ukhulise iihorons ezingenakubalwa ngemizamo yakho.
Khumbula ukuba injongo yakho inokutshintsha amaxesha ngamaxesha ebomini bakho. Ilungile loo nto, kwaye akukho nto yakukhathazeka.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sonke sikhula rhoqo kwaye siyatshintsha, kwaye amava ethu anokusikhuthaza ukuba sihambise kwicala ngokukhawuleza nokuba kube kabini okanye kabini.
Xa oku kusenzeka, thatha ixesha lokuzihlanganisa kwaye uphinde inkqubo efanayo kwakhona.
Thatha uluhlu lwendawo okuyo, apho ufuna ukuba khona, ukuba ufuna ukuba ngubani, kunye nendlela ofuna ukuya ngayo phambili. Emva koko, yenza ingxelo entsha yenjongo yobomi okanye imantra yokukukhuthaza, uyiqabe eludongeni, uyikhwaze ezulwini, uphinde utsibe uye kubomi obutsha.
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