Musa.
Ukuqhula, ukuqhula… kodwa kubo bonke ubunzulu, ukubetha incoko engaqhelekanga kunye ne-introvert iyonke kunokuba nzima ukuhamba. Nangona ii-introverts zihlala zikrelekrele kakhulu, abantu abathandekayo abenza abahlobo abagqwesileyo, ukuphelisa unxibelelwano nomntu kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo.
Izethulo zihlala zihlala ezintlokweni zazo kakhulu, kwaye zinokuba neentloni ngokuvulela abantu abatsha, okanye ngokungathandekiyo ngokungathandekiyo ngokwenza njalo. Oko akuthethi ukuba abathandi ukudibana nabanye, kodwa kunokuba kubathatha ixesha ukuba baphose iindonga zabo kwaye bavumele abanye abantu bangene. Oku ngamanye amaxesha kukhokelela ekubeni abanye bacinge ukuba izethulo ziyabanda, zimi nkqo, okanye zikhohlakele, xa Ngokwenene bayangcangcazela phakathi kokuzikhusela ngokwasemphefumlweni, kwaye benethemba lokuba abayi kukrwitshwa sisiselo sabo okanye bathethe into egxibha kanobom yokuba iya kubaphazamisa ngonaphakade.
Funda ukuqaphela ii-Introverts ezikufutshane nawe
Ukuba awukalufumani uvuyo lwabantu ababukeleyo xa uphumile kwaye, zama ngamanye amaxesha. Jonga nje abanye xa ukwivenkile yekofu okanye indawo yokupapasha, okanye nakweyiphi na indawo apho abantu bathanda ukuhlanganisana khona.
Uya kuqaphela ukuba kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwendlela abaxhamli bendalo kunye nabangeneleli abanxibelelana ngayo nabanye. Ngokucacileyo akukho mithetho apha, njengoko isilinganiselo sokungenisa / sokuxubusha sikhulu kwaye sinezinto ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi uya kuba nakho ukuqaphela iipateni ezithile zokuziphatha eziqhelekileyo kwisingeniso esiqhelekileyo.
Xa uhleli wedwa kwivenkile yokutya, umntu odlamkileyo unokuzibeka kwindawo ethile embindini, ajonge phezulu rhoqo, kwaye azibandakanye nabo babangqongileyo. Basenokungabi nakuphumla, bekhaba iinyawo zabo okanye betha iminwe etafileni, kwaye bangabinangxaki malunga nokuncokola nabantu abangabaziyo abangahleli ecaleni kwabo. Amathuba kukuba xa bekwivenkile yekofu bodwa, balinde nje omnye okanye abahlobo abasibhozo ukuba badibane nabo, ngelo xesha baya kuthi bajoyine ingxoxo yoopopayi kunye.
Izethulo, kwelinye icala, zikhululekile ngakumbi xa uwedwa kwaye uzolile. Banokugoba kwisitulo esitofotofo ekoneni kwaye baxakeke ngokupheleleyo kwincwadi abayifundayo, okanye bagxile ngokungqongqo kuyo nayiphi na into abasebenza kuyo kangangokuba abanalwazi ngokungqongileyo. Ukuphazamisa esi siphindaphinda ngomgca wokuvula omkhulu kunokubothusa ngendlela engeyiyo-eyoyikisayo. Uya kudibana ne 'deer in the headlights' expression njengoko umntu othetha naye ezama ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba angalahla isiselo sakho kuwe ngaphambi kokubopha umnyango, okanye uzifihle phantsi kwetafile ude uhambe.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba uya ethekweni endlwini yomntu othile, amathuba okuba izibini ezizayo ziya kujinga ekhitshini, zincume ngokufutshane xa abanye abantu bengena, kodwa zigxile ngakumbi ekuhlaleni ikati yekhaya.
Izithuba ezihambelanayo (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iingcaphuno ezingama-30 zokubhiyozela amaNtshayelelo, iintyatyambo zodonga kunye neengcuka zodwa
- Iindlela ezili-15 zokuSebenzisana nokuNxibelelana ngokwahlukileyo neLizwe
- Amandla ali-9 afihliweyo ama-Introverts
- Eyona Nto Ithetha Ukungenelela
- Ukuzithemba kwiiHacks zoMntu oHlangayo ngokwasentlalweni
Yitsho into engathathi hlangothi
Xa uqhuba incoko kunye ne-introvert, kungcono ukunqanda ukuncoma ngokuthe ngqo malunga nabo. Musa ukubaxelela ukuba bashushu kangakanani, okanye awunakukunceda kodwa uqaphele kubo ngaphesheya kwegumbi, blah blah, kuba oko kuya kubonakala kwangoko njengesiqhwala sokuthabatha. Ukwahluka kumgaqo othi 'musa ukuncoma' kukuba banxibe into emnandi ngokwenene, okanye ukuba kukho into kwenye indawo kufutshane nomntu wabo eveza umdla wakho wokufuna ukwazi. Umzekelo, ukuba banxibe izihlangu ezinomtsalane, ungahlomla ngobuhle babo kwaye ubuze ukuba bazifumene phi.
Yiba ngumntu, kwaye musa ukubavuthela ngentetho encinci engenangqondo. Ukuba bafunda incwadi, cinga ukubabuza malunga nayo ngokunyanisekileyo nangembeko. Ukuthetha into enje 'Ubonakala uyinyani kuloo ncwadi. Ngaba ilungile? ” ayithathi cala, ayinasongelo evula ucango lwencoko ngaphandle kokwenza ukuba nabani na azive engonwabanga okanye engonwabanga. Ukuba awuyifundanga le ncwadi, ungazenzi ngathi unayo: umbuzo olula malunga noko ubucinga ngomlinganiswa u-X okanye isikhewu esiceba ngokungacacanga siza kutyhila indlela yakho kwaye awuyi kuxokisa elinye igama kubo.
Ukubuza uluvo lwabo yindlela entle yokuvula ucango oluya kubamba incoko ebandakanyekayo kuba uninzi lwabangenisi bachitha ixesha elininzi becinga ngezinto. Thatha uluvo lwakho kwinto abayenzayo, okanye kwenye yezinto zabo. Ukuba bafunda incwadi malunga negadi, ungasoloko ubabuza ukuba banegadi yemifuno eyeyabo na. Ukuba kunjalo, buza ukuba zikhula ntoni, buza malunga neentlobo ezahlukeneyo ezikhula kwingingqi yakho. Umdla onyanisekileyo uya kubakhuthaza ukuba bavule kancinci, kwaye unokumangaliswa yindlela abanomdla ngayo ukufumana umxholo abawuthandayo.
Le ndlela isebenza kakuhle ukuba ungenisa kwakhona: jonga nje indlela onqwenela ukunqwenelelwa ngayo ngomnye umntu, kwaye wenze oko. Ngokunyaniseka. Zama nje.
Gcina Umgama Onembeko
Zimbalwa izinto ezinokungenisa isingeniso kanye esihogweni njengoko zisondela kufutshane kwindawo yazo. Uninzi luthanda ukuba nendawo entle, ebanzi phakathi kwabo nabanye abantu bade bakhululeke ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangene 'ngaphakathi', ke ukuba umntu wasemzini ngequbuliso uncike kufutshane, egcuma okwekrebe eliqwengayo, baya kwindawo eziphaphileyo.
Okubi nangakumbi ukusondela ngokukhawuleza kakhulu emzimbeni kukuchukumisa okungacelwanga. Umndilili we-extrovert uya kubamba umntu abancokola naye amaxesha amaninzi ngexesha lokuncokola. Oku kunokuboniswa njengokugoqa umntu ngengqiniba, ngokucofa umphambili, okanye ukubachukumisa esandleni okanye edolweni ukwenza unxibelelwano lomzimba njengoko bethetha. (Ukuba umamele ngenyameko ngoku, unokuva isiqingatha seshumi elinambini likhupha izandi eziphezulu zokucinga ngale nto.)
Gcina izandla zakho kuwe, kwaye ungazichukumisi ngaphandle kokuba ziqale ukunxibelelana nawe kuqala.
Bavumele ukuba baMisele ukuLandela
Ukuba incoko ihambe kakuhle, banike ithuba lokuqhubeka ngelinye ixesha, okanye ngenye indlela. Sukuya nje ubabuze (jonga 'iinyamakazi kwizibane zangaphambili', ezikhankanywe ngaphambili), kodwa babazise ukuba ungathanda ukuthetha ngesihloko se-X kamva.
Ukuba unekhadi leshishini, zive ukhululekile ukubanika lona ukuze bakuthumele i-imeyile okanye isicatshulwa kamva. Ungabuza ukuba bapholile na ngokwabelana ngesiphatho semidiya yoluntu nawe: vele uqiniseke ukuba ushiya amandla okudibanisa ezandleni zabo.
Musa ukukhathazeka ukuba abafuni kuthetha
Ama-introverts anamandla amaninzi okwenza idosi xa kuziwa ekuhlaleni nabanye, kwaye kunokuba njalo ukuba lowo unomdla wokuba ngumhlobo 'uphelelwe ngabantu' wosuku. Ukubonakala kwabo kukungabi namdla kunokwenzeka ngakumbi imeko yokutsalwa endaweni yokungakhathali, ke ukuba abafuni ukuthetha, bancuma kwaye baqhubele kwenye indawo.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba le ngcebiso incinci yokugqibela ayigcini nje ngokungenisa izethulo, kodwa nakowuphi na umntu ongathanda ukumazi. Akukho mntu ubakho ngokunceda omnye umntu, kwaye ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuthetha nabo akuthethi ukuba banyanzelekile ukuba benze njalo ukuze bonwabe. Imbeko ihamba umgama omde, kwaye ukuba ubuya umva kunxibelelwano lwasentlalweni ukubonisa ukuba uyakuhlonipha ukuzimela komnye umntu, ungafumanisa ukuba bathathe inyathelo lokuqala lokunxibelelana nawe kamva.
Ngaba ungumngenisi ozithiyileyo ezo zintshayelelo zokuqala? Ngaba eli cebiso lingasentla lichanekile kuwe? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi kunye neengcinga zakho.
