Indawo yabahlobo… uninzi lwethu luye lwazifumana sikuyo ngexa elithile.
Siyathandana ngokungenathemba, okanye ityumza ikakhulu , omnye wabahlobo bethu.
Ubuhlobo bunokwenza isiseko esihle sothando, kodwa kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukwenza utshintsho olusuka 'kubahlobo nje' baye kwenye into engaphezulu.
Ukuthathela ingqalelo ukuba abanye abahlobo baya kuhlala befuna ukuba ngabahlobo bakho, sidibanise iindlela ezintle zokuvavanya amanzi ukuze ubone ukuba ungazithatha na izinto ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo.
Yintoni indawo yomhlobo?
Ubunyani bommandla womhlobo kukuba ngumhlobo womntu ngelixa uneemvakalelo zothando ngakumbi kubo wena ndifuna ukuphonononga…
… Kunye bona sukuyenza.
wwe 24/7 isihloko
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba awubambekanga kwindawo yomhlobo, oko kuthetha ukuba unomhlobo ofuna ukuba ngaphezulu nje umhlobo wakho kwaye mhlawumbi abanalo nofifi ngayo okanye abanamdla kuwe ngaloo ndlela.
Kukho iindlela zokuzama ukuphuma kwindawo yomhlobo, ebandakanya ukuvuma iimvakalelo zakho, uzibonakalise kukukhanya okutsha okunokubenza bakubone ngokwahlukileyo, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ube yintombi okanye isoka labo.
Kuqala, unokufuna ukubuza ukuba uphele njani kwindawo yomhlobo ukuqala…
Ubuhlobo buhlasela zonke iintlobo zezizathu, kwaye umtsalane unokuba sinye, nokuba kamva utyhalelwe kwelinye icala.
Usenokuba uqale incoko nomntu omfumana enomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa wafumanisa ukuba bakulwalamano.
Uyayonwabela inkampani yabo ke ngoko, yibani ngabahlobo kwaye nichithe ixesha elininzi kunye.
Iimvakalelo zakho zomtsalane zisenokungahambi kwaye loo nto yenza izinto zibe nzima - ucinga ukuba zinjalo enomtsalane kwaye uyabuthanda ubuntu babo, ngawaphi amathuba ?!
Umtsalane wakho unokude wakhe eluthandweni ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Kodwa mhlawumbi ixesha alisoze lichaneke (nina nobabini niyabona abanye abantu ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo) okanye imeko inzima (zezinye iitshomi zomnye umhlobo wakho) nize nibe 'ngabahlobo nje' nabo.
Usenokuba ngabahlobo okwexeshana ngaphambi kokuba kuvakale naziphi na iimvakalelo kwaye uzibona ufeza indima yeqabane lomhlobo wakho, phantse ngengozi…
Nipheka kunye, qhubekani ‘ iplonic ‘Ubusuku bemini, jonganani xa nigula, kwaye ninikane inkxaso yemvakalelo.
Oku kunokuziva kudidekile. Unokufunda kwimeko eyahlukileyo kubo. Basenokucinga nje ukuba “ngumhlobo onjani!”
Kungenzeka ukuba sele unamazinga athile obudlelwane bezesondo kunye nomhlobo, kodwa ufuna ukukwenza ngakumbi ukudibanisa imvakalelo, ngokunjalo. Ukufuna ukutshintsha ukusuka 'kubahlobo abanezibonelelo' uye kumaqabane kunokuba nzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka….
Umhlobo wakho usenokuba akanalo nofifi ngendlela oziva ngayo- kubo, ungumhlobo nje olungileyo kwaye bayakonwabela ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe.
Ewe, banokuba beziva ngendlela efanayo ngawe kodwa abafuni ukuyizisa kwimeko yokuba uziva ngokwahlukileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, kunzima kakhulu ukulinganisa, ke konke malunga nokucwangcisa, ixesha kunye nentlonipho.
Ubaleka njani kuMmandla woMhlobo?
Ke, uye waqonda ukuba uneemvakalelo kumhlobo ongabonakali (kumphezulu womhlaba) ukuba abe nazo.
Yintoni elandelayo?
Kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ungazami ukutshintshela kwenye into kufanelekile.
Khumbula ukuba ayinakuhamba ngendlela obucwangcise ngayo - ubuhlobo bakho bunokuba semngciphekweni apha, ke cinga ngento onokuphulukana nayo.
Ewe, ukucinga okuhle yindlela eya phambili, kodwa eli linyathelo elikhulu kuni nobabini, nokuba izinto ziphela kanjani.
Thatha ixesha lokucinga nyani malunga nento oza kuyenza kwaye uyithethe, ngokuzithemba, nabanye abahlobo abasenyongweni okanye amalungu osapho obathembileyo.
Uyenza njani iMoveli yoMhlobo
Umhlobo wakho mhlawumbi uqhele ukukubona njengomhlobo okwangoku.
Ufuna ukuzibonakalisa njengeqabane elitsha elinokubakho ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo, kunokuba uzazise ngokwakho (ngokomfuziselo nangokoqobo) komnye umntu!
Yicwangcise ukuze uthandaze isifundo ngendlela evuthiweyo, nenkathalo.
Ukuba uyenza emva kweziselo ezimbalwa okanye xa ujongene nexesha elixinzelelekileyo, umhlobo wakho unokucinga ukuba ufikelela kubo ngenxa yesizungu okanye isidingo sokuthuthuzelwa nokuthandwa.
Gweba ixesha ngaphambi kokuba uthathe inyathelo lokuqala. Kulapho kuya kusiba nzima kancinci, njengoko zininzi iindlela ezahlukeneyo onokuthi uzithathe…
Thethani
Enye indlela kukuba uvule ngokupheleleyo kwaye ube nengxoxo enyanisekileyo nomhlobo wakho malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Fumana ixesha elimnandi, hlala kwindawo apho ungazukuphazanyiswa, kwaye uzise into oziva ngayo.
Kuya kufuneka uyigwebe imeko apha-ukuba babonakala bothukile okanye bengonwabanga, sukungena kwiinkcukacha ezininzi malunga neemvakalelo zakho ezinzulu kunye nendlela obuthandana ngayo nabo iminyaka !
I-Flattery ilungile, kodwa awufuni ukuboyisa.
Kananjalo awufuni ukwenza kubonakale ngathi uzifihlile ezi mvakalelo ixesha elide, njengoko zinokuthi emva koko ziqale ukubuza iinjongo zakho zezinto ezithile ngexesha lobuhlobo bakho…
'Ukuba wawuthandana nam xa ndandikunye ne ex yam, yiyo loo nto ucebise ukuba bebengandilungelanga?'
Qinisekisa ukuba ucacile ngaphandle kokuya kwi-OTT!
Yenza intshukumo
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuhamba ngokwasemzimbeni kunokuba yinto elungileyo yokwenza.
Ewe kunjalo, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba iya konwatyelwa kunye kwaye yamkelwe kakuhle-into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukwenza umntu azive engonwabanga, esoyikiswa, okanye ecinezelwe.
kwenzeka ntoni xa uthandana nomntu
Kwakhona, cinga nzulu malunga nexesha kunye nendawo ngaphambi kokuba wenze nantoni na enje!
Ukungena ekuncamiseni yindlela elungileyo yokulinganisa ukuba uziva njani omnye umntu- awudingi ukubabamba ukuze bathabathe imikhondo.
Bayakuqonda ukuba uya kungena kubo ukuze ubaphuze ukuba ukhupha ulwimi olufanelekileyo lomzimba kwaye banokukhetha ukuba bayayama kuyo okanye bayitsale.
Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, kuya kukhokelela kwincoko- gcina indlela yakho ipholile nangayiphi na indlela, njengoko ungafuni ukubenza babe novalo kwaye ungafuni nokubenza bazive benetyala ukuba bakhetha ukungamanga kwakhona.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ungamxelela njani umntu obathandayo ngaphandle kokuba kube nzima
- Iimpawu eziqinisekileyo zoThando lwakho loMntu azifuneki (Kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ngayo)
- Umahluko ophambili ophakathi kwenkanuko nothando
- Iindidi ezisixhenxe zothando Umntu unokufumana amava kubomi babo
- Ngaba Ufanele Utshintshele Umntu Omthandayo?
- Iimpawu ze-9 Umfana uyakuthanda kodwa woyikekile ukuyivuma
Iimpawu ezinkulu
Ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka ubhenele eHollywood ufumane iingcebiso!
Ukwenza isenzo esikhulu yinto abantu abaninzi abayidibanisa nothando, ke ukuba uyenzela umhlobo wakho, baya kucofa ngokukhawuleza ukuba uneemvakalelo ngabo.
Oku ngokwenene kuxhomekeke kuhlobo lomntu abayiyo, kwaye ngokucacileyo uyazi umhlobo wakho kakuhle ukuba uhlangabezana nezi mvakalelo zothando kubo.
Gweba into abayithandayo ngaphandle kokuziva uneentloni- ngaba bafuna into eluntwini, ngaba unokwenza into enkulu ngokubabuza kumsitho, okanye ngaba kufanele ushiye iipetali zeroses kunye neetshokholethi kwigumbi lokuhlala xa beza?
Cinga ngezimbo zomzimba zothando ngokungathandabuzekiyo uhambe apho…
I-Champagne sisalathiso esicacileyo sokuba ukuthandana kumakhadi, njengobusuku obonwabisayo bebhanyabhanya phambi komlilo, usuku lokutya okumnandi kwindawo yokutyela abayithandayo (kodwa ungaze uye), okanye ubonise isipho esenzelwe wena ukuba uyazi ukuba baye balandelela phantsi iminyaka (iinguqulelo zokuqala zeencwadi ezizithandayo kunye nenqaku elibhaliweyo ngesandla ngaphakathi kukukhetha okuhle).
Singacebisa ukuba sihlukane nokuphosa amatye efestileni ezinzulwini zobusuku, ngezizathu ezicacileyo…
Yidlale iphole
Kwelinye icala, ukuyidlala kupholile kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokubaleka indawo yomhlobo.
Ukuba umhlobo onemvakalelo yokuba neemfuno zakhe zeemvakalelo zifezekisiwe nguwe, ngekhe babe nomnqweno wokutshintsha imeko.
Ungabajonga emva koko, banike lonke ingqalelo kwaye uthando Bayazidinga, kwaye babe ngamaqabane angama-99% kubo.
Ngenxa yokuba befumana konke oku kuwe sele bengaziva, kunesidingo sokutshintsha izinto okanye kunqabile ukuba bakubone njengeqabane elinokubakho, kwaye mhlawumbi nangakumbi ukuba ngumhlobo osenyongweni, umzekelo.
Ngokubuyela umva, uthatha inqanaba lolawulo ongakhange ubonise ngaphambili.
Olu tshintsho lwamandla lunokwazisa umhlobo wakho ngendlela oziva ngayo okanye, okona kubaluleke nangakumbi, njani ba imvakalelo.
Ukungabikho kwenza ukuba intliziyo ikhule ithande, ngapha koko.
Ngokuba nomgama othile, baya kuqala ukuqonda ukuba bathembele kangakanani kuwe kwaye oku kunokubangela ukuba bakubone ngokukhanya okutsha - ukukhanya kwezithandani!
Thembela komnye nomnye
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba, ukuba unazo zonke iimvakalelo zomntu, ubandakanyeka kakhulu ebomini babo.
Babandakanyeke kangakanani kubomi bakho, nangona kunjalo?
Kungenzeka ukuba nguwe obeka yonke imizamo - ubaleka ubancede, usenza imisebenzi ethile, ubaxhase xa kunzima.
Oku kuthetha ukuba babambe amandla kubuhlobo bakho.
Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe apha ngasentla, ukutshintshwa kolu hlobo lwezinto kunokuvula amehlo omntu kwinto anayo ngokwenene, kunokuba kunamathele ileyibhile 'yobuhlobo' kuyo.
Zama ukubenza bathathe inxaxheba ngakumbi ebomini bakho, bacele ukuba bakuncede rhoqo kwaye baya kuqala ukufumana imali ngakumbi kule nto uyenzayo.
Okukhona benemali eninzi, kokukhona kuya kubakho amathuba okuba babe baninzi nomdla .
Ngokwenza ubuhlobo obuninzi ngakumbi, ungaqala ukusebenza ekwakheni ubudlelwane-kwaye ulungile, kuloo nto!
Intombazana ifuna ukuthatha izinto kancinci
Ukufunda Nini Ukuyeka
Ngexesha elithile, ukuvuma ukoyiswa kulungele wonke umntu obandakanyekayo.
Ngelixa unokuzama ukuzibonakalisa ngokukhanya okutsha kwaye ukhuthaze umhlobo wakho ukuba akubone ngokwahlukileyo kwaye abe nothando ngakumbi kuwe, awukwazi ukulawula indlela abantu abavakalelwa ngayo.
Kungenzeka ukuba izinto azenzelwanga ukuba zenzeke phakathi kwakho nalo mntu-kwaye kulungile.
Sikholelwa ngokuqinileyo kwizinto ezenzekayo ngesizathu, ke, ukuba wenze intshukumo kumhlobo kwaye ayisebenzi, bekungafunekiyo ukuba ibekho.
Ikamva liya kuba nomntu oligcinele wena nangakumbi - umntu oziva ngendlela efanayo nawe kwaye oza kukwenza wonwabe ngeendlela ozifunayo.
Ewe kunokuba nzima ukubuyela umva kwindawo yomhlobo uye nje ekubeni ngumhlobo womntu.
Nje ukuba uzame ukudala ubudlelwane nomnye umntu, okanye xa uchithe ixesha elide ucinga ngako, kunzima kakhulu ukuzicima ezo mvakalelo.
Niyekela uluvo lokuba kukho into eza kusebenza phakathi kwenu nobabini…
Uyeka ukuhamba kwethemba kunye namandla onokuthi uwakhe engqondweni yakho, ke kuyindalo ngokugqibeleleyo ukuziva inqanaba elithile losizi, ukucaphuka, okanye umsindo.
Khumbula ukuba ezi mvakalelo zisempilweni, kodwa kufuneka uzigcine zilawulwa.
Awunakugxeka umntu ngokungabinazo iimvakalelo zothando kuwe, kwaye kuya kufuneka uphephe ukumenza azive enetyala.
indlela yokuxelela ukuba umfazi uyathandwa kuwe kodwa uyayifihla
Ngokuqinisekileyo sele beziva benetyala njengoko bekhathala ngawe kwaye bafuna ukuba wonwabe, kodwa ungaziva nje ukuba yintlantsi efunekayo ukwenza ubudlelwane.
Ukuba izinto ziziva zingonwabanga phakathi kwakho nomhlobo wakho, thatha ixesha ukwahlukana.
Baya kuqonda ukuba ukhukuliseka kude okwethutyana, ngokude ubazise ukuba kutheni!
Chaza ukuba ufuna indawo encinci ukuze uqale ukubabona njengomhlobo nje kwakhona, kwaye uxinzelele ukuba uyenza ngenxa yobuhlobo bakho kuba uyayixabisa, nabo, kakhulu.
Ukuthatha eli xesha lahlukene kuya kukunceda ujongane neemvakalelo zakho kwimeko leyo kwaye kuya kukunceda uqhubele phambili, nto leyo oya kuthi ulawule ngokupheleleyo ukuyenza, nangona kubonakala kunzima okwangoku.
Namathela kwilizwi lakho - ukuba uvumile ukugqitha koku kwaye ubuyele ekubeni ngumhlobo, kufuneka uzinikele kuloo nto.
Kuya kuba kokungalunganga kakhulu kumhlobo wakho ukuba ubuyisa le meko kaninzi-ninzi, njengoko beya kuqala ukuziva bengakhululekanga kwaye benetyala kwakhona.
Xhasa ubudlelwane babo obutsha kangangoko unako njengoko oku kuya kukunceda ukuba ubenze baqheleke.
Ukubona umntu obukhe wanaye okanye uneemvakalelo nomntu omtsha kunokuba yinkohliso ekuqaleni, kodwa ngokuba nomdla osempilweni kuyo, uya kufunda ukuba ulunge nayo kungekudala.
Musa ukuzisa iimvakalelo zakho ezinyangeni ezantsi, okanye xa uye wafumana iziselo ezimbalwa, njengoko oku kongeza uxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko kubuhlobo obusele buphumile kwindawo enamatye.
Bambelela kwisigqibo sakho sokuqhubeka kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukubuyela kobo buhlobo ubuthandayo kakhulu!
Ukubaleka uMhlobo woMntu ngeNtlonipho
Qiniseka ukuba ukuhlonipha omnye umntu kuyo yonke le nto.
Abantu banelungelo lokubona abahlobo babo njengabahlobo nje, kwaye oku kusebenza kuzo zonke izini.
Ukuba umntu akafuni ukuba neentlobano zesini okanye ezothando kunye nawe, bakulungile phakathi kwamalungelo abo okunamathela kuloo nto.
Ukuzama ukunyanzela umntu ukuba abe ngaphezu komhlobo akunakulunga!
Zininzi izinto ezinokubamba umntu ekubeni abe ngaphezulu komhlobo wakho, kwaye ngekhe uzive ukuba ziyintoni na.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba uthembeke, uhloniphe kwaye uhloniphe isiseko sobuhlobo bakho - ubakhathalele kwaye ufuna bonwabe.
