Kudala-dala, waba nobudlelwane nothando nomntu othile, emva koko yaphela ngesizathu esithile okanye esinye.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yomgama, okanye wawungekakulungeli nje omnye nomnye ngelo xesha.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, iphelile… kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awunalo uqhagamshelo olomeleleyo ngokwenene kunye.
Ngapha koko, nina nobabini nisenokucinga omnye ngomnye kangangeminyaka emva koko. Usenokuba uhlala unxibelelana, nokuba ngabahlobo okanye ngamanye amaxesha ujongana nabanye.
Okanye, usenokuba ulahlekelwe kukunxibelelana ngokupheleleyo, kuphela ukuba ungqubane kwakhona kwisiganeko esingahleliwe.
Kwaye laa malala amadala awayetshisa kwikona emnyama aqala ukudanyaza kwakhona.
Ke, ngoku ngumbandela wokuzama ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nento oza kuyenza malunga nala ntlantsi. Ngaba kufuneka uzame ukuyinyanzela ukuba iphinde ibe ngumlilo ogqumayo? Ukuba nobabini niyingcamango, ngoko kufanelekile ukuzama, akunjalo?
Oko kwathethi, nokuba uya kuba nakho na ukuvuselela idangatye elidala kuxhomekeke kakhulu kumbuzo omnye olula:
Kutheni ingakhange iphumelele okokuqala?
Kukho izigidi ze izizathu zokuba ubudlelwane busilela , kwaye ibali lakho lokwahlukana liya kuba nefuthe elikhulu nokuba uza kukwazi ukuwutshisa lo mlilo ube kukutsha okuqinileyo kwakhona.
Umzekelo, ukuba izinto ziphelile ngenxa yeemeko ezingaphaya kolawulo lwakho , endaweni yokuba nibe nomlo owoyikekayo okanye nifumana amava kunye, amathuba akho angcono kakhulu.
Ndiza kwabelana ngamava obuqu kolu hlobo lwesimo. Xa ndandineminyaka eli-16 ubudala, ndazibandakanya nomfana owayemdala kunam ngeminyaka embalwa. Njengabanye abantwana abaneminyaka eli-18 ubudala, waya kwikholeji ukuze akwazi ukuntywilisela kwinkqubo awayeyifuna ngokwenene (kwaye enenkululeko ayifunayo kude nekhaya kunye nosapho!).
wwe nkosi yeringi
Siqaphele ukuba asizokwazi ukwenza into ekude, so so break. Oku kungenxa yomgama kunye neemeko, hayi kuba singavani.
Sobabini sasikwishumi elivisayo, ke ngoko sasingalindelanga ukuba sichithe ubomi bethu kunye, kodwa konke ukwahlukana kwakubuhlungu.
Kwakulusizi ukwahlukana, kodwa into esayibona ukuba iyimfuneko ngelo xesha.
Ukukhawuleza phambili kumashumi eminyaka kwaye sabuyela kunxibelelwano emva kokuba umntu esaziyo sobabini edlulile.
Sikhumbule ubuhlobo kunye nokuzibophelela esasinako ngoko, kwaye sasifuna ukuxhuma kwakhona. Ngokucacileyo, akukho mntu waziyo ukuba lingakanani ixesha esisele nalo apha, kwaye kulungile ukondla unxibelelwano olukhulu nabantu abalungileyo.
Ngaphandle kokungabonani kangangesithuba seminyaka engama-20, kwakusekho intlantsi encinci ebindayo ngasemva.
Singabahlobo abakhulu ngoku, njengoko sobabini sonwabile, ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo… kodwa ukuba besingekho? Kunokwenzeka ukuba sinokunika izinto elinye ithuba.
Ngaba Ngokwenene Ngumbono olungileyo ukuzama ukuLungisa eli Flame?
Ngokuchasene namava am, umhlobo wam wabaleka waya kwisithandwa sam sangaphambili kwimiboniso yobugcisa kunyaka ophelileyo. Iintlantsi zazibalasele njengangaphambili, kodwa ngaphandle komtsalane ovuthayo, bobabini babesazi ukuba bang ((akunjalo?) Bangaze baphinde babandakanyeke kwakhona.
Ngoba kutheni? Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, babenekhemistri engakholelekiyo, babenolonwabo olumangalisayo kunye, kwaye babeneehambo ezimangalisayo zokuhamba.
Ewe, ngaphandle kwekhemistri kunye nokuzonwabisa, ubudlelwane babo babungazinzanga kuyo yonke indlela. Yayiphelile ngomdlalo omkhulu wokukhwaza embindini wesitrato, kwaye isiphumo sasemva yayisisibhengezo somlilo.
Kuxhomekeka ekubeni ukubhangqwa kwakho kwakunjani, licebo elilungileyo lokunyaniseka malunga nokuba ukuphinda uhlangane nothando oludlulileyo ngumbono olungileyo kuwo wonke umntu obandakanyekayo.
Yeyiphi imiqobo ojamelene nayo ngeli xesha lokujikeleza?
Ukuba nobabini nahlukane kwakudala, ubomi benu bunokuba butshintshe kakhulu okoko benigqibele kunye.
Kuninzi okunokwenzeka ngexesha elifutshane, kwaye nina nobabini ninokwahluka kakhulu kwindlela enikhumbula ngayo.
Ukongeza kutshintsho lomntu, iimeko zobomi zinokwahluka kakhulu ngokunjalo.
i-fastlane iqala nini
Umzekelo, wena (kunye / okanye idangatye elinokubakho) unokuba nabantwana ngoku. Oko kuyakuba yinto eyahlukileyo eyahlukileyo kuleya wawunayo ngaphambili, ngakumbi kuba abo banye abazali babantwana basaya kubakho emfanekisweni.
Ngaphandle kokuba umntu abe ngumhlolokazi, ngokuqinisekileyo kuyakubakho iqabane langaphambili eliza kulwa nalo, kunye nosapho olwandisiweyo, kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane obukhoyo.
Ukuba ilangatye lakho kunye ne-ex yabo bahamba kakuhle, kulungile. Ukuba akunjalo, loo nto inokubanakho ukuphosa isikrweqe ekuvuseleleni kwakho. Ingakumbi ukuba bohlukane ngokufanelekileyo kutshanje.
Eminye imiba enokubakho enokujongana nayo inokubandakanya imiceli mngeni emitsha yezempilo, abazali abalupheleyo abaye bahlala kunye nababini, okanye iishedyuli zomsebenzi ezingahambelaniyo.
Nyaniseka malunga nokuba uzimisele kwaye uyakwazi ukubonisana ngezi meko phambi kokuba uthathe umtsi wokuzama ukuvuselela.
Thembeka: Ngaba uyazama kwakhona ngenxa yoKhuseleko?
Phantse sonke siyasazi isibini esinaso Ukuqhekeka kwaye babuyela kunye Isiqingatha samatyeli (okanye nangaphezulu). Ngaphandle kokungahambelani kumanqanaba aliqela, aba bantu bahlala befumana indlela yokubuyela komnye nomnye.
Izinto zinokuba zilungile okwethutyana, kodwa ke imicimbi yakudala iyavela kwaye iimilo ziqala ngokutsha, kwaye into elandelayo uyazi, ziphinde zaqhekeka kwakhona.
Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Abasifundi isifundo sabo?
Okanye ngaba batsaleleke omnye komnye kangangokuba baqhubeka nokuthambekelana ngaphandle kwengxabano ebonakalayo?
Kwiimeko ezininzi, le yimeko 'yomtyholi owaziyo'.
Kulula kakhulu, abantu abaninzi bazama ukuvuselela ubudlelwane obudlulileyo kuba bayazi, kwaye ukuqhelana kuyinto ikhuselekile .
Nokuba izinto ziye zalala kwindawo yokuqala, imeko (okanye umntu) owaziyo ukuba inokoyikisa kunento entsha.
Esi sesinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuba kutheni abantu behlala kubudlelwane obungenampilo ixesha elide kunokuba kufanelekile. Banokuba neqela leendlela zokujongana nokujongana nezi meko zingaphantsi kwe-stellar, kwaye apho zikhona zinokubonakala ngathi zikhululeke ngakumbi, kwaye zikhuselekile, kunokungaqiniseki okukhulu okukhulu okuza emnyango wangaphambili.
Ke, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ingaba yile nto uyenzayo. Ngaba ubuyela umva kwizinto eziqhelekileyo kuba uziva ukhuselekile kuwe kunokubeka esichengeni imeko entsha?
Uyenza kanjani ukuba isebenze ngeli xesha
Ukuba udlule kuzo zonke iingenelo neengozi zokuvuselela la malahle amancinci sele uwenzile, emva koko unomsebenzi ekufuneka wenziwe.
Okokuqala nokuphambili, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyenzile kukuthetha ngokuvulekileyo kunye nelangatye lakho elinokuvuselelwa. Njengabo bonke ubudlelwane, unxibelelwano ngoyena ndoqo, kwaye nobabini kufuneka nivuleke kwaye ninyaniseke ngendlela eniziva ngayo ngayo yonke le nto.
uzolile kwaye ukhululeke ngalo lonke ixesha
Njengengxenye yokuzama ukuhamba kwakhona, kubalulekile ukufumana umhlaba ophakathi phakathi kokuphinda ufunde iindlela ezindala, kunye nokufumanisa kwakhona.
Emva kwakho konke, awuyi kuhamba ngeendlela eziqhelekileyo zokwazi umntu omtsha, kuba sele nisazana.
Oko kwathethileyo, usenokuba wenze iinguqulelo ezinkulu ngexesha lokuhlukana kwakho. Kananjalo, kuya kubakho izinto ezithile komnye nomnye ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kuba zintsha kwaye kunika umdla ukufumanisa.
Jika oku kube yinto eyonwabisayo, ukuba unako. Imidlalo kunye nezinto ezikuvumela ukuba wazane bhetele zilungele oku, njengoko zinokukuqhubela kwimibuzo obungenakucinga ngayo.
Iincwadi ezinje nge 'All About Us' nazo zingonwabisa, kwaye ziyakukuvumela ukuba ufumane ukuqonda okungcono omnye nomnye.
Kuxhomekeke ekubeni kudlule ixesha elingakanani ukusukela oko uye ekugqibeleni, umdla wakho kunye nezinto ozenzayo zitshintshile kakhulu. Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba uphume uye kwenza izinto ezintsha kunye, kunokuba uthembele kwizinto obuqhele ukuzenza.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ukugqibela kwakho ukuthandana bekungamashumi eminyaka eyadlulayo, unokuthambekela ngakumbi ekwabelaneni ngemyuziyam okanye ubulungu begalari kunokuba ujikeleze umngxuma we-mosh kude kube nge-3 kusasa
Okanye mhlawumbi yinto eniyithandayo nobabini. Kwaye oko kupholile nako.
Nyaniseka, kwaye Hlala ungene
Unxibelelwano kunye nokunyaniseka ngenene akunakucinezeleka ngokwaneleyo apha. Ukuvuselela ubudlelwane obudala kunokuba ngumceli mngeni njengobutsha, ukuba akunjalo.
Nangona usenokucinga ukuba ukuphinda unyathele umhlaba oqhelekileyo kulula, khumbula ukuba akukho namnye kuthi ofanayo nabantu esasinabo kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, kungasathethwa ke kumashumi eminyaka eyadlulayo.
ubuya nini wonke amerika
Amava ayasitshintsha-ngamanye amaxesha ngokucacileyo.
Ngenxa yoku, sinokukhathazeka xa umntu esasithandana naye kwiminyaka eyadlulayo elindele ukuba sifane njengoko sasinjalo xa babesazi.
Endaweni yokuba le ibe yimeko entle, Sinokuzibona sihlala sithelekiswa nohlobo lwethu olutsha ababesazi ngalo.
Okona kulungileyo, oku kunokubandakanya ukuba banike ingxelo malunga nokuba ungakhula kangakanani njengomntu, ingaba uzinze kangakanani, okanye ukhululeke kangakanani kulusu lwakho lokwenyani.
Okona kubi, banokuhlala bekubuza ukuba kutheni ungasalawuleki kwaye ungazenzekeli njengakuqala. Kutheni ungabelani ngezinto ezifanayo kwakhona.
Amagqabantshintshi afana 'Awuyisebenzisanga i _____' Unokudinwa kakhulu emva kwethutyana, kwaye unokuziva unenzondo malunga nolindelo lwakho kuwe.
Okanye kungenjalo.
Ungalindela ukuba baziphathe ngendlela ethile kuba bebefudula benjalo, kwaye ndiziva ndidanile kakhulu ukuba uthandana inguqulelo eyahlukileyo yomntu ocinga ukuba uyazi.
Eyona ndlela yokuxoxisana nayo yonke le nto kukuzama ukwazana nokuxabana njengoko ninjalo ngoku.
Hayi njengokuba ubuqhele ukuba njalo.
Thethani, chitha ixesha kunye, vulekeni kwaye ninyaniseke.
Ukuba le ntlantsi yenzelwe ukuvuselelwa, uyakufumana indlela eyiyo yokutshisa amadangatye.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungaqhubeka njani ngokuvuselela ubudlelwane nedangatye elidala? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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