Ulwalamano lwakho lufikelele kwinqanaba apho lungasasebenziyo komnye wenu.
Kodwa nisathandana kwaye niyakhathalelana, ke awufuni ukuba izinto ziphele.
Endaweni yoko, ufuna ukuqala ngokutsha kubudlelwane bakho kwaye wenze izinto zibengcono ngeli xesha.
Wenza njani?
Nazi ezinye zeengcebiso ezibalulekileyo onokuzilandela ezinokwenza ulwalamano lwakho 'olutsha' lonwabe kwaye lube sempilweni kunaleyo ikhoyo ngoku.
1. Thatha ixesha ngokwahlukana.
Oku ayisiyiyo imeko yokuba 'kwikhefu' kwaye ubone indlela ubomi obungatshatanga oziva ngayo kuwe.
Imalunga nokuvumela ubudlelwane ukuba buyekise imeko yoxinzelelo lweemvakalelo mhlawumbi ikhoyo ngoku.
Ukuchitha ixesha ngaphandle komnye nomnye ngonxibelelwano oluncinci okanye ungabikho kwaphela uya kunika nakuphi na ukuziva ungonwabanga onokuthi ubambe kuko ithuba lokunciphisa.
Isenokungabikho kwaphela, kodwa iya kuncipha ukuya kuthi ga apho unokucinga ngakumbi ngayo.
izinto zokwenza ekhaya wedwa
Ungaqokelela iingcinga zakho, ucinge malunga nokuba ufuna ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bube njani, kwaye Zilungiselele ngokwengqondo ukuqala ngokutsha.
Ungachonga iipateni ezithile ezilawula ubudlelwane bakho kunye nendlela ezinokuthi zaphulwe ngayo okanye zitshintshwe zibe ngcono.
Ixesha elikude komnye liya kukuvumela ukuba uliphose, elinika indawo elungileyo yokuqalisa uye phambili.
Eli xesha linokufuna kuphela iintsuku ezimbalwa, okanye iveki ubuninzi.
Xoxani ngendlela enivakalelwa ngayo.
Xa nobabini nilungile, lixesha lokuba nihlale phantsi nincokole malunga neemvakalelo zenu, ukukhathazeka, kunye nokwenzakala kwenu.
Le ayizukuba yingxoxo elula ukuba nayo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba omabini amaqela azive ekwazi ukukhupha izinto esifubeni.
Kodwa indlela ohamba ngayo ibalulekile- KUNINZI!
Okokuqala, zama ukusebenzisa 'mna' iingxelo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Thetha malunga nendlela wena uziva kwaye uthini wena cinga, kunokuba uthini bona yenza njani kwaye njani bona yenza uzive.
'Ndiziva ndingahlonitshwanga kukungabikho koqwalaselo xa uhlala ngaphandle kwexesha emva komsebenzi ungabuzanga nokuba kulungile kum.'
Oku kuvakala ngcono kakhulu kune:
Awunantlonipho xa usiya kusela nabahlobo bakho abasebenza ungakhange uzihluphe ngokubuza ukuba ingaba ndiyayilungisa loo nto! '
Iingxelo 'mna' ziya kwenza iqabane lakho lingazikhuselanga kwaye lamkele ngakumbi amanqaku owenzayo.
Okwesibini, ukunceda ngamnye kuni ukuba abone ezinye iingxelo ngokwembono yabo, zama ukuyila yonke incoko njengenye onayo nomhlobo wakho.
Lo mhlobo uthetha ngamaqabane abo, hayi wena. Oku kuya kukunceda ukuve izinto ngokucacileyo kwaye kukuvumele ukuba ucinge malunga nokuba yeyiphi ingcebiso onokuthi uyinike umhlobo onezi zikhalazo kunye neqabane lakhe.
Xa usenza le ngxoxo, zama ukungahambi kwaye uqhubeke iminyaka. Zinciphise, yithi, ngamanqaku ali-10 umntu ngamnye kwaye uthathe ithuba lokuthetha.
Inokukunceda nokuba uyeke ukuphendula amanqaku abo kwangoko. Oku kuvumela incoko ukuba iqhubele phambili endaweni yokungena kwindawo enengxabano.
Bhala amanqaku akho phantsi ephepheni uze uwanikezele omnye komnye ekugqibeleni. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba nobabini ninike ingqalelo enkulu kwinto ethethwa yenye.
Kunokuba luncedo ukuba nolunye usuku okanye ezimbini zokwahlukana ukuze ukwazi ukuzilungisa kakuhle izinto.
3. Fumana indlela yokunxibelelana ukuya phambili.
Ingxoxo enzima evela kwinqanaba langaphambili ayiloxesha lokugqibela apho unokufaka khona izikhalazo zakho.
Ngapha koko, ubudlelwane obusempilweni bobunye apho omabini amaqela azive ekwazi ukuveza iimvakalelo zawo ngento eyenziwe ngomnye.
Into ekufuneka niyenzile kunye yeyona ndlela yokunxibelelana.
Mhlawumbi une 'mic evulekile' yeyure ngexesha elimiselweyo veki nganye, ethi, ngendlela efanayo nale ingxoxo ingentla, ivumele umntu ngamnye ukuba athethe ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa ukwazisa omnye indlela oziva ngayo kwaye ukuba ebekhona amaxesha xa bekucaphukisile kwiveki ephelileyo.
Enye indlela enokuthi ibe babhalelane iileta Eziqulathe ezi ngcinga kunye neemvakalelo ezifanayo.
Ithetha ukuthini xa umntu engekho nzulu
Ukufunda into kuya kuthi, kubantu abaninzi, baziva bengabotshelelwanga ngokwasemoyeni kunencoko.
Iileta zinokufundwa zodwa kwaye kunokunikwa ixesha lokuba nina nobabini nicinge ngenene ngento ebhalwe ngomnye kunye neemvakalelo ezipholileyo.
Oku kuvumela imiba ukuba isasazwe ngaphandle komngcipheko wokujongana ngomsindo.
Unokwenza ingxoxo emfutshane malunga neeleta zakho emva koko ukuba unqwenela njalo.
4. Qwalasela iingcebiso ngezithandani.
Kuyinto enhle ukuba ufuna ukuqala kuphela isahluko esitsha kubudlelwane bakho, kodwa incwadi entsha.
Kodwa luhambo olunzima ukujongana nobabini kuphela.
Kuya kubakho imiqobo kwimpumelelo yakho kwaye Kuya kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokoyisa le miqobo.
Kulapho umntu wesithathu anokunceda khona, ngakumbi xa benoluqeqesho kunye nobuchule obufunekayo bokukukhokelela kwizisombululo ezifanelekileyo kumcimbi othile.
Ukuba ngenene uza kuqala kubudlelwane bakho, kuhlawula ukutyala kwezinye izibini ezinika iingcebiso. Ingcebiso yethu koku yinkonzo ekwi-intanethi ukusuka apho ingcali yobudlelwane iya kukukhokela kwinkqubo yokubuyisela ubudlelwane bakho kumhlaba oqinileyo. Ukuthetha ngokulula ngoku ngoku.
5. Ukuzibophelela ngokwasengqondweni kukuvumela elidlulileyo liphile kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Izinto esele zithethiwe kwaye zenziwe kubudlelwane ukuza kuthi ga ngoku akusoloko kulula ukuzilibala okanye ukuxolela.
Kodwa inye into onokuyenza kukumelana nomnqweno wokubabuyisa kwakhona ngoku.
Kukutsala ujikeleze kwizangqa ngaphezulu kwezinto ezifanayo zenyanga emva kwenyanga okanye unyaka nonyaka.
Uye waba nengxoxo yakho enkulu kwaye ngethemba ufumene indlela yokuhambisa izikhalazo zangoku kunye nomnye. Ixesha elidlulileyo linokushiyeka kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Ngale ndlela, nobabini uqala ngaphezulu kunye nezilayiti ezicocekileyo. Uyazi ukuba awuyi kugwetywa okanye wohlwaywe ngento owayenza ngaphambili.
Uyazi ukuba yintoni ebalulekileyo ngoku wenza njani kwaye niphatha njani omnye komnye ukuya phambili.
Ngokuqinisekileyo usenokuba usebenza ngeemvakalelo ezijikeleze ezo ziganeko zangaphambili ngaphakathi, kodwa awubaniki amandla amatsha ngokubuyela kubo kwincoko.
Ukuba kuyanceda, ixesha ngalinye uziva ulingeka ukuba uphakamise umba onameva kulwalamano lwakho oludlulileyo, khawuzibone uphethe itoti yepetroli ngaphezulu komlilo omncinci - ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuwuphalaza, uyazi ukuba izinto ziya kushushu ngakumbi okanye zide ziqhume.
6. Sebenza kwezona zinto zibalulekileyo kwiqabane lakho.
Okwangoku, kuya kufuneka ube uyiqonda ngcono eyona nto inkulu iqabane lakho elinayo nawe kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
Oku kukuxelela ukuba baxabise ntoni kwaye kufuneka usebenze kuqala.
Lonke ubudlelwane bunemiceli mngeni kuba abantu ababini baya kungqubana ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngamanye amaxesha.
Kodwa, ukuba unako ukufumana izinto ezinkulu ngokufanelekileyo, izinto ezincinci aziyi kukuchaphazela nina nobabini kakhulu.
Ukuba kukho izinto ezithile ozenzayo ngoku osaziyo ukuba ziyalicaphukisa iqabane lakho, zama okona kunzima ukuba ungazenzi- uthatha, oko kukuthi, lutshintsho olufanelekileyo ukwenza.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba kukho izinto ezithandwa ngumlingane wakho uyenzile yenza, zama ukuzenza- kwakhona, ukuba zizicelo ezifanelekileyo.
Usenokuba uyazibuza Kutheni kufuneka utshintshe iqabane lakho ukuze bakwamkele njengoko unjalo.
Kodwa kukho utshintsho oluqinisekileyo kwaye kukho olubi. Utshintsho oluhle luhlala lulungile kuni nobabini. Utshintsho olubi luhlala lulungile kubo.
Ukuba nengqondo evulekileyo ngakumbi kunye nokuzimisela ukumamela izimvo ezichasa ezakho lutshintsho oluqinisekileyo.
Ukusika umhlobo othile ebomini bakho ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho lingazithandi kangako lutshintsho olubi (ngaphandle kokuba nawe, uyabona ukuba lo mhlobo unefuthe elibi kuwe).
7. Thetha kwaye ucinge kakuhle ngeqabane lakho.
Iingcinga zakho zinempembelelo kwiimvakalelo zakho njengoko iimvakalelo zakho zinazo kwiingcinga zakho.
Ke xa ucinga gwenxa ngeqabane lakho, unika amandla kwiimvakalelo zakho ezingathandekiyo kubo.
Kwaye ukuba konke okwenzayo kukukhalaza ngazo kubahlobo bakho okanye kusapho, uya kulwela ukuziva uqinisekile ngabo.
Ngethamsanqa, oku kuyasebenza ngenye indlela nayo.
Ukuba ungagxila kwiindawo ezintle iqabane lakho elinalo, uya kukhuthaza iimvakalelo ezilungileyo kubo.
Kwaye ukuba uthetha kuphela izinto ezintle kunye ezintle ngabo kwabanye, ukhuthaza uthando lwakho kwaye ubakhathalele.
Konke malunga nalapho ulwalamano lwakho 'lubekwe khona' kwaye lukwazi ukuluhambisa kwindawo efanelekileyo ngokugxila kwiindawo ezintle malunga neqabane lakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
Kutheni ndinemvakalelo mva nje
8. Funda ngendlela yokulalanisa.
Abantu ababini abanakuze bavumelane ngayo yonke into, kwaye xa kukho ukungavisisani, akunakwenzeka ukuba bobabini bafumane indlela yabo.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ubugcisa bokulalanisa bubaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane.
Ukwazi ukuba uvumele nini iqabane lakho ukuba lenze indlela yalo, nini ukudibana embindini, kwaye nini ukuma ngokuqinileyo kwinto oyifunayo sisakhono esihle sokufunda.
Isitshixo kukuthatha isigqibo sokuba ingakanani into ebalulekileyo kuwe, ngelixa ugcina uhlobo oluthile lokulingana.
Ngamanye amagama, nokuba uyonwabile ukubavumela babenendlela yabo kwizinto ezininzi ezincinci, kunokuba kufanelekile ukubambelela ngokuqinileyo ubuncinci bexesha elincinci.
Ukuba uhlala unikezela kwiminqweno yabo kwizinto ezincinci, ngekhe bazive ngathi bafuna ukushukuma xa kufikwa kwizinto ozikhathaleleyo.
Ukuba kwaye nobabini xa niziva ningavumi ukuvumelana neminqweno yomnye, kubalulekile ukuba nifumane umhlaba ophakathi ukuze nobabini nibe nakho ukuziva anelisekile noko.
9. Qaphela omnye nomnye.
Ngaba ulwalamano lwakho lude lwafika eli nqanaba kukuhlala kunye endaweni yokuba lube lolona lwalamano?
Unokuhlala kunye, kodwa ngaba unxibelelwano lwakho lunentsingiselo?
Ngaba uyababona kwaye uyabamkela xa bengena egumbini, kwaye kungenjalo?
Ngaba niyabulisa ukufika komnye nomnye ekhaya?
Ngaba niyancuma omnye komnye?
Ukuba nobabini ekhaya, kodwa nisenza izinto ezahlukileyo, niyayeka le niyenzayo ukuze niye kubona kwaye nibuze ukuba banjani?
Zonke ezi zinto zibonakala ngathi zincinci, kodwa zibonisa ixabiso obeka elinye kwelinye.
Ukuqaphela omnye komnye kuthetha ukubonisa, ngendlela encinci, ukuba uyakhathala. Ukuqiniswa rhoqo kwalo myalezo kuyalomeleza ulwalamano enabelana ngalo.
10. Gcina imali kumaphupha omnye nomnye.
Kubudlelwane bakho ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ukhe waziva ngathi ububazi kakuhle ubomi babo ngaphandle kwakho njengesibini?
Ngaba uyazi ukuba athini amaphupha abo?
Ngaba ubancedile ukuba bafezekise la maphupha?
Ngaba ungumkhokeli wabo?
Xa omnye wenu ebandakanyeka ekulandeleni amaphupha akho, ihlala iyinxalenye entle kakhulu yobomi bakho.
Uziva unomdla ngayo nayiphi na into osebenza kuyo.
Ke, ngokuvumela omnye nomnye ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwezi zinto-nokuba ngaba ngumboneleli ngenkxaso okanye ngengcebiso- wabelana ngeemvakalelo ezintle ezihamba nabo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube namaphupha afanayo. Kufuneka ubenenxaxheba ekuthatheni inxaxheba ekuxhaseni abanye kubo.
11. Yenza iinjongo ekwabelwana ngazo namaphupha.
Ukulandela ngokusondeleyo kwinqanaba langaphambili, xa uqala ngaphezulu kubudlelwane bakho, qiniseka ukuba ujoyina imikhosi kwaye unenjongo okanye iphupha owabelana ngalo kunye.
Oku kunokuba ngumthombo omkhulu wenkuthazo kuni nobabini kwaye kunokwenza ukuba uhambo lwenu kunye luzive luyinyani.
Awusenguye nje abantu ababini abahamba ecaleni komnye Nizenzela eyenu indlela yokudibanisa nina nobabini.
Ukuqhawula i-toast kunye ne-janet
Inokuba yinto esondeleyo kuba akukho mntu wumbi ufuna ukubandakanyeka. Yiphupha lakho kwaye unokuba ngumthombo wenkxaso kunye neengcebiso komnye nomnye.
Iinjongo ekwabelwana ngazo kunye namaphupha anokukunceda ekuchongeni apho nobabini nithanda ukuba ubudlelwane buye kwixesha elide.
Ngaba uyafuna usapho?
Ungahlala phi ngokufanelekileyo?
Luhlobo luni lwendlela yokuphila ongathanda ukuphila ngayo?
Ngaba ishishini lakho linokuba yinxalenye yekamva lakho?
Xa ninento eninokuvumelana ngayo nobabini kwaye nisebenzele kuyo, uqala ukusebenza ngakumbi njengeqela kwaye ninciphe njengabantu ababini.
12. Yiya kwimihla eyiyo.
Xa niqala ukudibana kwaye nithandana, ngokuqinisekileyo uye waya kwimihla, akunjalo?
Kwanaxa beyekile ukuba 'yimihla,' ubunokwenza imisebenzi emininzi kunye.
izihloko onokuthetha ngazo nomntu
Ngaphezulu kobudlelwane, ezi zinto zinokuba mbalwa kwaye zibe kude phakathi.
Awuchithi ixesha elininzi lomgangatho kunye njengokuba benisenza, nangona nisenokuba nihlala kunye.
Nobabini ninokuzonwabisa enikwenzayo nabahlobo, okanye ninokuya kusela kunye nesidlo sangokuhlwa kunye namaqela ngaphezulu kunokwenza nina nobabini.
Kodwa imihla yobusuku yinxalenye eluncedo yokwenene yokugcina-kwaye kule meko ivuselela - ubudlelwane bakho.
Ke ukuqala ngokutsha, yiya kwimihla… kwaye uninzi lwazo.
13. Bonisa ngakumbi uthando.
Ukwanga, ukwanga, ingalo ethambileyo egxalabeni lomlingane wakho njengokuba behlamba ...
… Ezi zinto zibalulekile.
Singabantu zizidalwa ezinobuchule kwaye Ukuthinta ngokwasemzimbeni kubalulekile ukudibana namaqabane ethu.
Ukuba khange nivuleke ngokukodwa ngemiboniso yothando kude kube ngoku, yenze into enisebenzisana ngayo.
Awudingi ukucwangcisa inani le-X lokuchukumisa usuku okanye nantoni na ufunde nje ukufumanisa amaxesha apho into ethile yendalo inokuthi ifaneleke.
Ezi zinto zincinci zisebenza ngokumangalisayo ukunciphisa nayiphi na imeko enokubakho phakathi kwenu nobabini. Zidlulisa iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngokucacileyo nangamandla njengalo naliphi na igama.
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