UKUYA umhlobo olungile kufanelekile ukubambelela, kodwa ubophelelekile ukuba ube nanye okanye zibe mbini onokuba ngcono kuzo ngaphandle kwexesha elide. Aba bahlobo awuyi kuphoswa kakhulu ukuba bafudukele kude… kude… bathanda ukuya kwelinye ixesha lexesha!
Kutheni umvisa kabuhlungu lowo umthandayo
Ukuba awuqinisekanga malunga nokuba ngoobani aba bahlobo banokuba, jonga nje ukuba ngaba ezi nkcazo zili-10 zibethe naziphi na iintsimbi engqondweni yakho.
1. Abantu abangabahlobo bakho kuphela ngenxa yobude bexesha enazana ngalo.
Sonke sinabo abo bahlobo bakudala babonakala ngathi bahlala ebomini bakho ixesha elide kangangoko unako. Kudala-dala xa wawukufuphi ngokwenene wawungenako ukwahlukana kubonakala ngathi. Ngoku, nangona kunjalo, ubanjwe ngokudibeneyo ngaphandle kweenkumbulo zeentsuku ezidlulileyo.
Nobabini nitshintshile njengokuba nikhulile kwaye izinto ezazikhe zanibophelela omnye komnye zatyibilika ecaleni kwendlela. Ngokwemigqaliselo emikhulu, awungomdlalo ubalaseleyo omnye komnye kwezi ntsuku kwaye ubuhlobo mhlawumbi ngekhe bube ukuba ubungadibana okokuqala namhlanje.
2. Abantu abakhe basabela kunyango lwakho kwaye bangaze banxibelelane nawe okanye bacebise ukudibana.
Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ube nomntu onje ebomini bakho umhlobo ongeke uve ukuba awuzange uqhagamshelane naye kuqala. Luhlobo lomntu ongazange acebise ukuya kwisidlo sangokuhlwa okanye isiselo, kodwa ulinde wena ukuba wenze inyathelo lokuqala.
Kukho isizathu sale nto, kwaye kukukwenza ngexabiso abalibeka kubuhlobo bakho. Ukuba ngenene bafuna ukukubona, baya kukubiza, bathumele imiyalezo, bathumele imiyalezo, okanye bathumele i-imeyile ukuba usisikolo esidala. Zama ukungakuthathi ngokobuqu, kodwa banokwanela ngaphandle kwakho ebomini babo, ke kutheni ungabavumeli babe njalo?
3. Abantu ekufuneka benezinto ngendlela yabo kwaye abangayi kulalanisa kumalungiselelo.
Abanye abantu abanobungqongqo kangangokuba baya kuthi caba ukwala ukwenza nantoni na engeyiyo into abayicebisayo. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba bangaphi abanye abafuna ukwenza into okanye ukuya kwenye indawo, ukuba abafuni, kuya kufuneka uyilungiselele yonke loo nto. Kwaye kufuneka ibekho ngexesha elifanelekileyo kubo, ngokwendalo.
Abasayi kulalanisa kwaye inokuba yinto ephazamisayo ngokwenyani, ukuya kuthi ga apho ucatshukiswa ukubamema kwakhona. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, intwana yokuya nokubuya ibalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kwaye ukuba abazimiselanga ukuzama, kutheni uhlala ungoyena uzikhathazayo? Uya kuphela kuphela ukubacaphukela ngenxa yoko.
4. Abantu abangenakonwaba ngenxa yakho kunye nempumelelo yakho.
Xa ufezekisa into ebomini bakho, nokuba inkulu okanye incinci kangakanani, abahlobo bakho kufuneka babekhona ukubhiyozela kunye nawe. Kodwa usenokuba nomntu okwisangqa sakho oncuma ngamazinyo atshixekileyo okanye okuvuyisayo ngokuncoma ngento yakho.
Abahlobo bokwenene bonwabile okoko nje wonwabile, kwaye ukuba kuyacaca ukuba oku akunjalo, ke akufuneki ukuba umqwalasele lo mntu njengomhlobo. Inani elincinci lomona kunye nekhwele liyindalo ngokugqibeleleyo, kodwa akufuneki lingene kwindlela yabahlobo abavuyisana ngokuphumelela komnye nomnye.
5. Abantu abangaze babuze ukuba unjani.
Ngaba unayo loo mhlobo uhlala kubonakala ngathi uthetha ngaye nangobomi babo? Uyabazi abo, apho unokuhlangana khona kwaye uchithe iiyure ezimbini zokuqala uthetha ngazo ngaphambi kokuba babuze nokuba unjani.
Aba bantu banomdla kakhulu kangangokuba bayalibala ukuba kukho umntu wesibini kwincoko, obomi nemicimbi yabo ibaluleke kakhulu njengeyabo. Kude kube bade bazigqibe zonke iinkcukacha ezincinci zobukho babo apho bakhumbula khona ukuba bandise imbeko esisiseko ngokubuza ngawe.
6. Abantu abacinga ukuba bayayazi yonke kwaye aboyiki ukwenza ilizwi labo livakale.
Ngaba ukhe uzibone unengxoxo nomntu onemfuno engonelisekiyo yokwenza yonke imizuzwana emi-5 kwaye akulungise kwinto ethile? Iyakhathaza akunjalo? Ngelishwa, aba bantu bayathanda ukuza nolwazi kunye nobulumko, nokuba imeko ayifuni nokuba babe nolwazi okanye ubulumko babo.
Ukumiswa kunye nokukhangela inyani phakathi kwesivakalisi iyacaphukisa , kodwa indlela ekuziva ngayo kulapho owona monakalo wobuhlobo wenziwe khona. Ke uza kuthini ukuba awuyazi imicimbi yehlabathi, kwaye ngubani okhathalayo ukuba awunayo imvelaphi efanayo yemfundo? Ukwenziwa ndiziva ndisisidenge okanye ukungazi akukaze kumnandi, ke ukuba kukho umhlobo owenza kuwe, zibuze ukuba uyafuna na umhlobo onje.
Izithuba ezihambelanayo (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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7. Abantu flake kuwe ixesha emva kwexesha emva kwexesha.
Ukwenza izicwangciso kwaye kufuneka uzirhoxise / uzitshintshe ngomzuzu wokugqibela zinokwenzeka kweyona nto intle kuthi, kodwa kukho abanye abantu ababonakala ngathi benza ikhondo lokuphambanisa nabahlobo babo.
Ukuba uye waya kumzamo wokulungiselela ixesha nendawo yokudibana, kuphela ukuba bacime kanye njengokuba uza kuphuma ngomnyango (okanye okubi kakhulu, xa sele ulapho), umsindo kunye nokucaphuka yibaxi izinto. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba kunqabile kwaye banesizathu esihle sokukhupha ngomzuzu wokugqibela, iyaxolelwa - ngabahlobo bakho emva kwayo yonke loo nto. Ukuba, kwelinye icala, oku kwenzeka rhoqo kunangoku, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba yeyiphi enye into abayenzayo ebaluleke ngaphezu kobuhlobo bakho.
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8. Abantu abathatha inxaxheba ngokuzithandela kumdlalo weqonga.
Umdlalo weqonga ubonakala ulandela abanye abantu naphi na apho baya khona, njengesithunzi samazwi aphakamileyo, ubushushu kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi. Amathuba kukuba, ayisiyonto ininzi kangako yesithunzi, kodwa bubumnyama obuqikelelwa ngaphandle ukusuka kubo.
Kukuzimisela kwaba bantu ukuzibandakanya kwidrama yobomi-nokuba kukho into engabakhathazi kangako-enokubenza kube nzima ukuba phakathi kwabo. Yonke into ngumlo, ngumlo, ukungqubana nelinye iziko, nokuba ngumntu lowo, umbutho, umbono, okanye nobomi uqobo.
Ngabantu abajikelezileyo, kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba imicimbi yakho ngenye imini iya kubanjwa kule drama. Ngaba bangabahlobo abalungileyo kangangokuba uyivumele yenzeke loo nto?
9. Abantu ongenakubathembela kwisityalo sakho, ungasathethi ke ngeemfihlelo zakho ezinzulu, ezimnyama kakhulu.
Ewe, olu luhlu alunakugqitywa ngaphandle kokuchukumisa umxholo wentembeko, kuba ukuba awunakumthemba umntu, ngaba ngenene angabizwa ngokuba ngumhlobo?
Ke, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba ungavuya na ukuveza amabali obuqu kunye nolwazi olubuthathaka emntwini, ukhuselekile kulwazi ukuba ngekhe iqhubeke. Okanye, ngaba loo mntu Behleba ngasemva kwakho kwaye wabelane ngeemfihlo zakho nabanye? Ithemba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane ukuba ukuba yeyokugqibela, awufuni loo mntu abe ngumhlobo wakho.
Uyavuma okanye awuvumelani noku kungasentla? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi ukuze wabelane ngeengcinga zakho.
