Akukho mntu ngokungathandabuzekiyo ebomini bakho ocaphukisa ubomi bakho.
Oku kunokuba ngumntu osebenza naye, umntu ohlala naye ekhaya, umhlobo wosapho, okanye umntu oqhelene naye ongena kuye ngamanye amaxesha… naliphi na inani leentlobo ezahlukeneyo zabantu.
uluhlu lwamagama okuchaza ngokwakho
Inqaku yile, aba bantu banamandla angaqhelekanga okwenza ukuba ugaye amazinyo akho unamathisele kwaye wonakalise usuku lwakho lonke.
Uninzi lwazo lusenokungazenzi ngabom, kodwa ezinye kunjalo.
Makhe sijonge ezinye zezinto ezicaphukisayo, ezicaphukisayo ezinokwenziwa ngabantu ebomini bethu.
Ndiyathemba ukuba singafumana ulwazi malunga nokuziphatha kwabo, kwaye sikuphephe ukuba njengabo.
1. Ukutyhala amaqhosha ukwenza nje ukuba usabele
Cinga umntakwenu owaziyo ukuba ulahlekile ukuba ulithiyile igama elithi 'ufumile,' ke baqiniseke ukulithetha etafileni xa usapho luhlanganisene esidlweni.
Uya kugoba kanye kwiinzwane zakho, kwaye baya kuhlala nje apho, bancume.
Kutheni besenza oko?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuba banesitayile esibuhlungu kwaye bayonwaba kwaye banelisekile kukucaphukisa.
Uya kufumana olu hlobo lokuziphatha kwi-intanethi. 'Ukunyathela' kubonakala ngathi kuyachuma kwi-Intanethi, kuba abantu banamakhaphu-blanche ukuba angabajerki… kwaye bakude umgama okhuselekileyo.
Kwi Ukutyekela kweMachiavellian .
Nje ukuba ezi jerks zifumane indawo ethambileyo, bayayikroba. Kwaye baqhubeka bekhangela de bafumane impendulo abayifunayo.
Baphuma kuyo, kwaye baya kuqhubeka bekwenza njalo ukuba uqhubeka uphendula kwimikhombandlela yabo.
Indlela yokubanqanda ekwenzeni oku kukwenza into eyaziwa ngokuba kukuhamba ' Iliwa eliGrey '
Kuba ezi jerks ziyavuya xa ndikubona usokola, eyona nto iphambili kukuba ujongeke ngoku-poker kwaye uyadika, ke baphulukana nomdla.
Izandi kulula ukuzithetha kunokuba uzenzile, kodwa kufanelekile ukuzama… ngakumbi ukuba eli lilungu losapho ekuya kufuneka uhlale ulibona.
Ukuba ubonakalisa indlela yokuchasana nokuzonwabisa, unokufuna ukubhukisha ixesha elithile nonyango. Oku kucofa amaqhosha kunokuba yinto enye yomba obaluleke kakhulu, kwaye ukuba awuyilungisi ngoku, ubeka emngciphekweni wokuphulukana naye wonke umntu omkhathaleleyo.
2. Ubumhlophe obungenakubekezeleka bokwabelana okungaphezulu
Ubuza ukuba ibinjani impelaveki yabo kwaye bakuxelele konke malunga nehemorrhoids zabo.
Ngexesha lesidlo sasemini, baxoxa ngemicimbi yempilo yamalungu osapho ngeenkcukacha ezoyikisayo, okanye bakuxelele konke ngento eyothusayo eyenziwe liqabane labo ebhedini.
Ukutya kwabo kwimidiya yoluntu kugcwele izinto zobuqu onqwenela ukuba ungaze uzifunde (okanye ungaziboni), kwaye uzifumanisa wothukile kwaye ungonwabanga ngeenkcukacha abazinyanzelayo ekwabelaneni ngazo.
Okubi nangakumbi, xa ubaxelela ukuba awufuni kuva ngesihloko, banokuphendula ngokuthi 'kulungile, kodwa…' kwaye QHUBEKA UTHETHA ngayo…
… Okanye wenze uzive ngathi uyidouche kuba awuxhasi malunga nomsinga wemicimbi yobuqu abayikhuphele yona.
Kuninzi ekufuneka kuthethwe ngobuchule, kunye nokubuza ukuba ingaba omnye umntu ukhululekile na ngomxholo ofuna ukuwuxoxa.
Ewe, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe ngezinto ezinokuba 'icky' okanye eziphazamisayo, kodwa ezinye izinto kuthethwa ngcono ngazo nonyango.
OKANYE, cela imvume malunga nokuba omnye umntu ukwindawo efanelekileyo yeemvakalelo ukuxoxa ngezinto ezithethiweyo.
Imbeko esisiseko, kwaye konke.
3. 'Andinabuntu ngaphandle kolwalamano lwam'
Ubuza umhlobo wakho ukuba benza ntoni ngesidlo sangokuhlwa, kwaye bakuxelele ukuba benza ukuthanda kweqabane labo.
Ukuba uyabancoma iimpahla zabo, bayaphendula ngokwazisa ukuba iqabane labo libakhethele.
Yonke iposti yemidiya yoluntu, yonke incoko, ijikeleze ngokupheleleyo kumaqabane / iqabane labo, kwaye kubonakala ngathi abanabuntu ngaphandle kokuba babe sesinye isiqingatha somntu.
Abasenazo nezinto abazithandayo okanye abanomdla kuzo.
Ngokusisiseko, bazilungelelanise ukuba babe yinto efanelekileyo yomnye umntu, kwaye iyacaphukisa kwaye iyothusa njengaso sonke isihogo.
Ukungazithembi okuninzi, abantu abaxhomekeke kwikhowudi banjengale, ngakumbi ukuba bakubudlelwane nabantu abenza iziyobisi.
Ubomi babo bonke bunikezelwe kumaqabane abo, ke loo nto ithi iqabane liyabenza ndiziva ndiluncedo kwaye ndiqinisekisiwe ekujikeni. Inokungonwabisi into yokuba abanye banikele ubungqina.
Ukuba ujikeleza bonke ubukho bakho kwenye, uyakuba ngubani xa bengasekho ebomini bakho?
4. Ngcwele-Kunokuba Wena
Aba bantu bazakuzama ukukukhathalela nokuba wenza ntoni.
Baye bathambekele ekuhamba-hambe kumabhabha azenza amalungisa, kwaye bagxeke nantoni na ewela ngaphantsi kokhetho okanye izenzo zabo.
Ungumfuno? Owu. Kulungile. Esi sisiqalo esihle, ndiyaqikelela. Kodwa zi-vegan, kuba eneneni eyiphi malunga nezilwanyana kwaye ungatyi Nantoni na ivela kubo.
Owu, une vegan ngoku? Zizo ukuya Inqanaba 5 , organic, i-vegan eluhlaza.
… Ufumana umbono.
Nokuba ungathini okanye wenze ntoni, awusoze ulunge, okanye uziphathe kakuhle, okanye uziphathe kakuhle, okanye ube nenkqubela phambili eluntwini njengabo.
Baye baziqinisekisa ukuba baziphethe kakuhle kunaye wonke umntu obangqongileyo.
Uninzi lweencoko zabo luya kuqala ngeengxelo ezinje, 'Akukho kugweba, kodwa ...' kulandele into egweba ngokumangalisayo.
Baya kuhlala befumana iziphene ubomi bomntu buzikhethela ukuthoba okanye agxeke, kwaye uya kwenza njalo ngokuzithoba okukhulu.
Kutheni beziphatha ngale ndlela nje?
Ngokunokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba kuye kwafuneka bajongane neendlela ezininzi zokuziphatha kakubi kubomi babo kwaye ke bazama ukuziphakamisa ngaphezulu kwazo zonke izinto ezimbi abaye bazifumana.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abayiqondi into yokuba babenza bhetyebhetye abanye abantu, benza ngendlela abenza ngayo.
Ngapha koko, banokukholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba isimilo sabo sobukrelekrele siya kubakhuthaza abanye abantu ukuba babengcono: baziphathe ngokuthembeka ngakumbi nobubele, njl.
Ingxaki kukuba, xa bejamelene nemeko enzima, aba bantu kunokwenzeka ukuba baziphathe kakubi njengoko bebebagweba.
Bayafuna kholwa Baziphethe kakuhle ngokokuziphatha nangokokuziphatha, kodwa xa kutyholwa, badla ngokuswela isibindi seenkolelo zabo.
5. Yonke into yeNtlekisa! Sukuba Nzulu Kangaka…
Uyazi ukuba umntu ongaze athathe nantoni na ngokungathí sina kwaye aphathe yonke into ngathi yinto ehlekisayo?
Kukangaphi ufuna ukubetha loo mntu ngetoaster? Kunene.
Ubomi bunokuba nzima ngenene ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye bunzima nangakumbi xa abo basondeleyo kuwe bengakuthathi nzulu.
Kunzima nokwazi umntu ngokwenyani xa eteketisa okanye esenza iziqhulo ngokoqobo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Abantu abaninzi abaguqula yonke imeko ibe yintlekisa ngokwenene banxunguphalo ngokwendalo.
Ukuziphatha kwabo ngokudibeneyo kuyindlela yokuzikhusela ukubanceda ukuba bajongane noloyiko lwabo olukhubazekileyo, nokuba kungokufa, okanye kukugula, okanye nayiphi na into abanokuthi bayithathe njengengonwabisiyo.
Basenokuba nokuzithemba okuphantsi ngokwenene, kwaye bacinge ukuba kufuneka badlale indima kanaphakade yokuba 'sisonwabisa.'
Oko kuyakuphambuka ekubeni kuthotywe iindonga zabo kwaye babe sesichengeni, kwaye ngenxa yoko umngcipheko wokuba ungaliwa.
Ingxaki yokwenza oku kukuba yenza ukuba omnye umntu azive engenakusebenza ngokwenene.
Kunganzima kakhulu kubo ukuvula malunga nento ebaphazamisayo, kwaye baya kuvala nje ukuba badibene nokugculelwa… nokuba bekujongwe ukuba kudlalwe.
Ezinye izinto zibaluleke kakhulu, kwaye kufuneka ziphathwe ngale ndlela, nokuba zingaphandle imbeko esisiseko kunye nokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo.
6. AmaTwits eendaba asekuhlaleni aShukumayo
Oku kuhlala kungelilo ilungu losapho elidala, okanye umhlobo-womhlobo onobabalo lwentlalo njengesihlunu esisetyenzisiweyo.
Baza kudibanisa udonga lwakho lwe-Facebook ngeememes ezintle, ii-GIF zoopopayi, kunye nezitikha ezibengezelayo, bakuthegi kuzo zonke iintlobo zeefoto.
Baza kwenza amashumi amabini (ngamanye amaxesha angalunganga) amagqabantshintshi kuyo nantoni na oyithumelayo, ngamanye amaxesha esiya ngokupheleleyo kwisihloko.
Aba bantu banokuqala iingxoxo kwi-feed yakho ye-Twitter, babeyinqaba ngokwenene ngezinto ozibhala kwi-Instagram, kwaye benze inkathazo ngokubanzi.
Okubi kunakho konke, awukwazi ukubathintela kuba ngabazali bakho / utatomkhulu / umakazi / umhlobo wobuntwana kwaye uya kubamba yonke into kubo (nakwabanye) ukuba uthintela nantoni na abayenzayo.
Ngaba unetyala lokuziphatha? Ungasinda kwisangqa esikhethekileyo sesihogo esibekelwe i-ilk yakho ukuba uyisike kanye ngalo mzuzu.
7. Abangacingeliyo iiJerks
Aba bantu benza kwaye bathethe into abayifunayo, xa befuna, kwaye kunqabile (ukuba ikhe) baqwalasele indlela izenzo zabo ezinokubachaphazela ngayo abanye.
umngcwabi ngokuchasene kathathu h wrestlemania 27
Eminye yemizekelo yoku zezi:
- Abantu abathatha izihlalo ezininzi kwizithuthi zikawonke-wonke, kwaye bayala ukuyekelela nabani na-kubandakanya nabasetyhini abakhulelweyo, abantu abadala, okanye abakhubazekileyo. Bakhululekile apho bakhoyo, kubi kakhulu.
- Abahlobo okanye amalungu osapho aphazamisayo kwaye athethe ngabantu phakathi kwencoko. Iingcinga zabo zibaluleke ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na into ethethwa ngoku, ngapha koko.
- Oogxa babo abakhupha ukutya kwabanye abantu kwifriji yoluntu ukwenza indawo yesidlo sasemini. Okanye utye amashwamshwam abanye abantu ungakhange ubuze.
- Abahlobo bendlu okanye abatshatileyo abashiya iimpahla ezimdaka / iziqwenga zenzwane / ukubola kokutya ngaphandle kokuzihlupha ngokuthatha emva kwabo. Njengokuba izakuvele 'yenziwe.'
Kutheni le nto aba bantu beziphatha ngolu hlobo?
Ngokunokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba babephangwe kakhulu kwaye bazonwabisa ebuntwaneni kwaye zange banyanzeleka bafunde ukuba noxanduva ngezenzo zabo , kwaye ungabacingeli abanye.
Ukuba uyayibona le ndlela yokuziphatha kuwe, yiya esihogweni. Akukho mntu wumbi olungiselelwe wena.
8. 'Ndiyakucaphukela oko' (a.k.a. Virtue Signaling)
Ngaba uqaphele ukuba abantu abaninzi bakhubekisiwe yinto entle kakhulu kule mihla?
Eyona nto incinci inokubabeka, ngeloxesha baya kungxola kakhulu ngendlela abakhubeke ngayo.
Ngapha koko, kubonakala ngathi banomdla omkhulu wokukhubekisa abanye abantu.
Olu hlobo lomntu lufana ncam ne # 4 (Ngcwele kunawe). Bazimisele ukubonisa ubungqina benkqubela phambili yabo kangangokuba bathabathe onke amathuba ukubonisa ubulungisa babo.
Zizidima ezibonakalisa, ezibonisa umhlaba ukuba 'BANGOVUKILE.'
Uninzi lwabantu luziphatha ngolu hlobo ngenxa yoloyiko. Ngoba? Ngenxa yokuba bexhalabile ukuba ngaphandle kokuba bayabhomboloza ingqumbo yabo ekuphahleni, baya kutyholwa esidlangalaleni kwaye bahlaselwe, ngakumbi kwimidiya yoluntu.
Kukangaphi usiva ngabantu abafumana izoyikiso zokubulawa kunye nazo zonke ezinye iintlobo zokuhlukunyezwa kwi-Intanethi ngenxa yokuba benze okanye bathetha into efunyenwe ngomnye umntu ekhubekisayo?
Okukhona bekhubekisa, kokukhona kuya kuncipha ukukhubekisa abanye. Ergo, bakhuselekile.
Ngelishwa, kukwakho nesinye isizathu sokuba basebenzise eli qhinga: ukukhohlisa.
Ukuba umntu ubanga ityala kwimeko, bayayithatha indawo ephezulu yokuziphatha. Lowo ubacaphukisileyo uya kunyanzelwa ukuba ajikeleze kubo ukuze baphinde balungise izinto.
Luhlobo olubi ngokwenene lohambo lwamandla… kwaye ukuba abenzi njalo, i-crybully inokuya kuhlaselo.
Ikhohlakele kwaye imbi ngeenxa zonke.
9. Ayikwazi Nokuba Omdala
Ukuba mdala kunzima. Siyayifumana.
Nokuba kuqinisekiswa ukuba inkunkuma ithathwa ngosuku olululo, okanye itye enye into ngaphandle kweswekile eneswekile enkulu yokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa qho ebusuku inyanga, kukho uxinzelelo oluninzi oluhamba nokuba ngumntu okhulileyo.
Into, bahlala bekho abanye abantu abaxhomekeke kuthi ukuze senze izinto, kwaye umntu owisa ibhola ngokoqobo ngalo lonke ixesha kuba bekhetha ukuba sekhaya kwii-PJs zabo, bebukele iikhathuni kwaye bedlala imidlalo yevidiyo, bayadinwa , ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.
Oku kuyinyani kwindawo yokusebenza: xa uxhomekeke kwilungu leqela ukuba lizibambe kwaye bahlala bezithethelela ngokuba kutheni bengakwazi ukwenza izinto zabo ngexesha.
Okanye baqala ukukhala xa kwaye ubabiza ngokungakhathali kwabo.
… Kwaye emva koko bayakhalaza malunga nendlela okhohlakele ngayo.
Abanye abantu banjengolu hlobo kuba khange banikwe naluphi na uxanduva ebutsheni babo, kwaye ngenxa yoko zange bafunde ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukunyuka. Abanye ngokunyanisekileyo wenqaba ukukhula , kwaye ndihleli ndineminyaka eli-14 ubudala.
Nokuba usebenza naye, uliqabane, okanye umntu omqhelileyo, olu hlobo kunzima kwaye luyacaphukisa.
Ngokukodwa kufuneka 'nibe ngabantu abadala' nobabini, kungenjalo akukho nto iya kwenziwa, okanye kufuneka yenziwe ngokufanelekileyo. Kwakhona. Nguwe.
10. Abo Bangacingi Ukuba Unobomi Ngaphandle Kweemfuno Zabo
- Umphathi okwabela into ngolwesiHlanu emva kwemini oko kufanelekile kusasa ngoMvulo, ngaphandle kokukubuza ukuba unazo naziphi na izicwangciso zempelaveki.
- Umxhasi ozimeleyo ofuna ukuthetha ngomsebenzi nge-11: 40 ngokuhlwa ngoLwesithathu ebusuku. Emva kwakho konke, uvukile - kutheni ungasebenzi kwiprojekthi yabo?
- Umlingane owenza izicwangciso ezibandakanya wena ngaphandle kokucela igalelo lakho (okanye inzala).
- Umzali okwazisa ukuba baya kutyelela ngomhla we-X, ngaphandle kokubuza ukuba kulungile kuwe.
Ngaba kukho nasiphi na isandi esiqhelekileyo?
Uninzi lwabantu luyabandakanyeka, luzixakekise ngeeprojekthi kunye nezicwangciso zabo ukusilela ukukubona njengomntu ozimeleyo.
wayenza njani mrbeast imali yakhe
Awuyena umntu, kunye nezinto ozikhethayo, iimfuno, iimfuno, kunye nezinto ezinjalo: usisixhobo esifumanekayo kubo nantoni na abayifunayo okanye abafuna ukuyenza.
Le ndlela yokuziphatha kukuzenzela ngokungaqhelekanga kwaye ayicingeli. Inciphisa abanye abantu kwizinto, kunokuba ibe ngabantu, kwaye iyadelela ngendlela engathethekiyo.
Ngaba unetyala lokwenza le nto kwabanye?
11. Abaphuli-mthetho abaNetyala
Aba bantu bazingca ngokungummangaliso, kwaye bafundile ukuba eyona ndlela yokufumana oko bakufunayo-ngalo lonke ixesha bafuna - kukukhohlisa abanye abantu.
Ubundlongondlongo kunye nokuziva unetyala zizindlela zazo eziphambili, kwaye zenza ukuba wonke umntu obangqongileyo acaphuke kwaye abe lusizi ngokuziphatha kwabo.
Kuyacaphukisa oku. Okungakumbi, inesiphumo esichaseneyo kunokuba inqwenelekayo kubantu abaninzi, kuba akukho mntu ufuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomntu otsala olu hlobo loburhabaxa.
Ukuba uzibona usenza nantoni na enje, yeka. Yima nje.
Zama ukuba mnandi kancinci kwaye ube mnandi ngakumbi ukubakhona, kwaye awuzukuzama ukunyanzela abanye ukuba bakwenzele izinto kwakhona. Uyakufaneleka nje ngomzamo wabo endaweni yoko.
12. Abakwazi Ukubeka Ifowuni yabo phantsi okanye baya KUFA
Le iya isiba ngakumbi nangakumbi, kwaye kufuneka iyeke.
Kuyacaphukisa ngokumangalisayo xa uphuma nomhlobo (okanye ngaphakathi neqabane) kwaye bakwifowuni yabo endaweni yokuthetha nawe.
Okanye bahambisa nje 'ewe' okanye 'uh huh' iimpendulo ezincinci ngexesha lencoko, kuba baskrolela ukutya kwabo ngaxeshanye.
Kuyafana nokuba bathatha iifoto ngokoqobo ngayo yonke into, nokuba kukutya abaza kukutya, okanye i-selfie, emva koko bayithumele nge-Instagram. (Kwaye ujonge ukubona ukuba zingaphi 'izinto abazithandayo' abazifumeneyo.)
Uninzi lwabantu lulibale izakhono ezisisiseko zokunxibelelana, kwaye inyani yokungabikho nomnye umntu ikrwada ngokungakholelekiyo.
Ukuba ufuna ukukhangela ifowuni yakho ngoku kwaye ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho ogulayo ukunye nomntwana kwaye ufumana uhlaziyo, kulungile.
Ngaphandle koko? Beka into egwetyiweyo kude.
13. Kubonakala ukuba ukhuliswe ziingcuka
Baya kutya bevule imilomo, begxadazelele kwaye betyibilika endleleni ngalo nakuphi na ukutya.
Babhinca ngokungathandabuzekiyo, babeka iinyawo ezimdaka phezu kwetafile, abazihlambi izandla zabo emva kokusebenzisa indlu yangasese.
Ngokuziphatha baziphatha njengezilwanyana zasendle ezingazange zifunde kwaukuhombisa okusisiseko, kwaye zikwenze ufune ukukhonkotha.
Ngoku, kukho iyantlukwano ethile yenkcubeko ethi ngamanye amaxesha ithethelele isimilo esibi.
Umzekelo, isuphu yokutyibilika kwitafile yesidlo sangokuhlwa iyothusa kwinkcubeko yaseNtshona, kodwa yamkelekile kwiMpuma ekude.
Ngokufanayo, ukubhinqa kunye nokuhamba esidlangalaleni akuthathwa njengobukrwada e-Iceland, ngelixa ukuhlafuna itshungama esidlangalaleni kuthathwa njengokukrwada eSwitzerland naseFrance.
Umntu onemikhwa eyothusayo usenokuba ukhuliswe ngamasiko ahlukeneyo enkcubeko, okanye banokuba nakwimbonakalo ye-autism kwaye bangazi ukuba batyhola bonke abantu ababangqongileyo.
Xa ungathandabuzeki, yinto efanelekileyo yokujonga indlela abanye abantu abaziphatha ngayo, kwaye ulandele okusemandleni akho. Ukuba bajonge kuwe ngendlela eyoyikekayo, babuze ukuba kutheni, kwaye uzivumelanise ngokufanelekileyo.
14. Ukuzilolonga / iiJunkies zokutya
Ngokukhawuleza xa ungena e-ofisini, umntu osebenza naye uza kukuxelela konke malunga nempumelelo yeCrossFit, kunye nendlela abaqeqesha ngayo ngoku kumceli mngeni we 'Tough Mudder'.
Emva koko bayabuza ukuba uza kuqala nini ukuzilolonga, kuba uyazi ukuba uzakujongeka kwaye uzive ungcono kakhulu ukuba ungabavumela bazise kumqeqeshi wabo…
Uyaphuma uyokutya isidlo sasemini kunye nomhlobo kwaye uyayicaphukisa iserver ehlwempuzekileyo ngazo zonke iindlela zokutya.
Kwinyanga ephelileyo wayekuko konke ukukhala / ukukhaba kwevegan, kwaye ngoku ugcwele uKeto, kwaye ukuxelela konke malunga nenkqubo yakhe yokuxhasa. Kuba ubuzile, akunjalo?
Kuhle ukuba yiba nomdla kwizinto , kodwa abanye basenokungabi nayo inzondelelo onayo.
Ngapha koko, banokuba nemicimbi yezempilo ongayaziyo, kwaye ukuphuma kwabo ngokungabelani nokuqina komzimba wakho kuya kubenza bazive ngathi bayinto engekhoyo.
Ukuba ufuna ululse malunga nokuzilolonga kwakho okanye indlela otya ngayo, yenze kwindawo yokuzivocavoca okanye kwindawo yejusi, nabanye ekucaca ukuba banengqondo efanayo.
15. Abahlaseli basemajukujukwini
Ngaba uke waba kwinqwelo-moya, ukukhwela uloliwe, okanye olunye uhambo olude lweentlobo kwaye umntu ohleli ecaleni kwakho akazukuvala isihogo?
Kuyothusa nje.
Nantso ke, ufuna ukushiywa wedwa ufunde okanye ubukele imovie yendiza ngenqwelomoya, kwaye umntu ohleli naye uhlala ekubhija ngengqiniba ukwenza ujonge into ecocekileyo…
… Okanye ufuna ukukuxelela konke malunga nezicwangciso zokuhamba, usapho lwabo, ubudlelwane babo, i-fistula.
Ayipholi. Kukonke.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, banokuba bubbly kwaye banobuhlobo, kodwa bayangena kwindawo yakho. Kwintando yakho ekhululekileyo, kwiimfuno zakho zobuqu.
Kuyafana nakuwe: ukuba uziva unesidingo sokuncokola nomntu ohlala naye, mhlawumbi ubuze ukuba baziva befuna ukuthetha.
Banokubuyela ekhaya bevela emngcwabeni okanye enye into kwaye abanamdla wokuthetha.
Yiba nembeko.
16. “Kulungile…”
Ngaba awuyithandi nje xa abantu bengena kwincoko kwaye baqala ukuqokelela ukubonisa ukuba banolwazi kangakanani?
Ngokukodwa xa bengazikhathazi ngokubuza ukuba sele uyazi malunga nesihloko esichaziweyo, kwaye u-monologue malunga nayo?
Kungekudala, ndifunde inqaku apho umbhali wakhankanya into eyenzekileyo kwitheko lakhe lokukhupha incwadi. Omnye umfo weza kuye kwaye waqalisa ukuzulazula malunga nesihloko sencwadi.
Khange amve nokumva xa ephendula, 'Ewe, ndiyazi. Ndiyibhalile incwadi. ”
Wayekuloo ndawo, wayezimisele ukubonisa indlela awayekrelekrele ngayo kwaye enolwazi oluninzi kangangokuba akazange ayeke ukuthetha de omnye umfana amngxolise kwaye abonise ukuba umfazi ophambi kwakhe, umbhali .
Emva koko waba neentloni wabaleka.
Abanye abantu babandakanyeka ngokwenene kwizifundo abazithandayo, kwaye emva koko bathathe lonke ithuba lokuhamba malunga nabo.
Isenokungathethi ukuba kuvakala ngathi ngoonjingalwazi be-wannabe abaqhayisayo, kodwa baphela bevakala njengaleyo kunjalo.
Nali icebiso: ukuba awuqinisekanga nokuba umntu uqhelene nesihloko, Buza kubo .
Unokuba nemincili ngenene ngesihloko kwaye ufuna ukuthetha ngaso, kodwa ungacingi ukuba ungoyena mntu unolwazi emhlabeni.
Omnye umntu unokuba yingcali, kwaye uyakujongeka ngathi ngumlingwa ofanelekileyo ozama ukubabeka esikolweni ngesihloko abasaziyo ngaphakathi-ngaphandle.
17. IDrama Queens
YONKE into eyenzekayo yenza umdla ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba ucinga.
Baza kukubiza ezinzulwini zobusuku ukuba ukhale malunga nokwahlukana okungathandekiyo ababenako ngothando lobomi babo… abaphume nabo kabini.
Ukuba uyokuthenga nabo kwaye umthengisi akayikhathaleli iminqweno yabo, baya kufuna ukuthetha nomphathi ukuba akhalaze.
Bathumela ukutya kwakhona kwiivenkile zokutyela ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo, bakhalaza ngayo yonke into, kwaye kufuneka babe liziko lokuqwalaselwa ngawo onke amaxesha.
Bayakuthanda nokuhleba, kwaye bazibandakanye nanini na xa kusenzeka intlekele.
Ngokusisiseko, bayachuma kwimidlalo yeqonga, kwaye ukuba abazibhaptizi kwimicimbi yabanye abantu, baxhokonxa izinto ukondla imfuno yabo yeemvakalelo zengqondo.
Abantu abanokuseta okungagqibekanga 'yi-histrionic' bathambekele ekukhaleni okanye bakhale ngokulula, baphume kwiintlanganiso zomsebenzi, kwaye bathathe yonke into buqu.
Kunzima ngendlela emangalisayo ukujongana nayo, kwaye ayinakuqiqa kwaphela. Abanye baphela behamba ngamaqokobhe amaqanda kuba eyona nto incinci inokubabeka.
Kwakhona, oku kuhlala kuyimeko yokungazithembi, ke umntu izama ukufumana ingqalelo kangangoko ukuqinisekisa ubukho babo.
Kubuhlungu njengoko kuyacaphukisa.
18. Iintlondi
Baza kuchitha imali encinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka kuyo nantoni na, kwaye bazame ukukhuphela izinto zasimahla kwabanye nanini na apho banakho.
Ukuba iqela liphuma ukuya kudla isidlo sangokuhlwa, baya kuhlawula ngqo isabelo sabo (ukuya kwi penny yokugqibela) ngaphandle kokunikezela ngokudibanisa nantoni na kwincam.
Okanye baya kuba 'ngengozi' bazilibale izipaji zabo, kodwa funga ukukuhlawula ngexesha elizayo. (Abaze bakuhlawule.)
Bayakuthanda ukonwabela izinto ezintle, kodwa mhlawumbi abanakukwazi ukuzihlawulela, okanye bafuna ukuba abanye abantu babathengele ezo zinto.
Kananjalo, ushiyekile ukukhupha imali egameni labo, kwaye bangaze baphindise.
Ngaba le narcissism? Ukuzibandakanya ngokwakho?
Ngubani owaziyo, kodwa amathuba okuba ukuba ubabiza ngaphandle, baya kukhathazeka bonke kuwe kwaye baya kuthanda Thetha inkunkuma emva kwakho ngokuba yindlavini enje.
19. Ukugqitywa kwezivakalisi
Kukukude kakhulu akunakwenzeka ukuba nencoko nolu hlobo lomntu, kuba bacinga ukuba bayayazi into oza kuyithetha ngaphambi kokuba uyithethe, kwaye bathathe inkululeko yokukugqibezela izivakalisi zakho.
Oku kunokuba liqabane lakho, umhlobo, umzali, umntu osebenza naye, okanye umphathi, kwaye uhlala engakholelwa kwaye engenakuchukunyiswa esihogweni.
Iya ngaphaya kokuphazanyiswa, nanjengokuba endaweni yokuphazamisa ezabo iingcinga ngelixa uzama ukuthetha, eneneni banekratshi ngokwaneleyo ukuba bacinge ukuba bayayazi into oza kuyithetha, kwaye baya kuyithetha kuwe.
Uyazi, kwimeko apho awunakukwenza ngokwakho.
Nokuba ungababiza kangaphi kule nto, abanakuyifumana. Ezingqondweni zabo, bavelana nawe kakhulu, kwaye bakukhathaze kakhulu, kangangokuba bafika kwincoko nawe, uyazi?
Hayi.
Yenza kucace gca kwaba bantu ukuba ngaphandle kokuba bayeke ukwenza loo nto, uya kuyeka ukuthetha xa bekufutshane.
Thatha i-HR ukuba uyafuna, okanye uphephe amalungu osapho ngalo lonke ixesha besenza.
Banokufunda ekugqibeleni, kodwa baya kukhalaza yonke indlela.
ukuthandana nomntu
20. UMoya
Lo mntu anganyamalala ngokupheleleyo kuwe kangangeentsuku, iiveki… nokuba ziinyanga okanye iminyaka.
Unokwenza izicwangciso kunye nabo, kwaye endaweni yokwazisa ukuba abanako ukuyenza, ngekhe baphendule kwizicatshulwa zakho….
… Okanye ayizukuvela ngexesha elilungisiweyo kunye nendawo.
Baya kuba nesizathu sokuziphatha kwabo, ewe, bahlala bezenza ixhoba okanye iqhawe layo nayiphi na imeko abazifumana bekuyo, kwaye bacele ukuxolelwa / elinye ithuba, njl.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yayingelilo ityala labo, akunjalo?
Into emnandi, isenokungabi yimpazamo yabo, kodwa ingezizo izizathu abazama ukuzisebenzisa.
Uninzi lwabantu abanesiporho ngolu hlobo banengxaki yemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo enje ngoxinzelelo olukhulu okanye ukuphazamiseka kobuntu emngceleni.
Xa besengxakini yokuhlaselwa kukothuka okanye ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo, bayabaleka bazimele de bazive bekhuselekile kwakhona…
… Kwaye oko kubandakanya ukungadibani nomntu onokubangela okanye abenzakalise nangayiphi na indlela.
Ukubabiza ngokuziphatha kwabo ngeli xesha libenza bazive bethotyiwe kwaye bezisola, ke bayazimela.
Zama ukuba ungayithathi ngokobuqu . NjengoDon Miguel Luis kwizivumelwano zakhe ezine:
Musa ukuthatha nantoni na buqu - Akukho nto yenziwa ngabanye ngenxa yakho. Oko abanye bakuthethayo nabakwenzayo yingqikelelo yobunyani babo, amaphupha abo. Xa ukhuselekile kwizimvo nakwizenzo zabanye, awuyi kuba lixhoba lokubandezeleka ngokungeyomfuneko.
