Ke uye wabanjwa ukukopela kwaye ngoku ufuna ukwazi ukuba wenzeni ngayo.
Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho lifumene isicatshulwa okanye iifoto kwifowuni yakho okanye kwikhompyuter. Okanye mhlawumbi babuye ekhaya bakufumana ulele ebumelwaneni. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ubanjiwe ungcatsha umntu obuthembise ukuthembeka kuye.
Oku kuya kuba kubi, ukuba akukabikho.
Akumangalisi ukuba ukukopela sisigwebo sentambo kulwalamano olunzulu, kwaye nezo zinokusebenza ngokuthandana okanye ezimbini aziphindi zifane.
Ukuba uvele wabanjwa wenza isenzo esingasemva kwesithandwa sakho, mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni emva koko, kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ngayo.
Indlela yokujongana noMva kwangoko
Wonke umntu usabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo ekungcatshweni.
Kuxhomekeke kuhlobo luni lomntu iqabane lakho okanye iqabane onalo, banokufumana ukubanda kwaye bathule, okanye zehle iinyembezi.
Mhlawumbi baya kukhwaza, baphose izinto, kwaye babeke zonke izinto zakho emlilweni. Okanye bapakishe iibhegi zabo baye kuhlala nabazali babo.
Bayeke benze nantoni na abayifunayo ngaphandle kokuzama ukubenza bazole. Uqhekeze ixesha elikhulu apha, kwaye baphelele ngaphakathi kwelungelo labo lokuphambana malunga noku.
Indlela abasabela ngayo inokuthi ixhomekeke nakwindlela abafumene ngayo, kunye nokuba ubuqhetseba babunzulu kangakanani.
Ukuba ulwalamano olutsha ngokufanelekileyo kwaye intombi yakho okanye isoka lakho likubonile uphuzana nomnye umntu kwiklabhu, oko kuya kuhlaba kancinci. Unokwazi ukuhlangula izinto ngokuthetha-thethana ngeparamitha zobudlelwane bakho, kuba awukabhaptizi ngokupheleleyo kwaye uzizalise ngokwakho.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, ubukhe wabambisene okanye umtshato iminyaka eliqela, kwaye iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho lafumanisa ukuba ubusabelana ngesondo nomnye umntu ngasemva kwabo, oko kuyakuba yinto ebuhlungu kubo bobabini, kwaye umtshato wakho.
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Ukuba uhlala kwikhaya kwaye iqabane lakho alikwazi ukushiya nangasiphi na isizathu (okanye akafuni nje), akunjalo? Ungaya kuhlala nomhlobo de umoya uphume kancinane?
Isenokungancedi isiphumo sokugqibela, kodwa ukuvumela iimvakalelo ukuba zizole ngokwaneleyo ukuze wena neqabane lakho nithethe ngezinto ngumbono olungileyo.
Ungayenzi njani le meko imbi kakhulu
Into ebi kakhulu onokuyenza ngoku kukuphambuka, ukuzikhusela, okanye ukukhanya kwegesi kwiqabane lakho malunga noko kwenzekileyo.
Ungabaxeleli ukuba ayisiyonto inkulu okanye ukuba bayasebenza. Kwaye ungazami ukuthethelela indlela oziphethe ngayo ngesiqhu esikhulu sezizathu ezisisiqhwala.
Abantu abaninzi bawela kumgibe wokudlala ikhadi lexhoba ukuze baphume ekubanjweni ngoxanduva lwezenzo zabo. Bayakuthi abanakukwazi ukuzinceda kuba babedandathekile, okanye babenoxinzelelo, okanye babenxilile…
Oku akuyi kukubeka kwiimpawu ezintle zomntu. Ukuba kukho nantoni na, iqabane lakho liya kukujonga nje ngokudelela nokunganyaniseki: okokuqala, ngokuqhatha kubo, kwaye okwesibini ngokuba yi-petulant crybaby engakwaziyo ukuthatha uxanduva ngokuziphatha kwabo.
Kwaye ngenxa kaThixo, sukubeka ityala umntu okrexeze naye.
Uninzi lwabakhohlisi luzama ukubeka ityala komnye umntu ngokuqalisa okanye ukunyusa izinto. Banokuthi lo mntu ubasebenzisile xa bebuthathaka, okanye engayihloniphi imida yabo…
Noba yintoni.
Izambatho azihlali nje, kwaye abantu abahlali 'ngengozi' emzimbeni womnye nomnye. Nangaliphi na ixesha umntu xa ekopela iqabane lakhe, isigqibo esifanelekileyo senziwa.
Sukongeza isithuko ekwenzakaleni ngokungathembeki ngokuzama ukutshintsha ityala ngezenzo zakho.
Uxanduva lwezenzo zakho. Ukuba omnye umntu wenze kakubi, oko akuthethi ukuba uziphathe kakuhle. Ulawula indlela oziphethe ngayo, kunye nokhetho lwakho.
Zibuze: Kutheni waqhatha?
Ukuba awukayifumani le nxalenye, kuya kufuneka uyenze njalo.
Ngaba wawungonwabanga okanye ungonwabanga kulwalamano lwakho lwangoku?
Ngaba ubudlelwane buveza izinto zakho obungonwabanga okanye ungonwabanga ngazo?
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Ngaba iqabane lakho litshintshile laba yinguqulelo yalo ukuba awusafumani mdla wesondo? Okanye udikwe nje?
Ngaba lo mntu mtsha wakwenza waziva ulungile ngesiqu sakho, ke wenza izinto kunye nabo ukwenza iziqholo ebomini bakho ngaphandle kokucinga ngeziphumo eziza kubakho xa ubanjiwe?
Okanye ngaba ucinga nje ukuba akukho mntu uya kuze afumanise, kwaye ungayigcina iyimfihlo ngonaphakade?
Ngaba usilela ekuqeqesheni xa kufikwa kwiminqweno yakho? Okanye ngaba umlingane wakho wakucaphukisa kwaye wagqiba ekubeni ubakhohlise njengendlela yoqeqesho?
Abantu kunqabile ukuba 'kwenzeke' ukukopela omnye komnye: kuhlala kukho isizathu esisisiseko.
Nokuba awunakho ukucacisa kwiqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho ukuba kutheni ukhohlisile- mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba bengathethi nawe ngoku - kubalulekile ukuba unyaniseke kwisiqu sakho malunga nokuba kwenzeke ntoni.
Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni le nto yenzekile kuya kuhamba ixesha elide xa kusiziwa ekuchazeni iqabane lakho ukuba kutheni ubathengisile.
Zintoni onokuzenza ukubonisa ukuzisola kwenene?
Ewe, cinga ngale nto okomzuzu. Ukuba ubambe iqabane lakho likukopela, bangathini kuwe ukuze babonise ukuzisola okuyinyani?
'Uxolo' ngekhe uyinqumle, kwaye ukuthenga izipho zomlingane wakho okanye injana ayizukukwenza ukungcatsha kwakho.
Wonakalisile, ngenxa yoko usenokuba ngowakho.
Izibonelelo zokuba ngumphefumlo omdala
Akukho nto ungayithethi okanye uyenze ukuyilungisa. Ukuba unethamsanqa kwaye une ngokwenene ukuqonda, iqabane elixolelayo, unokukwazi ukunqanda ukwahlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato.
Uya kudinga ukulungela phelisa umcimbi wakho ngokusisigxina, kwaye ude uye kude ufumane umsebenzi omtsha okanye uye kwenye indawo, kuxhomekeke ekubeni omnye umntu ligxa lakhe okanye ummelwane.
Unokwenza konke okusemandleni ukubonisa iqabane lakho (okanye iqabane lakho) ukuba ugqiba izinto kunye nomnye umntu, njengokucima zonke izicatshulwa kunye nemiyalezo. Unokubonisa iqabane lakho i-imeyile 'iphelile' okanye umyalezo owuthumelayo.
Ungawunciphisa Njani Umonakalo Kubudlelwane Bakho?
Unokuba ufuna isiqinisekiso apha sokuba yonke into izakulunga, kwaye wena neqabane lakho ninokusebenza ngale nto.
Uxolo, awuyi kufumana apha.
Nje ukuba ukuthembakala konakale, konakala ngonaphakade. Wena neqabane lakho ninokwazi ukusebenza ngolu hlobo lokungcatshwa kwaye nigqibe kwelokuba nihlale kunye, kodwa ngekhe baphinde bakwazi ukukuthemba ngokupheleleyo.
Xa ufowuna usithi kufuneka usebenze kade, kuba uyakwenza oko, ukusabela kwabo emathunjini kuya kuba kukucinga ukuba uyabaqhatha kwakhona.
andicingi ukuba umyeni wam uyandithanda
Umonakalo sele wenziwe kwaye, ngenxa yoko, akukho nto ininzi onokuyenza ukunciphisa.
Njengazo zonke iintlungu, ekugqibeleni ziya kuqala ukuphola kwinqanaba elithile (nangona zingaze zigqibe), ke ukunika izinto ixesha kuko konke onokukwenza.
Kwisihloko sexesha, kunokwenzeka ukuba uqhekeze, kwaye emva koko uphinde uqalise ubudlelwane kubume obutsha kwiminyaka eliqela kamva.
Nobabini niyakhula kwaye niguquke ngokwabantu ngabanye, kwaye ukuba nisenothando kunye nothando omnye komnye, ninokuzama uvuselele ubudlelwane kwakhona.
Kuya kufuneka uqaphele, nangona kunjalo, nakwimeko enje, intambo yokuthandabuza iyakuhlala malunga nokunyaniseka kwakho, okanye ukusilela kwakho.
Kuthekani Ukuba Ufuna Ukubanaye Omnye Umntu?
Ukuba lukhetho, yiya ngalo. Abantu abonwabileyo kubudlelwane babo ngokubanzi abakhohlisi, ke kutheni uhlala?
Ngaba omnye umntu uyafuna ukuba nawe? Ngaba ukhe wahlakulela unxibelelwano lokwenene lweemvakalelo, okanye yayisisondo nje?
Unokufuna ukuba nengxoxo enzulu kunye neqabane lakho lokuqhatha ukubona ukuba bafuna ukubakho nawe.
Ukuba olu luxhulumaniso olunyanisekileyo kwaye ayisiyiyo eyokuzonwabisa esecaleni kwenu nobabini, ngoku lixesha lokuba nenze ukuqonda okutsha kunye nemida ukuze ungaphindi umjikelo ofanayo.
Endaweni yokuthambisa, hlamba, phinda, uyeke 'ukucoca' kwaye uguquke ube ngumntu ofuna ukuba, kunokuba ube ngumntu ozifumanisa ukuye.
Ukuphinda, sinoxanduva lwezenzo zethu kunye nokukhetha. Iziphumo 'azenzeki nje' Sivuna esikutyalileyo.
Zeziphi iimbewu zekamva ofuna ukuzityala ngoku?
Ufuna ukuba ngubani? Ngaba ufuna ubomi obunjani (kunye nentsebenziswano)?
Kukho enye into enokwenzeka, ewe, kwaye ukuba ukukhulelwa kuqhubekile ngenxa yesenzo sakho. Unokufuna ukuzama ukuqala ngokutsha ngeli qabane kwaye ukhulise umntwana kunye njengesibini esizinikeleyo. Sula isileyiti ucoce kwaye uzame kwakhona ekuqaleni, ngokutsho oko.
Ezi meko zinokutyhileka kakuhle, kodwa zinqabile, kwaye zithatha umsebenzi omninzi. Awusoze wazi: ungonwaba kakhulu kulo mntu kunokuba wawunaye neqabane lakho langaphambili.
Ingxaki enye onokuthi ujongane nayo kolu hlobo lokubhangqa kukusilela kokuthemba ixesha elide. Kukho intetho eqhelekileyo yokuba ukuba umntu uyakopela nawe, baya kukukhohlisa nawe.
Kuba esi sisiseko oya kuthi wakhe kuso obu budlelwane butsha, ucinga ukuba uyakuze uphinde uthenjane ngokupheleleyo njengesibini esizinikeleyo?
Okukwintsusa: Sukukhohlisa (kwakhona)
Zininzi ezinye iindlela zokukhohlisa iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho. Njengonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo lokubazisa ukuba awonwabanga ngolwalamano lwakho, kwaye uthetha-thethana neparameter zayo zangoku.
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho (okanye umlingane wexesha elide) anisathandani ngokwesini omnye komnye, okanye niyakruquka yile nto yobambiswano lwenu kodwa nisafuna ukuhlala kunye njengesibini, unokuhlala uxoxa ngokubakho an ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo .
Oku kuthatha umsebenzi omninzi, unxibelelwano, ukuthembeka, kunye nesibindi, kodwa kunokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokufezekisa iimfuno zakho ngelixa ugcina umtshato wakho.
Ewe kunjalo, ukunyaniseka kuyinto enkulu Inxalenye yoku. Uninzi lwabantu lubuntwana kakhulu: banokuvuma ekuqaleni, kodwa emva koko bafumane ukungazithembi kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezantsi kwendlela. Ukuba oko kuyenzeka, hlala uzolile. Sukusabela okanye uzive unetyala: ezi paramitha zazisekwe ngokucacileyo ngesizathu.
Ukuba sele ulele nomnye umntu ngasemva kweqabane lakho endaweni yokuthetha nabo ngalo, nangona kunjalo, umonakalo sele wenzekile.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ungafunda kula mava kwaye uvule ngakumbi kwaye uthembeke kubudlelwane bakho obuzayo.
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Ukukopa akunamtsalane. Kuyonzakalisa kwaye kuyingozi, kukupeyinta ngokukhanya okuyoyikeka ngokwenene, kwaye kukwenza ungathembeki ngokupheleleyo.
Ngaba uyafuna ukuba kunye nomntu okopela iqabane lakhe? Bambalwa abantu abenzayo.
Ke sukuba ngulomntu.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni emva kokubanjwa ukukopela? Ngaba ufuna ukuzama ukucetyiswa kwezibini kunye neqabane lakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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