Ngaba wakha walutshaba lwakho? Mhlawumbi ibulwalamano obulufuna ngela xesha, kodwa ngasizathu sithile awunako ukuzizisa ukubeka umzamo wokugcina.
Okanye mhlawumbi ubuneprojekthi onqwenela ukuyigqiba, kodwa uqhubeke nokufumana izizathu zokuyibeka.
Nokuba yeyiphi na injongo yakho, oyena mntu ubenetyala yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kuwe.
Yintoni ukuzithiba?
Ukuziphatha okuzenzakalisa ngumqondiso wokuba kukho inxenye yakho ekhwaza ukuba yamkelwe. Ingxaki ehamba nzulu kunokuswela amandla, izixhobo, okanye ubuchule. Yendele nzulu inkolelo.
Eli candelo lihlala kwingqondo engaqondakaliyo, ngaphantsi komgangatho wolwazi lwethu. Uyakwazi ukukhaba ngaphakathi nanini na sizama ukuphucula izikimu zethu eziphekiweyo zibe ziinjongo kunye nezicwangciso ezinokuthi zenziwe.
Oko kuqhelekile xa unokulindela ukubethwa liliza lika ukudinwa okungachazekiyo , ukunqongophala kwenkuthazo, okanye ukoyiswa luxinzelelo lwentsebenzo.
Yindalo ukufuna ukuzinyanzela ngale mizuzu. Unokuphumelela kangangexesha elithile. Kodwa ude ujongane ne-saboteur yakho yangaphakathi, uya kuqhubeka nokuwela kwiipateni ezifanayo.
Ukuzimisela kwenzelwe ukuba ibe ngamandla. Khawufane ucinge ukuba uqhuba kwenye indawo kwaye kufuneka ugcine unyawo lwakho kwisantya ngexesha lonke! Akuqinisekanga kwaphela ukuba uya kuphelelwa yirhasi ngaphambi kokuba ukwazi ukufikelela kwindawo oya kuyo.
Ke ngekhe ugcine le ndlela yobundlongondlongo ngonaphakade. Ekugqibeleni izinto ziya kulungiswa.
Kodwa akufuneki ibenje ...
Singakuyeka Njani Ukuma Ngendlela Yethu?
1. Yiba ngumhlobo Wotshaba
Idabi phakathi kweminqweno yethu yokuqonda kunye neenkqubo zokukholelwa ezingakhokelela kwisiphumo sezinto ezininzi ezinengxaki.
Rhoqo, asazi ngeenkqubo ezingekho zingqondweni eziqhuba ubomi bethu kuba azizenzi zaziwe.
Nokuba asizukucinga ngokukuko “ Andikufanelanga , ”Loo nkolelo iya kubonakala njengokunyanzelwa ukuba utye kakhulu, ungalibazisi, okanye ungasebenzisani ngabom.
Eyona ndlela yokugqitha kule hump kukuphulaphula le nxalenye yakho. Hlala uthe cwaka uzibuze ukuba kutheni ungayifuni le nto uyifunayo.
njani ukuba ngumntu ochubekileyo
Umzekelo, umntu oqhubeka nokukopela iqabane lakhe abathi bayalithanda, unokufumanisa ukuba babambelele kubudlelwane obunetyhefu ngenxa yokuswela. Okanye kunokwenzeka ukuba bakhubazekile ngu uloyiko lokusondelana kunye nokuzibophelela .
Inqaku kukufikelela kumbindi waloo nyaniso ikrakra kwaye uyiginye.
2.Khokela iqela lakho
Zicinge njengenkokeli yebhunga kunye nomlondolozi wakho wangaphakathi njengomnye wabacebisi bakho abathembekileyo.
Ngaphandle kokubonakala, inyani kukuba lo mntu unomdla wokwenene kuwe. Ezona njongo ziphambili ayikokukonakalisa ubomi bakho.
Endaweni yoko, bafuna ukunciphisa iintlungu, ukungonwabi kunye noxinzelelo. Ngelishwa, bahlala bexakekile kwixesha elidlulileyo, bengenalwazi, kwaye abanalo ukholo olwaneleyo ukukuvumela ukuba uthathe isihlalo somqhubi.
Xa sicinga ngeenkokheli ezilungileyo, sihlala sicinga ngabantu abakhuthaza abanye ukuba benze. Kunqabile ukuba siqwalasele inani elikhulu lomsebenzi wangaphakathi oya ekubeni nefuthe kwiarhente yobuqu.
Ngelixa iinkokeli ezinetyhefu ziya kuzinyusa ngokwabo kunye namaqela abo ngokondla inkohliso, ukuxhatshazwa , kunye nokuzikhohlisa, iinkokheli ezisempilweni zikhangela ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ukuze zikhule ukuzazi kwaye ukukhula ngokweemvakalelo .
Amalungu eqela lokugqibela aqhelekile kwaye ahlengahlengise. Kwiqela elisebenzayo, wonke umntu uziva eve, edlala ngamandla abo, kwaye uziva ngathi banegalelo kwiinjongo ekwabelwana ngazo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, siye singabi nalo ukholo kuba izizathu zethu azicacanga kwaye izicwangciso zethu azichazwanga. Ngaphandle kokuqonda kakuhle ukuba ungubani, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyasokola ukuthetha umbono wakho ngokuzithemba nakuwe.
Ukuba uzibhuqa ngokwakho, uzama ukunyanzela inxenye yakho ukuba itsibe kuloo nto ibona ngathi yinqanawa edikayo.
Njengozwilakhe ongazukumamela izimvo ezingavisisaniyo, izinto zakho ezithandabuzekayo zikuvumela ukuba ucinge ukuba uphethe ngelixa uceba ngasese ezithunzini.
Isicwangciso esiliqili esizinzileyo iya kuba kukusebenzela ukwakha imvumelwano.
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo- hayi i-IQ- yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ekuphumeleleni kweqela.
Amaqela akhethwe kakuhle alindele ukuhamba komnye nomnye, kwaye ahamba ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngokuyinxalenye kuba anolwazelelelo ekuhlaleni kubuchule kunye neemvakalelo zomnye nomnye.
Kwimeko yeqela lethu langaphakathi, eliguqulela kumandla okuqonda, ukuqonda, kunye nokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo zethu zokuqonda kunye nokuqonda.
Xa kukho unqamko phakathi kwezi zimbini, ukuphuhlisa ukulamla kunye nesicwangciso sokusombulula ukungqubana kubalulekile.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iindlela ezi-8 ezifanelekileyo zokuyeka iingcinga ezimbi ekuthatheni ingcambu kwintloko yakho
- Isizathu esiyiyo sokuba woyike ukusilela (kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ngayo)
3. Yenza iHarmony
Bobabini kunye nesaboteur yakho yangaphakathi bafuna ukuphila obona bomi bakho bhetele, awuvumelani kwaphela nendlela yokwenza oko.
Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa eli candelo lakho kwaye ubize umnakekeli wakho wangaphakathi ukuba ancede ukuthuthuzela kunye nokuqinisekisa icandelo lakho elingena ngendlela yakho.
Uya kumangaliswa kukuba ungakanani umahluko ukuvuma okulula onokuwenza.
Ndiyathanda ukusebenzisa ezi ziqinisekiso zilandelayo zincwadi: “Ngubani Ngokwenene Oqhuba Ubomi Bakho? Zikhulule kwisiQinisekiso sakho kwaye ugcine abantwana bakho ”nguPeter Gerlach.
- “Amanye amalungu am ayakuxhathisa ngokwendalo kwaye azame ukonakalisa [umsebenzi] wam. Xa besenza njalo, banolwazi olungelulo kwaye bazama ukukhusela mna kunye nabo. ”
- Akukho nalinye ilungu lam elonakeleyo okanye elibi ngoku - kwaye alikaze lenze njalo. Iindawo zam zihlala zithetha kakuhle ngokwembono yazo (encinci). Banako kwaye bayakufunda ukutshintsha ngokukhuselekileyo izimvo zabo ukuba ziyafuneka. ”
- 'Ndiyayihlonipha kwaye ndivelane nenxalenye nganye yokukhusela kum, njengoko ibonakalisa uloyiko kunye nokungathembi, ngaphandle kokuvuma nokuphazamisa ulwakhiwo lweqela lethu losapho.'
Ukuqinisekiswa kunokuziva kusidenge ekuqaleni, kodwa emva kwethutyana baqala ukunamathela-ngakumbi ukuba uyayilandela ngokwenza.
4. Ukuhlanganisa iyantlukwano
Ngokusebenzisana, unokufumana isisombululo esidibanisa iimfuno zawo wonke umntu kwiqela lakho elingaphakathi.
Uninzi lwabantu lufumanisa ukuba indlela abaziphatha ngayo yokuzibhubhisa ngokwesoyiko.
Abantu banesidingo sebhayiloji ukunqanda ukungonwabi okanye iintlungu zalo naluphi na uhlobo- kubandakanya intlungu engokweemvakalelo . Iyavakala kwaye yile nto isivumele ukuba sigcwalise kwaye siphumelele.
Kodwa kumaxesha anamhlanje, sinqwenela ukuyila ubomi obonwabisayo, obuzalisekisayo, obuzenzekelayo, nanjengoko sifuna iindlela ezimfutshane kunye nokuthuthuzela izidalwa.
Ngokuchasene ne-intuitive, ubomi obuzalisekisayo esibufunayo bunokufezekiswa kuphela ngokudibanisa uloyiko esifuna ukuluphepha ngokwemvelo.
Zama la manyathelo alandelayo ukuseta ukude kuloo ndlela:
- Khumbula ngalo lonke ixesha ujongene noloyiko lwakho oluhlawulelwayo. Ngena yonke impumelelo edlulileyo okhe wayifumana ukusuka kwelona likhulu ukuya kwelincinci. Ngokufanayo, ungene kuzo zonke iimpazamo ezidlulileyo ezikufundise isifundo esibalulekileyo okanye zikhokelele kwenye impumelelo engalindelekanga.
- Cwangcisa ukuthatha amanyathelo amancinci ukuze ungoyiki kakhulu.
- Khetha imizekelo ebonisa inkqubo yakho yexabiso, funda ngobomi babo kunye nendlela abaye boyisa ngayo imiceli mngeni yabo. Zama ukulinganisa oko uziva unyanisekile kuwe. Ukuba unokufumana abacebisi, kungcono nokuba!
- Khawufane ucinge ukuba bunjani ubomi obulawulwa luloyiko. Oku kuyakunceda ukweyisela icandelo lakho lokuzibhubhisa ukuba izibonelelo zokujongana noloyiko lwakho zingaphezulu kweendleko ezinokubakho. Ekugqibeleni, uyakuqonda ukuba kuloyiko, into oyifumanayo ngokuziqhelanisa kunye nokukhuseleka kokungalunganga, uphulukana nenzondo, uxinzelelo, iziyobisi, kunye nezinye iimeko ezininzi ezivela kubuchule obungafakwanga.
Ukuyeka isidingo sokuziva ulungile ngalo lonke ixesha kubalulekile. Sebenza ekuvuseleleni ubudlelwane bakho neemvakalelo ezingalunganga. Ubuhlungu abunakuphepheka, kwaye unokusebenzisa ngokunjalo inzuzo yakho.
Endaweni yokubethwa ngumoya wotshintsho, khetha ukuhamba kuwo ngokuthatha into oyinikiweyo kwaye uyiguqule.
Ukufunda ukujonga iingxaki zethu njengento yokudlala, iziphumo ezibi zibe yenye iphazili ukusombulula.
Kungenxa yoko le nto abantu beyonwabela imidlalo yebhodi, imidlalo yevidiyo kunye nemidlalo. Sidlala ukuphumelela, kwaye sifuna ukuphumelela, kodwa sikwazi kuphela ukonwaba kuba kukho iqela elithile eliza kuvela ngendlela izinto eziya kuthi zihambe ngayo
Ukuze naxa siphulukene, sizive siphoxekile, kodwa ayenzi ukuba sibuze ukuzithemba kwethu okanye kusinqande ekuphuhliseni iindlela ezintsha kwaye sidlale kwakhona.
Njengezidalwa ezikumoya, kufuneka sinqwenele ukunciphisa ukuncamathiselwa kwethu kwiziphumo kwaye sifunde ukwenza into ngokwenza. Ngomso asithenjiswanga kwaye azikho neziphumo esizifunayo.
Imigaqo yeBuddhist fundisa ukuba ukunamathela kumnqweno ngunobangela wokubandezeleka. Ikhuthaza ukonwaba okunemiqathango esivumela kuphela ukuba sibe seluxolweni ukuba izinto zihamba ngendlela ethile.
Inkqubo yokukhupha isinamathiselo ayikho lula, kodwa konke kuqala ngokuzibophelela kwi ukuzinikela kwengqondo.
Ukwazi umzuzu wangoku kunye nokuwusebenzisa kwishishini lemihla ngemihla lobomi, siqala ukubeka impumelelo kwinjongo ngokwembono, siqonda ukuba yinto enye kuphela kulungelelwaniso lolonwabo lwethu.
Isakhono sokunikela ngomsebenzi wethu kwindalo iphela / kumandla aphezulu kuya kusinceda yeka okulindelweyo kwaye usikhulule ekukhubazekeni okubangelwa luloyiko.
Amaxesha amaninzi, olona lonwabo lukhulu kunye nemivuzo enokubunikwa bubomi iza kwelinye icala lembambano. Akukho ukuphuncula kwithunzi lethu. Kodwa ngokuvuleka ngokwaneleyo, singasebenzisa izithunzi zethu njengokucofa ilanga ukusibonisa apho ukukhanya kwethu kubekwe khona ngoku.
