Kudala-dala, emva kweminyaka embalwa yokuphola ekholejini, abahlobo bandicenga ukuba ndiye nabo eholideyini. Akukho nto inkulu, kukubona nje indawo eChicago, mhlawumbi ukubamba ijezi, inyathelo elitshisayo lemyuziyam, i-aquarium entle yaseChicago, kunye nokutya okumnandi.
Bendingafuni ukuya.
Andinasizathu sokwenyani sokungavumi, kodwa oko akuzange kundinqande ekubeni ndize 'nezizathu' eziliwaka zokuba kutheni ndingafanelekanga.
Bavotile kum. Ndandi hagg kwaye ndingenabuntu. Bandikhulule ngomyalelo wenqanawa elungileyo Mna ngesizathu sokuba ndingakulungelanga ukusebenza. Babhukishe uhambo, bandixelela ukuba ndilungele nini, bayishiya ke.
Ukufika kwethu apho, senza zonke izinto ebesizicwangcisile, ngamanye amaxesha sizonke, ngamanye amaxesha sahlukana ngababini, ngamanye amaxesha sisodwa. Yayiluhambo oluhle, kodwa into ephantsi kombulelo wam kunye nokuhlala kunye ngekhefu ndiziva ndingazinzanga.
Ukufika kwam ekhaya, ndaye ndacinga ngoluhlobo ndingazinzanga ngalo. Kwakungekokuqala ndiva, kodwa kwakungaqhelekanga ukuba ndive ngoku phakathi kothando, imfesane, kunye ubuhlobo obunzulu . Ndonwabile ukuba bandirhuqele emhadini wam wokudinwa. Ndaziva ndihlaziyekile.
Emva koko yandibetha: ndaziva ndihlaziyeke kakhulu ngala maxesha ambalwa bendibandakanyeke eChicago ndedwa.
ungajongana njani nomntu okutyhola ngento yonke
Ixesha elichithwe kwinkampani yabahlobo bam ibingathinteli okanye irhafise, njengoko inokuba yenzekile kumntu Ndazisa kakhulu , kodwa ndaziva ngathi ndibuyela 'kum' xa yayindim nje, isixeko, kunye neengxoxo ezingahleliwe phakathi kwethu.
Ndijonge ngasemva ukuze ndibone ukuba bendiziva ngoluhlobo na phambi kokuba le nto ndiyibonileyo ibeyipateni ecacileyo: Bendihlala ndinabahlobo, kodwa bendinako ukuba ndimke ndedwa ndibe nexesha elimangalisayo.
Ndingu isizungu.
Kwakungekho ludwe lokungena ngokulula ngelo xesha, ke ndaye ndazenzela elam:
Ngaba ndiyakonwabela ukuba ndedwa? Ewe.
Ngaba bendikhululekile xa ndithule? Ewe.
Besele ndiyazi ukuba ndingumntu ongenisa ngaphezu kokudlula, kodwa ngaba akhona amaxesha apho kuye kwafuneka ndimke kum? Ewe. (Ndize ukucamngca kwangoko ebomini.)
Ngaba ukuvuyisana nokwamkeleka kwam ndiziva ndilungile ngokuvuyisana kunye nokuvunywa kwabanye? Ewe.
Iqinisekisiwe, yaqinisekiswa, kwaye iphindwe kabini yaqinisekisa: isizungu.
Kodwa ndingaba lilolo njani? Andinayo ibhatyi enye yesikhumba! Ndandingenguye umvukeli. Ukuba ndingazama nokubonakala ngathi abantu bangandinika uncedo lwezonyango.
Iiloners yayingamantombazana amabi kunye namakhwenkwe esicinga ngokufihlakeleyo ukuba apholile. Ndandikude kakhulu kwindawo epholileyo ndandinentaba-mlilo, kwaye ngoku kude kushushu ndandingaphantsi kwengqele.
Ngapha koko, abantu abanesithukuthezi babedume ngokuchasene nentlalontle ngesiphoso, ngelixa ndandinabahlobo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo babengengabo bodwa.
Nangona kunjalo uluhlu lokutshekisha aluxokanga. Ke, ukuba lilolo kwaye konke, ndizamile ukwamkela izibonelelo zokwamkela ubume bam.
1. Umhla woBusuku
Ngaba ukhona umntu onokuthi 'umhla wexabiso eliphantsi wobomi'?
Ndaziva ndikhululekile ukuya kwi Iimuvi , ivenkile yokutyela, ivenkile, isihogo, nokuba yibhowula xa kufuneka… YODWA. Kwakusoloko kunjalo.
iingcebiso ngendlela yokuba yintombi elungileyo
Andizange ndikhathazeke ngokuzichukumisa ngento endandiyiyalelayo, okanye ukubonwa njengokrwada ngokungcwaba intloko yam encwadini ngelixa ndilinde izibheno, okanye ndide ndihlekise ngexesha lomdlalo bhanyabhanya kwaye ke ndibulale naliphi na ithuba endinalo lokubonwa I-sexy ngokwaneleyo kumaxesha amnandi kamva.
Bendi ngumhla onexabiso eliphantsi kwaye ndiyayithanda!
2. Ubomi bePati
Emva kokuba ndibonile ukuba ndililolo, kwafika kum ukuba abantu bayakonwabela ukundimemela kwizinto, ngamanye amaxesha naxa bekungekho sizathu sokuba ndibekho.
Amaqela, ama-brunches, imitshato, iiholide ezingafakwanga kwi-impromptu, uyiqamba igama. Abantu bathande ukundibona ndize kwi-shindigs zabo kwaye babonwabile.
Kwakungathi bayazi ngokuchanekileyo ukuba ndandiluhlobo lokuvavanywa kokukhulelwa komntu: uncumo oludibeneyo ebusweni bam lwaluthetha ukuba unomsitho ophumeleleyo! Ukuncwina okanye ukuthabatha: ithamsanqa elingcono kumjikelo olandelayo, ngendonwabile ekhaya.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- 24 Izinto ezibalulekileyo ozifundayo xa uchitha ixesha wedwa
- Indlela yokujongana nesithukuthezi kwaye ujongane neemvakalelo zokwahlukaniswa
- Izinto ezi-5 onokuzifunda kubahlobo bakho abangenisayo
- Iingcaphuno ezingama-30 zokubhiyozela amaNtshayelelo, iintyatyambo zodonga kunye neengcuka zodwa
- Iimpawu ezi-5 zoMoya oSimahla ngokwenyani
3. Iintlobo zikaWhoosh ezidlulileyo kuwe
Iiloners ziihagu zobomi zobomi: ziyisiphula neengcambu ukutya okumnandi, okungaqhelekanga abanye abangaze bakubone, ngakumbi kubugcisa.
Ukulungelelaniswa kukuba bahlala bengabokugqibela ukwazi malunga neendlela ezikhoyo okanye bangaze bafumanise ngokupheleleyo, ethi, kubudala be-YouTube, ayisoloko iyinto embi.
Andisoze ndibenoJustin Bieber kuluhlu lwam lokudlala. Ubuhle: Ikhwezi lokusa.
4. Ukuvavanywa okunyanisekileyo
Ngenxa yokuba abantu abangamalolo bangashukunyiswa yimfuno ebalaseleyo yokuthandwa liqela elikhulu lentlalontle, bajika benyanisekile, ngakumbi xa bebuzwa umbuzo ngqo.
Oku kuthetha ukuba ndibaxelele abahlobo xa idyasi ethile ibenza babonakale njengebhere ebalekileyo ndicebise izibini ngezibonelelo ezingachazekiyo zazo ukwehlukana Andikwazi ukubala inani lamaxesha endiye ndangumntu kuphela ukuxelela umntu ukuba banokutya okuncamathele emazinyweni akhe.
5. Abalobi benza uDavid Bowie abe neqhayiya
'Ndiyalazi ixesha lokuphuma,' wacula uDavid Bowie kwingoma ethi Modern Love, “Kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ndiza kuhlala nini, zenzele izinto.”
Ndiyenza ngokupheleleyo. Oko akutsho ukuba ndihlala ndenza olo lwazi, kodwa ndinemibhobho embalwa enetyala 'Kutheni ndingakhange ndiyenze i-XYZ?!' ngaphezu komntu olingana nam ngewayeqokelelene.
Ndizenza izinto. Kuyavunywa, ayilophawu olo kuphela ukuba nesithukuthezi esinengqondo esisebenzayo, kodwa sihlala sisenza izinto ngelixa sihamba ze kumakhaya ethu. Oko kubalwa njengo 'phumelela.'
6. Ixesha Nkosi
Xa ndijonga emva kobomi bam, ndiyabona ngokucacileyo ukuba intshinga yam 'yentsasa' yayihlala isetelwe 'nanini na ndifuna,' ukucofa kwam ukuphumla kusuka kwi-zero ukuya kwii-slippers ezi-fuzzy kwimizuzu emibini-emithandathu imizuzwana, kwaye andizange ndiyenze Umdlalo bhanyabhanya emva kwexesha, ukubona ukuba ukonwaba kwam kwakungeyonto yokudlala ngayo.
Iiloners ziyalixabisa ixesha ngeendlela ezinzulu, zihlala zingathethi. Abayi kukwenza ufike emva kwexesha, okanye bakwenze ukuba ubalinde, okanye babenokuphuma ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba bakhe benjenjalo, uyazi nokuba kukuhlasela kwabaphambukeli, intaba-mlilo ngequbuliso, okanye bahlangula amantshontsho amadada kwiinjinja.
7. Akukho ntloni kumdlalo wabo woluntu
Mhlawumbi bekufanele ukuba ndiye ndaziva ndililolo emva kwexesha elimalunga nezigidigidi ndibuzwa, 'Ngaba awuziva ungonwabanga ukutya esidlangalaleni uwedwa?'
Akukho namnye kubahlobo bam okhe wabuzwa loo nto. Abantu banemiqathango yokucinga ukuba ukuba abanxibelelana neqela ngandlela thile okanye ngenye indlela, baphambukile.
Iziphambeko kufanele ukuba zive iintloni ukuze zibabuyisele ngqo kwaye zincinci.
Yhe Kulungile.
Nje ukuba wazi ukuba ulilolo, iintloni ngokungafuni ukuhlala unxibelelana ngaphandle kodwa yidandelion floof kumoya onamandla kakhulu.
8. Mna, Mna, Nam, njengeSiseko soBuntu
Abasebenzi baba ngabaniki. Ngoba? Ngenxa yokuba abaqwalaselwa kwingcamango yorhwebo njengesazisi. Abanangxaki yokunika imali okanye ixesha elinokuya kwi-smartphone yamva nje okanye kwibrunch yamandla nabaxumi.
Okwangoku isikhwama sam sendichaza, ngoko nangoko ndibhengeza indawo yam njenge-ashram ukuze inkqubo yokuphilisa iqale.
9. Isazisi esingalunganga
Kungenzeka ukuba olona lonwabo lukhulu ebomini njengesizungu kukuba abantu bayaphazama ukuba bodwa ngenxa yesizungu, kwaye baya kusondela ngenjongo yokunceda.
Ngeli xesha isithukuthezi, ukuba banomonde njengam, ibavulela kumahluko phakathi kokuba wedwa nokuba nesithukuthezi.
Kukho ukuzola ekubeni wedwa ekungafane kwenzeke ukuba nesithukuthezi, kwaye ixesha ngalinye ndifumana umntu ukuba akuqonde oko, ubomi babo ngokungaguquguqukiyo buvula ngakumbi.
Ndonwabile kubahlobo bam. Hayi isizungu phakathi kwabo, kodwa ngandlela thile bayakwazi ukusebenza nomlingo kaDavid Bowie kunye nam. Bayalazi ixesha lokundikhupha, kunye nexesha lokundivumela ukuba ndihlale.
Ukuhlangana kunye akunakuze kuvakale ngathi ngumsebenzi, kwaye ukwahlukana akwenzi ukuba nabani na kuthi angenzeki. Ingathi umntu ngamnye uyandithanda njengesiqu sakhe, kwaye ndibathanda bonke babuya kanye ngale ndlela.
kutheni engandifuni
Yeyiphi, ngesizathu esingaqhelekanga, kubonakala ngathi iyavakala.