Ukuba nomoya okhululekileyo yinto esele siyinqwenela kwinqanaba elithile okanye kwenye. Ukumatsha ukubetha kwegubu lakho kungathatha ixesha, kodwa kufanelekile xa ufika. Nantsi imiqondiso emi-5 yokuba uncwina kwisingqi sakho…
ezona zinto zilungileyo zenziwe xa ukruqukile
1. Uzimele
Ukuzimela yinto into eninzi esiyithatha njengesiqhelo, kunye nento abaninzi abakufumanisa kunzima. Kunzima ukuphila ubomi bakho ngaphandle kokuthatha izimvo zabanye abantu kunye neemvakalelo. Nangona kubalulekile yiba nemfesane , Inxalenye yokuba nomoya okhululekileyo yenza izigqibo zakho kwaye uphile ubomi bakho ngendlela okhetha ngayo.
Abantu abanomoya osimahla bahlala bekhankanywa njengabaphilayo ngaphandle kwemilinganiselo yoluntu kunye nendlela yokuphila engaqhelekanga. Oku akufuneki kube njalo! Ewe kunjalo, ukuba yile nto ibalulekileyo kuwe, yiya kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, ndingumoya okhululekileyo, kum, kuthetha ukuhamba nokuhamba kwakho. Yenza indlela yakho yokuphila kwaye uphumelele kuyo. Kuhlala kumnandi ukujonga kubahlobo kunye nosapho, kodwa kuya kufuneka uphilele ubomi bakho. Yiba nengqondo yakho kwaye unokholo kubuchule bakho.
Ukwenza ukhetho lwakho, ukuzazi, kunye nokukwazi ukuzicingela yonke le miqondiso yokuba unomoya okhululekileyo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba unxibe iihipp-flares kunye nezithsaba zeentyatyambo ukuze ulungele olu hlobo lobuntu! Ukwenza okona kubomi bakho kwaye ukhethe ukuba izinto ziphume njani kubalulekile kuwe, kwaye akukho hlazo kuloo nto.
Ukwenza izinto ngokwemiqathango yakho kunye nezibonelelo zakho yinto ekufuneka uyilwele, ungabi nazintloni . Njengomfazi, ndandicinga ukuba ndimele ndizifihle kumabhongo. Ndicinga ukuba andifuni ukubonwa 'njengesidenge' ngokuba neminqweno engaqhelekanga. Ukuba nomoya okhululekileyo kuthetha ukwamkela into ofuna ukuyenza kwaye uyenze, ngaphandle kwezimvo zabanye abantu.
2. Uyahamba Xa Ufuna
Ukuhamba yenye yezo zinto wonke umntu endaziyo ukuba angazidwelisa phantsi kwecandelo 'lokuzonwabisa kunye nomdla' weCV yabo. Kwaye okwangoku, bangaphi kuthi abahamba ngokwenene? Ndibe nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo, okanye ndasebenza nzima ngokwaneleyo kwaye ndithathe umtsi wokholo, ukuhamba, kwaye ndiyithandile yonke imizuzwana yayo. Kum, ukuhamba phambili yinto ephambili, kwaye yinto endiyibeka kuqala xa ndithatha isigqibo sokushiya ikhaya lam eNgilane.
Emehlweni am, ukuba nomoya okhululekileyo kuthetha kanye-umoya wakho, ingqondo kunye nomzimba wakho ukhululekile ukuba uzulazule naphi na apho athanda khona. Ewe ndiyayiqonda indlela endaba nethamsanqa ngayo ngokushiya ubomi bam ngasemva - bendingenamntu uthembele kum kwaye ndingena xanduva nakubani na. Ngaba bendinamaqhina? Kanjalo! Kodwa, kum, ukuhamba kwakubaluleke kakhulu kangangokuba ndandikulungele ukunqamla ezo zinto ndinamathele kuzo ukuze ndonwabe.
Ngezinye iintsuku, ndikhumbula umsebenzi wam kunye nendlu yam encinci kunye nendoda endandithandana nayo, kodwa andizisoli ngokukhetha kwam ukuyishiya ngasemva. Ukuba uhambo lubalulekile kuwe, kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela yokwenza ukuba kwenzeke.
Ukuba oku akuhambelani nawe kwaye awunomdla wokuhamba, tshintsha into ethile yenza ibalulekile kuwe. Mhlawumbi uyakuthanda ukuya kwimidlalo yezemidlalo, okanye unomdla wokwenene wokuhamba intaba. Ukuba ufumana abanye abantu bezama ukukuyekisa ukwenza izinto ozithandayo, kukho ingxaki apho. Imimoya yasimahla iyalazi ixesha lokuzingca kwaye bazibeke kwindawo yokuqala - ukuba kukho into ebalulekileyo kuwe, yilandele.
Kungathabatha iminyaka ukuyifumana loo nto 'iyondla ngokwenene umphefumlo wakho, ke xa yenza ukuyifumana, akufuneki ukuba unciphise ukonwaba kunye nolonwabo kuyo komnye umntu. Ndihlala ndizifumana ndibhalela u-5 ekuseni, ndiceba ukuphuma ngomzuzu wokugqibela, ndize ndilandele ngenkuthalo izinto ezindinika olo hlobo lokhwankqisa uvalo nolonwabo. Nokuba yeyiphi ethe gqi entlokweni yakho njengoko ufunda yile nto kanye ekufuneka uyenzile ngaphezulu.
ungayeka njani ukuba yintombazana encamatheleyo
3. Unezinto Onomdla Kuzo Nomdla Wakho
Ndiyathanda ukuva malunga nomdla wabanye abantu, nokuba kukuthanda kukaM Ma iinkuku zakhe (uzakhele ileli entsha?) Okanye umfo endimbonayo unomdla wokupheka. Ingakumbi xa endenzela ukutya okumnandi! Ndiza kuchitha ixesha kunye nabantu endibathandayo sisenza izinto abanomdla kuzo. Njengoko benditshilo, imfesane ibalulekile. Into isenokungabi namdla wena , kodwa ukuba unomdla kumntu omthandayo, kuya kufuneka wenze iinzame zokuzibandakanya nawo.
Kukho indawo kumdlalo bhanyabhanya Ukwahlukana apho umfazi otshatileyo echaza ukuba kutheni ekhathazekile kangangokuba umyeni wakhe angafuni ukuya naye kwi-ballet. Akamceli ukuba amjoyine kuba uyayithanda, kodwa kuba yena uyayithanda, kwaye loo nyani iyodwa kufuneka ibe sisizathu esaneleyo sokuba ahambe naye. 'Ayisiyokuba uyithande ibhaleyi… imalunga nomntu omthandayo (oyithandayo) ibhaleyi kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha nalo mntu.'
Khathalela izinto ozithandayo zabanye abantu kwaye uthathe inxaxheba kuzo. Kwaye lindela into efanayo ngokubuya. Kuya kufuneka uzive ukhululekile ukuphonononga kwaye wonwabele nayiphi na into onomdla kuyo, kwaye ungaphezulu kwelungelo lokulindela inkxaso kwabo bakuthandayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, izinto ozithandayo zizezakho, kodwa kuhlala kumnandi ukubanakho ukwabelana ngazo nabo bakungqongileyo, nokuba abathandi njengawe.
Khangela izinto onomdla kuzo kwaye uyilandele, nokuba yeyiphi na. Phambuka ngokwenza iti uthenge izihluzi kunye namagqabi avulekileyo kwaye usele iti eninzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Yiya kwithala leencwadi kwaye uphume ikhadi lakho lobulungu kunye neencwadi kwiMfazwe yesibini (II) yeHlabathi kwaye uzifundele ngokuvakalayo ebhedini. Qala ukuvuka kwangoko kwaye ujoyine iklasi yeyoga yendawo, okanye uthenge imethi kwaye uziqhelanise ekhaya kwimpahla yakho yangaphantsi. Nantoni na ekunika loo buzz kwaye ikwenze ufune ngaphezulu yile nto uyifunayo ukuze ugcwalise umphefumlo wakho.
Ukuba nomoya okhululekileyo kuthetha ukuba unezinto ozithandayo kunye nehlabathi lakho lokonwabela. Ukwenza izinto kuba zikwenza wonwabe, nokuba zingaqhelekanga okanye zintle ngathi zinokubonakala kwabanye, kubaluleke kakhulu. Nokuba abantu mabajoyine umnqweno wakho wolonwabo njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, okanye yamkele umgwebo kwaye wenze njalo. Oku kunxibelelana nokuzimela-yenza into onwabele ukuyenza kwaye ungavumeli nabani na akwenze ungaziva ungonwabanga ngayo. Ngaphandle kokuba kusemthethweni, kunjalo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Imisebenzi emi-5 yoSimahla iya kukhula ngaphakathi
- Imimoya yasimahla ijongene nale mizabalazo ili-11 kubomi babo
- Iimpawu ze-13 unobuntu obomeleleyo obunokoyikisa abanye abantu
- Iimpawu ezi-5 eziLungileyo eziTsala ulonwabo kunye nobudlelwane obusempilweni
- Iimpawu ezi-10 zemiphefumlo emidala ezenza ukuba zihluke ngokupheleleyo kwaye zintle
- Izinto eziyi-8 uninzi lwabantu oluthatha ixesha lokuphila ukuze uzifunde
4. Uyayonwabela Inkampani Yakho
Ukuba ndedwa yinto endandiyithiyile. Andizange ndonwabe ndedwa-ixesha kunye neengcinga zam, kwaye ndiza kuhlala ndikhangela izizathu zokuyiphepha. Ukwenzela mna, ndedwa wayenenkcazo efanayo ngqo Ndedwa .
Ngokukhawuleza iminyaka embalwa, kwaye ndihlala ndedwa. Ndisenobomi obusebenzayo bokuhlala, isangqa sobuhlobo, kunye ubudlelwane obuphilileyo (kulungile, usempilweni!), Kodwa ekugqibeleni ndiye ndafunda ukuyithanda inkampani yam. Ingqondo yam ayiseyonto yokoyika yinto endiyithandayo kwaye ndisebenze nzima ukuyilungisa. Ukulungelelanisa ingqondo nomzimba wakho yinto ebaluleke ngokwenene kuwe njengomoya wasimahla.
Isayina umntu osebenza naye akanamdla
Ukwenza izinto ezikwenza wonwabe, wanelisekile ngokuba wedwa , kunye nokulangazelela ixesha lokuzihambela ngokwakho konke kunempilo kwaye kuyenzeka hayi kukwenze ungabinantlalo. Ukuba uziva ngathi uyazihlukanisa nabanye abantu, nangona kunjalo, unokufuna ukujonga ngokwakho kwaye ufumanise ukuba ngaba kukho isizathu esingasemva kwayo. Lilonke, ukukwazi ukusebenza njengomntu othile luphawu lokuba ungumoya wasimahla.
Akukho mntu ufanele akwenze uzive ngathi kufuneka uzincame ngenxa yabo, ke qiniseka ukuba uzingqonge nabahlobo, usapho kunye namaqabane akuxhasayo. Ukuba nomoya okhululekileyo akuthethi ukulahla wonke umntu kuthetha oko uzenzela izigqibo Kwaye ukwamkela abo bayamkelayo loo nto okanye badlulela kwizinto (kunye nabantu) abakukhonza ngcono.
Abantu bahlala bedibanisa imimoya yasimahla nabantu abaphakamileyo, abaphaphazelayo abangakwaziyo ukuzibophelela kwinto nakubani na. Oku akusoloko kunjalo. Kuyinyani ukuba uninzi lwethu lukufumanisa kunzima ukuzinza, njengoko sihlala sinqwenela ukuzonwabisa kunye nolonwabo. Oko kwathethi, ezona ndawo zintle zihlala zivela kwinto eqhelekileyo. Awudingi ukuba ube kwilizwe elitsha yonke imihla, utshintshe ngokungapheliyo phakathi kwemisebenzi yetemp kunye neeflethi zestudiyo ukuze ube nomoya okhululekileyo. Isimo sengqondo emva kwento oyenzayo sithetha kakhulu, ukuba akunjalo, njengokuhamba kwakho komzimba.
Into ebalulekileyo kukufumana oko uziva ukulungele wena -Inokuzibophelela kubudlelwane, kodwa ngokulinganayo kunokuthetha ukuphonononga isini sakho noluhlu lwamaqabane. Unokukhetha ukuhlala kufutshane nosapho kunye nabahlobo, okanye ungafuna ukolula amaphiko akho. Ngayiphi na indlela, ingqondo yakho iya kuba ifuna ngenkuthalo iziyolo ezintsha, nokuba iimeko zakho zihlala zintle ngokufanayo.
5. Uyazithanda
Olu hlobo lubopha onke la manqaku angasentla kunye. Ukuzithanda kuthetha ukonwaba kulusu lwakho, ukulandela izinto ezikwenza wonwabe, kunye nokuyeka ezo zingasakusebenzeli. Inxalenye yokuba nomoya okhululekileyo kuthetha ukuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zakho kunye nokuzikhulula kuyo nantoni na ekubambezelayo. Usapho kunye nabahlobo banokuba nomhlaba, kodwa akufuneki ndiziva ndibanjisiwe .
Ukuba nomoya okhululekileyo kunokuba kukuhambahamba ukusuka kwelinye ithuba ukuya kwelinye ithuba okanye ukonwabela nje okomzuzwana kwaye ukuyeka kuhambe . Ukungoyiki kunye nokuvavanya imida yendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela luphawu oluqinileyo lokuba ukhululekile. Konke malunga nokucela umngeni kuwe kunye nokwenza uninzi lwazo zonke iimeko ezinokukunceda. Ukuzithanda kuthetha ukujongana neemfuno zakho, kunye nokondla ingqondo nomzimba wakho kangangoko unako.
Ekugqibeleni, ukuzenzela izinto kunye nokudala ubomi obuthandayo luphawu lokuba ngumoya okhululekileyo. Kungathatha ithutyana ukufika apho, kodwa kuyakulungela uhambo, ndithembe…
