Ngelixa kungekho bullet yomlingo kulwalamano olugqibeleleyo, kwaye akukho mntu wonwabileyo yonke imihla yobomi babo, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho iimpawu ezintle abantu abonwabileyo ababelana ngazo ezibanceda bakhokele ubomi obuzalisekileyo kwaye bagcine ubudlelwane obunempilo.
Nazi zi-5 iimpawu ezinje ezenza isiseko esiqinileyo apho ukonwaba kunye nolwalamano oluhle lungakhula
1. Bayiyo Ukuzithemba
Ukungena kwigumbi lebhodi 'njengomphathi' kunye nokujija ujikeleze iofisi, ukukhonkotha iiodolo, kunye nokwenza ngathi ungumnikazi wale ndawo ayizithembi. Kananjalo ayikokubeka abanye phantsi ukuze uzenze mhle.
Oko kukuzikhukhumeza, kwaye kukho umahluko ophawulweyo.
Abantu abajongela phantsi abanye, okanye abafuna ukwenza amabango amakhulu malunga nokuba balunge kangakanani, banemali engakanani, okanye babonisa ukubaluleka kwabo kwabanye, enyanisweni abazithembi, kwaye ezantsi, abonwabanga kwaphela. Ewe ufunda elo lungelo, abazithembanga, bayoyika kwaye balusizi.
Abantu abonwabileyo abazenzi ezi zinto. Akukho mfuneko yokuba bakhwaze beseluphahleni lwendlu ngento abayenzileyo okanye abanayo. Banokuzithemba okuzolileyo okuza ngohlobo lokunceda abanye ngaphandle kokufuna ukwamkelwa, kwaye bangoyiki Nceda abanye baphume emngciphekweni wokugutyungelwa.
Bathembele kubuchule babo, kwaye baphakamise abanye endaweni yokubachitha. Bayazazi ukuba bangobani kwaye akufuneki babeke ku umntu wobuxoki ukuya phambili okanye ukwenza abantu bathande.
Ngenxa yokuba bekhululekile kulusu lwabo, abajongi wonke umntu njengokhuphiswano olunokubakho. Abantu bayatsaleleka kubo. Ngenxa yoko, banayo ubudlelwane obuphilileyo ezingagutyungelwanga ngumona okanye ubukrakra, kuba bangena kuzo njengabo, amaqhuma, amaqhuma nako konke.
Akukho mfuneko bazithelekise nabanye . Ukuzithemba kuwe kunye nobuchule bakho kuya kutsala ulonwabo, abantu abonwabileyo abakungqongileyo, kunye nolwalamano olusempilweni.
2. Babona iSilining Lining
Qaphela ukuba khange nditsho 'ulunge.' Elo ligama eligcweleyo abantu abacinga ukuba ngomlingo luzisa ulonwabo njengothuli oluthile lwentsomi. Uyifefa ngelixa uphuma ngomnyango kusasa kwaye uyabhabha! ubekelwe usuku. Akunjalo ukuba isebenza njani.
indlela yokujongana nomntu ongenangqondo
Abantu abaninzi bakwacinga ukuba kuya kufuneka uncwine njengesidenge kubo bonke abadlulayo, kwaye wenze ngathi yonke into eyoyikekayo eyenzekayo kuwe ilungile ngokugqibeleleyo. Ayilulo ulwazelelelo, okanye ukonwaba yimaski. Susa imaski.
Abantu abonwabileyo ababaleki bezenza ngathi bonwabela yonke into eyenzekileyo kubo. Abathandi wonke umntu abadibana naye, kwaye bayothuka! banesabelo sabo seentsuku ezimbi nabo. Umahluko kukuba xa abantu abonwabileyo besilela, okanye behlangabezana nezithintelo, abavumeli ezo ntsilelo zibaphazamise.
Babona umgca wesilivere.
Bayazivuma izinto ezimbi, kodwa bajonge nomyalezo, isifundo, okanye ithuba kwezi ndlela zivaliwe. Bakujonga ukusilela njengemiceli mngeni abanokukhula kuyo.
Ukutyumza kwam kunexabiso eliphantsi
Kananjalo abakhuphi amashwa abo ebantwini. Abathathi abanye nabo. Banokuhlala kunye ukuphoxeka , yamkela i-misstep, kwaye uqhubeke. Le ndlela yokujongana nayo ibenza bonwabe ekuhambeni kwexesha kuba iyabathintela ekuhlaleni, nasekuonzakaliseni abanye.
3. Bavulelekile ekwenzeni iiNxibelelwano
Nabani na onwabileyo uya kwenza abanye bonwabe - u-Anne Frank
Amagama alumkileyo avela kwintombazana eneminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu. Kodwa u-Anne Frank wayechanile. Ulonwabo luyosulela kwaye lwenza abanye bonwabe.
Abantu bangaliva ivumba lobuxoki. Ukuziphatha ngokungalunganga kubangela ukungathembani. Mhlawumbi ukhe wayibona le meko ngaphambili: laa mfo epatini oncuma wonke umntu, ehleka kuzo zonke iindawo ezifanelekileyo, kwaye bubomi beqela, kodwa azive 'engekho'?
Ngokukhawuleza awumthandi, kodwa awukwazi ukubeka umnwe wakho kwisizathu. Utshintsha isimilo sakho, ubeke unogada, kwaye umjonge ngokukrokrela. Ngoba? Akenzanga okanye athethe into ephosakeleyo.
Kungenxa yokuba akabonakalisi isiqinisekiso sakhe. Akadibani ngokwenyani nabantu. Ubanika oko akholelwa ukuba bafuna ukukuva, okanye ukubona, ukuze benze unxibelelwano, kodwa ineziphumo ezichaseneyo ngqo.
Isifundo seYunivesithi yaseHarvard sivavanye oko kusenza sonwabe kwaye enye yezinto eziqhelekileyo yayikukuba: ubudlelwane obuhle busigcina sisempilweni kwaye sonwabile. Ukukhuthaza unxibelelwano olusemgangathweni kunye nokukhulisa ubudlelwane, kusinceda siphile ubomi obonwabisayo nobude.
Abantu abonwabileyo aboyiki ukudibanisa, Ukubonisa ukuba sesichengeni kwabo, kunye nokunyaniseka kwabanye. Ngokwazi ngokwabo, benza indawo yokuba abanye babe ngabo, kwaye banxibelelane nabo.
4. Baxabise abantu namava, hayi izinto
Intetho ethi ‘imali ayinakukuthengela ulonwabo’ inenyani kuyo. Ngelixa, ewe, akukho mntu uza kuthi hayi kwisigidi seedola okanye kwimoto entsha yezemidlalo, ekupheleni kosuku, abona bantu bonwabileyo abenziwa bonwaba ngokuqokelela izinto, baqokelela amava obomi kwaye bazijikeleze ngobuhlobo obusemgangathweni.
Abantu bahlala bedibanisa ulonwabo kunye nemali, kodwa eyona nto bayithethayo kukhetho, okt imali ikunika inkululeko yokukhetha: ungaya kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya nge- $ 20 yakho, okanye ungahlala ekhaya, kodwa ngalo mzuzu, unokhetho ukuchitha loo $ 20 okanye hayi.
Kukho amandla okwazi ukuthatha isigqibo sokuhamba kwakho okulandelayo ngaphandle kokuthintelwa. Xa abantu bengenayo imali, oku kunciphisa ukhetho lwabo kunye nokusilela kokuzimisela kuhlala kukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokungonwabi.
Sele ndiyithethile loo nto, abantu abaninzi abazizityebi banemali, kwaye banokukhetha okuninzi, kodwa bahlala bengonwabanga, izindlu ezikholelwayo, iimoto kunye neempahla ziya kubonwabisa. Ngelixa uhambo lokuya kuthenga lubonelela ngonyusa ngokufutshane (uphononongo lubonakalisile ukuba ulindelo lokuthenga izinto lukhupha i-dopamine kwingqondo) ngokwenza i-shopper ekuqaleni 'yonwabe,' olo lonwabo luhlala ixesha elifutshane.
Kukangaphi uzibona iithegi ezingubeni, zijingiswe kwigunjana lakho kwiinyanga kamva? Ngaba ungatsho ukuba ihempe leyo ikuzisele uvuyo olufanayo njengokuchitha ubusuku kunye nabahlobo abasenyongweni? Yintoni enokubangela sonwabe ngakumbi? Ngokuchanekileyo, imemori yamava kunye nabahlobo bakho iya kuhlala izisa uncumo ebusweni bakho, ngelixa ihempe enethegi isehleliyo ilibalekile kwigunjana lakho.
Ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo kunye nosapho, usenza into oyithandayo, njengokuhamba ngemini enelanga, ukudlala nenja yakho, okanye ukuza endlwini yomhlobo wakho ukuze nincokole kunye nekomityi yekofu, ngamava kunye namaxesha angabizi mali kwaye iya kukuzisela ulonwabo xa ucinga emva kwabo kwiminyaka ezayo.
Abantu abonwabileyo bayayazi le nto, ke nokuba banazo iitoni zemali, abaxhomekeki kuyo ukuba bazizalisekise.
5. Abathathi Izinto ngobuqu
Abantu abonwabileyo bashiya i-egos yabo emnyango. Bazama ukuqonda ukuba zeziphi ezikhuthaza izenzo zabanye abantu ngaphambi kokutsiba kwizigqibo zokuba kutheni beziphatha ngendlela ethile.
Naxa begxekwa, okanye besenza impazamo, bathatha into kuyo (kukho ezo zinto zesilivere ziphinde zenziwe) kwaye baqonde ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke into ngabo. Bayayiqonda into yokuba sonke singabantu kwaye sonke ngokungathandabuzekiyo sijija ngelinye ixesha. Isitshixo kukungavumeli oko ukuba kuthathe ubomi bakho.
Abantu abazikhusela ngokugqithileyo, kwaye bakholelwa ukuba umhlaba uphume ubazuze ngandlela zonke, kunqabile ukuba, ukuba khe bavuyiswe. Bachitha ixesha labo bekhangela iintshaba apho kungekho nanye, kwaye babone iinjongo ezimbi emva kwawo onke amagama nezenzo. Kuyadinisa, kutyhala abantu kude, kwaye kuthintele ukuyilwa kobudlelwane obunentsingiselo (olo nxibelelwano sithethe ngalo ngaphambili).
Abantu abonwabileyo nabanobudlelwane obungcono nabanye ngabo bangathathi yonke into buqu. Banazo ukukhula ngokweemvakalelo ukubona ukuba abanye bathini na, indlela izenzo zabo ezinokubachaphazela ngayo, kwaye emva koko balungelelanise isimilo sabo ngokufanelekileyo. Banovelwano, kwaye aboyiki ndicela uxolo . Abakholelwa ukuba uxolo luyalahleka ebusweni, kodwa bayibone njengenxalenye yokukhula kwaye uba ngumntu ongcono .
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Sonke siyakwazi ukuba nezi mpawu zintle, kufuneka siqhubeke nokuzama. Ulonwabo ayingomdlalo wokuphela, luhambo olude lobomi. Yonwabela i-adventure yakho!
