Ufuna ukuba ngumntu ongcono, akunjalo? Kuya kufuneka uyenze okanye ngekhe ufunde eli nqaku. Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuphucula kuwe kwaye ukhule njengomntu ophantse kube nguDarwinian, nguwe kuphela onethemba lokupakisha izigidi zeminyaka yendaleko ebomini.
Amathuba kukuba, uthathe amanyathelo omntwana kuphela ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kwaye ufikelela kwinqanaba lokudideka ngokupheleleyo apho kungekho nto uzama ukuba ibonakale isebenza.
Uyabona, ingxaki kukuba uninzi lweengcebiso ezinikiweyo- ngabaqeqeshi, ootitshala, iigurus, kwaye, ewe, iiwebhusayithi ezinje-ziluhlobo oluthile, izinto zomgangatho ongaphezulu ongazukujongana nemicimbi ephambili esijongana nayo sonke. Sixelelwe ukuba yibani nembeko , ziqhelise ukuxolelwa, bulela konke esinako, hlonipha abanye , kwaye uyeke ukuthetha kakubi, blah, blah, blah.
Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, zonke ezi zinto yimizamo encomekayo oya kuthi uzuze kuyo ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, kodwa kunqabile ukuba kunikwe nantoni na ngemisonto engaphantsi ebabopha bonke kunye. Akukho mntu uthetha ngezinto eziyimfuneko apho konke ukuziphucula kuvela khona.
Eli nqaku liza kuzama nje-ukuveza iinyaniso ezingenakuphepheka zokuba ngumntu ongcono kunye nokuphila ubomi obungcono. Isenokungaphumeleli ngokulusizi kwaye unokucinga ukuba konke kungumthwalo wenkunkuma, kodwa ngethemba akunjalo.
Kanye ngelo xesha, masenze lo mboniso usendleleni…
1. Unxibelelwano lokuNika nokuBambisana
Ukubawa kubonakala ngathi kuphantse kwafakwa ezingqondweni zabantu, ilifa lelifa lethu lokhokho apho kwasinda kuphela abona banamandla. Sivame ukuthatha nantoni na esinako kwaye siqokelele izibonelelo njengemikhwebu emincinci efihla amandongomane alungele ubusika.
Nangona kunjalo akufuneki sijongane namaxesha obunzima njengezilwanyana zasendle. Ngokuqinisekileyo, sinokulahlekelwa yimisebenzi yethu okanye sizabalaze ngenye indlela ukuze siziphilise, kodwa, ubukhulu becala, asijongani nenyani yendlala minyaka le (sithetha umhlaba ophuhlileyo apha).
Kubuza umbuzo, ke, wokuba kutheni, njengamalungu ohlobo oluphambili kulo mhlaba, sisongelwe kubutyebi bethu nakwimpilo-ntle yethu.
Impendulo, ngokumangalisayo, kukuba mhlawumbi asizilungiselelanga ngokwethu njengoko iqala ukubonakala- sicinga ukuba sinjalo.
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Jonga nje ngeenxa zonke kuwe kwaye uzibuze ukuba zivela phi zonke izinto zakho eziphathekayo. Ngaba wenze itafile yekofu ngezandla zakho ezifanelekileyo? Ngaba uthunge iimpahla ozinxibileyo? Ngaba ukhulile iinkozo eziye kwisonka osicocileyo ngale ntsasa?
Hayi, ewe khange wenze njalo. Omnye umntu wenze.
Kangangokuba unganqwenela ukuqokelela ubutyebi bezezimali kunye nezinto eziphathekayo ukulungiselela inzuzo yakho, awunakuyiphepha into yokuba phantse yonke into ebomini bakho ixhomekeke kwabanye abantu. Imali yindlela yokutshintshiselana ngempahla kunye neenkonzo ngokufanelekileyo.
Oku, ke, sisikhombisi komnye wemigaqo ephambili yokuba ngumntu ongcono: uyaxhamla kwabanye kwaye nabo bayaxhamla kuwe.
Umbutho ulungelelwaniso olusulungekileyo apho u-2 + 2 = 5, kodwa uluhlu lwee-2s alupheli kwaye iziphumo zizinto eziluncedo kakhulu kuwo wonke umntu.
Yima, ndiyayazi ukuba ucinga ntoni .. ucinga ukuba 'kodwa ndinganikela ngaphezulu kwe-2, ke ngokuqinisekileyo ndiza kuphulukana nayo?'
Akulunganga! Ukuba, endaweni ka-2 + 2, sinemeko apho kungu-3 + 1 = 5, umntu ophethe aba-3 angabuza ukuba ingaba yeyona nto ibalungele na ukwabelana nabanye. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kuya kufuneka bohlule isi-5 kwaye baphele bengaphantsi kwesi-3 abasibekayo.
Iphosakele kwakhona! Le yingcinga ephosakeleyo kuba endaweni yokwahlulahlula isi-5 kwisiqingatha, iqela ngalinye elinomdla lifumana isibonelelo kwinto yonke yesi-5.
Beka ngale ndlela, ukuba ufuna ukwakha indlu, uyakufuna umyili wezakhiwo, injineli yolwakhiwo, umakhi wezitena, uphahla, umchweli, umbane wombane, umntu olungisa imibhobho yamanzi, nabanye abantu abaninzi ngaphandle.
Ngoku, uyilo kunye nenjineli eyakhiweyo inokukholelwa ukuba igalelo lazo lixabisa amaxesha amaninzi kunaleyo yezitena ephantsi, kwaye imivuzo kwilizwe lanamhlanje ibonakala ngathi iyavumelana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iqela ngalinye lifuna ukuhlala kwindlu egqityiweyo, kuya kufuneka basebenze kunye ukwenza oko.
Umakhi, nangona enokucinga ngaye njengeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kumatshini, uyakuphela engenophahla entlokweni yakhe ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokurhoxisa iinkonzo zakhe kuba, emehlweni akhe, abanye abazisi kangako itafile.
Ngokuqinisekileyo unokukwazi ukubeka intente, kodwa ngubani ofuna ukuhlala ententeni? Hayi, unokonwabela ubutofotofo bendlu yale mihla ukuba usebenza nabo bonke abanye abarhwebi ukuyakha.
Okanye thatha igqabi kwilizwe lezinambuzane ujonge injongo efanayo yembovane, intubi kunye nenyosi yobusi. Ngokuqinisekileyo bakho abo baneendima ezibaluleke ngakumbi kunabanye - ukumkanikazi kunye nabasebenzi bakhe abasondeleyo, umzekelo - kodwa ngaphandle kokuba ilungu elinye lekoloni lisebenzisane, ngekhe kubekho koloni lokuthetha.
Ke ngoku uphi lo myalezo ungathandekiyo we-analogies kunye ne-rhetoric ekhokelayo, usenokuzibuza. Ewe, yile: ukuba ngumntu olunge ngakumbi, kububulumko ukugxila ngakumbi kwinto onokuyinika abanye kunakwinto onokuyifumana njengembuyekezo.
Ukunceda abanye abantu , kuwo nawuphi na umthamo, yindlela yomlilo eqinisekileyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba igalelo lakho kwi-synergy equation likhulu kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Khumbula, akunandaba nokuba unika malini, uya kufumana isibonelelo esikhulu ngakumbi njengoko lonke likhula ngobukhulu.
Ewe, kukho icala elinoluvo kule ngxoxo kwaye, ewe, ngekhe unike abanye into yonke, kodwa apho unezixhobo ezingasetyenziswanga, unethuba lokubanikela ukuze kulungelwe wonke umntu. .
Akudingeki ukuba ibe sisipho semali enyanisweni, imali kunqabile ukuba ibandakanyeke. Imalunga nokunikela ngexesha lakho, izakhono zakho, ingqalelo yakho, nothando lwakho kunye nokukhathalela abanye.
Akudingeki malunga nokuzincama nokuba uzenzele wena kuqala xa kufuneka ungazicingeli nakancinci. “Ixesha lam” kubalulekile ukuba uzimisele kwaye ukwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba kwihlabathi elibanzi.
2. Akwanelanga Ukufuna Into
Akukho ngqondo inye ngaphandle engagcwaliswanga, ubuncinci inxenye, ngeemfuno kunye neminqweno. La maphupha ngamanye amaxesha anokulahlekiswa okanye acingelwe kakubi, kodwa akho phaya.
Ingxaki ngale nto icacile: awungekhe ufune nje into kwaye ulindele ukuba iwele ethangeni lakho. Akukho genie kwibhotile elinde ukukunika iminqweno emithathu.
Ukuba ufuna into, kuya kufuneka uphume ngasemva kwaye uyisebenzele. Kodwa bangaphi kuthi abakwenzayo? Kuyo yonke iminqweno neminqweno ekhoyo ezingqondweni zabantu ngoku, ucinga ukuba zingaphi izinto eziza kwenziwa?
Kwaye kufuneka uthathe inyathelo xa uza kuguqula iphupha libe yinyani.
Le ngxaki inokulinganiswa nenkqubo yanamhlanje yokhathalelo lwempilo esiyithandayo. Unesi sifo kwaye uya kugqirha ngethemba lokuba baya kukunika ipilisi ukuze ikunyange.
Ukuba bayakwenza oko, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba uyakuthatha ipilisi kwaye ube ngcono. Ukuba uya kugqirha kwaye, endaweni yoko, bayalela ukuba usebenze, uzolule, utshintshe indlela otya ngayo okanye indlela ophila ngayo, kukho ithuba lokuba uza kuzama ixesha elifutshane ngaphambi kokuba unikezele.
Nantsi into: akukho pilisi yomlingo yokukhula komntu ukuba bekukho, sonke siya kuphumelela kuyo.
Ukuze ube ngumntu ongcono, kuya kufuneka uzimisele ukubeka ufakelo oluqinileyo. Kuya kufuneka uthathe iinkqubo ezinyanzelekileyo ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, uyeke izinto okonwaba ngazo ngoku, kwaye unyamezele de kwenzeke utshintsho olufunayo (nangaphaya).
Nokuba ufunda ulwimi olutsha, ukunciphisa umzimba, okanye ukunyuka kwileli yomsebenzi, kuya kufuneka uthathe inyathelo lokuhlangana kunye nokuqhubeka ukuze ufike apho ufuna ukuba khona.
Kukho kunqabile naziphi na iindlela ezimfutshane ezikhoyo-nokuba ubutyebi bezemali bunemiqathango ukuba awukulungelanga ukusebenza nzima kwinto ethile.
Owu, kunye nenye into, uyikhumbule yonke le nto sithethe ngayo ngasentla? Oko kusebenza kuphela xa kuthathwa inyathelo. Unganqwenelela umntu okuhle okanye uthethe izinto ezintle, kodwa 'wena' obonwa ngumntu wonke ubukhulu becala yakhiwe yindlela ozenza ngayo nezinto ozenzayo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba 'wena' ubengcono, ke ekuphela kwento enengqondo oyenzayo kukuthatha inyathelo, kuba izenzo zakho zithetha kakhulu kunamazwi akho kwaye iingcinga zakho zonke zithule.
Ngaphandle kwentsingiselo nakuphi na ukona okukhulu, ukubeka umntu 'kwiingcinga zakho nasemithandazweni yakho' ayizukuyinqanda UKUBA kukho into esebenzayo onokuyenza.
Ngaba unomntu omkhathaleleyo ngokugula? Sukubanqwenelela nje ukuba bachache ngokukhawuleza, yiya apho, wonwabise imimoya yabo, uthathe ukutya okuphekiweyo ekhaya ukuze batye, ubacele ukubenzela imisebenzi yabo… wenze into. Oku kuya kuthetha ukuphindaphinda isigidi ngaphezulu kubo kunokuba ufumane iminqweno yakho emihle.
Uninzi lwethu lufihla ngasemva ngeengcinga zethu ezinentsingiselo kunye namagama ukunqanda izinto ezenza umahluko wokwenyani. Ewe, ukutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo nokuthetha ngayo nabanye kunokukwenza ube ngumntu ongcono, kodwa kukuhla nje kolwandle xa kuthelekiswa nobuhle onokuthi ubenze ngezenzo.
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3. Zinike ixesha elaneleyo
Mhlawumbi isizathu sokuba uninzi lwethu lunikezele ngotshintsho kungenxa yokuba sityeshela ukuthathela ingqalelo ukuba kungathatha ixesha elingakanani. Xa inkqubela ingabonakali kwangoko, kunokuba lula kakhulu ukubuyela kulwazelelelo.
Ukuba unqwenela ukukhula njengesiqhelo kwaye ube ngumntu ongcono, kuya kufuneka ukwamkele ukuba kuya kuthatha ixesha. Kuya kufuneka uyamkele le nyani kwaye ufunde ukubona uhambo, endaweni yesiphelo, njengeyona mpumelelo yakho iphambili.
Mzuzwana ngamnye osebenzela iinjongo zezesibini ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo njengefanelekileyo. Into inokuthatha iveki, inyanga, unyaka, okanye ubomi bonke ukuyigqiba, kodwa oku akufuneki kukuthintele ekuzameni.
Ngaphezulu, uza kuva ubunzima endleleni, ngoko ke nabo balungele. Nokuba ufuna ukutshintsha isimilo, phucula amathuba obomi bakho, okanye Fumana ulonwabo nolwaneliseko , kuya kubakho imiqobo yokoyisakala- ubuncinci engqondweni yakho.
Ukuba nentumekelelo kunye nokuzimisela ukuqhubela phambili ngaphandle kwemiceli mngeni ojamelene nayo kubalulekile ukuba uza kuphumeza le nto uyinqwenelayo.
Ukuba ngumntu ongcono akufuneki kunyanzelo olukhulu, kodwa nolona tshintsho lincinci luza kuthatha ixesha ukuba ube ngumkhwa. Musa nje ukubeka umda wexesha kwezi zinto kuba awunakuhlala uqikelela ukuba zingathatha ixesha elingakanani.
4. Yamkela Utshintsho Luyothusa
Ukuba ngumntu ongcono kunye nokuhamba kwindlela yokuzikhulisa kufuna isibindi, kuba utshintsho yinto eyoyikisayo.
Ukutshintsha ngokwakho kuyothusa ngakumbi kuba uqhele ukuba ngubani ngoku, ukuba umntu omtsha kufana nokuzalwa kwakhona kwilizwe elahlukileyo.
Ukuziphucula ngokwakho, nokuba kungokwasemzimbeni, engqondweni, okanye ngokomoya, kukutsiba ungaziwa, apho ikamva lingenakulinganiswa kwaye nesiphumo singaqinisekanga.
Kodwa, ewe, kunjalo malunga nayo yonke into ebomini. Kangangoko ungathanda ukuzama, ukuqikelela nokuba kusengaphambili kunzima kakhulu kwaye njengoko usiya phambili kwikamva, kuya kusondela kungenakwenzeka.
Kodwa ukhona umahluko, usenokucinga, kuba amaxesha amaninzi izinto zenzeka kuwe. Ukuba ngumntu ongcono, kwelinye icala, kufuna ukuba wenze izinto zenzeke kwaye kubandakanya uxanduva.
Lungile! Unoxanduva lotshintsho olwenzayo kubomi bakho kunye nefuthe elinokuba nalo kwabanye. Ude uzimisele ukwenza njalo yamkela olu xanduva , Uya kubanda ngenxa yokoyika entsha, inoveli, kunye nezinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle.
Kodwa khumbula oku: usizi lukhuselekile, ulonwabo luyothusa.
Ufunda eli nqaku, mhlawumbi, kuba ufuna ukuba ngumntu ongcono, kwaye ukuze wenze oko kuya kufuneka uyamkele loo nto utshintsho, ngelixa loyikisayo, alusoze loyikise njengokuma.
Isizathu sokuba singoyiki ukudodobala kungenxa yokuba kunqabile ukuba sicinge ukuba kuthetha ntoni. Xa uhlala phantsi ucinge ngobomi apho kungatshintshi nto, apho yonke into injengokuba injalo ngoku, uyaqonda ukuba obu ayibubo ubomi kwaphela.
Ubomi utshintsho, ubomi kukukhula, ubomi buziqhelanisa neemeko ezintsha nezahlukileyo. Nokuba iyenzeka kuwe okanye uyenza yenzeke, utshintsho alunakuphepheka awunakukhetha kwaye ululawule?
Isishwankathelo ke: ukuze ube ngumntu olunge ngakumbi kuya kufuneka uzame ukuzinika ngakumbi kwabanye, ulandela iminqweno yakho ngokuthatha inyathelo kwaye unamathele kuyo, uzinike ixesha lokuziqhelanisa notshintsho, kwaye woyise uloyiko lwakho malunga noko kunokuba kuthetha ukukhula nokukhula.
