Ukufunwa kolonwabo bekuqhubeka okoko abantu baqala ukwazi iimvakalelo zabo.
Senza konke okusemandleni ethu ukugcina izandla zethu ziqinile xa sisifumene. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukonwaba kuyashenxa kuthi kukuphithizela kobomi bethu obuxakekileyo.
Kukho uxinzelelo oluninzi ekufuneka sijongane nalo kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Mhlawumbi lilungu losapho eligulayo okanye isigulo esisesethu, umphathi olindele into engekho ngqiqweni, amatyala ayanda…
Okanye mhlawumbi yimeko yehlabathi-inokuba yindawo edandathekisayo ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi usebenzisa iindaba zazo zonke izinto ezimbi eziqhubekayo emhlabeni.
Imidiya yoluntu ayibhetele kakhulu. I-awash inetyhefu kwaye abantu babi omnye komnye.
qhubeka ukwahlukana kwaye ubuyelane
Zonke ezi zinto kunye nokunye kunokuluphelisa ulonwabo lwakho kude kube kushiyekile ukulufuna kwakhona.
Yintoni onokuyenza xa ufumanisa ukuba akukho nto ikwenza wonwabe?
1. Qwalasela imeko okuyo ukuze uchonge ukuba yintoni echitha ulonwabo lwakho.
Abantu banezinto ezininzi eziqhubekayo kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla kangangokuba kunzima kubo ukuhambisana nayo yonke into.
Ke inyathelo lokuqala kukuthatha uluhlu lobomi bakho kunye nemeko yangoku. Zeziphi izinto ezingathath'icala nezimbi ojongana nazo okwangoku? Izinto ezingathath'icala zibala kuba zifuna utyalomali lwamandla emvakalelo ukuze zikhathalelwe, kwaye akunakulindeleka ukuba zibonelele nakuphi na ukuphakamisa okuhle ebomini bakho.
Cinga ngoxinzelelo olwahlukeneyo ojongana nalo ngoku. Ngaba kuyasebenza? Ngaba ngabahlobo? Ngaba ubomi ngokubanzi? Ngaba amatyala akho? Ngaba kukungabikho kwexesha?
Yenza uluhlu lwezinto ocinga ukuba zikwenza ungonwabi.
2. Cinga ukuba zeziphi kwezi ngxaki ezinokusonjululwa kwaye njani.
Olu luhlu lwezinto ezimbi nezingathathi hlangothi eziqhubeka ebomini bakho sisicwangciso samanyathelo. Ezi ziingxaki ekufuneka uzizalisele amandla ekusombululeni ukuze ukwazi ukukhulula amandla emvakalelo ochitha kuwo.
Ngaba unabahlobo kunye nosapho abahlukumezayo okanye bakwenza uzive ungalunganga? Isenokuba lixesha lokuba uphinde uphonononge ukuba lingakanani ixesha obanika lona. Awufuni kuchitha ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo kunye ne-vampires yeemvakalelo okanye abahlukumezi abaya kuthi bonwabise ulonwabo lwakho.
Ngaba umsebenzi wakho uhlala usenza uxinzelelo? Ngaba zikhona iindlela onokuthi ulunciphise uxinzelelo? Guqula amasebe kwindawo okhoyo ngoku? Cela ukusebenza phantsi komphathi owahlukileyo? Qala ngokujonga kwaye ufake isicelo somnye umsebenzi onokuthi ungabinalo uxinzelelo oluninzi?
Ngaba ukungabikho kwemali kuyingxaki? Ngaba ungalwenza uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali ukuze ubone ukuba ichithwa phi imali yakho kwaye nokuba uyakwazi na ukuyilawula? Ngaba zikhona izinto ezingenamsebenzi onokuzicutha ukuze unike imali engakumbi ukuba uyiphose ekuphumeni ematyaleni? Ngaba zikhona iindlela onokwenza ngazo iidola ezimbalwa ngaphandle kokuzitshisa?
Sombulula nayiphi na imiba onokuyenza. Yiba krwada malunga nayo ukuba ufuna njalo.
3. Thatha ixesha lokudlala, lokuzilolonga nelokuphumla.
Ngaba uphila ubomi obuxakekileyo? Ngaba unento eziliwaka yokwenza nomsebenzi, ubudlelwane bakho, abantwana ukuba baphikisane? Ngaba unemihla esikiweyo ezayo? Ufuna ukufumana ivenkile kwivenkile? Ngaba ufuna ukujongana nesinki egcwele izitya? Ngaba ufuna ukugqobhoza indlela yakho kuloo mfumba yokuhlamba iimpahla?
Kuza kuhlala ikhona enye into yokwenza. Njalo.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba usebenze rhoqo ukuphumla kwaye udlale ebomini bakho. Vimba ixesha kwishedyuli yakho exakekileyo kuyo ukuba awukwazi ukuyifaka ngokulula ngenye indlela. Ukuba awukwenzi oko, uxanduva ekufuneka ulunakekele luya kuludla.
Ukuzilolonga kubaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni isithuba sengqondo esonwabisayo. Awugcini nje ukumila kwaye ugcine umzimba wakho usempilweni, kodwa ukwabangela ukuba ingqondo yakho ivelise imichiza oyifunayo ukuze ube ngumntu owonwabileyo.
Ukuzivocavoca kuhlala kunethemba lokuphila kwakho. Umzimba womntu wawungakhelwanga ukuba uhlale phantsi, nangona indlela yethu yangoku yokuphila ikukhuthaza.
Ufuna ukuphumla kunye nokudlala ukuze unike ingqondo yakho ikhefu kuyo yonke enye into ekufuneka uyenzile. Yenza ixesha kunye nendawo yokuyiphatha kwaye uyiphathe ngomxhuzulane ofanayo nolunye uxanduva lwakho. Ibalulekile loo nto! Kukuzinyamekela okufunekayo.
4. Yitya usempilweni, usele amanzi amaninzi.
Uyawasela amanzi? Ngokuqinisekileyo ayonelanga, ngendlela ukutya okusetyenzisiweyo kunye neziselo ezineswekile kunokusidambisa.
Ukutya okunempilo kunye namanzi zizinto ezimbini ezibalulekileyo zokugcina impilo yengqondo iphilile. Ukutya okungenampilo kunokuzenza mandundu ngakumbi iimeko zakho kwaye kukwenze uzive ungonwabanga ngokurhuqa iingcinga zakho kwisithuba esibi.
Ukutya neziselo ayisiyonto nje iyonwabisayo, kodwa zikwasisibaso esiyimfuneko ukuze umzimba nengqondo yakho uhlale usempilweni kwaye usebenza. Qiniseka ukuba ubeka izinto ezintle emzimbeni wakho.
Kwaye ngelixa ulapho, nciphisa izinto ezingalunganga.
Ukutya okungekho mpilweni ngokuchanekileyo yile - junk. Uninzi lwayo lwenzelwe ukuba lube mnandi kodwa kungabi sondlo. Nciphisa ukutya okune-junk, icaffeine, utywala, kunye nezinye izinto ezinokubeka ingqondo yakho phantsi kwaye zikugcine kulonwabo lwakho.
5. Cinga ukunceda ukuqhuba nokucoca iimvakalelo zakho.
Ukucamngca sisixhobo esimangalisayo ukufumana uxolo lwengqondo kunye nokucaca, okwenza indawo yolonwabo kunye novuyo ebomini bakho.
Kwaye ayisiyiyo into ye-metaphysical okanye i-woo. Ukucamngca sisalathiso, isenzo esizimeleyo osisebenzisayo ukwenza iimvakalelo, uzive kwaye ubayeke bahambe. Uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo ezingalunganga esinazo nathi kufuneka zikhutshiwe kwaye zikhululeke ezingqondweni zakho.
Hayi, ukucamngca akunakubangela ukuba iingxaki zakho zihambe okanye kukwenze ulunge ngezinto ongafanelekanga ukuba ulunge nazo. Into eya kuyenza kukunceda ukucoca eminye yemithwalo yeemvakalelo kunye nokungakhathali okunokuthi kuhlala kwiingcinga zakho.
Khangela ujikeleze i-intanethi okanye ivenkile yeapp okwexeshana, kwaye uya kuba nakho ukufumana ukucamngca kunye nokucamngca kwabaqalayo ngokulula.
6.Nxibelelana kwakhona nabantu, iindawo, kunye nezinto ozithandayo ezikonwabisa.
Ukukhulisa ulonwabo ubuyele endaweni esempilweni kufuna ukuba uchithe ixesha lakho kwizinto ezizisa uyolo novuyo kuwe.
Oko kunokuba kukuzonwabisa, indawo othanda ukuba kuyo, okanye abantu abanomdla othanda ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo. Mhlawumbi liqabane elithandanayo okanye i-BFF ethandekayo ekufuneka ubambe nayo. Mhlawumbi ijonge kwisitiya sakho seentyatyambo ukuze ubukele yonke ikhula kwaye ityatyamba.
Chitha ixesha unxibelelana kwakhona nezinto eziza kukuzisela ulonwabo kunye nolwaneliseko. Kwenze umkhwa rhoqo ukuthatha inxaxheba kwezi zinto ukuze uqhubeke nokwakha kwezo zinto zilungileyo.
7. Cinga ngoncedo lweengcali ukuba uyasokola.
Uxinzelelo ngumcimbi obaluleke kakhulu wezempilo onokufuna uncedo lweengcali ezinolwazi ukujongana nokoyisa.
Ufunda njani ukuthembela kwakhona
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awukwazi ukunxibelelana kwakhona nolonwabo lwakho okanye ungene kwisithuba esingcono seengqondo, ingayinto efanelekileyo ukubonisana nengcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuze usebenze kwisisombululo. Cofa apha ukufumana i-Therapist ekufutshane nawe okanye onokuqhagamshela naye kwi-Intanethi.
Akukho hlazo ekufumaneni uncedo lobungcali ukuba yile nto uyifunayo ukuze uphinde unxibelelane nolonwabo lwakho.
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