Ukuzinakekela yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokugcina impilo yakho iphela.
Siphila kwihlabathi elixakekileyo nelifuna izinto ngenkani nelifuna ukomelela okukhulu ukuze singatshi.
Ukuhlala ngenjongo ngaphakathi kweso siphithiphithi kuthetha ukuba kufuneka sizikhathalele iindawo zethu ezahlukeneyo ezinokuthi zichaphazele impilo yethu.
Ukuzinakekela ngokweemvakalelo yenye yeendawo zokugcina nokukhula ube ngumntu onempilo.
Ukuzikhathalela ngokweemvakalelo kugubungela icandelo elinye lomfanekiso omkhulu. Ibandakanya indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngathi, indlela esivakalelwa ngayo malunga nehlabathi, kunye nendlela esijongana ngayo noxinzelelo.
Ukuzinakekela ngokweemvakalelo kukwabandakanya indlela esinxibelelana ngayo nabanye abantu, luhlobo luni lwamandla esivumela kwindawo yethu, kunye nemida esizibekela yona kunye nabanye.
Injongo yokhathalelo lweemvakalelo kukuqinisekisa ukuba asizukuchitha iindawo zethu ezibonisa iimvakalelo ngelixa sizama ukugcina yonke into ephoswa bubomi kuthi.
Esi inokuba sisenzo sokulinganisa ngokugqithileyo ukuba uluhlobo lomntu ochitha amandla abo emvakalelo ebomini.
Abazali, abanonopheli, oonontlalontle, oosomashishini bonke banikezela ngesixa esikhethekileyo samandla emvakalelo.
Ukuzikhathalela ngokweemvakalelo kulunge ngakumbi xa kusenziwa kuba kuya kugcina oovimba bakho ekubeni bangadiphi kakhulu.
Cinga umphanda wamanzi. Ukuba uthulula iglasi enye yamanzi, kulula kakhulu ngaphezulu ukuphosa ingqayi ngomganyana nje wamanzi.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukhupha umphanda ugalela kwiiglasi zamanzi ezininzi, ke uya kufuna ixesha elininzi kunye namanzi ukuze uphinde uzalise ingqayi.
Ezi ndlela zokuzikhathalela ngokweemvakalelo zinokukunceda ugcine umphanda wakho uphakamile ukuze uthele okulandelayo.
1. Funda ukuthi “hayi”
Igama elithi 'hayi' sisixhobo esibalulekileyo sokukhusela amandla akho empilo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
Abantu baya kuthatha kwaye bathabathe kwaye bathathe ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa ngokwenyani okanye ukuqonda ukuba ikuchaphazela njani.
Kwaye basenokungayenzi ngenxa yokuba bengabantu ababi okanye bethetha ukuba wenzakalisa.
Banokuphulukana neengxaki zabo kwaye bangazi ukuba bathatha malini.
Ukukwazi kwakho ukuthi hayi kuya kukugcina ungazisebenzisi kakhulu.
Inqaku elidibeneyo: Ungatsho njani ukuba hayi ebantwini (kwaye ungaziva buhlungu ngayo)
2. Funda ukuseta nokunyanzelisa imida.
Imida inceda ukuhlakulela kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo.
Inyani yenyani yile, umntu okhathalele intlalo-ntle yakho akazukufuna ukukwenzakalisa. Abafuni ukuthatha kakhulu kuwe.
Ingxaki kukuba abanako nokufunda ingqondo yakho okanye bazi xa bethatha kakhulu ngaphandle kokuba ungatsho kwaye unyanzelise umda.
Abantu baya kutyhala ngokuchasene nemida ukuze babone ukuba uphi umgca, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba akunampilo.
Banokutyhala ngoba khange babone ukuba yintoni na nengamkelekanga okwangoku.
Ndikhumbula isithandwa sam kabuhlungu
Imida ikhusela impilo yakho yeemvakalelo. Benze bacace kwaye babambelele kubo.
3. Yamkela ngokwakho.
Kukho amandla amakhulu ekuzamkeleni ukuba ungubani na, kokulungileyo nokungalunganga.
Kwaye masijongane nayo, sonke sinemiba ethile yethu elungileyo nembi.
Unokwenza izinto ezintle kwabanye abantu, kodwa ube nomsindo omfutshane kunye nomonde omncinci kwiimpazamo.
Okanye mhlawumbi uthetha kakuhle kwaye uzama ukubenzela abanye into elungileyo, kodwa unobuvila kwaye awufuni ukwenza nantoni na kangangoko.
Isitshixo sokulungisa ezo ngxaki kwaye ungazichithi malunga nazo kukwamkela zonke iinkalo zakho.
Ukuba awuyamkeli ububi bakho ngokulungileyo kwakho, ke udala ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo ngaphakathi kuwe ngokungaphili ngokunyaniseka nesiqu sakho.
Kwelinye icala, abanye abantu kufuneka bafunde ukwamkela ukulunga kwabo ngokubi kwabo.
Abanangxaki yokuzidiliza ngenxa yazo zonke izinto ezimbi abazibona bezizo, kodwa banokuba nobunzima bokwamkela ukuba banokuba zizinto ezilungileyo nabo.
4. Funda ukwamkela ukunconywa.
Ngaba uziva ungakhululekanga xa unconywa?
Ngaba ucinga ukuba indumiso ayinabulungisa okanye ayimfuneko?
Ndicinga ukuba ndinemicimbi yokulahla
Ngaba uziva isidingo sokumncoma umntu ukuphelisa ukungathandeki?
Awudingi ukwenza nayiphi na kwezo zinto.
Ukwamkela ukuncoma kukwamkela ukuba omnye umntu ucinga ngokuqinisekileyo ngento oyenzileyo.
Into ekufuneka uyenzile kukuncuma kwaye uthi, 'Enkosi.'
Kwaye ucinga ntoni? Okukhona usenza oko, kokukhona kuya kubakho ukuziva ungonwabanga kwaye ungonwabanga.
Iimvakalelo zomntu onika ukuncoma zisebenza. Ungaphazamisi ulungelelwaniso lwakho lweemvakalelo ngokusebenza ukuze uqiniseke ukuba azikho.
5. Musa ukucela uxolo ngaphandle kokuba uzimisele.
Ukuxolisa ngezinto ezingezizo kwenza ukuba ungazithembi kwaye uphulukane nokuthenjwa ngabanye abantu kwilizwi lakho.
Ukuba uyaxolisa ngayo yonke imicimbi emincinci okanye izinto ongazisoli ngazo, abantu abakungqongileyo abayi kulithemba ilizwi lakho xa linobuzaza.
Ukuxolisa ngezinto ezingezizo ezakho ukuba ucele uxolo kukwamkela uxanduva loxanduva olunokuthi lungabi lolwakho.
Owona mandla abalulekileyo eemvakalelo achithwe kwaye noxinzelelo ngakumbi kukujongana nalo.
Inqaku elidibeneyo: Musa ukuXolisa! Yeka Ukuthi Uxolo Kakhulu + Yintoni Oyithethayo Endaweni
6. Kulungele ukucela uncedo xa ulufuna.
Ngaba uziva ukhathazekile? Ngaba ukhathazekile? Ayikwazi ukuqonda into?
Vumela ubabalo lokuba ungalunganga okanye ucele uncedo kumntu onokukunceda.
Akukho hlazo ekufuneni uncedo ukuba udidekile okanye awufumani sisombululo kwingxaki yakho.
Awunakho ukwazi yonke into. Ubomi bungaba buthuntu ngokupheleleyo ukuba sonke besisazi yonke into!
Baninzi kakhulu abanye abantu phaya abaneendlela ezahlukeneyo zokujonga, amava kunye nolwazi olunokukunceda ufeze iinjongo zakho.
Zikhangele! Iya kulwenza lula uhambo lwakho.
Kwaye uya kuba nakho ukubafundisa izifundo ezithile ezixabisekileyo ngokwakho!
Inqaku elidibeneyo: Ungalucela njani uncedo ngaphandle kokuziva ungonwabanga okanye unzima
7. Kuphephe ukugweba ukuba uziva njani.
Kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe!
Awunakuzigweba njani ngeemvakalelo onazo?
Ungaziva njani unetyala, ulusizi, okanye ungalunganga malunga nemvakalelo ethile?
Indlela elula (kodwa ayilula!) Kukuziva uvakalelo kwaye uyiyeke ihambe.
Okukhona uhlala ixesha elide kwiimvakalelo, kokukhona unethuba lokunikezela ezinye iimvakalelo kulo ezingafanelekanga ukuba zibekho.
Thatha ixesha lokuziva unemvakalelo, uyiqwalasele ngokwenene, ukuba kuthetha ntoni kuwe, kwaye kutheni uhlangabezana nayo.
Kwaye xa sele uyifumene loo nto, nyanzela imvakalelo ngaphandle nangaphandle ngokuzibandakanya kwezinye izinto okanye ukucinga ngezinye izinto.
Musa ukuzivumela ukuba uhlale.
8. Yamkela into yokuba ungumntu oneziphene.
Ubomi bunzima. Izicwangciso zethu ezibekwe kakuhle zinokutshatyalaliswa ziziganeko ngenxa yeemeko ezingalindelekanga okanye ngenxa yokuba senze impazamo.
Leyo yinxalenye nje yokuphila!
Kulungile ukuba ezinye zezicwangciso zakho aziphumelelanga. Kulungile ukuba izinto azihambi ngokupheleleyo njengoko ubucinga. Kwaye kulungile ukuba usilele, nangona uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uphumelele
iikowuti malunga nokufumana uxolo kwisiphithiphithi
Okanye mhlawumbi khange uzame obona bunzima bakho, kwaye isasilele. Nayo iyenzeka.
Yamkele kwaye uzame ukwenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo.
Isicwangciso khange sisebenze? Yenza isicwangciso esitsha, zama kwakhona.
Ukusilela konke lithuba lokufunda izinto ezintsha. Okukhona ufunda, kokukhona unokuzilungisa kwaye ulungelelanise isicwangciso sakho kude kube izinto zihamba ngendlela ofuna ngayo.
Ngokwamkela ezi mpazamo nokwazi ukuba awufezekanga, uya kulondoloza kwaye ukhusele amandla akho emvakalelo axabisekileyo.
Abantu bahlala bexinezelekile ngenxa yobuthathaka babo, kwaye akuyimfuneko ngokwenene.
Ayizukutshintsha siphumo kwaphela, ke mayiyeke. Zama ukwamkela izinto ukuba zinjani ngelixa usebenza ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho.
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