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Oko akuchukumisi nakwiimeko ezinje ngentlupheko, ukugula ngengqondo, kunye nokwenzakala.
Singakwazi njani ukuyilawula yonke loo nto kwaye sifumane uxolo lwengqondo kunye nolonwabo ebomini bethu?
Ukwahlulahlulahlulahlula yenye yeendlela zokunciphisa umthwalo weemvakalelo esiziphetheyo.
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokujonga ukwahlulwahlulwahlulwahlulwa ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko esizisebenzisayo.
Ingaba yindlela yokwenza umntu ukuba enze into abanokuyifumana ngokungathandabuzekiyo, okanye ingaba yindlela yokulawula kakuhle kunye nemithwalo yeemvakalelo.
Cinga ngejoni elisemfazweni. Usenokungafuni ukwenza izinto acelwa ukuba azenze, kodwa ubeka ecaleni ezakhe iimvakalelo kwaye enze umsebenzi wakhe nakanjani na kuba akanalo ukhetho.
Abantu bangonzakala okanye bafe ukuba akakwazi ukuvala iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye enze into ekufuneka eyenzile.
Ijoni elisemfazweni liza kungqina ngezinto ezoyikekayo, izinto ezingakwaziyo ukuyeka, ukucinga, kunye nokuziva ngalo mzuzu. Hayi, ufuna nje ukuvala ezo ngcinga kunye neemvakalelo kwaye aqhubeke.
Nangona esebenzise ukwahlulahlulwa njengesixhobo sokukhusela ukusinda kuloo meko, uya kuthi ekugqibeleni abuyele kwisikhongozeli sangaphakathi, asivule, asicwangcise kwaye asenze imixholo engaphakathi.
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Ukuvezwa kwakhe ekulweni kungakhokelela kwimicimbi yezempilo yengqondo, enokuthi ibe mandundu ngakumbi ukuba akaze abuye umva ngebhokisi yeengcinga zeemvakalelo namava.
Olu hlobo lokuchongwa kwamacandelo luyavakala kubantu abaninzi, kodwa akubonakali ngathi yinto oza kuyisebenzisa kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Ayiyo.
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Endaweni yoko, sifuna ukwahlulahlulahlula izinto eziqhubekayo kumava ethu obomi ukuzigcina zingophi kwaye ziphazamise nezinye iinxalenye zobomi.
Kukho iindlela eziphilileyo nezingenampilo zokuhamba malunga noko.
Yintoni i ihlala ingenampilo , kwaye uyakuba nexesha elizayo ngempilo yengqondo, kukuzivalela iimvakalelo kude kwiibhokisi ezitywinwe ngokuqinileyo ezingqondweni zakho.
Ezo bhokisi azihlali zivaliwe unaphakade. Baqala ukuqhekeka bavule ivumba elibi elenza inkumbulo, batyelele indawo apho kwenzeke into embi, ukudibana nomntu owenze into embi kuwe, okanye i-subconscious yakho iqalisa ukukhaba olo lwazi kumaphupha akho oza kujongana nawo.
Ukuqhubekeka kolo hlobo lomthwalo onzima kunokuba nzima kwaye kunokufuna uncedo lwengcali yezempilo yengqondo eqinisekisiweyo.
Ukwahlulwa ngokwamacandelo asempilweni kwelinye icala sisixhobo esinokusisebenzisa kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla ukunceda ukunciphisa ubunzima bobukho, ukugcina uxolo lwethu kunye nokufuna ukonwaba.
Yintoni injongo yokuHanjiswa kwamaCandelo?
Umbono wokumisela ukwahlula iimvakalelo zakho kunye nobomi kukunganiki ingqalelo engafanelekanga okanye egqithileyo kwimicimbi engayifuniyo.
Ukwahlula ezi zinto ezithile kwaye uzifaka kwibhokisi yazo, kwaye uvula kuphela loo bhokisi xa ufuna ulwazi, isisombululo, okanye ujongana nemeko efanelekileyo.
Ukuthatha le ndlela, uqeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuba ingahlali kwizinto ezingafunekiyo.
Masithi uAlison akahambelani kakuhle nonina. Umama umbiza kusasa ngechitchat ngokubanzi enikezela ekugxekeni ukhetho lobomi luka-Alison.
UAlison ukhe wazama ukuqiqa nomama wakhe malunga nokuba ngqwabalala kwakhe, oku kubonakala ngathi kufikelela ezindlebeni ezingevayo.
Akafuni ukusika umama wakhe ebomini bakhe, kuba uyamthanda umama wakhe, kwaye umama wakhe ungumntu olungileyo ngokubanzi kungenjalo.
UAlison wayenokuvumela ukuba le ncoko imkhathaze imini yonke ngokucinga ngayo kunye nokudana kwakhe ngezenzo zikamama wakhe.
… Okanye avume iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakhe malunga nemeko emva komnxeba, kwaye azinyanzele ukuba angacingi ngemeko leyo xa sele egqibile.
Ngalo lonke ixesha ezifumanisa ukuba uzama ukubuyela ekucingeni ngokukhathazeka kwakhe nonina, unyanzela ingqondo yakhe kwindlela eyahlukileyo ngokucinga ngento efanelekileyo ahambela kuyo.
Mhlawumbi unoxanduva lomsebenzi okanye into azonwabisa ngayo ekufuneka egxile kuyo. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba yintoni, ukuba nje yeyenye into.
Into angayenziyo kukuqhubeka nokuhlala kunye nokujongana nonxibelelwano awayenalo nonina.
Olu hlobo lobuchule lunokusetyenziswa kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.
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Ndibeka njani iCandelo?
Inkqubo yokwenza amacandelo kulula ukuyiqonda, kodwa kunzima ukuyazi.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba uneebhokisi engqondweni yakho. Ibhokisi nganye izakuqulatha iingcinga zento ethile efuna ukuphathwa.
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Masithi uAlison naye ngusomashishini kwaye uyahamba nokwahlukana okubi. Unokulandela le nkqubo ukubeka ezi zinto kumacandelo abo.
1. Chonga iimeko neemeko ezifuna ukwahlulwa-hlulwa.
Kunokuba luncedo ukuhlala phantsi kunye notepad kwaye wenze uluhlu lweemeko kunye neemeko ezifuna ukwahlulwa.
2. Chonga ukuba zeziphi iingcinga, amaxhala kunye neemvakalelo eziya kwibhokisi nganye.
Ngaphantsi kwento nganye, uAlison uya kubhala phantsi naziphi na iingcinga ezinxulumene noko okanye amaxhala ahamba kunye nento ethile.
Ugcwalisa iibhokisi zakhe ngezi ngcinga kunye neemvakalelo ukuze azi ukuba yeyiphi na.
3. Chonga amaxesha afanelekileyo okujongana nokubhalwe kwezi bhokisi, ukuba kufanelekile.
Ubomi abuhambelani kakuhle ebhokisini, kungakho amaxesha apho ungakhethi ukuvula ibhokisi ujongane nento.
Ngamanye amaxesha uphela ufuna ukujongana nezo zinto njengoko zisiza.
Njengomama ka-Alison uthatha isigqibo sokufowunela ngokungacwangciswanga, ufumana i-imeyile enomsindo evela kumthengi malunga nemveliso ephosakeleyo, okanye i-ex yehla ngokungalindelekanga ukuba athathe ezinye izinto zakhe.
Ezo ntlobo zokungenelela azihlali ziphepheka.
Kodwa ukuxelwa kwangaphambili kunceda apho kunokwenziwa khona.
UAlison unokucwangcisa ixesha leveki ukuba athethe nomama wakhe, asuse naziphi na ii -apps ze-imeyile kwifowuni yakhe kwaye ajonge i-imeyile yakhe ngexesha elithile, kwaye asebenze nexesha lokuba i-ex yakhe izokufumana izinto zayo.
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Oko kuqikelela kuthetha ukuba akazukuvula ezo bhokisi xa kungeyomfuneko. Unako ukugxila kwinto ephambi kwakhe ngoku.
4. Ngokwenene thatha ixesha lokuvula ezo bhokisi kwaye wenze imixholo.
Nje ukuba wahlule ezi zinto kwiibhokisi zazo, qiniseka ukuba unamathela kuyo nayiphi na ishedyuli okhethe ukuyilungisa.
Ukuthintela kunye nokuzibekel 'amangomso kunokuba yingxaki xa usenza iicandelo. Musa ukulibala malunga nento, kwaye ungayiphephe loo nto. Vula kwaye uvale le bhokisi xa ilixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza njalo.
5. Sebenza ukugcina izinto kwiibhokisi zabo de kube lixesha lokuba ujongane nazo.
Le yinxalenye enzima.
Ekuqaleni, uAlison uya kufumanisa ukuba kunzima ukugcina ezi zinto kwiibhokisi zabo okanye ukuba azinakulunga ngokupheleleyo ebhokisini.
Uya kuzihambisa kwakhona iingcinga zakhe ngokujolisa kwenye into, njengomnye umsebenzi ebefanele ukuba usebenza kuwo, into ephumlayo, okanye yokucoca ingqondo yakhe ngokucamngca.
Xa egqibile ukuphatha imixholo yebhokisi, kufuneka ayivale kwaye ayibeke ecaleni ngokuguqula ingqondo yakhe ajonge kwinto eyahlukileyo. Le nkqubo iqeqesha ingqondo yakhe ukuba isebenzise iibhokisi.
Ukuphindaphinda umkhuba kwenza kube lula ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye ekugqibeleni kuya kuba yendalo njengawo nawuphi na umkhwa.
UAlison ufuna ukuziqhelanisa kunye nexesha- amaqashiso Ukuziqhelanisa nokuzama ukuqhubeka kwexesha.
Kwaye ukuba olu hlobo lokuqonda kunye nokuhlelwa kwamacandelo lutsha kuwe, nawe uya kuba njalo.
Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba kuthatha iinyanga ngaphambi kokuba uqale ubone imikhwa yeempawu kwaye uzive uxhamla noxinzelelo.
Kodwa musa ukunikezela! Ukwahlulwahlulwa kwamacandelo sisakhono umntu anokufunda kuso kwaye axhamle kuso.
