Ulonwabo phantse ngokuqinisekileyo lusondele kolona luhlu lweminqweno yabantu ebomini, kodwa uninzi luyasokola ukuligcina nakweyiphi na ubude bexesha ngenxa yeenkolelo ezithile ezonakalisayo abanazo.
Kweli nqaku, siza kususa ezona ntsomi zixhaphakileyo sizixelela zona, ukuze zingaphinde zikugcine ukwimeko yokungonwabi okungapheliyo.
Intsomi # 1: Ukonwaba kwam kuxhomekeke ebantwini nakwizehlo endizithathayo
Uluvo olugwenxa ngokubanzi malunga nolonwabo kukuba luxhomekeke kumagama nakwizenzo zabanye abantu, kwaye nakwiimeko ozifumana ukuzo.
Ngelixa uhlala ukonwaba phakathi kwabanye okanye xa iziganeko zihambile, ukuthi inokwenzeka kuphela ngenxa yezi zinto kuyinyani.
indlela yokuxelela umahluko phakathi kwenkanuko nothando
Ngapha koko, ngelixa abantu kunye neziganeko zidlala eyazo indima ekwenziweni nasekuthinteleni ulonwabo, ezona zinto zisisiseko zahlukile. Siyavuya xa iingxaki zethu, inkxalabo, uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo zinyibilika kwisisombululo sendalo yonke ngalo mzuzu.
Njengoko iingqondo zethu ziyeka yonke imithwalo yethu, indawo ivulela enye into-ukuba into ihlala iyonwabile. Abantu kunye neziganeko zinokusinceda ukuba singene ngoku kwaye sizihlambulule kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki esinokujamelana nayo, okanye zinokusinika isizathu sokukhathazeka-kodwa zinokwenza kuphela ukuba siyazivumela.
Kanye njengokuba ungafumana amaxesha olonwabo ngexesha lesiphithiphithi esikhulu, ungabethwa ngamafu amnyama engqondweni yakho ngaphandle koxolo olubonakalayo kwimeko yakho yangoku.
Intsomi # 2: Ukonwaba kwam kuza kufika xa ekugqibeleni ndine [X]
Enye inkolelo malunga nolonwabo oluhlala luthintela ukuba singaziva kukuba siya kulufumana kwakamsinya nje ukuba siphumelele okanye sibe nento.
Singazixelela ukuba ulonwabo luza kubonakala kwangoko nje ukuba sifumane olo nyuselo, sifumane imali ethe chatha, sibe nabanikazi baloo ndlu, sihambe olohambo, sifumane umntu okhethekileyo, sifezekise loo njongo, okanye sibe nosapho olo.
Le yingxaki kuba asinakucacisa ngokuchanekileyo ukuba ikamva lisigcinele ntoni. Ukuba sivumela ukonwaba kwethu kuxhomekeke kakhulu ekufumaneni izinto ezithile, emva koko sizibeka kudano xa zingenzeki.
Oku kunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo kunye namanqaku enziwe kwinani lokuqala sizama ukufikelela kwiinjongo ezithile ukuze sizikhulule kwintlungu kunye nokungakhululeki esiziva, kodwa ukonwaba kwethu akunako kwaye akunakuxhomekeka kumava angaphandle kunye nenkuthazo.
Intsomi # 3: Akukho nto ilungileyo yakha yenzeka kum
Abanye abantu bathwaxwa yinkolelo efihlakeleyo yokuba bamiselwe ukungonwabi ukuba izinto ezintle azide zibekho.
Ngelishwa, yile Ingqondo yexhoba oko kuhlala kuthintela ulonwabo ekuqhumeni ngokuzenzekelayo ebomini babo. Xa uzibandakanya kule ndlela yokucinga ingenathemba, iyaphazamisana nendlela olibona ngayo ilizwe elikungqongileyo. Iyakumfamekisa kuwo nawuphi na umthombo wolonwabo kwaye ikwenze ube novakalelo olukhulu kuzo zonke izinto ozibona njengezimbi.
Uphoswa lulonwabo ngokoqobo kuba uqinisekile ukuba alukho kwaye uxakeke kakhulu kukukhangela zonke izinto ezingamkelekanga. Oku kugxila kukwenza ukholelwe kwithamsanqa lakho nakwithamsanqa labanye, nokuba akunasiseko sokwenyani na.
Intsomi # 4: Iingcinga ezimbi okanye iimvakalelo azilunganga
Ukungaqondi okuqhelekileyo malunga nolonwabo kukuba kuyafa xa kusenzeka iingcinga okanye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, kanti, enyanisweni, kunokuba ngala maxesha xa imbewu yolonwabo ihlwayelwe.
Isizathu soku kukuba xa thina Veza ezi ngcinga kunye neemvakalelo , iyinxalenye yenkqubo yokuphilisa efikelela kuvuthondaba ngokuthi samkele kwaye sidlulele kubo. Ukuba sizama ukucinezela ezi mvakalelo, asinakho ukuqhubekeka nokusombulula oyena nobangela wazo. Baye ke bakhule ngaphakathi iingqondo ezingekho zingqondweni , wasirhuqa njengamatye obunzima entanyeni.
Indlela esempilweni yazo zonke iimvakalelo - ezilungileyo nezingalunganga- kukuzivumela ukuba ziqhume ngaphakathi kwaye zibonise ngaphezulu. Logama ungabenzakalisi abanye abantu, kulungile ukuba uzive ukhathazekile, wenzakele, okanye nokuba ungonanje enomsindo naxa usenza njalo, ingqondo yakho iyakuqala ukuza ngokwenzekayo kwaye ekugqibeleni izakudlula.
umfana endithandana naye akanaxesha lam
Imvakalelo echaziweyo, esonjululwe, neyamkelweyo yile iphela msinyane kwaye oku kuvumele ulonwabo ukuba luphume kwakhona. Ukuzibamba iimvakalelo zakho kudala umqobo kulonwabo.
Intsomi # 5: Into endiyicingayo malunga neMeko ilungile
Ulonwabo luhlala luphulwe kukungqubana nabanye abantu. Oku kwenzeka xa iingcinga zakho ngento ethile ingqubana nezo zomnye umntu.
Le ngxaki ilele ekwamkeleni komntu ukwamkela ukuba oko bacinga ukuba akunakuba yinyani okanye inyani. Nanini na xa oku kusenzeka, kunokwenzeka ukuba ibe ngumcimbi wexesha kuphela ngaphambi kokuba impikiswano yenzeke, ngokungathandabuzekiyo iphazamise uxolo nolonwabo ebelungaphambi kwayo.
Ngaphezu koko, akufuneki nokuba kube yinto ephikisanayo nomnye umntu kuba ukuqonda nje kweembono ezichaseneyo kunokudala impikiswano yangaphakathi kwengqondo. Unokufunda, uve, okanye ubukele ezinye izimvo zivakaliswa kwaye uzifumanise ukuba uyasebenza kuzo.
Nanini na xa ungakwazi ukwamkela ukuba umbono wakho ingenguwo wedwa umbono, ulonwabo luya kuba nzima ukukhula.
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Intsomi # 6: Ukusilela kubi
Sele sithethile malunga nendlela ezenzeka ngayo izinto, izinto onazo, kunye nempumelelo engalawuli inqanaba lakho lolonwabo, kodwa kuninzi ekumele kuthethwe ngokuzama kunye nokufumana izinto ezintsha.
Yi isenzo sokwenza, ukuzama, kunye nokufunda okunika iziseko kulonwabo endaweni yokuba ungaphumeleli okanye ungaphumeleli, kodwa uninzi lwethu lubambelele kwinkolelo yokuba ukusilela kuyinto embi.
Xa u uloyiko ukusilela , uyakukhathalele nokwenza inzame kwaye oku kukunika ithuba elingu-zero lokonwabela isenzo sokwenza nokuzama. Kufana nokuya elunxwemeni kwaye ungayakhi isanti ngenxa yokuba uyayazi indlela yokuyihlamba - uyaphoswa lulo lonke ulonwabo lokuba nalo ulwakha kwasekuqaleni.
Ukwamkela ukungaphumeleli akulunganga kwaphela kuyakukhulula kwintolongo yokungenzi nto, ethi yona ivule umnyango wokufumana ulonwabo.
izinto zokwenza xa udikiwe ekhaya wedwa
Intsomi # 7: Ukucela Uncedo Ngaba luphawu lobuthathaka
Xa silwa nengxaki ethile okanye uvakalelo, imeko-bume yangaphakathi ayisiyiyo eyonwaba. Ke, ngokukhawuleza ukuba sikwazi ukujongana nayo, ngokukhawuleza singaphinda samkele ulonwabo ebomini bethu.
Ungacinga, emva koko, ukuba ukucela uncedo kwabanye kuyakuza lula kuthi kuba siza kuyibona njengendlela yokukhawulezisa uhambo lwethu ukubuyela kwimeko yolonwabo lwengqondo. Ukanti, abantu abaninzi bakubona ukufuna uncedo njengophawu lokuba babuthathaka okanye abakwazi.
Le nkolelo yobuxoki iqhubela phambili ukubandezeleka kwethu ngokusithintela ekufuneni izisombululo ezingaphandle kweengqondo zethu. Boyise obu buxoki kwaye uya kuchitha ixesha lakho elincinci ulichithe kwimicimbi enengxaki kunye neemvakalelo, eziphinda zikunike ixesha elininzi lokonwabela imeko yolonwabo.
Intsomi # 8: Ixesha lam elidlulileyo liyandithintela ukuba ndonwabe
Rhoqo, abo basokolayo ukufumana ulonwabo ebomini babo benjenjalo ngenxa yomothuko okanye isiganeko esidlulileyo. Bakholelwa ukuba izinto ezimbi ebezifike ngaphambili ziyabathintela ekufumaneni ulonwabo ngoku.
Ngelixa izehlo ezidlulileyo zinokuhlala engqondweni ubomi bonke, iimvakalelo ezihamba nazo akufuneki zithethe ubukho obungenalo ulonwabo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ulonwabo luvakala kuphela xa ingqondo ikho ngokupheleleyo kule meko, akukho zinkumbulo okanye iingxaki zangaphambili ezinokungena.
Ke, nokuba zinokukhathaza kangakanani iziganeko zangaphambili, iinkumbulo kunye neemvakalelo zinokuthintela ulonwabo ukuba uyazivumela. Akukho nto ithi abanakoyiswa.
Intsomi # 9: Awunakulufunda Ulonwabo
Abanye abantu bathobekile nje kunabanye kwaye yindlela ekufanele ukuba ibe yiyo- okanye ubuncinci, yile nto abantu abaninzi bakholelwa kuyo.
Ngokwenyani, akukho nto ikuthintelayo ekubeni wenze ulonwabo ngokwendalo nangokwesiqhelo kunokuba kunjalo ngoku. Uphando ngakumbi nangakumbi lubonisa ukuba isimo sengqondo esihle , leyo ikhuthaza ukuthabatheka rhoqo kolonwabo, yinto enokufundwa.
Kukho izinto onokuzenza ukufaka esi simo sengqondo kuwe, kubandakanya, kodwa kungaphelelanga apho, ukuzilolonga, ukutya, ukulamla, ingqondo, umbulelo kunye ukufumana ibhalansi phakathi komsebenzi nokudlala.
