Ngaba ujonge ukufumana uxolo kunye nolonwabo ngokwasemoyeni?
Ngaba uzabalazela ukuqonda ngcono indawo yakho kwindalo iphela?
Ngaba uyabuza ukuba yeyiphi indima oyikhonzayo kwisikimu esikhulu sezinto?
Umntu angafunda okuninzi ngokujonga amava abanye abaye bahamba iindlela phambi kwethu, beshiya imiqondiso yokunceda ekufumaneni indlela. Ukuthabatha ulwazi lwabanye ukuze sandise kwaye sandise ubumoya bethu yeyona nto yenziwe kakuhle ngokungathanga ngqo. Ootitshala abagqwesileyo bakuxelela ukuba ujonge phi, kodwa ayisiyiyo le uyifunayo.
Ngoba? Kuba…
1. Bayayiqonda into yokuba wonke umntu uhamba eyakhe indlela.
Ubomi bunokuba sisiphithiphithi kuxanduva kwaye uxinzelelo . Wonke umntu ulawula ubomi ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ngesantya esahlukileyo.
Umntu oqolileyo ngokomoya uyaqonda ukuba wonke umntu ngumntu, kwaye eyona nto ilungileyo kubo isenokungabi yeyona ilungileyo kwabanye. Le imibala inikezela ngenkxaso okanye iingcebiso kwabanye abantu.
Bathatha ixesha lokujonga omnye umntu, umbono wabo, iimfuno zabo kunye neminqweno yabo, kwaye bazame ukunceda loo mntu afumane izisombululo.
Oko akuthethi ukuba abaze banikeze isikhokelo okanye ingcebiso ngqo-ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukufumana umntu kwindlela elungileyo! Kodwa ayisiyiyo le nto bayilelayo kuyo. Endaweni yoko, bafuna ukubona umbono omkhulu onokunceda omnye umntu afumane isisombululo esifanela indlela yabo.
2. Abakhathali ziinkolo zabanye.
Iinkolelo ezithandwayo zonqulo nezenkolo zithande ukwenziwa ngendlela ekunzima ukuba abanye abantu bayazi. Akunjalo ezinye iingcali ezinokufumana umhlaba oqhelekileyo, kodwa ubudlelwane bomntu kunye nendalo kunye nendalo.
Abantu banokuza kwinkolo kuba bezama ukuqonda indawo yabo kwindalo iphela okanye banomzuzu wokwaziwa kunye nokuvuka okubasondeza.
Kodwa umntu okhule ngokunzulu ngokwasemoyeni uya kuyazi ukuba inkolo yomntu ayibalulekanga.
Ububele, ukuthathela ingqalelo, ukuxolela, nothando zonke ezi mpawu zishunyayelwa phantse kuzo zonke iinkolo kunye neendlela ezininzi zokomoya. Kwaye akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube unqulo ukuze ube ngumzimba kwaye uziqhelise rhoqo nezi mpawu. Ukunyamezelana kunye nokuhlonipha iinkolelo zabanye kwakha iibhlorho kunye nokuqonda.
3. Benza ububele nothando rhoqo.
Ukuchaza uluhlu lothando ngaphandle komda okanye ukubanakho kweli nqaku. Kodwa, iqhekeza elinye lothando linyathelo.
Uthando ayisiyonto nje yokuziva, yinto efuna umsebenzi kunye nomzamo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba ngumceli mngeni khetha ukwenza uthando, ukwandisa ububele kunye nothando kubantu abanokuba nethamsanqa okanye abasokolayo, ngakumbi ukuba unamava amabi ngenxa yako.
Asinguye wonke umntu obuxabisayo ububele, ukuqonda, okanye isisa. Abanye abantu abakhathali kwaphela okanye bazame ukuthatha ithuba kuba bebona ububele njengobuthathaka. Kodwa ububele ayibobuthathaka. Ububele ngamandla ngenxa yokuba kulula ukubanda, ukude, nokuzimela kolu hlaselo silubiza ngokuba luluntu.
4. Bayayiqonda into yokuba kufuneka bazithande, bathande nabanye.
Uthando aluyonto esinika abanye kuphela. Umntu oqolileyo ngokomoya uya kuba sempilweni ukuzithanda .
Ithetha ntoni le nto?
Kuthetha ukuqonda ukuba kulungile ukuba nayo imida kunye nemida kulungile ukuba ungazivumeli ukuba uphathwe kakubi okanye uhambe phezu kwayo kulungile ukubeka iimfuno zakho phambili kwiimfuno kunye neminqweno yabanye.
Abantu abakukhathalele ngokwenene kunye nokuba sempilweni kwakho abayi kufuna ukuba uziguqulele ngaphakathi ubenzele. Kwaye umntu oqolileyo ngokomoya uza kujonga ukuzithanda njengemfuneko.
Ukuzithanda akukhona malunga nokuzithemba okanye ukuziva ulungile ngesiqu sakho. Kukwamalunga nokuthintela ngokukuko isixa somonakalo omnye umntu anokufaka kuwe.
Uluvo lokungazicingeli luthando, lusebenza kakuhle kwiimovie nakwiincwadi, kodwa alusebenzi kakuhle kuqheliso oluqhelekileyo. Thembela, kodwa qinisekisa. Kwaye ungathandabuzi ukuba kukho into ebonakala ngathi ayisebenzi okanye ayiziva ilungile malunga nemeko ethile.
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5. Bayazi ukuba zininzi iinyaniso kunye nemibono.
Umntu oqolileyo ngokwasemoyeni uyazi ukuba akukho mntu unokuba nazo zonke iimpendulo kule phazili esiyibiza ngokuba bubukho. Uninzi lwabantu alunaso nesiqwenga seempendulo.
Ugqirha unokuya esikolweni iminyaka eyi-8-10, achithe ixesha lokuncwina, kwaye abe nexesha elide nelibalaseleyo kwikhondo abalikhethileyo. Olo lwazi kunye nembono zibalulekile kakhulu! Kodwa, naloo mzimba wolwazi abawakhileyo awusebenzi kumceli mngeni ojongene nawo.
Umntu owaziyo ngokomoya uyaqonda ukuba zininzi iinyaniso emhlabeni, kwaye akukho namnye unako ukuzazi zonke. Ayazi nje kuphela ukuba ayinakuthembisa loo nto kwabanye, kodwa ayinakulindela nayo.
6. Abalimoshi ixesha labo ukuba nomsindo okanye ukungxambulisana okungenanjongo nabanye.
Umsindo yimvakalelo efanelekileyo yomntu. Ayisiyonto iluncedo kakhulu ngaphandle kokuba isetyenziselwa ukwenza isenzo esinentsingiselo, nesiluncedo.
Yintoni inqaku lomsindo okanye ukuphikisana nabanye? Ngaba ingqondo yomntu ikhe itshintshwe ngumntu obangxolayo? Ngaba ukucaphuka kunceda nabani na? Ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa hayi rhoqo.
Ubukho bunokuba namandla njengomsindo. Abantu abazi ngokwasemoyeni bayaqonda ukuba ingqumbo yinto efuna ukwakhiwa. Ngaphandle koko uvala nje umoya Ikrakra kwaye ijade.
7. Bayazi ukuba uthando nemfesane azisoloko zilula okanye zonwabile.
Kuninzi ebhaliweyo malunga nobushushu kunye nokukhanya kothando nemfesane. Akukho nto ingako ibhaliweyo malunga namacala amnyama othando.
Ukuthanda nokukhathalela nabani na kuthetha ukuba kuya kubakho iintlungu nosizi ukuhamba. Ubomi bunzima kwaye ihlala isiphosa kwimiceli mngeni engalindelekanga enokusenzakalisa.
Ngeliphandle, kulula ukuba nexesha elimnandi naye nabani na ukuba uzama ngokwaneleyo. Abantu bahlala bekhwela amaza e intabatheko kwaye inkanuko , Ukucinga ukuba uthando lulonwabo kuphela.
Ayiyo.
Uthando luhleli ebumnyameni nabantu obakhathaleleyo, kwaye nabo benza okufanayo kuwe.
Kutheni kunjalo?
8. Bayayiqonda into yokuba uthando lungaphezulu kokuziva - lukhetho.
Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukukhetha.
Ulwimi lomzimba umfana uyakuthanda emsebenzini
Ngamanye amaxesha, sikhetha umntu ongafanelekanga ukuba andise kuye kuba loo mntu akakhethanga ukukunika. Oko akuthethi ukuba sikhetha ukuba ngubani onobubele, iimvakalelo ezifudumeleyo zothando lwethu. Amaxesha amaninzi awunakukhetha oko.
Kodwa into esiyikhethayo kukuba sikulungele ukuva ubunzima ecaleni nokuba kutheni. Kutheni le nto ingafuneki nokuba nzima.
Thina, njengoluntu, siluvuthulule uthando lwalo mqengqeleki weentsomi, ulonwabo, kunye neziphelo ezimnandi kodwa akunjalo. Izenzo zothando akufuneki zibalasele. Zingaba lula njengokubeka iimfuno zokoqobo kuye nawuphi na umntu ngaphambi kokufuna kwakho.
Umntu onolwazi ngokomoya uyayiqonda into yokuba ukukhetha izinto ezincinci zothando kunokwenza impembelelo enkulu kubomi bomnye umntu, nokuba kuyabanceda okanye akunjalo.
