Makhe sandule le ngokuthi wonke umntu uthanda izinto ezahlukeneyo…
Abanye abantu bayakuthanda ukusondela kubo ngumntu ozithembileyo oyenza icace into abayifunayo.
Abanye bakhetha ukuhamba kancinci kwaye bayidlale ukuze babone indlela abavakalelwa ngayo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba uza kuza unamandla kakhulu ukuba unganomdla othile ebomini bakho, nantsi ingcebiso.
Ndihlala ndimthumelela imiyalezo kuqala kodwa uhlala ephendula
Kuthetha ntoni ukuza womelele kakhulu?
Ukuza ngamandla kakhulu kuthetha ukuba ubukhali ngokwenene emntwini kwaye uveza iimvakalelo ezigqitha ngaphaya kokufanelekileyo kunikwa ixesha olaziyo.
Oko kunokuthetha ukuba uthethe ngokuba nzulu ngokukhawuleza okukhulu emva kokwazi umntu othile, oko kunokuthetha ukuba uziqhushumisa ngezicatshulwa ngqo emva komhla wakho wokuqala, okanye oko kunokuthetha ukuba ungumntu onomdla kakhulu kwaye uye phambili ngaphambi kokuba kufanelekile ukwenza njalo.
Zeziphi iimpawu zokuza ngamandla?
Nazi iimpawu ezi-6 oza ngamandla. Uya kuqaphela uninzi lwazo lunegama elithi 'kananjalo' ekunika uphawu olucace gca lokuba ukuzomelela kuko konke malunga nobunzulu!
1. Ukuthumela imiyalezo kakhulu.
Siyayifumana - uyamthanda lo mntu kwaye ufuna ukuthetha nabo ngalo lonke ixesha. Unomdla wokubazi, kwaye ufuna ukuba bazi ukuba uziva njalo.
Usenokucinga ukuba kuyamcenga, okanye baya kukuvuyela ukwazi ukuba sele ubathanda kangakanani.
Nangona kunjalo, uya kuthi uhlangane njengobunzulu xa ubathumela imiyalezo kakhulu-ngakumbi kwiintsuku zokuqala zokuthandana.
Khumbula ukuba izinto zisentsha, kwaye nobabini ninazo ezinye izinto eziqhubeka ebomini benu!
Ungamthanda omnye umntu, kwaye unokuqiniseka ukuba baziva ngendlela efanayo, kodwa zama ukunqanda ukuba nolindelo oluphezulu okwangoku.
Luxinzelelo oluninzi lokubeka umntu, kwaye, nokuba bayakuthanda, banokuziva bothukile kwaye bacatshukiswe yindlela othumela ngayo imiyalezo.
Ngaphezu koko, kungcono ukuba nazane ngeentsuku zomntu, kwaye ngokuthumela imiyalezo kakhulu, usengozini yokungabi nanto yakuthetha.
Ungakuphepha njani oku:
Endaweni yokuqhushumba kwifowuni ngeetekisi, zigcine uxakekile!
Kulungile ukuthumela imiyalezo ukuncokola rhoqo, kwaye yindlela elungileyo yokugcina unxibelelwano luhamba, hayi lonke ixesha. Zinqande kwaye unamathele kwimiyalezo embalwa.
Xoxa nomhlobo wakho malunga noku - ukuba uziva ngathi uyinyani, kufuneka ubathumelele into ethile, ubhalele umhlobo wakho endaweni yoko!
Wenza ntoni i-zoe mclellan ngoku
Bayeke babe 'kukugcwalisa' kuwe ukuze ubenokwabelana ngamabali ahlekisayo okanye abubudenge, hayi nje nomntu osamaziyo.
Ukuthumela imiyalezo ngokukhawuleza kakhulu.
Kunzima ukuzibamba kancinci xa uthanda umntu, kodwa zama ukungaphenduli izicatshulwa zabo kwakamsinya!
Kuyacaphukisa ukuba kubekho imidlalo edlalwayo kunye 'nemithetho' emayilandelwe, kodwa eminye yayo yenza ingqiqo.
Ukuba uthumela imiyalezo ngokukhawuleza bakuthumela umyalezo, banokuqalisa ukuzibuza ukuba kutheni uhlala kwifowuni yakho ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ukuguqula oku-ukuba umntu uphendule kwizicatshulwa zakho phantse kwangoko, uya kuqala ukuzibuza ukuba ingaba bayadika njani kwaye kutheni bengenabo abanye abahlobo okanye izinto zokuzonwabisa, akunjalo? Kuyakhathazeka kancinci xa ubeka njalo!
Ungakuphepha njani oku:
Akukho xesha 'libekiweyo' ekufuneka ulinde ngalo ngaphambi kokuba ubhalele umntu, kodwa kwangoko akusoloko kuvela kakuhle.
Endaweni yoko, shiya umyalezo ungafundwanga okwethutyana. Ukuba kuyakukhathaza ngokwenene, swayipha isaziso esikwiskrini sakho sasekhaya ukuze singabikho ukukugculela ngalo lonke ixesha ujonga ifowuni yakho.
Ungayithulisa incoko emini ukuze ungalingwa ukuba uphendule kwakamsinya, okanye ungazicima izaziso kwizinto ezithile zokusebenza ukuze ucofe kwiakhawunti yakho ukuze ujonge imiyalezo emitsha.
Nantoni na onokuyenza ukunciphisa indlela ophendula ngokukhawuleza ngayo ilungile. Kulumkele ukuza womelele kakhulu ngokuhambisa iimpendulo zakho!
3. Ukufumaneka kakhulu.
Kuyafana ngasentla, uya kuqala ukukhathazeka ukuba umntu omthandayo uhlala efumaneka, akunjalo?
Iya kuba yinto engaqhelekanga ukuba babengenazo izicwangciso ezikhoyo kwaye behlala bekhululekile ukukubona, okanye bakubize.
Uya kuqala ukuzibuza ukuba banaye na omnye umntu abathetha naye okanye naziphi na izinto zokuzonwabisa ezithatha ixesha labo.
Okukhona umntu efumaniseka, kokukhona bebeka emngciphekweni ukubonakala ngathi bayaswela okanye banqwenela - nokuba ikude nenyaniso.
Siyazi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha unomdla wokubona umntu omthandayo, kwaye ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba unexesha lokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo.
Kodwa ngokufumaneka kakhulu, usenokubonakala ngathi akukho nto uyifumeneyo ebomini bakho - yile flegi ebomvu kubantu abaninzi!
Banokuba nexhala lokuba ulahle eminye imisebenzi okanye ucwangcise ukuchitha ixesha nabo, ekunokuba mnandi kodwa kusenokubonakala ngathi utyalomali lwakho kwaye sele ubeka uxinzelelo kwizinto eziza kusebenza.
Ungakuphepha njani oku:
Nokuba ufuna ngokwenene ukubona umntu omthandayo, sukuvele ulahle yonke into yabo!
Kulungile ukwenza umntu abe ngumba ophambili xa umisele ukuba izinto zibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ukwiphepha elinye. Kwiintsuku zokuqala, nangona kunjalo, kuyinto encinci malunga nokuba umntu uhlala ekhululekile.
ungajongana njani nokushiywa ngaphandle
Khumbula ukuba mhlawumbi bafuna ukuthandana nawe ngenxa yazo zonke izinto ezipholileyo ozenzayo-banokuyithanda into yokuba wenza i-yoga eninzi okanye uchitha ubusuku obuncinci ngeveki udlala nabahlobo.
Ukuba uyeka ngesiquphe ukwenza yonke loo nto ukuze ufumaneke ukuze ubabone, ulahla izinto ezininzi abazifumana kuqala zinomtsalane ngawe!
Ngokulinganayo, ukuba ubuthandana nomntu ngenxa yokuba benomdla wokuzonwabisa ofanayo kuwe okanye bezinikele ngokwenene kwiklabhu yezemidlalo, ungabafumana benomdla kwaye benomtsalane ukuba ngequbuliso bebengenanto iqhubekayo ebomini babo ngaphandle kokukubona!
Zigcine uxakekile kwaye wenze izicwangciso rhoqo nabanye abantu kunye nawe. Ngale ndlela, sele uzibophelele kwindawo esele kwaye akunakufane ulahle yonke into komnye umntu.
Ikugcina unomdla kwaye unomdla emehlweni abo, kubonisa ukuba unento ethile ngawe, kwaye igcina uxinzelelo njengoko unezinye izinto ezenzeka ebomini bakho ngaphaya kokuzibona!
4. Ukucebisa iilebhile ngokukhawuleza.
Akukho maxesha okwenyani endaweni xa kufikwa ekuthandaneni - abanye abantu banokufuna ukwenza izinto 'ezisemthethweni' emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, abanye banokufuna iinyanga ezimbalwa ukuze bave indlela abavakalelwa ngayo.
Ukuba uzama ukukhawulezisa izinto kwaye ucebise ukubeka ilebheli kuyo ngokukhawuleza okukhulu, mhlawumbi uza kuza womelele kakhulu.
Ukuba nisazana, ukunamathela kwilebula kuyo okanye ukuhlaziya imeko yakho yobudlelwane kuFacebook kunokuba yinto engekhoyo komnye umntu.
Nokuba bayakuthanda, basenokungakulungeli ukuyenza loo nto-kwaye kokukhona uyityhala, kokukhona baya kuphakuzela, bazive benyanzelekile, kwaye bacinge ngokuphelisa izinto kunye nawe, ngelishwa!
Ungakuphepha njani oku:
ndizokonwaba nini
Nangona kunjalo unqwenela ukukhwaza uphahla oluthandayo umntu, zibambe!
Zikhumbuze ukuba izinto zinethuba elingcono lokusebenza ngaphandle kokuba unokuhamba kancinci ufunde igumbi.
Ukuba ukhe wayinyusa kwaba kanye kwaye babonakala bengakhululekanga, yilahle. Ngethuba nje uyazi ukuba umi phi (umzekelo, nobabini nivumelene ngokungaziboni abanye abantu), ilebhile ayenzi mahluko ungako.
Ukuba ngabo ababambe ilebhile kodwa basabonakala benomdla wokuba kunye nawe, mabasete isantya. Indawo ongayinika yona nayo, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba zikhawulezise izinto ngokwazo.
Akukho mntu uthanda ukunyanzelwa kuyo nantoni na, ke mabavumele ukuba bathathe isigqibo xa sele bekulungele!
5. Ukuba phambili ngokwasemzimbeni.
Wonke umntu uhamba ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kwaye konke malunga nokwazi umntu kunye nokuqonda ukuba yeyiphi ebasebenzelayo.
Unokulala ngovuyo nomntu ngomhla wokuqala ukuba uziva ulungile, kodwa banokufuna imihla embalwa ngaphambi kokuba bazive bekhululekile ukukuncamisa.
Ukuba uluhlobo lomntu ochukumiseka ngokukhawuleza kakhulu, kukho ithuba lokuba uza womelela kakhulu.
Oku kunokuba kude-ukubeka kwabanye abantu kwaye banokuziva bomelele kakhulu! Banokufuna nje ukukwazi, kwaye banokubamba izandla esidlangalaleni, umzekelo, bakuba bethandane nomntu ithutyana.
Uza kulwa nini umdyarho
Banokuziva benyanzelekile okanye bengxamile ukuba uya phambili emzimbeni.
Ungakuphepha njani oku:
Funda igumbi! Ukuba uyazi ukuba uhlala ungowokuqala ukwenza intshukumo xa uthandana, thatha kancinci ngeli xesha.
Funda ulwimi lwabo lomzimba kwaye wenze ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba iinyawo zabo zikhomba kude kuwe kwaye iingalo zabo zinqamleze umzimba wabo, banokuzivala ngokwabo kuba baneentloni okanye abangenawo.
Ukuqonda indlela abenza ngayo kunokukunceda usebenze ngendlela yokuziphatha ngokubuyela. Ukuba baya kungena kwi-hug okanye ukwanga, kulungile! Ukuba akunjalo, bayeke bakhokele- ngale ndlela, awubenzi bazive benyanzelekile ukuba benze nantoni na abangafuni kuyenza.
6. Ukutyhila kakhulu kakhulu ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuba uluhlobo lomntu ovula kakhulu kumhla wokuqala, mhlawumbi uza ngamandla!
Kulungile ukuba uqinisekile kwaye ufuna ukwabelana ngezahlulo zakho nomntu, kodwa kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwabanye abantu.
Banokufuna ukukwazi, kodwa wena umba nzulu kwaye wabelane ngokwenzakala ebuntwaneni, okanye iinkcukacha ezisondeleyo, unokubabeka ngenxa yokuba… kakhulu kakhulu.
Ungakuphepha njani oku:
Gcina izihloko ezingathathi cala ngakumbi kumhla wokuqala (okanye kwanomhla wesibini okanye wesithathu ngaloo nto!)
Kulungile ukwabelana ngobuntu bakho kwaye ube nguwe, kodwa thintela ukwabelana kakhulu kakhulu ngokukhawuleza.
Banalo ixesha lokwazi, ngenxa yoko akufuneki ukuba ukhawulezise kwaye ubanike yonke into ngexesha elinye.
Khawufane ucinge indlela ongaqhelekanga onokuyifumana ngayo ukuba umntu ukuxelele ngokoqobo ngayo yonke into malunga nabo (kubandakanya ulwazi lomntu siqu!) Ngomhla wokuqala. Ungakhathazeka ngokuba bangangabinamida mikhulu okanye benze kakhulu, kwaye ungaziva uphantsi koxinzelelo.
Zibambe ezinye zeenkcukacha ezinzulu kwaye uzigcinele ixesha elizayo-xa belifanele ilungelo labo lokwazi kwinqanaba elisondeleyo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungayeka njani ukuza womelele kakhulu ngemihla kunye namaqabane anokubakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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