Kukho intetho eninzi kwizangqa zokomoya malunga nokusebenza nezikhokelo zomoya, ukufumana 'ukhuphelo' kubo, njl.
Kodwa kwabo bangakwaziyo ukutyibilika kwizinto zokomoya zangoku-thetha, kunokubakho ukudideka malunga nokuba zeziphi na ezi zikhokelo, ngokuchanekileyo, kunye nendlela isikhokelo sabo esisebenza ngayo.
Makhe siqwalasele eminye imibuzo ebuzwa rhoqo:
Yintoni izikhokelo zomoya?
Ewe, lo ngumbuzo olayishwe kakhulu, kuba akukho mpendulo kuwo.
ubungenza ntoni xa udikiwe
Kukho iingcinga ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, ukusukela kwimimoya yookhokho bakho abathe banamathela ekunikezeleni ngobulumko babo, kubancedisi abaziingelosi ababelwe ukuqinisekisa impilo-ntle yakho.
Enye yezona nkcazo zibalaseleyo zesikhokelo somoya endikhe ndadibana naso yile 'yenkqubo yenkxaso yobuthixo': inceba, izidalwa ezingezizo ezomzimba ezikhethe nceda abanye ngamaxesha obunzima , ukuze bakwazi ukuguquka babe ngabantu abamangalisayo abanakho ukuba ngabo.
Ngaba kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zezikhokelo?
Ewe, kwaye uninzi lwazo ludlala indima eyahlukileyo ebomini bakho.
Ezinye zazo zinawe ebomini bakho bonke, zikunika isikhokelo esingacacanga (okanye esinzulu) njengoko kufuneka, ngelixa ezinye zisiza kwaye zixhomekeke ekubeni uhambo lwakho lobomi lukusa phi.
Cinga ngabo njengamalungu osapho awandisiweyo, abafundisi-ntsapho kunye nabacebisi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bahlala ebomini bomntu ixesha elide, benika imiyalelo (kunye nokukhuselwa) umntu lowo angade angazi.
Ke kukho ootitshala abanokuba sisiseko sonyaka okanye emibini- njengesikolo segrama- okanye bafundise isifundo esinye ngexesha.
Abacebisi banokuphuma kuphela rhoqo emva kwexesha ukunika ingcebiso okanye bafundise isifundo apha naphaya, kodwa uyazi ukuba bahlala bekhona ukuze ufikelele kubo xa ufuna.
Zikhangeleka njani izikhokelo zomoya?
Lo mbuzo unokusebenzisa inqaku elipheleleyo elipheleleyo, kodwa ndiza kuzama ukubhala uguqulelo olunesiqulatho okwangoku.
Izikhokelo zingene ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo njengoko kunokubonwa ngabo bafumana olu tyelelo.
Abanye batyelelwa kwaye bakhokelwa ngabathandekayo abo bawelele ngaphesheya, okanye ookhokho abaza kuzijonga banike ubulumko babo.
Abanye bafumana izikhokelo zabo njengezikhanyiso zokukhanya ezithetha kubo ngamagama, okanye 'zikhuphele' izinto ngokuthe ngqo kubo.
Into ebonakala ngathi ngumxholo oqhelekileyo kukuba izikhokelo ziya kuvela kwiifom ezithuthuzelayo kwabo bathetha nabo.
Umzekelo, umKristu ozinikeleyo unokundwendwelwa ngumntu abambona 'njengeengelosi,' okanye ilungu losapho elisondeleyo ababemthanda nelimthembileyo.
Ngokufanayo, iPagan ingafumana isikhokelo njengenye yezithixo abazizukisayo, okanye umoya wendalo wohlobo oluthile.
Abo banobudlelwane obomeleleyo nezidalwa ezingaphandle komhlaba banokuluxabisa undwendwelo oluvela kwinto ekhangeleka njengenye yeentlobo abazithandayo.
Ngokucacileyo, ziya kubonakala zingasongeli kwaye zikhululeke ngendlela enokwenzeka, ke kunokwenzeka ukuba umamele into abayithethayo ngaphandle koloyiko.
Ngaba isikhokelo sam singasisilwanyana?
Ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ngapha koko, abantu abaninzi abanobudlelwane obukhulu nezilwanyana kunabantu baziva bekhululeke ngakumbi kwizikhokelo ezingezizo ezabantu.
Ndiyazi abantu abaliqela abane-autism abakhokelo babo bakwimo yezilwanyana, kuba bakhululekile kwaye bayakhululeka xa benxibelelana nabo bantu.
Abantu abaninzi abalandela iindlela zokomoya ezisekwe emhlabeni okanye abanokuthambeka kwe-shamanic banezikhokelo ezahlukeneyo zomoya abasebenza nazo, kuxhomekeke kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo abajamelana nazo.
Abo baziva besemngciphekweni kwaye befuna ukukhuselwa banokuziva bekhululekile kwaye bekhuselekile xa benebhere okanye iqabane lomoya wengcuka abaziva ukuba liyabakhusela, umzekelo.
Kwabanye abantu, isikhokelo somoya wezilwanyana singathabatha uhlobo lwendidi equka iimpawu abazithandayo ngabo.
Umntu oziqhenyayo ngobukrelekrele bakhe unokuba nesikhova esilumkileyo kwisikhokelo. Omnye onamandla aphezulu kunye nobuntu obukrelekrele unokuba nonomatse okanye intaka yengoma.
Ngaba ukhona umntu onokunxibelelana nesikhokelo somoya? Okanye kufuneka ube nengqondo efanelekileyo kuyo?
Nabani na onako, ewe, kodwa kulungile ukuba uvuleleke kumbono wokwenza njalo, kwaye ube kwimeko ekhululekile, ezolileyo xa uqala ukudibanisa.
Ukuba ixesha lokuqala ufikelela kwizikhokelo zakho kwenzeka xa usembindini woloyiko, kuya kuba nzima kubo ukuba bafikelele kuwe, kwaye ubeve.
Emva koko kukho umkhethe wobuqu. Abo bakhuliswe ngenani elibalulekileyo loloyiko lwento abangayibiza ngokuba yinto engaphaya kwendalo, okanye ababambelela ngokungqongqo kubungqina besayensi obusekwe kubungqina banokuba nobunzima ngombono wesikhokelo esivela kumoya.
Kubo, ukuba isikhokelo sifuna ukwabelwana ngaso, sinokuza ngesiquphe ngequbuliso intuition , 'ithuku lemvelo,' ukuba uyathanda.
Njengomzekelo, masithi kukho umzali onomntwana osengozini.
Ukuba loo mzali uvulelekile kumxholo wezikhokelo zomoya, banokuba nesihlobo sabo esingasekhoyo esithandekayo okanye iingelosi zithetha nabo kwaye babaxelele ukuba kufuneka benze into eyi-X kwangoko.
Ukuba umzali uvalekile kolo hlobo lonxibelelwano, banokufumana uloyiko ngequbuliso kunye ne-intuition yokuba kufuneka baye emntwaneni wabo ngoku.
Mangaphi amabali owakhe weva ngabantu abathe batshintsha izicwangciso zabo zokuhamba ngomzuzu wokugqibela, kuphela ukunqanda intlekele?
Injalo kanye loo nto.
Kutheni ndinesikhokelo?
Ngokuphandle, sonke sinabakhokeli kuba sonke sifuna isikhokelo.
Ngaba uyazi ngesi sicatshulwa: 'Asingobantu abanamava okomoya. Singabantu bokomoya abanamava omntu ”?
Njengokuba usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa lungekhe luphumelele ngaphandle kwabanonopheli abanokukwazi ukujongana neemfuno zabo zomzimba, umntu osandula ukuzalwa ngokomoya akazukukhula ngaphandle kwamandla amandla anokunceda ukubakhulisa kwaye abanike isikhokelo njengoko kufuneka.
Njengezidalwa zokomoya, sinokuthi siphile amawaka obomi, kodwa uninzi (ukuba ayilulo lonke) lwezo nkumbulo luyasulwa xa luphinda luzalwa lwaba ngumzimba omtsha.
Sidinga ukondliwa, ukucocwa, ukufundiswa indlela yokwenza ngayo yonke into, kwaye sineqela labanonopheli - abasemagunyeni kunye nabangekhoyo - abakhathalela konke oko.
Ezi zizinto zothando lokukhanya ezilapha ukukunceda kwaye zikunike inkxaso kunye nesikhokelo kuhambo lwakho lwangoku, ukuba uyabavumela ukuba benze njalo.
Unamava obukho kulo mzimba, kuzo zonke iimeko ohlangana nazo, ukuze ukwazi ukubhikica ukuqonda okukhulu kwento ethethwa kukuba ngumntu. Ukuziva, ukuthanda, uku yiba nemfesane nokuqonda zonke izinto.
indlela yokwenza umntu azibophelele emva kokulala naye
Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ukwiimeko ongaqhelananga nazo, okanye ukhathazwe ngokunzulu zizinto, kwaye ungangabinabo abanye abantu ebomini bakho abayiqondayo into ojamelana nayo, ngoko ke abanako ukukunika ukuqonda kwabo.
Yilapho izikhokelo zomoya zingena khona.
Kuba bazibonile zonke, banamava kuzo zonke, kwaye banxibelelene nabo Bonke, baxhotyiswe ngokugqibeleleyo ukukunceda kuyo yonke into ojongana nayo.
Ndizamile ukuqhagamshelana nabakhokeli bam ngaphambili, kwaye akukho mntu undiphendulayo. Ngoba kutheni?
Lo ngumbuzo abantu abaninzi abandibuze wona, kwaye iipesenti ezingama-99 zabo, impendulo yile: kuba ngaxa lithile, ubaxelele ukuba bangayenzi .
Impendulo yakho koku isenokuba sisiphithiphithi, kuba kucacile ukuba uzama ukunxibelelana nabo kwaye useka ubudlelwane, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba umntu wakho oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala waziva ngendlela efanayo.
Ukuba izikhokelo zakho zithethile nawe xa wawusengumntwana okanye ulutsha, kwaye ubaxelele ukuba bathule kwaye bakushiye wedwa-mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba olo hlobo lwamava luye lwaphazamisa abantu abaninzi-ke yile nto bayenzayo nangoku.
Abantu bomoya ayinakuphula inkululeko yakho yokuzikhethela . Ukuba ukhe wabaxelela ukuba bathule, ukuba awufuni ukuba bathethe nawe, ke kungenzeka ukuba bajinga kufutshane nawe kodwa abakwazi ukuthetha nto.
Banqwenela ukuba bangathetha izinto zokukunceda ngoku, kodwa bayanyanzelwa ukuba bathule de ubanike imvume yokuthetha nawe kwakhona.
Ngaba ezi zikhokelo ziyingozi / zinokundenzakalisa?
Thatha umzuzwana ukuqaphela ukuba ungamandla okwangoku ekhwele inyama entle kunye nethambo, ufumana ubukho bomzimba okwethutyana.
Ngaphandle kweziphi iifilimu ezimalunga nokuba nelifa kunye nezinto ezifana nazo ezikukhokelele ekubeni ukholelwe, hayi: ezi zikhokelo aziyongozi, kwaye azinakukwenzakalisa.
Akukho nto inako, ngokwenene.
Unamandla amsulwa ahlala emzimbeni, kwaye amandla akuwe yile nto azalisa zonke iiseli emzimbeni wakho. Akukho nto iza 'kukuthatha,' okanye yonakalise naliphi na ilungu lomzimba wakho, ingqondo, okanye umphefumlo.
Ukuba unxibelelana nezikhokelo zomoya okwethutyana kwaye emva koko uthathe isigqibo sokuba awonwabanga ukunxibelelana nabo, baxelele ukuba bathule kwaye bakushiye wedwa. Kufuneka bathobele.
Kwakhona, ukuphinda, ngumthetho wendalo yonke ukuba azinakwaphula inkululeko yokuzikhethela .
Uninzi lwabantu abandibuza lo mbuzo ngabo baye baphathwa gadalala okanye baphathwa kakubi ngabo basondeleyo kubo, njengabazali, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, okanye amaqabane / amaqabane.
Kuba abantu ebekufanele ukuba bayabathanda kwaye babakhusele ngaphandle kwemiqathango baphela bebenzakalisa kwaye bonakalisa ukuthembana kwabo, ithuku labo lokulumka kufuneka balumkele nawuphi na umntu ekuthiwa 'ngumkhokeli' okanye 'umkhuseli'.
Ukucinga ukuba ezi zikhokelo zinokufumana ukuthembakala kwazo, kwaye emva koko zibangele umonakalo.
Impendulo elula kukuba ezi zikhokelo azingobantu, kwaye azilawulwa ziimvakalelo zabantu, okanye ubuthathaka.
Abanazo naziphi na ii-ajenda ezinobungozi, kwaye abanangxaki nesifo sengqondo, okanye umonakalo wabo kwintlungu abanokuthi bafumane yona.
Ndizifumana njani izikhokelo zam?
Ewe, bakungqonge kakhulu ngalo lonke ixesha, ke ukuba ufuna ukunxibelelana nabo, thetha nje nabo. (Kwaye, njengoko kukhankanyiwe, baxelele ukuba banemvume yokuthetha nawe ngokulandelelana.)
Ukuba unoloyiko malunga nokunxibelelana nabo, kungathatha ithutyana ukuba bazazise kuwe. Okanye, inokwenzeka ngokukhawuleza.
Isenokuba sephupheni ekuqaleni, okanye ungaliva ilizwi elithambileyo lizama ukwenza unxibelelwano.
Zama nje ukuhlala uvulekele kumava kwaye ungavali kwangoko kuba ucinga ukuba ukuva amazwi ngandlela thile akulunganga.
Abanye abantu bayakhululwa yingcamango yokuba izikhokelo zinokuba lapho xa behamba ze behlamba, besebenzisa indlu yangasese, njlnjl., Kodwa olo hlobo lokunyaba ngabantu kakhulu: bangaphaya koko, akunjalo bhalisa kunye nabo.
Ngaba uyothuka okanye ukhubeke xa ubona umntwana ehlanjwa? Ingcamango efanayo.
Ndinxibelelana njani nabakhokeli bam, kwaye kunjani kubo ukunxibelelana nabo? (Ndilindele ntoni?)
Zininzi iindlela zokunxibelelana nezikhokelo zakho, kuxhomekeka kwindlela ezibonakala ngayo kuwe kunye nendlela okhululeke ngayo ngokwenza njalo.
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngasentla, ngamanye amaxesha isikhokelo sabo sinokuza njenge-intuition okanye ithumbu lesisu, kodwa ezo ayizizo kuphela iindlela abanokunxibelelana ngazo nawe.
Rhoqo, izikhokelo zinxibelelana nabantu ngamaphupha, esiya kuthi siwachukumise kungekudala. Ngamanye amaxesha baya kuthetha nawe ngokuthe ngqo, okanye bakubonise izinto kwi iliso lengqondo .
Ukuba awulazi eli kota, thatha umzuzwana kwaye ube nombono werose ebomvu, okanye ubuso bomntu omthandayo. Ungayibona engqondweni yakho, endaweni yamehlo akho, akunjalo? Kulapho imifanekiso baya kukubonisa khona.
Ndingawuchaza njani umahluko phakathi kwengxoxo yam yengqondo, kunye namazwi abakhokeli bam?
Andikwazi ukuyiphendula le ngamava obuqu, kuba andinancoko yengqondo.
Into endinokuyenza kukubonelela ngengcebiso kwabo bathe bathetha incoko, kunye nendlela izikhokelo zabo ezivakala ngayo kubo.
Umxholo omnye oqhelekileyo kukuba incoko yengqondo ithanda ukuba kwilizwi lakhe, ngelixa izikhokelo 'amazwi ahluke kakhulu.
Nika ingqalelo i-blah blah ejikelezayo entlokweni yakho ngoku. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba iyavakala njengawe, akunjalo? Okanye, ukuba iyalahla kwaye iphikisana, inokuvakala njengomzali wakho okanye utitshala.
Ilizwi lesikhokelo liya kwahluka kakhulu-ngesiqhelo isini esahlukileyo, okanye ilizwi elinxamnye nelakho-ke liyakunciphisa loo ngxoxo ukuze ufumane ingqalelo.
Elinye icala elibonakala phantse likhona kuyo yonke indawo kukuba izikhokelo zihlala zinobuntu ebantwini kunokuba abo bantu bezizele.
Apho uninzi lwabantu lokuncokola ngokwengqondo kuqukethe isixa esifanelekileyo sokuthetha okungathandekiyo ('wow, yayisisidenge, wawucinga ntoni?' Njl.), Izikhokelo zihlala zihlala zithambile, zinomonde kwaye zinenkathalo.
Ndiva ngathi kukho ibhloko ethintela isikhokelo sam ekuthetheni nam. Inokuba yintoni?
Ewe, thatha umzuzwana kwaye uthembeke ngokwakho malunga nendlela oziva ngayo malunga nombono wokunxibelelana nezikhokelo zakho zomoya.
Ngaba impendulo yakho yangoko kwangoko kukungakholelwa? Okanye uloyiko? Ngaba uziva iimpendulo ezixubeneyo malunga nokunxibelelana nezikhokelo?
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa abantu befikelela kwizikhokelo zabo, kungamaxesha apho zabo iimvakalelo zikwi-overdrive , njengamaxesha obunzima okanye okuphelelwa lithemba.
Ngawo loo maxesha, nokuba unganikeza isikhokelo sakho imvume yokuthetha nawe, banokungakwazi ukufikelela kwimvakalelo yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo ezihamba kuwe.
Ukuba oku bekunjalo, zama ukwehlisa umoya kwaye uzame ukunxibelelana.
Usenokuthatha umzuzwana ukuqaphela ukuba inkqubo yakho yenkolelo inokuba negalelo kolu thintelo.
I-Hollywood ngokukodwa idlale indima enkulu ekulungiseni abantu bakholelwe ukuba ilizwe lemimoya liyingozi ngokwemvelo, kunye nemimoya emdaka okanye iidemon ezijikeleze ikona nganye, zilangazelela ukubamba abantu abathobileyo.
Okulusizi kukuba, oku kuye kwenza abantu abaninzi baba madolw 'anzima ukuxhomekeka kwinkqubo yabo yokomoya kuba becinga ukuba eyona nto imbi kakhulu iya kwenzeka.
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Ndisicela njani isikhokelo sam ngengcebiso?
Kwangolo hlobo ubuza ngalo naliphi na elinye icebiso. Vele ubuze.
Izikhokelo zethu zihlala zisijikelezile, ke ukuba ubuza ngokuvakalayo, baya kukuva. Ukuba uyazazi ngokubuza ngokuvakalayo, kwaye unoluvo lokuba isikhokelo sakho somoya sijongeka kanjani, beka ecaleni ixesha elithe cwaka lokufikelela kubo.
Fumana indawo apho ungenakuphazanyiswa khona, kwaye uzame ukuthula iingcinga zakho. Gxila kwisikhokelo sakho, kwaye uzibonele ngokucacileyo njengoko kunokwenzeka.
Nje ukuba ube nomfanekiso ocacileyo wabo engqondweni yakho, cinga ngemeko okuyo, kwaye usebenzise ilizwi lakho langaphakathi ukubabuza iingcebiso kunye nezikhokelo zabo.
Impendulo yabo inokuba kwangoko, okanye inokuthi ifike emva kwexesha, kodwa kufanele ingene kwisithuba sosuku okanye ezimbini kwezona zide.
Ngaba isikhokelo sam sinxibelelana nam ngamaphupha am?
Ngokwenyani, le yindlela eqhelekileyo yezikhokelo zokunxibelelana nathi.
Xa silele, ii-egos zethu zinethuba lokuthatha ikhefu, ezivumela zethu iingqondo ezinengqondo kunye / okanye 'ukuziphakamisa' ukuya phambili.
Iphupha apho isikhokelo sizama ukufikelela kuwe sinokuziva sinyani ngaphezulu kwephupha eliqhelekileyo.
Phantse wonke umntu aphuphe izinto ezibandakanya ukungakhuseleki okuthile kubomi bokwenyani (hello ukubonisa uhamba ze esikolweni okanye emsebenzini…) ngokunjalo nemifanekiso kunye neemvakalelo ezivela kwihlabathi labo lokuvuka.
Oku akusikho iphupha lesikhokelo somoya kukonke .
Iphupha lesikhokelo somoya lihlala lingacacanga: okusingqongileyo kunokuba fuzzy nakwii-pastel hues, okanye kukhanye, kwaye ekuphela kwento ekugxilwe kuyo iya kuba sisikhokelo sakho.
Isenokuba kwindawo eqhelekileyo okanye kwindawo engathathi hlangothi, kodwa kuphela kwabantu abaya kubakho, kwaye nokuba sisikhokelo esinye okanye uninzi, kuxhomekeke kwinto ekufunwa ukuba ibe yiyo.
Kananjalo, xa uvuka kweli phupha, uya kuba nemvakalelo engathethekiyo yothando kunye nokuba sempilweni, kwaye unesizathu esihle!
Uye wabakhona phambi kokuba ngubani uyakuthanda ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwaye uzinikele ekukhuleni kwakho ngokomoya. Olo luvo lonwabileyo luhlala ixesha elincinci emva kokuvuka.
Ndizichaza njani iimpendulo zabakhokeli bam?
Ukuba isikhokelo sabo singene ngephupha, ulwazi olunikwayo lunokuchaneka ngokuthe ngqo, okanye luqiniseke ngokupheleleyo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba nokhokho wakho owaziyo kwaye uyamqonda ubonise kwaye akuxelele ukuba uyeke ukutya i-gluten icacile kwaye imfutshane, ngokuchaseneyo nokuba nezibane ezininzi zokudanisa ngaphandle kwepiktografi emile esibhakabhakeni ukuze uzame ukucacisa.
Gcina ingxelo ecaleni kwebhedi yakho, kwaye xa uvuka ephupheni, bhala phantsi yonke into onokuyikhumbula.
Ukuba umyalezo ubucacile, ungabhikica oko ukufunayo ukusuka kanye kuloo nto ibithethiwe. Ukuba ibingumfuziselo okanye isafobe, kungathatha ixesha elincinci ukuba uyiqonde, kodwa ubuncinci uya kuba neenowuthsi ezibhaliweyo ukuze ubhekise kuzo.
Ukuba endaweni yephupha, impendulo ifike njengokukhutshelwa, ihlala iyinto ethe ngqo kumntu lowo.
Isimboli okanye umfanekiso usenokuthetha into eyahluke mpela kuwe kunokuba ibinjalo kum, kodwa izikhokelo zakho ziyaluqonda unxibelelwano onalo naloo mfanekiso, kwaye ziya kuwusebenzisa ngendlela enentsingiselo kuwe.
Ndazi njani ukuba ezi zikhokelo ziyandinceda? (Ndazi njani ukuba ayizizo izinto ezimbi ezizama ukundilahlekisa okanye ukubangela ingxaki?)
Kakhulu, unokuxela ngengcebiso ozifumanayo kubo.
Uyazi ukuba ungazi njani ngokubanzi ukuba kukho umntu oxokayo okanye kungenjalo unganyanisekanga okanye uyothusa? Ngaba loo nto iyaziva nje 'icinyiwe'? Kanjalo.
Xa ufumana ingcebiso okanye ulwazi oluvela kwisikhokelo, zibuze ukuba ngaba iyavakala kuwe okanye hayi.
Ngaba ivakalelwa njengeNyaniso kuwe?
Xa ubuliphulaphule icebiso labo kwixa elidlulileyo, ngaba izinto zihambe kakuhle?
Ngaba le nto bayithethayo iyavakala? (Ngaba unganikezela ngengcebiso efanayo kubantu obathandayo?)
Uyazi ukuba iingcebiso zabo zilungile kwaye ziyinyani ukuba uziva unokhuseleko kunye nokufudumala kubo.
Ukongeza, ukuba uyenzile yacaca ukuba kuphela kukungcangcazela okuphezulu, izinto ezintle ezinemvume yokuthetha nawe, ke olu luhlobo ngokubanzi oluya kwenza njalo.
Oko kwathethi, njengalo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane, ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha ixesha ukumisela ukuba injani na isikhokelo sakho, kwaye loluphi uhlobo lwempembelelo ofuna ukuba babe nalo ebomini bakho.
Isikhokelo esiphakamileyo sokudlidliza (iintlobo zeGuardian, izidalwa ezingelosi, njl.
Ngabo abaya kukunika isikhokelo esikhuthazayo kunye nenkuthazo, kodwa abayi kukuxelela ukuba wenzeni. Abayi kukubeka phantsi, kodwa baya kukunceda usebenze kwizikhubekiso zakho.
Ukuba kukho umoya ophantsi oshukumisayo othe watsaleleka kuwe, intuition yakho iya kukhaba ukukwazisa ukuba ubukho babo abuloncedo.
Unokuziva ungonwabanga ngobukho babo, njengesihlobo esikude ongasithandiyo kuba banika amandla amabi okanye bakwenze uzive 'ugh' xa bekufutshane.
Banokuzama ukukhukhumalisa i-ego yakho ngokubeka abanye abantu phantsi, okanye bakunike 'ii-odolo' malunga nento ekufuneka uyenzile okanye ongamele uyenze.
Rhoqo, bayayenza lento kuba bengakwazanga ukusebenza ngemicimbi yabo engemihle xa babesaphila, ke bahlala ngokungenantlonelo ngawe kwaye bezama ukwenza ukuba benze izinto ababengenako.
Ukuba ndifumana into engcangcazelisayo / engalunganga, ndiza kuyisusa njani?
Ngothando.
Ukunyaniseka, uthando luyimpendulo ngokwenene, njalo.
Baxelele ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kufuneka bemke, kwaye ubakhumbuze ngokukhanya kwabo ngaphakathi kwabo.
Abanye banokulibala ukuba zizidalwa ezinamandla amancinci, zigutyungelwe njengoko besezintlungwini nasentlungwini ababehamba nayo xa kusweleke imizimba yabo.
ukuba ubudlelwane kufuneka bube yimfihlo
Cinga ngabo njengolutsha oluthandwayo, ukuba uyathanda. Bazifakile, baxakeke ngokupheleleyo kwi-muck yabo, kodwa bakhetha ukukhwaza kunye nokuxhaphaza abanye abantu kunokuba bazihlele.
Ngokwenyani, bayonzakalisa ngaphakathi, kwaye bazame ukondla abanye amandla aqinisekileyo kuba kulula kakhulu kunokujongana nemicimbi yabo.
Ukuphindaphinda, ezi zinto azikho ngenjongo yokukulimaza. Banokuba yimimoya engazange iwele xa besweleka, kwaye bazama ukwenza unxibelelwano nomntu onokuthi abeve / ababone kuba bedakumbile, bebodwa, benoloyiko, njl.
Ukuba ukhathazwa yenye yezi ntlobo, zama ukujongana nazo ngendlela efanayo oza kujongana ngayo nolutsha olunengxaki. Ngokuqinileyo, kodwa ngovelwano.
Ukubabuza ukuba bajonge ngaphakathi kwaye babone ukukhanya okukhanyayo ngaphakathi kubo kubanyanzela ukuba basuse ingqalelo yabo kuwe. Banokumelana nayo ekuqaleni, kodwa ngokubanzi bakwenza oko ekugqibeleni.
Nje ukuba bakubone oko kukhanya, baxelele ukuba bakusebenzise ukuze bangene ekukhanyeni baphinde bajoyine ukuKhanya koMthombo (okanye uThixo, okanye konke, okanye naliphi na igama okhululeke kulo).
Yenze icace gca ukuba abanayo imvume yokuthetha nawe okanye yokunxibelelana nawe kwakhona, kwaye ubathumele ekukhanyeni, ngobubele bothando nangemfesane.
Ndifanele ukuwamamela nini amacebiso abakhokeli bam / ndithathe inyathelo ngokusekwe koko bakuthethayo?
Ewe, oko kuxhomekeke kuwe… kodwa ngokobuqu, ukuba ndifumana umyalezo ongxamisekileyo ovela kwizikhokelo zam undixelela ukuba ndiyiphephe imeko NGOKU kuba kukho ingozi engaphambili, ndiza kuyimamela kwangoko.
Kukho iimeko apho ndiye ndalahla izilumkiso zabo njengeziyimfeketho yam engenangqondo, kwaye iziphumo bezingaphantsi kokumnandi.
Kuhlala kunjalo isikhokelo siza kuzisa iNyaniso malunga nezinto osele uzazi, kodwa ukhetha ukungahoyi ngenxa yezizathu ezithile.
Njengokuba uthandana nomntu kwaye bathetha ngokutshata, kwaye uyazi ezantsi ukuba awubathandi kwaye awufuni kuphinda uhlale nabo, kodwa awufuni ukubalimaza ukwehlukana.
Uninzi lwabantu luyazicinezela ezi mvakalelo kwaye bazama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba bafika nje ukubanda kweenyawo okanye banako ukuzibophelela , endaweni yokumamela intuition yabo kwaye bayiphile inyani yabo.
Izikhokelo zakho ziya kukuqhubela kuwe (ngobumnene) ukuze unyaniseke kuwe kwaye ubuyele kwindlela obufuna ukuyilandela, endaweni yokurhuqelwa kwiindawo ongafuniyo ukuya kuzo, ukuze ufumane isibonelelo somnye kwaye / okanye ufuna.
Isikhokelo sam somoya sandinika iingcebiso ezimbi! Ndenza ntoni ngoku?
Okokuqala nokuphambili, thatha ixesha lokuhlalutya yonke le meko, ngakumbi ukusuka kwindawo yokuziva ukhululekile.
Oku kunokuba nzima ukukwenza xa usentlungwini yokuphelelwa lithemba okanye uloyiko, kodwa wakube uzolile, zama ukuzibeka kwindawo yakho kwaye ujonge imeko.
Ngaba ingcebiso oyilandeleyo ibangele ukuba ubudlelwane bothando buhlukane?
Zibuze ukuba ubuthandana naloo mntu ngenxa yokunxibelelana okuyinyani, okunzulu komphefumlo, okanye ngenxa yokuba ubutsala nje ngokwasemzimbeni kubo, okanye besazi ukuba banokukunceda ufezekise injongo ethile.
ungayibona njani indawo ngaphandle kokuzihlaza
Ngaba ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi ngokulandela ingcebiso enikiweyo?
Kulungile, ngaba lo msebenzi ubuzalisekisa kuwe? Ngaba ubusebenzela abanye, okanye ubusebenza iesile lakho emsebenzini ophantsi, uyazi ukuba uyakucaphukela kwaye uyacaphuka, kodwa umvuzo ubumangalisa kwaye isihloko besidumile?
Uyayikhumbula loo nto malunga nendlela esizilibala ngayo izinto xa sizalelwa emzimbeni omtsha? Enye yezinto eziphambili abantu abazilibalayo kukuba 'sinezivumelwano' zokomoya esivumelene ngazo ngaphambi kokuzalwa apha.
Phambi kokuba sizalwe, samkela izabelo ezithile, sagqiba ekubeni yintoni esifuna ukuyiva ngeli xesha lokuphila, sizimisele ukuba sifuna ukuba ubomi bosapho bube njani, kwaye kufuneka sihlale phi ukuze sikwazi ukwenza onke la magama.
Kuba uninzi lwethu alukhumbuli ngokuzimisela ezi zivumelwano, sinokuphambuka endleleni kwaye sizifumane sikwimeko ebesingadalelwanga ukuba sibe nazo.
Oku kungakhokelela kubudlelwane bezothando nabo bekufanele ukuba babeziindwendwe nje okwexeshana ebomini bethu, kwimisebenzi engayenziyo imiphefumlo yethu (ihlala ithathwa kuba ihlawula kakuhle), njl.
Xa oku kusenzeka, abantu bahlala beziva ngathi 'babanjisiwe'.
Banokubandezeleka kakhulu, uxinzelelo *, kunye / okanye eminye imicimbi yezempilo kuba nje yonke ifayibha yobuntu babo iyazi ukuba akufuneki babekho apho bakhoyo, besenza into abayenzayo.
Kwiimeko apho usengozini yokusikrakra ngokunzulu isivumelwano sakho somphefumlo, izikhokelo zakho zomoya zinokungenelela kwaye zikushiye kude neemeko. Ngamanye amaxesha ngenkani, ukuba iyafuneka.
Elo cebiso bakunika lona qhekeza ubudlelwane nomntu ocinga ukuba uyamthanda, kodwa uya kugqibela ngokuba gadalala, abe netyala, okanye ngenye indlela embi kuwe ngelinye ixesha kwixa elizayo.
Lowo msebenzi uphulukene nawo? Ewe, isakhiwo besinokutsha, okanye usenokwenzakala emsebenzini, okanye naliphi na inani lezinto ezinokukwenzakalisa-nokuba ubusemzimbeni okanye emphefumlweni- ukuba ubuhleli apho.
Nangona kunzima ngathi kubonakala ngathi, zama ukungazinamatheleli kwinto ocinga ukuba uyayifuna, njengoko uqhubeka kobu bomi.
Le minqweno yexeshana inokuyiphazamisa injongo yakho, kwaye ikhokelele ekuvalelweni kwiimeko ebekufanele ukuba udlule kuzo kudala.
* (Ngokucacileyo, oku akunjalo kwabo banokungalingani kwemichiza, i-PTSD kunye nezinye. Asingabo bonke abo banengxaki yoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo abenza njalo ngenxa yokuba nesiphene sokomoya, kwaye ayingabo bonke abanesiphene sokomoya abakufumanayo oku. Ezi ziimpawu nje kunokwenzeka zenzeka ngenxa yeemeko ezithile.)
Kutheni isikhokelo sam somoya singakwazi ukundinika amanani e-lottery aphumeleleyo?
Ngokunokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba ubungafanelanga ukuba uphumelele ilotto ngeli xesha.
Ukuba unengxaki yemali, zama ukubuza isikhokelo sakho ngengcebiso malunga nendlela yokufumana imali ethe kratya, okanye ubeke umnxeba kwiqela lakho lenkxaso yokomoya, ubazise ukuba ukwindawo enqabileyo, kwaye ungayixabisa Nceda.
Unokumangaliswa yinto eyenzekayo, ngesiquphe ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ubucinga.
Ngaba izikhokelo zomoya ziyinyani? Okanye ngaba le yidrive New Age drivel?
Yonke inkcubeko emhlabeni, yonke indlela yokomoya, iyathetha ngezikhokelo zomoya kunye nezidalwa ezinengqondo ezingezizo ezomzimba.
I-Vedas, imibhalo yenkolo yamaHindu engaphezu kweminyaka engama-3 000 ubudala, ikhankanya izikhokelo zomoya.
Bakhankanywe kwi-Kabbalah yamaJuda, kwi-Sufism, kwi-Tibetan Buddhism (njenge-Yidams), nakwiinkcubeko ezininzi zemveli kwihlabathi liphela.
Ngokusisiseko, uninzi lwempucuko ngaphandle kweepokotho ezincinci zenkcubeko yaseNtshona, ayisiyi kuqaphela nje ubukho bezikhokelo zomoya, kodwa zikwanamabali amahle malunga nabo bathathe isikhokelo kwezi zinto bazinikileyo.
Kuphela kwinkulungwane edlulileyo okanye njalo, ngentuthuko enkulu yenzululwazi, ukuba imeko yokomoya ithathe isihlalo sokubuyela endaweni yoko kuvumelana nengcinga yaseNtshona ezimisele ukuba 'yeyokwenyani,' ngokokuvavanywa kwesayensi okusekwe kubungqina.
Ukongeza, ezinye iicawa ziveze umbono wokuba nantoni na engaphandle kweemfundiso zayo ngandlel 'ithile ingendawo, iyingozi, kwaye iyingozi.
Bona, kunye nezinye izikolo zokucinga, banokwenza abantu bakholelwe ukuba nakuphi na ukubanxibelelana nabo kufuneka kube neenjongo ezimbi engqondweni.
Zibuze ukuba kutheni ucinga ukuba ezi zimvo zinyanzelisiwe, emva koko wenze eyakho ingqondo malunga noko ukukholelwayo.
Ekugqibeleni, nokuba unxibelelana nezikhokelo zomoya kwaye wamkele isikhokelo ekufuneka besinikele kukhetho lwakho.
Ukuba ukhetha ukunxibelelana nabo, zive ukhululekile ukuba wabelane ngamava akho nathi kwicandelo lamagqabaza apha ngezantsi.
Iintsikelelo kuwe.
Nguwe uBomi odlula emzimbeni wakho, odlula engqondweni yakho, odlula emphefumlweni wakho. Nje ukuba ukufumanise oko, hayi ngengqondo, hayi ngengqondo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ungaziva ukuba obo Bomi - ufumanisa ukuba ungamandla okwenza iintyatyambo zivule kwaye zivale, ezenza ingcungcu ibhabhe isuka kwenye intyatyambo iye kwenye. Ufumanisa ukuba ukuyo yonke imithi, kwaye ukuso sonke isilwanyana, imifuno, kunye neliwa. Ungamandla ahambisa umoya kunye nokuphefumla emzimbeni wakho. Indalo iphela sisidalwa esiphilayo esiqhutywa ngulo mandla, kwaye yile nto uyiyo. Nguwe uBomi .- UDon Miguel Ruiz
