Inye kuphela Inkqubo yokubuyisa gadalala uyakuze ufune.
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Ukuzikhulula kwimixokelelwane yomxhaphazi ongathandekiyo sisiqalo nje senkqubo ende yokuphilisa. Into ebonakala ingabalulekanga, kodwa enamandla, into onokuyenza ukuze uncede ekuphulukaneni kwakho nokuphinda uthotho lweziqinisekiso kuwe yonke imihla.
Kuthethwe ngokuvakalayo ngokuvakalayo, ezi ngxelo zintle malunga nawe kunye nobomi bakho zinokunceda ingqondo yakho ihlengahlengise i-monologue yayo yangaphakathi kude nendawo yokuncedwa, ukuya kwindawo yokuxhotyiswa.
Njengoko uthetha okanye ucinga ngazo, uyila kwaye uqinise imeko yengqondo eyomeleleyo. Ngexesha elingaphezulu, uya kuthi ukomelela ngakumbi ukwenzakala kunye nokwenzakala okwenziwe kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye ungaphantsi kokuchaphazeleka kuyo.
Sebenzisa oku kuqinisekiswa rhoqo njengesinye sezixhobo ezininzi ukugqitha kwiziphumo zokonakaliswa kwe-narcissism ebomini bakho.
Ndiphilisa kancinci, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, imihla ngemihla inyathelo elinye ngexesha.
Kubalulekile ukuzikhumbuza ukuba inkqubo yokuphilisa yinto eqhubekayo. Kuxhomekeke ekubeni i-narcissist yayiyinxalenye yobomi bakho ixesha elingakanani, kunokuthatha iinyanga, iminyaka, okanye nexesha lokuphila ukuze uvumelane nayo ngokupheleleyo.
Ngapha koko, umendo awusoloko uthe tye ungathatha amanyathelo angaphambili, amanyathelo abuyela umva, kunye nezinyathelo ezisecaleni. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba inyathelo ngalinye liyinxalenye yohambo kwaye akuyonkcitho okanye ukusilela ukubuyela umva.
Esi siqinisekiso silula sokuba uyaphilisa sinokubonelela ngamandla kunye nefuthe lokufumana imiceli mngeni ojamelana nayo apha endleleni.
Ndibeka kakuhle elidlulileyo kwaye ndinyanisile emva kwam ukugxila koku nakwilixa elizayo.
Amanye amaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala ayakufumanisa ukuba iingqondo zawo ngokwendalo zihamba zisiya kwiminyhadala eyadlulayo oku kufana nekhonkco elijikeleze amaqatha abo, ukubathintela ekuqhubekeni nobomi babo.
Esi siqinisekiso sesibini senzelwe ukukukhupha kule ndlela yokucinga ngokukubeka kwindawo yokujonga phambili. Nanini na xa ufumana iinkumbulo ezinxulumene ne-narcissism engena entlokweni yakho, phinda umnqweno wakho yekela elidlulileyo .
Kuthatha ulwazi kunye nokuzingisa ukushenxisa iingcinga zakho kude neziganeko zangaphambili, kodwa kuyenzeka ngokuzimisela okupheleleyo kunye nenqanaba ukuzixolela xa utshibilika.
Ndingumntu othandekayo ofanelwe kukukhathalelwa, ukuthandwa nokuhlonitshwa ngabanye.
Izinto ezimnandi zokwenza xa udikiwe
Xa ukwi-narcissist, kuqhelekile ukuba ufumane imeko yokuziva uxabisekile. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba uqale ukufumanisa kwakhona ngalo mzuzu ukhululeka.
Amanqaku amathathu aphambili kwesi siqinisekiso-ukhathalelo, uthando kunye nentlonipho- zizinto umntu ngamnye afanelwe kukuzenza, kodwa ukuba ii-narcissists azinakho ukunika (ubuncinci ngendlela yokwenyani kunye nokunyaniseka).
Xa zigcinwe kulo naliphi na ubude bexesha, uqala ukulibala ukuba baziva njani. Ukuphindaphinda eli binzana lingasentla ngokungaguquguqukiyo kuya kwenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuba awuthandeki nje kuphela, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uphathwe ngobubele nangokuqwalaselwa.
Ukufunda okubaluleke ngakumbi kwe-narcissist (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- AbaLwimi beeNarcissist basebenzise ukuGweba kunye nokuKhathaza amaxhoba abo
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
- Iindlela zokuKopa xa ushiya iqabane laseNarcissistic ngasemva
- I-4 Ngokunyaniseka Inokunyaniseka Izinto Abantu Abasindileyo Kwimpatho-mbi ye-Narcissistic Bafuna Ukuthetha Kubahlukumezi Babo
- Iikhonkco ezi-5 ezisetyenziswa ngabaNarcissist ukukugcina ubuya kwakhona
- I-Rollercoaster yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kwiNarcissistic Abuse
Ndenza ukuzinakekela kuqala.
Abo babanjiswe ngumnxibelelanisi ekugqibeleni banikezela iimfuno zabo ukuze babeke elinye iqela phambili. Lo mkhwa unokuhlala ngokulula nawe nasemva kokuba ukwazile ukumka kubo.
Kuya kufuneka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba, ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili, ubeka ezakho iimfuno kuqala - kwiinkalo ezininzi, nangaphambi kwezo zabanokuxhomekeka ebomini bakho.
Ukujonga inombolo yokuqala akufuneki ibe sisenzo sokuzingca, uyakwazi ukubathanda kwaye ubakhathalele abanye xa uzikhathalela.
Ndiyazi kwaye ndiyathemba ingqondo yam.
Isixhobo esiqhelekileyo kwi-arsenal ye-narcissist yinto eyaziwayo ukukhanyisa ngegesi . Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, kubandakanya ukudideka, ukuphambukisa, kunye neendlela zokukhohlisa ezenzelwe ukukwenza uzithandabuze kwaye uxhomekeke kuzo.
Ke oku kuqinisekiswa yinto efuna ukuphinda ikunike ukholo kwingqondo yakho kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukuzenzela. Ukuchaza nje ukuthembela kwakho kumandla akho engqondo amaxesha ngamaxesha kuya kukunika ukuzithemba okufunekayo ukuze ubakhokele.
Uya kucotha ngakumbi kwaye uzimisele ngakumbi ukuthatha izigqibo ezinesibindi ngokusekwe kwiinkolelo zakho nakuhlalutyo lwemeko.
Ndinemida eqinileyo kunye namandla okunamathela kuyo.
Phantse ngokungaguquguqukiyo, xa uzama ukubeka umgama phakathi kwakho kunye ne-narcissist, baya kufuna ukubuyela ebomini bakho ngandlela thile. Akunakwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ekugqibeleni, beqhutywa yimfuno yabo yokubonelela nge-narcissistic, baya kuza kunkqonkqoza emnyango wakho.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kumiswe ingqondo kwaye imida yakho ukuze kuthintelwe inkqubela yabo. Ukuqinisekisa ubukho beepherimitha ezigciniweyo ngamagama kuya kunceda ukubanika amandla ezingqondweni zakho.
Ukuthintela i-narcissist ekungeneni kwakhona ebomini bakho yeyona nto iphambili ekufumaneni kwakhona. Banike ithemba elincinanana kwaye oku kuya kubekwa emngciphekweni omkhulu. Hlala ungathobeli nantoni na abayiphosa kuwe.
Ndinenkxaso epheleleyo yabahlobo bam kunye nosapho.
Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba awukho kule wedwa. Ngelixa ixesha lakho kunye ne-narcissist lisenokuba libonile ukuba amaqhina obuqu ayancipha, abahlobo bakho bokwenyani kunye nosapho baya kuhlala bekhona ngeyure yakho yokufuna.
Xa usokola ngento kwaye uziva ungaqinisekanga ukuba ungajika phi, isiqinisekiso esingasentla siya kukukhumbuza ngenkqubo exabisekileyo yenkxaso ekhoyo kuwe.
Ukuyithetha rhoqo kuya kukunika inkalipho efuneka rhoqo xa ndicela uncedo . Awuyi kuthandabuza ukufuna iingcebiso zabanye xa uqinisekile ngokuzimisela kwabo ukukunika.
Jonga oku ikhosi ekwi-intanethi yenzelwe ukunceda umntu Philisa kuphatho gadalala .
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.
