Ukuba uziva ngathi izinto zitshintshile kubudlelwane bakho kutsha nje, mhlawumbi akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo.
Kodwa ukuba izinto ngokwenene ungaziva ulungile, unokufuna ukuqaphela ukuba ngaba kukho umcimbi omkhulu okhoyo.
Khumbula ukuba ngenxa nje yokuba izinto ezimbalwa ezikolu luhlu ziyinyani kwaye zisebenza kubudlelwane bakho, iqabane lakho akuyomfuneko ukuba lihlukane nawe.
Thembela emathunjini akho, vula iingxoxo ezinyanisekileyo, kwaye uzame ukungakhathazeki kakhulu. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukuphelisa izinto kunye nawe, baya kuthi!
Le yimiqondiso embalwa yokuba izinto zisenokungalungi…
1. Bathatha ixesha elide ukubuyela umva kunesiqhelo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liqale ukuthatha ixesha elide ukuphendula kunokuba bebeqhele ukwenza, banokuphelisa izinto kancinci kancinci. Yindlela eqhelekileyo yokwenza umgama ongaphezulu kweemvakalelo phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Ihlala ikhathaza xa umntu eyeka ukuthumela imiyalezo ngokukhawuleza, kwaye inokukwenza ukhathazeke malunga nokuba kuthetha ntoni konke.
Khawukhumbule nje ukuba kunokuthetha ukuba baxakeke ngaphezu kwesiqhelo.
Kodwa… inokuba ngumqondiso wokuba bazokuqhekeka kuwe.
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2. Abaqalisi ukuchukumisa ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ukuba ngesiqhelo uyisibini esithandekayo esichukumisayo kwaye oku akusekho njalo, kunokuba yinto eyothusayo!
Banokuyeka ukubambana ngezandla okanye bakwange ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kwaye abanokuqalisa ukwangana okanye ukudibanisa kunye.
Mhlawumbi xa nilala kunye, niyaqaphela ukuba bayemka okanye bajongane nenye indlela phambi kokuba nibathelele.
Oku kunokubangelwa yinto encinci kwaye ibe sisidenge njengengxabano ukuba yinto eyenzeka rhoqo rhoqo.
Kodwa ukuba uqaphela ukuba ibe yinto eyenzeka rhoqo, inokubonisa ukuba izinto azilunganga phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho.
3. Bathetha ubuxoki obuncinci.
Ungaqala ukuqaphela ukuba bahlala ngokungacwangciswanga ukuxoka ngezinto ezincinci .
Ubuxoki abudingi ukuba bube bukhulu ukuze buhlale buhleli. Iinyani ezincinci zinokongeza kwaye zikwenze ubuze indlela oziva ngayo ngomnye nomnye.
Kuhlala kungumnqa xa umntu esenza izinto okanye ekuxelela ubuxoki obuncinci, kwaye kunokukwenza uzive uxinezelekile malunga nokuba ukhona umcimbi omkhulu oqhubekayo.
Inokujika ngokukhawuleza ibaxokise malunga nezinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi, eziza kukwenza uzive ungazinzanga kwaye ucaphukile.
4. Abathandi ukwenza izicwangciso.
Nabani na ongafuni ukuzibophelela kwizicwangciso kunye nawe uyiflegi ebomvu.
Awudingi ukwenza imephu kwimizuzwana nganye yemihla ngemihla, kodwa kulungile ukwazi ukuba umntu ukhathala ngokwaneleyo ukuba angafuna ukucwangcisa izinto ezinomdla kunye nawe. Kukwenza uzive ukhuselekile kwaye uzinzile kubudlelwane.
Yiyo loo nto xa umntu ephepha ukwenza izicwangciso kunye nawe, kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba abakuboni kwikamva labo.
5. Abekho, nokuba bakunye nawe.
Iqabane lakho linokubonakala likude ngakumbi nangakumbi xa nikunye.
Banokuba kwifowuni yabo ngakumbi, bajolise kancinci kuwe nakwinto oyithethayo, okanye bangazibandakanyi kwaye bangaphenduli kwinto oyenzayo.
Kuyacaphukisa ukuba kunye nomntu ongabonakali ngathi unomdla kuwe, kwaye inokuba luphawu lokuba bacinga ngokushiya.
Oku kuyabhideka, ngakumbi ukuba uhlala uhleli kakuhle kwaye uhlala kunye kakhulu.
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6. Bayakuphepha ukuthetha ngekamva.
Oku kudlulela ngaphaya kokwenza nje izicwangciso zexesha elifutshane kunye- banokuphikisana kwaphela nombono wokuzibophelela kuwe ixesha elide.
Bangayivala yonke incoko onayo malunga nokuhlala kunye, ukuya kwiholide, okanye ukutshata.
Kuyinto eyoyikisayo ukuziva ngathi umntu akafuni ukuzibophelela kuwe, kwaye luphawu lokuba azityali ngokwasemphefumlweni njengokuba unjalo.
Ukuba abekho kulwalamano njengoko babenjalo ngaphambili, kwaye ugcine ukuphepha iincoko ezinzulu, kukho enye into eyenzekayo kwaye banokucinga ngokuphelisa ubudlelwane babo nawe.
7. Abakuncomi njengakuqala.
Ukuba iqabane lakho belihlala likuhlamba ngezincomo ezintle kunye nendumiso, kunokuba yinto yothusayo xa beyeka ngesiquphe ukuyenza.
Ukuba babuye umva ngamandla, banokucinga ngokuphelisa izinto kwaye bathathe isihlalo esingasemva.
Awudingi ukuba umntu akuxelele rhoqo ukuba ungakholeleki kangakanani (oko kungacaphukisa, emva kwayo yonke loo nto!), Kodwa kuyakhathaza ukuba baye bakubanda.
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Kuya kufuneka bazive kuwe kwaye banomdla kuwe, kunye nokutsala kuwe, ke, ukuba ababonisi ezo mvakalelo, abanakuphinda batyale imali kulwalamano kwakhona.
Ukuthatha kwabo inyathelo ukubuyela umva kwaye bangasakubonisi ukuba bathande kangakanani kuwe ngumqondiso oxhalabisayo wokuba banokuba bezokufuna ukwahlukana nawe.
8. Kubonakala ngathi abalonwabeli ixesha elisemgangathweni kakhulu.
Iqabane lakho lisenokungafuni ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe kwakhona. Mhlawumbi bamema abahlobo bakho ukuba bajoyine ubusuku bakho bomhla, okanye baphephe ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nawe.
Banokuziva benetyala kwaye bafuna ukuphepha uxinzelelo lokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuba ubuhlala unomhla wokucwangciswa kobusuku, okanye izithethe ezingenangqondo ezinje ngobusuku bebhanyabhanya kunye nezinto ezimnandi zokubhabha, ngokuqinisekileyo inxulumene nokuphela kwezi zinto.
9. Awusabelani ngesondo kwakhona.
Ukwabelana ngesondo akuyiyo yonke into, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa ukuba uye walala ngesondo rhoqo, akukho nto konke konke, kukho into eyenzekayo.
Inkunkuma ukuqonda, kodwa inokuba luphawu lokuba bacinga ngokwahlukana nawe.
Xa singasaziva sinomdla emntwini, isondo sinokuba ngumsebenzi ngakumbi kwaye yinto esizama ukuyiphepha.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liyayivala inkqubela yakho kwaye aliyenzi eyalo, banokuthintela ukusondelelana ngesizathu.
10. Baye baqala ukukugxeka.
Ukungavumelani kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye, uninzi lwamaxesha, kunempilo kubudlelwane.
Ukuba izinto zitshintshile kwaye iqabane lakho liba krwada kwaye alinabulungisa ekukugxekeni kwakho, isenokuba yindlela yabo yokwazisa ukuba abasenamdla kuwe.
Yindlela ethetha ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho emntwini, kodwa yinto edla ngokwenziwa ngabantu ukuba bayazitsala kude neqabane labo.
Banokucaphuka ngokwabo kwaye bazive benetyala, ekunokuthi, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kubonakale ngathi bathetha kakubi kuwe.
11. Awuyonto iphambili kubo.
Ukuba yonke enye into ibonakala ibaluleke ngaphezu kwakho, abakubeki phambili kwaye luphawu lokuba abanamdla kubudlelwane kutshanje.
Banokuqhubeka bezirhoxisa izicwangciso ababenazo nawe kwaye ungaqala uzive ungaphantsi kwaye ungaxabisekanga kubo.
12. Kubonakala ngathi abakhathali kangako.
Ukuba bayekile ukuqaphela izinto ezincinci ezikucaphukisayo kwaye azisebenzi kukuthuthuzela okanye zikwenze uzive ulungile, basenokuqhawuka nawe kungekudala.
Nangaliphi na ixesha umntu eyeka ukukhathalela kangako malunga neemvakalelo zakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho utshintsho olukhulu oluzakwenzeka.
13. Bayakhalaza ngawe.
Ukuba uvile kubahlobo bakho ukuba iqabane lakho likhalaza ngawe, ngokuqinisekileyo linokucinga ngokuphelisa ubudlelwane.
Banokuba nokuzithemba kwabanye abantu kuba bethathela ingqalelo ukhetho lwabo, okanye abafuni kukukhathaza ngelixa befumanisa ukuba bafuna ukwenza ntoni.
14. Kubonakala ngathi uyabacaphukisa.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba yonke into oyenzayo ibonakala ibacaphukisa, izinto zitshintshe ngokucacileyo kubudlelwane bakho mva nje.
Unokuziva ngathi awunakuthetha nto okanye wenze nantoni na ngaphandle kokuba bafumane ulonwabo nawe.
Akufanele wenziwe uzive ucaphukisa okanye uswele ngokufuna ingqalelo!
Usoloko unguye owenza umgudu.
Ukuba uziva ngathi nguwe wedwa obeka ixesha kunye namandla, ubudlelwane bakho abukho kwindawo entle.
Kulungile ukuba wonke umntu abe nediphu okanye usuku olubi ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa ukuba nguwe osoloko utsala ubunzima bomlingane wakho, kukho umba ophambili ofuna ukujongana nawo.
Akufanelekanga ukuba nguwe wedwa otyalomali kubudlelwane bakho.
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Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba omnye wale micimbi wedwa awulophawu lokuba iqabane lakho liza kuphelisa izinto! Kuthatha ngaphezulu kwento enye encinci ukuphelisa ubudlelwane, kunye nokuziphatha ngokwendalo kuyatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha.
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Kodwa ukuba ezi zinto sele ziqhelekile, kuya kufuneka uzidibanise neqabane lakho ngaphambi kokutsiba kuzo naziphi na izigqibo. Kunokubakho inkcazo efanelekileyo kwaye kufuneka usebenze ekunxibelelaneni ngokukhululekileyo ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukhathazeke kakhulu!
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