Ubomi bunzima, ngamanye amaxesha bunzima kakhulu. Iya kuvavanya njengomntu, iya kuvavanya ubuhlobo bakho, kwaye iya kuvavanya ubudlelwane bakho ngeendlela ongeke uhlale uzilungiselele.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akukho ncwadana yemiyalelo emikhulu malunga nendlela yokuphila ubomi, imozulu yezaqhwithi, kwaye uphume kuyo yonke ihambelana. Kuninzi kakhulu ekufuneka uyiqonde ngokwakho xa uqhwithela luqala ukuqumba.
Kodwa, akukho sizathu sokuba ungakulungeli okuncinci xa amafu amnyama eqokelelana phezulu.
Ke makhe sijonge ezinye iingcebiso zokuba ungadlula njani kula maxesha anzima kunye nolwalamano lwakho kungekuphela nje, kodwa womelele kunangaphambili!
1. Khumbula, nguwe nobabini ngokuchasene nengxaki.
Kubudlelwane obuninzi kakhulu, amaqabane athambile ukuba alibale ukuba angamaqabane. Bafanele ukuba kwicala lomnye, bangalwi omnye nomnye malunga nengxaki.
Ungayinciphisa ingxabano ngokuzikhumbuza kunye neqabane lakho ukuba nobabini nxamnye nengxaki, hayi iqabane elinye kwelinye.
Ngokujonga kwakhona amandla akho kule ngxaki, ungazinciphisa iingxoxo ezingenamveliso ezinokuthi zibangele umsantsa phakathi kwenu. Uya kuphepha ukugxeka nokulingisa ngamanye amaxesha okuhamba nengxabano phakathi kwezibini.
Ngaphaya koko, isenzo sokukhangela isisombululo sinokubonelela ngemvakalelo elungileyo enibeka kuni nobabini kwindawo elungileyo yentloko kwaye nongeze imeko.
Ihlabathi linokuba yindawo embi. Iqabane lakho kufuneka libe ngumntu onokubuyela kuye xa izinto zinzima.
2. Bambana ngezandla neqabane lakho xa nixabana.
Iingxabano nokungavumelani kwenzeka kulo lonke ulwalamano. Oko akuphazamiseki ekulweni.
Abanye abantu abatshatileyo abalwa ngendlela abantu abadla ngokufota ngayo kuba elinye okanye omabini amaqabane athathe ixesha lokuphuhlisa ulawulo lwabo lweemvakalelo kunye nezakhono zonxibelelwano. Kukho intsomi eqhelekileyo ejikelezayo yokuba isibini esingalwiyo asikho kubudlelwane obusempilweni, kodwa akukho nto inokuba yinyani ngakumbi kwinyani.
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Enye indlela yokunceda ekupheliseni umsindo kunye nokubakho kwempixano kukubamba izandla neqabane lakho ngelixa nixabana.
Kuyaziwa ukuba ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kukhupha izikhukula zokuziva ulungile kwiikhemikhali ezinokunceda ukuthomalalisa iimvakalelo zomntu. Ngapha koko, ukubamba isandla seqabane lakho kunceda ukomeleza ukuba nobabini nijamelene noku kunye.
Kwaye ukuba ubambe izandla zozibini, inyanzela ukuba ujike uye kwiqabane lakho kwaye ujonge ebusweni. Oku kukodwa kuya kwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuthetha izinto ezenzakalisayo kunokuba ujikisiwe kwaye awukwazi ukubona intlungu ebangelwa ngamazwi akho ebusweni babo.
3. Chaza iimvakalelo zakho ngokucacileyo nangokunyaniseka kwiqabane lakho endaweni yokuba uzixelele.
Incoko evulekileyo, ethembekileyo neqabane lakho inokukunceda ufumane isisombululo esincedanayo.
Ingxaki kukuba asisoloko sinxibelelana kakuhle namaqabane ethu. Endaweni yoko, siphethukela kubahlobo okanye kusapho lwethu ukuba sinike izimvo malunga nezinto esijamelana nazo kwaye kufuneka sizisombulule.
Oko kunokubuyela umva kuba awusoloko wazi ukuba zeziphi iinjongo zokuzithemba kwakho. Mhlawumbi banomdla wothando kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho, ngoko ke abanikeli ngcebiso isandi sokuqhubeka nizahlule.
Okanye mhlawumbi bangumntu omangalisayo, onyanisekileyo nothembekileyo, kodwa abayazi ncam okanye abayiqondi iqabane lakho njengokuba ucinga. Kwaye bakunika iingcebiso ezimbi ngokusekwe kwiingcinga zabo ezingachanekanga.
Ke, endaweni yokuthetha ngeengxaki zakho zobudlelwane nomntu ongaphandle kobudlelwane, thetha neqabane lakho endaweni yoko.
Ukuba kufuneka ubandakanye umntu wesithathu, yenze ingcali eqeqeshiweyo eya kuthi ibuze imibuzo eluncedo kwaye inike isikhokelo esisebenzayo. Sincoma unyango lobudlelwane kwi-Intanethi kwi-Relationship Hero -ukuncokola kwi-intanethi nomntu ngoku okanye ukuhlela ixesha lokuthetha kamva.
Zine. Yomeleza ubuhlobo bakho neqabane lakho.
Kuza kubakho amaxesha apho ungaziva ngathi uyalithanda iqabane lakho. Iinkqubo zemichiza zothando ngamanye amaxesha ziyanyibilika kwaye ziyahamba kunye nexesha. Akuqhelekanga ukuba kuwa nokuphuma kuthando neqabane lakho Amaxesha amaninzi kubudlelwane.
Esi sisizathu esikhulu sokuba kubalulekile ukuba ube nesiseko esiqinileyo sobuhlobo phantsi kothando. Ngale ndlela, uyazi ukuba usenokulithanda iqabane lakho naxa ungaziva uluthandana nabo.
Ubudlelwane obakhelwe kuphela kwintabatheko kunye neenxalenye zothando ziya kuzifumana kumhlaba ongagungqiyo xa uxinzelelo lobomi luqala ukwanda. Yakha ubuhlobo bakho!
5. Cwangcisa ixesha eliqhelekileyo oza kulichitha neqabane lakho.
Icandelo lokugcina ubuhlobo obunempilo kunye nolwalamano kunye neqabane lakho lichitha ixesha elifanayo kunye nabo.
Kulula kakhulu ukutshayelwa kukuxokozela kobomi xa ujikisa ubomi bosapho, umsebenzi, izinto ozithandayo nezinye izinto. Oku akufuneki kukuyekise ekuchitheni ixesha eliqhelekileyo kunye neqabane lakho ukugcina ulwalamano kunye nokusondela, eya kusebenza njengeglu ukunceda ukugcina kunye Ngamaxesha anzima.
Ukuba ungumntu oxakekileyo, cwangcisa ubusuku bomhla kube kanye ngeveki okanye kube kanye kwiiveki ezimbini ukuzinikela kwiqabane lakho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uphume, nangona kunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha umhla omnandi kuku-odola nje i-pizza kunye nokukhwela esofeni ukuze ubukele imovie.
6. Bonisa ukuba sesichengeni kunye nokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo.
Abanye abantu bakufumana kunzima ukwenza njalo bonisa ukuba sesichengeni nokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo, nkqu nakumaqabane abo abathandanayo.
Banokuba nembali embi, bakhulele kwikhaya elixhaphazayo, okanye ngenxa yobudlelwane obuhlukumezayo apho ukuba sesichengeni kuya kubenzakalisa.
Nangona le yindlela eqondakalayo neyimfuneko yokusinda kwezo meko, kodwa iyityhefu kwaye iyonakalisa kubudlelwane obuphilileyo.
Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuba sesichengeni kuyimfuneko ngokupheleleyo ukwakha, ukugcina nokuqinisa ubudlelwane. Ngaphandle kwabo, kunzima kakhulu ukujamelana neenkqwithela eziza kubakho kuba amaqabane kunqabile ukuba ahlangane njengeyunithi.
7. Kulungele ukuvuma ngokukhululekileyo xa wenze impazamo.
Abantu abaninzi kunzima ukuba bavume xa bephosakele. Kulusizi oko kuba ukuzimisela ukunyaniseka kwaye uvume xa wawuphosakele yindlela enamandla yokwenza ubudlelwane kunye nokunxibelelana kubudlelwane.
Ungumntu. Awuhlali usenza into elungileyo. Awusoloko uza kwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, uya kuhlutha kakubi.
Iqabane lakho kufuneka likwazi oko ungumntu omkhulu ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungaludlulisi uxanduva lwakho ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane bakho ukumelana nezo zibetho.
Ngaphezu koko, ukuba ngumnikazi wengxaki kunye nokuvuma isiphoso sayo ngumlilo oqinisekileyo kunye nendlela ekhawulezayo yokunciphisa ukungavisisani phakathi kwakho, okuthetha ukuba ungquzulwano alunabungozi kwaye ludlula ngokukhawuleza.
Qiniseka nje ukuba ngenene unephutha, kwaye awuyamkeli nje ityala ngento ethile ukuze ukholise iqabane lakho.
8. Thatha inyathelo ubuye umva kule ngxaki.
Umsindo nokudandatheka kuhlala kusenza singaqondi. Kukho amaxesha apho izinto zingayi kuhamba kakuhle.
Uya kucaphuka, kwaye umsindo wakho uya kugwetyelwa. Kwaye kunokubonakala ngathi isisombululo sengxaki sivele ngaphandle kokubamba kwakho, ukuze ungayiboni ukuyifumana.
Ukuntywila kwingxaki kwaye ukuzama ukunyanzela indlela yakho ngokusebenzisa oko kunokubuyisa umva ngenxa yomgwebo osibekele.
Unokwazi ukufikelela kwisisombululo ngokukhawuleza ukuba uthatha inyathelo ubuye umva kule ngxaki, ulibeke bucala ixesha elincinci, emva koko ubuye kulo unamehlo amatsha kunye nengqondo ezolileyo.
9. Nyaniseka ngezemali.
Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zoxinzelelo kunye nokuqhekeka kubudlelwane yimali.
Ukungalingani kakuhle kwemali kubudlelwane kuya kubangela uxinzelelo kunye nembambano. Awunakumdibanisa ngokwenene umntu ogcina imali rhoqo kunye neepenny pincher nomntu ochitha ngokukhululekileyo- ubuncinci, ngaphandle kwenqanaba elithile lokungqubana.
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Ukunyaniseka ngakumbi kuni nobabini malunga nemali kunye namatyala enu, kokukhona niza kuba kwimeko entle xa ubomi buqala ukuphosa iindleko ezingalindelekanga kuwe.
Qinisekisa ukuba nobabini nikwiphepha elinye ngokubhekisele kwimali kunye nokonga, okanye iya kubuya ikulume xa imali isiba nzima.
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