Abantu abadanisa umculo wabo kwaye baphila ubomi babo ngaphandle kolindelo lwabanye abantu bahlala benqatshelwa ngabo babambelela kuluntu olwamkelekileyo ekuhlaleni.
Nabani na ongabambeleliyo kuluntu ngokubona kuyinto eqhelekileyo, eyilento yenziwa ngumntu wonke, unokubonwa njenge-pariah.
Kodwa ngaba unokucinga ukuba ubomi obunokuba buthuntu kwaye bukruqulayo kangakanani ukuba wonke umntu ebefana?
Ukuba ubukhe wabizwa “Uyinqaba” Ngalo naliphi na ixesha ebomini bakho, ungomnye umntu onomdla ngokumangalisayo, kunokuba ube lilungu le 'Ndiza kufana nabanye'.
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Apha ngezantsi zizizathu nje ezahlukeneyo zokuba kutheni abantu becinga ukuba uyothusa, kwaye kutheni bethetha ukuba ungumbala omangalisayo wegolide kulwandle lwentlenge.
1. Awunxibi Ngendlela Efanayo Wonke Umntu Owenzayo
Ngubani ofumana isigqibo sokuba loluphi uhlobo lwempahla kwaye ayifashoni, okanye ayamkelekanga?
Ukhe wadibana malunga nokuba uyathanda na ukunxiba iibhutsi ze-Ugg okanye ibhlukhwe emenyezelayo? Nam ndandingenguye.
Uninzi lwabantu lubonakala lulandela nantoni na eqhubekayo kwi-Instagram okanye kwiimagazini ezahlukeneyo zefashoni, bezabalazela ukuba ngabantu abathandanayo kunokuba noluphi na uhlobo lomntu.
Kubonakala ngathi boyika ukuma ngaphandle kwesihlwele, Nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba bachitha yonke imihla ngokungonwabi kunye nokunyaniseka.
Abantu banokucinga ukuba uyamangalisa kuba usebenzisa iimpahla zakho ukubonisa kungekuphela nje isitayile sakho, kodwa umdla wakho kunye nokuziphatha kakuhle.
Mhlawumbi uyathanda ukunxiba onke amalaphu endalo ahambayo kwaye ahamba nawe kuba uyathanda ukudanisa okanye ukuba ukhuthele ngenye indlela. Okanye uyithanda nyani i-aesthetics yexesha elithile, kwaye ukunxiba izitayile ezivela kwi-1870s okanye 1940s kuyonwabisa.
Nxiba iimpahla ezikufanela kakuhle ukuba ungubani na kwaye yintoni oyithandayo, kwaye ungaze ucinge ukuba omnye umntu ucinga ntoni.
Ukuba bayakuhleka ngento oyinxibileyo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba boyike ukuveza izimvo zabo kwaye baveza ingqumbo yabo kubugwala babo kuwe.
2. Unomdla Ongaqondwa Ngabanye
Ndiyazi abantu abaliqela abathatha uvuyo olukhulu ngokuba yimbali ye-enactors. Aba bantu bachitha iiyure ezingenakubalwa bethunga iimpahla ezikhethekileyo zexesha ngesandla, zihlala zivela kumalaphu nakwimisonto abayiphothiweyo, bezilukile, kwaye bezidayile.
Baziqeqesha ngezixhobo zamandulo, okanye ubugcisa obufana nokulukwa kweebhasikithi kunye nezomdongwe, kwaye baya kwiminyhadala nabanye abalingana nengqondo apho bathengisa khona izakhono kwaye bazonwabisa kwimithendeleko yexesha elidlulileyo.
Kwaye awuyi kukholwa kukugculelwa abakufumanayo kwezi zinto zisukelwayo. Abantu ababizwa ngokuba 'ngabantu abaqhelekileyo' bahlekisa ngabo ngokuzonwabisa kwabo ngenxa yokuba bahlukile kwinto eyenziwa ngumntu wonke.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba ungene kwi-hobby okanye kwi-career leyo yenza abanye abantu bangakhululeki , okanye bade badideke, ithuku labo lokuqala lidla ngokuyihleka okanye bayikhuphe kuba 'iyothusa.'
Yintoni ehlekisayo xa lo mdla wakho 'ungumnqa' ngesiquphe uba sisiqhelo ngenxa yefilimu okanye uthotho lukamabonakude okanye udumo oludumileyo, kwaye ngequbuliso kupholile kwaye wonke umntu okulo. Abakuthandi ukukhunjuzwa ngendlela ababekhe bahlekisa ngayo, ndikholelwe.
3. Uneminqweno engaqhelekanga okanye emnyama yoLonwabo
Abo baphila kumava amnyama amnyama bahlala bekhulisa iindlela zokuyila, kunye noburharha okanye uburharha.
Oku kuhlala kunceda abantu ukuba badlule ebunzimeni, kwaye kubanika indlela yokusebenza kunye nokubonisa iimvakalelo ngaphandle kokuziphatha kakubi ngabo.
Abantu ababenobomi obuthambileyo, obunobulali ngaphandle kobunzima obuqhelekileyo Ayikwazi ukunxibelelana nolu hlobo loburharha. Iyabenza bangonwabi, kwaye ngokwendalo abantu bayaphepha kuyo nantoni na ebangela ukungonwabi.
Bathanda ubunye abanokuthi banxibelelane nabo kwaye bathembele kubo. Heyi, yiyo loo nto abahambi abaninzi besiya kwiivenkile zokutyela zikaMcDonald kwamanye amazwe kunokuba bathathe isampula yokutya kwalapha ekhaya: ukuqhelana kuyathuthuzela.
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ufumene abanye abantu abathanda uburharha bakho, ngenxa yoko akufuneki ube sisidenge nantoni na ukuze ungatyhali abanye ngaphandle kwendawo yabo yokuthuthuzela. Yiba yinyani, ube nguwe.
4. Awungekhe Uhlale ngokuLindelwe yiNtlalontle
Esinye sezizathu zokuba abanye abantu babizwe ngokuba 'ngabangaqhelekanga' kukuba abayilandeli into abanye abayithatha njengeenkqubo ezifanelekileyo zentlalo.
Umzekelo, abo bane-Asperger's syndrome okanye ngenye indlela kwi-autism spectrum bahlala bethathelwa ingqalelo 'njengothusayo' ngabantu abane-neurotypical kuba bakhupha nantoni na esezingqondweni zabo, okanye babuze imibuzo abanye abantu abanokuyifumana ingonwabanga.
Onke amaqela enkcubeko aneengcinga ezahlukileyo malunga nokuba yintoni na engenembeko kwaye ayamkelekanga, nangona kunjalo.
Ukuba wakhe waya kwivenkile yokutyela engacacanga, uya kuba namava abantu bencokola bodwa bebhonqa etafileni ngaphandle kokuthandabuza. Oku kungathathelwa ingqalelo ngokungafanelekanga (kuyothusa!) Ngokwemigangatho emininzi yaseNtshona, kodwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwinkcubeko yamaTshayina.
Kwaye ngokuchaseneyo: ukutya okuninzi kwaseNtshona, isimilo, kunye nokuziphatha kuyenyanyeka kwezinye iindawo zehlabathi.
Ngaba uhamba ezitalatweni, ucula ngokuvakalayo, kwabanye abantu ukungonwabi? Ngaba uhleka kakhulu xa wonwabile? Kulungile! Kulindeleke ukuba ubambelele kwimilinganiselo kabani, ngoba?
Ngapha koko, kutheni kubalulekile kuwe ukuba 'uyamkeleka' kuyo yonke into eyenziwa ngumntu wonke?
5. Awuyikholelwa into eyenziwa ngumntu wonke
Ngaba iinkolelo zakho zopolitiko zahlukile kwezo zigcinwe ngabahlobo bakho okanye ngamalungu osapho? Ngaba nguwe okholwayo okomoya kulwandle lwabantu abangakholelwa kuThixo (okanye ngokuchaseneyo: ekuphela komntu ongakholwayo kuluntu oluzinikeleyo)?
Nabani na ophethe iinkolelo kunye nemibono ngaphandle kwento ephulwe ngabantu ababangqongileyo uhlala ethathwa 'njengothusayo.'
Izinto ziyile ndlela zikuyo, akunjalo? Kutheni emhlabeni ungababuza?
Kulula kakhulu, kuba kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo kwisifundo ngasinye, kwaye kuphela ngokuntywilisela kulwazi esinokuthi sibhikice indlela esivakalelwa ngayo nantoni na.
Funda malunga nazo zonke iinkolo zehlabathi ukuze Chonga eyona nto uyikholelwayo. Funda imithombo yeendaba evela kumazwe ahlukeneyo ukufumana iimbono ezahlukeneyo kumba omnye.
Zifundise, kwaye uya kuba nakho ukulandela ikhondo eliyinyani kuwe, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuzenzela owakho umendo nokushiya umkhondo kwabanye.
6. Uyakuthanda ukuchitha ixesha wedwa
Ukhe waqaphela ukuba abantu abaninzi abanakuma bahlale bethe cwaka, singasathethi ke ngokuba wedwa?
Ukuba abanayo iTV okanye umculo okhalayo, bakwifowuni Okanye kufuneka babe kwinkampani yabanye abantu ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kwaye, ewe, bacinga ukuba 'uyothusa' ukuba uthi ungathanda ukuchitha ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu ufunda kunokuphuma uyonwaba.
Ukuba mnandi, kwaye kwanomxholo, kwinkampani yakho kuyamangalisa. Ukuba abayifumani loo nto, banokufuna ukucinga malunga nokubaleka kwabo, okanye ukuzama ukuziphazamisa ekucingeni.
7. Awulandeli Imeko eqhubekayo
Yintoni, awunamsebenzi oqinileyo, iqabane, abantwana be-2.3, indlu emadlelweni, imoto, amakhadi etyala, kunye nesicwangciso sokonga umhlala-phantsi?
Wowu, ngenene 'kuyothusa.'
Okanye ngaba kunjalo?
Abo bacwangciselwe ukuba baphile ubomi babo ngendlela ethile banobunzima ngombono wokuba, enyanisweni, zikho ezinye iindlela zokuphila.
Bakhokelwe ekubeni bakholelwe ukuba nabani na ongaphandle kwemowudi yokusebenza esemgangathweni ngandlela thile uyaphambuka.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, banokuba lusizi, baphile ubomi obungalinganiyo kwaye bathathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi abayenzayo, kodwa ubuncinci ayingobantu bezentlalo.
Ncwina.
Khohlwa ukuzama ukubambelela kwinyani evumayo ongazange uvume kuyo. Ukuba wonwabile uziqeshile, uhlala kwi-yurt okanye ikharavani, uzalisekisiwe zizinto esizenzayo, ke uyaphumelela ebomini kakhulu kunabo banosizi kwaye belandela umhlambi kuba.
Ubungqongqo, okanye i-Wyrd-ness?
Kwinkcubeko yamandulo yaseNorse, igama elithi 'wyrd' lalinxulumene nekamva. Abo babelandela indlela ye-wyrd babephila ubomi bokwenyani kubo, bahlala benamandla angaphezu kwendalo akhokela isenzo sabo. Leyo yingcinga entle kakhulu, akunjalo?
ndifuna ukukuthemba kwakhona
Amagcisa adumileyo kunye neemvumi kubonakala ngathi banakho ukubaleka ngokunxiba, ukuthetha, kunye nokuziphatha ngendlela abathanda ngayo. Ngaphezulu, baqhwatyelwa izandla ngobuntu babo kunye nobuchule babo.
Ke kutheni le nto wonke umntu elindeleke ukuba ahambisane nale meko ifana neegusha apho wonke umntu kufuneka ajonge kwaye aziphathe ngendlela efanayo?
U-Helena Bonham Carter ngumdlali weqonga obesoloko ezonwabisa ngokuba ngumntu, kwaye isicatshulwa sakhe esinye siyangqinelana nomoya weli nqaku. Uthe:
'Ndingangabinayo indebe yomntu wonke yeti, kodwa ndingumntu odutyulwe kabini nge-whisky.'
Qaqamba kwidayimani yakho ephambene. Khazimla kanye ngale ndlela ufuna ngayo, kwaye ukukhanya komnyama okukhanya okukhanyayo kuya kukunceda ufumane isizwe sakho.
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