Wonke umntu ongatshatanga uyiphazili eyahlukileyo enamacandelo obuntu, amava obomi, ulwazi kunye neemvakalelo.
Wonke umntu unombono wakhe kunye nembono yehlabathi, ubukhulu becala iphenjelelwa yindlela abaye banamava ngayo kwaye bajikeleza umhlaba.
Nokuba yeyiphi eyona ndlela umntu ayithathileyo, uhambo lushiya uphawu lwalo emntwini kwaye lubumba indlela abanxibelelana ngayo nehlabathi namhlanje.
Nangona kunjalo, asigwetywanga kwisiphumo esithile.
ngubani na onako ukuthandana naye
Iimpawu ezenza ukuba wonke umntu abe ngumntu owahlukileyo, onomdla angazukiswa, aphuculwe, kwaye akhule njengoko siqhubeka nohambo lwethu lobomi.
Nazi ezinye zezinto ezikwenza ukuba ubalasele kulo mhlaba.
1. Ubuntu bakho
Ubuntu bomntu yinto ebunjiweyo ukusukela ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakhe ukuza kuthi ga kumzuzu wangoku.
Onke amava amnandi namabi, lonke uloyiso nokusilela, yonke imizuzwana yamandla nobuthathaka, lonke ulwazi nolwazi esilufumanayo…
… Ezi zisikhokela kwindlela esihamba ngayo ehlabathini.
Akukho mntu wumbi unakho okanye uya kuba nakho ukuqokelelwa kolwazi, amava kunye nemibono ebangela ukuba ubenguye.
Akukho mntu uza kuphendula kwizinto ozifumeneyo ngeemvakalelo kunye neengcinga obukade unazo.
Akukho mntu uza kwenza ukhetho olufanayo nolwenzayo.
Ubuntu bakho bubodwa ngokwakho.
2. Isimo Sakho Sengqondo
Isimo sengqondo somntu sichaza indlela ababujonga ngayo ubomi kunye nezenzo zabantu ababangqongileyo.
Zombini izimo zengqondo ezilungileyo nezingalunganga zingosulela, zichaphazele abantu abakungqongileyo kwaye zibatsalele kwicala eliqhelekileyo lezinto ozibeka emhlabeni.
Esi sisiseko sokuzinceda kunye nezinto ezikhuthazayo ezithetha ngendlela isimo sakho sengqondo esinokunciphisa ngayo okunokufezekisa ebomini.
Kungenxa yokuba, inyani kukuba abantu abanesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo bahlala bebaleka kwabo banezimo zengqondo ezingathathi cala okanye ezingalunganga.
Isimo sakho sengqondo siyinto eyakhiwe yimozulu yakho yeemvakalelo ngaphandle kokuba wenze ukhetho olusebenzayo lokuyila into ebhetele kwaye ilungele ngakumbi ukonwaba ngoku nakwixesha elizayo.
3. Amava akho
Amava omntu adlulileyo kunye nekamva anazo, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, ezona mpembelelo zibalaseleyo ekubumbeni ukuba bangobani ngokwahlukileyo.
Onke amava asinceda ukuba siqonde ukuba siza kugcina njani sinxibelelana nehlabathi kunye nabanye abantu abakulo.
Abantu abanamava amabi banokuzibona beziva bexhalabile kwaye bezikhusela xa bejamelene neemeko ezifanayo nezo bakhathazwe kuzo okanye xa bezama ukunqanda ukwenzakala kwixesha elizayo.
Kwaye abantu bafuna amava aqinisekileyo okunceda ukuphucula ukuqonda kwabo umhlaba, abantu abakulo, kunye nendlela yokulandela ngokufanelekileyo ukonwaba kwaye ubomi bomxholo .
Oko akuthethi ukuba ugwetyelwe ukubanjwa ngamava akho.
Amava athile amabi ahlala aqukethe ubulumko obunokuthi ubusebenzise ukufumana indlela ebhetele, yenza izigqibo ezingcono , kwaye uqhubeke nekamva eliqinisekileyo.
4. Imikhwa Yakho
Umkhwa yinto esiyenzayo rhoqo. Imikhwa esiyazisayo kwaye ichonga ukuba yeyiphi imiba yomntu wethu owahlukileyo esiyihlakulelayo.
Umkhwa ombi wokutya ukutya okungenampilo kwaye ungazilolongi uza kubangela ukudinwa kunye nempilo enkenenkene yomzimba.
Umkhwa olungileyo wokuxukuxa amazinyo kabini ngemini kunye nokubhabha kuya kugcina umlomo wakho usempilweni kwaye ungenazintlungu.
Ukwenza imikhwa njengokufunda, ukucamngca, ukwenza imithambo, okanye ukuzama izinto ezintsha kunokuphucula impilo yengqondo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
UCarl Jung wathi, 'Uyile nto uyenzayo, ayisiyiyo le uyithethayo ukuba uza kuyenza.' Kwaye amazwi akhe ubukhulu becala athetha ngendlela izenzo zethu kunye nemikhwa yethu emisela ngayo umntu esiba nguye.
njani ukwahlukana nomyeni wam komnye umfazi
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- I-101 yolonwabo kunye neNqaku elinomdla malunga nawe (Gcwalisa izithuba)
- Indlela yokuziqonda bhetele kwimibuzo esi-7
- Uluhlu lokuGqibela lweMibuzo engama-30 yokuzibuza yona malunga noBomi
- Uzifumana njani iitalente zakho ezifihliweyo nokuba ucinga ukuba awunayo
- Fumanisa ukuba 'i-Self-Concept' yakho ilawula njani yonke into oyenzayo noyicingayo
5. Uyilo lwakho
Ukuyila kuyinto enomdla kuba zininzi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo.
Unobugcisa obahlukeneyo obuguqula icala lokuyila kwengqondo yakho, ukusuka ekupeyinteni nasekuzobeni ukudanisa nokucula.
Kodwa ke unokuyila kwezinye iifom, njengokukhulisa iinkqubo ezifanelekileyo, ukwakha ibhokisi yeencwadi ngezandla zakho, okanye ukucwangcisa ubume bemeko entle.
Wonke umntu uneziphiwo ezizodwa, iziphiwo zokuyila ezichaphazeleka ngumbono wakhe wokuba yintoni ubuhle.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ubuhle abuyonto inzima. Ngamanye amaxesha ubuchule kunye nobuhle kusebenza ngokulula.
6. Imbono yakho
Ngaba ukhona omnye umntu ehlabathini onokubona umhlaba kanye ngendlela ojonga ngayo?
Hayi.
Akukho mntu wumbi uphile iiyure ezingamashumi amabini anesine ngosuku, iintsuku ezisixhenxe ngeveki, amakhulu amathathu anamashumi amathandathu anesihlanu eentsuku ngonyaka.
Akukho mntu wumbi owakhe wanamava obomi ngendlela efanayo nawe.
Akukho mntu wumbi unalo mzimba wolwazi unawo.
Umbono womntu ngokwahlukileyo ngowakhe.
Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uvuleleke kwizimvo zabanye abantu…
… Hayi ukuba ubamkele njengelungileyo okanye engalunganga, kodwa kukunceda ugcwalise okushiyekileyo kwaye uqhubeke nokuphuhlisa umbono wakho okhethekileyo wehlabathi.
Ukutshintshiselana ngezimvo nomntu olungileyo ngokwembono yakho yehlabathi kunokuvula ukuqonda kunye nobulumko, ke ungoyiki ukumamela okanye ukwabelana ngeembono kunye nezimvo zakho.
7. Incasa yakho
Ingaba uthanda ntoni? Yintoni ongayithandiyo?
Nangona sinokufumana into esivumelana ngayo nabanye abantu kwizinto ezisemgangathweni okanye ubuhle, izinto ozithandayo ziluhlobo oluthile lobuntu bakho.
Izinto umntu azithandayo ziya kuba nefuthe kwizinto ezininzi abazikhethayo ebomini, nokuba kukutya ngantoni okanye luhlobo luni lwabantu abafuna ukuba nolwalamano nabo.
ungayixela njani ukuba unemicimbi yokulahla
Ukuphonononga iindlela ezahlukeneyo zehlabathi, kuzo zonke iifom zazo, yindlela efanelekileyo yokwandisa i-horizons yomntu, ufunde izinto ezintsha, kwaye uqhubeke nokukhula njengomntu.
Ingqondo evulekileyo kunye nokuzimisela ukwamkela incasa yabanye kunokukwazisa kwizinto ezininzi ezintle.
8. Iinjongo zakho
Iinjongo zomntu ngokubanzi isikhokelo sendlela abalichitha ngayo ixesha labo, amandla kunye nomzamo.
Iindawo zobomi kunye nokuzama apho sityala ixesha lethu, amandla, kunye nomzamo wethu ziya kuba zizinto esinazo ezingqondweni zethu amaxesha amaninzi, eziza kuchaphazela oko sikubuyisayo sikuthathe ehlabathini.
Amanqaku amafutshane, aphakathi, kunye nexesha elide asinika isikhokelo kunye nenkuthazo xa sisenza njalo ndiziva ndilahlekile okanye ngathi siyakhubeka endleleni yethu.
Nabani na unokufumana okuninzi ebomini babo, akhule njengomntu, kwaye afumane umkhombandlela ocacileyo ngokufumana iinjongo zokusebenzela.
Ushicilelo liqabane elihle lokujolisa kwinjongo, Ingqondo yokukhula , kuba yindawo yokuthetha ngengqondo yakho ngokukhululekileyo, imephu ngokuchanekileyo into oyifunayo, kwaye uphuhlise isicwangciso sokufika apho.
9. Izinto ozithandayo
Yintoni othanda ukuyenza ukuze wonwabe?
Umbuzo oqhelekileyo abantu abawusebenzisayo njengomkhenkce, kwaye uthetha kuhlobo lomntu onguye.
Izinto endizithandayo ngokuqinisekileyo azimchazi umntu, kodwa into ochitha ixesha lakho uyenza yazisa abanye ukuba ungumntu onjani.
Uyazithanda iipuzzle? Ukujonga ukubukela ukutya kwi-Netflix? Imidlalo? Umsebenzi wokuzithandela? Ukulima? Ukupheka? Ukudlala?
Zonke ezi zinto zithetha okuthile ngawe njengomntu owahlukileyo, amaxabiso akho, kunye nendlela olufuna ngayo ulonwabo okanye injongo yobomi.
Oko kukwathetha ukuba ukuzama nokwamkela izinto ezithandwayo ezintsha kunokunceda ukuququzelela ukukhula kunye nophuhliso lomntu.
10. Umnqweno wakho
Inkanuko yinxalenye entle yamava omntu.
Nazi zininzi izinto onomdla kuzo - ubugcisa, indalo, kunye noluntu ukubala nje ezimbalwa.
Iminqweno inokunika isikhokelo esifunekayo kwinjongo okanye kumava aya kusivumela ukuba sishiye uphawu lwethu kwihlabathi.
Izinto ezishukumisa ezona mvakalelo zinzulu emphefumlweni womntu zinokuthetha nobizo oluphezulu lokwenza into enkulu kunesiqu sakho, nokuba zisenokuba kwindawo yengqondo okanye yeemvakalelo apho izinto zingalunganga ngalo mzuzu.
Ukuqonda ukuthanda kwakho kunokukunceda ufumane indlela ethe ngqo, eyahlukileyo ekhokelwa ziimpawu zakho kunye nokujonga okungafaniyo nehlabathi.
Musa ukuvumela ukuba bapholise phantsi. Stoke kwaye uvuselele loo malangatye amaxesha ngamaxesha, ke ayaqhubeka nokutsha kunye nokukhanyisa indlela yakho.
Sonke sahlukile. Sonke sinento eyahlukileyo nexabisekileyo ukuba negalelo kwihlabathi. Kungathatha ixesha ukufumana into oyenzelwe ukuba ube negalelo kuyo.
Ngumxube obaluleke kakhulu
Kuya kubakho izinto ezizezakho kuwe njengomntu owabelana ngazo nabanye.
Unokuzonwabela ngokutya okufanayo, wabelane ngezinto zokuzonwabisa, okanye ubambe iinkolelo ezifanayo okanye izimvo ezifanayo kwabanye abantu.
Yintoni eyenza umntu ahluke kubo bonke abanye ayizizo ezi zinto ngokwazo, kodwa kukudityaniswa kwezi zinto unazo kuphela.
Wahlukile. Akukho mathandabuzo ngayo.
