Ubomi bunokuba yinto enzima. Luhambo lokufumanisa ukuba ungubani, kutheni ungubani, kwaye ufuna ukuba ngubani.
Umceli mngeni kukuziqonda ezo zinto kwaye uguquke nazo, kuba ezo nkalo zakho zinokutshintsha njengoko ukhula kwaye uzuza amava ngakumbi kwihlabathi.
Ubomi kunye nokujonga kunokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza kuxhomekeke kwimeko ohlangabezana nayo. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba unamashumi amabini okanye amashumi amathandathu.
Ukuntywila kumbindi wokuba ungubani, ikhampasi yakho yangaphakathi, kunye nento oyifunayo ebomini inokukunceda uphuhlise ikhondo lezenzo. Ukuziqonda kunye nokuqonda kuluncedo olukhulu xa usukela uxolo kunye nolonwabo ebomini bakho.
Kwaye ke lolu luhlu lokugqibela lwemibuzo malunga nobomi luyakunceda ngayo!
1. Ndiyakwazi ukonwaba? Ndagqibela nini?
Into enomdla ngolonwabo kukuba ayisiyiyo rhoqo, imeko engaguquguqukiyo. Njengeemvakalelo, ulonwabo lunokuza ludlule. Akukho mntu wonwabileyo ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa akaze afumane ukonwaba okanye ukoneliseka yingxaki efuna ukulungiswa.
Ukungabikho kokuziva wonwabile okanye wanelisekile kunokubonisa ukudakumba. Ukuba kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uthethe nengcali yezonyango.
Ukuxinzezeleka okukhulu kunye neemeko ezinzima zobomi zingenza kube nzima ukufumana ulonwabo.
2. Ngaba ikhona into esemandleni am enokundenza umxholo ngakumbi okanye umntu owonwabileyo?
Rhoqo sijonga ngaphaya kotshintsho oluyimfuneko ekufuneka silwenzile ebomini bethu ukuze sizizisele ngakumbi ukonwaba okanye ukoneliseka .
Kulula ukuwela kumgibe xa usila kwi-monotony yobomi, nokuba iyahambelana nosapho, umsebenzi, okanye isikolo.
Ukuba awuvuyi, ngaba kukho nantoni na ngaphakathi kwamandla akho onokuyitshintsha? Ngaba ungashukumisa inkqubo yakho yesiqhelo okanye unamava amatsha?
3. Ndingazibekela ziphi iinjongo ukuba andonelisekanga ngulo mntu ndinguye ngoku?
Iinjongo sisiseko esomeleleyo sokuziphucula kunye nokuphuhlisa ulonwabo lomntu.
Okuqhelekileyo indlela yokumisela iinjongo Kukukhetha okufutshane (yonke imihla, ngeveki, ngenyanga), phakathi (iinyanga ezintandathu ukuya kunyaka), kunye neenjongo zexesha elide (iminyaka emihlanu, iminyaka elishumi) ukunceda ukucwangcisa ubomi bakho kunye nokulinganisa inkqubela phambili.
Indawo elungileyo onokuthi uqale ngayo kukujolisa kwiindawo zobomi bakho ezizisa ukungonwabi okanye uxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko.
4. Ngaba ubomi bam bunoxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko okanye luzaliswe yidrama?
Wonke umntu kufuneka aqwalasele imimandla eyahlukeneyo yobomi bakhe ukuze abone ukuba yintoni ebangela uxinzelelo kunye nedrama engeyomfuneko.
Isenokuba njalo abantu abanetyhefu ukuba uphelile, umsebenzi ombi kunye nomphathi onzima, okanye imiba yobuqu efuna ukutshintsha.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uphile ubomi obungenaxinezeleko ngokugqibeleleyo. Ubomi buya kuhlala bunamahla ndenyuka. Into enokwenzeka kukuzahlula kubantu ababi kunye neemeko ezithintela ngaphezulu koncedo.
5. Ngaba ndibambelele kuwo nawuphi na umsindo, ukuzisola, okanye ityala endinokulixolela ndiluyeke?
Ubomi bucelomngeni kuye wonke umntu, nangona ezinye zezo miceli mngeni zingaphezulu kwezinye. Kuyanceda ukumisa kwaye ujonge ifayile ye- umsindo , ndiyazisola, kwaye ubutyala ubambelele kuyo kwaye uqwalasele ukuba lixesha lokuba uyiyeke ihambe.
Ezi zizinto ezinokulandela umntu ubomi babo bonke ukuba azenzi mzamo wokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo ukuze ezo mvakalelo ziyeke ukusinda kakhulu emagxeni abo.
6. Ndingabonisa ububele obungakumbi kubantu abandingqongileyo?
Isenzo sokupha ububele sisempilweni engqondweni nasemphefumlweni. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe zizimbo zomzimba ezinkulu okanye kude kufikelelwe kude. Ukunikezela ngobubele kwabo ubathandayo okanye abantu abakungqongileyo kunokunceda ukukhulisa imvakalelo yombulelo kunye ukuthobeka .
Umntu angacinga ukwenza nje izandla ezimbalwa emsebenzini wokuzithandela okanye ukunikela kwinjongo abanomdla kuyo.
7. Ingaba bakhona abantu abakufutshane nam abandishiya ndiziva ndidiniwe?
Abantu abasoloko befanele ukuba babekho ubomi bonke. Njengokuba sikhula kwaye ubomi buqhubela phambili, abahlobo kunye nosapho banokuwa njengoko sonke silandela iindlela zethu. Ngamanye amaxesha oko kukuqhubela phambili kwendalo kwezinto.
Ngamanye amaxesha, sinokujamelana nokukhetha okungathandekiyo ngenxa yokuba umntu esimkhathaleleyo ehlala engonwabanga kwaye edinisa amandla engqondo nawomphefumlo.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba ube nobomi obonwabileyo, obunempilo xa ujikelezwe ngabantu abakushiyayo ndiziva ndidiniwe kwaye andonwabanga.
8. Ngaba ndifumana ixesha elaneleyo ngaphandle kwezixhobo ze-elektroniki kunye namajelo asekuhlaleni?
Imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo kunye nokusetyenziswa kwezixhobo zombane zombini ziboshwe kukonyuka kwimiba yempilo yengqondo kubandakanya ukudakumba noxinzelelo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uhambe kude ne-elektroniki rhoqo ukuqinisekisa ukuba ingqondo ifumana idosi esempilweni kubo bonke ubomi. Abantu bafuna ukuhlalisana ubuso ngobuso, ukukhanya kwelanga, kunye nokuzilolonga rhoqo ukuze bonwabe kwaye basempilweni.
Ukusetyenziswa ngokufanelekileyo kwezixhobo ze-elektroniki kunye nemithombo yeendaba zentlalo kunokuba yintsikelelo kubomi bomntu, kodwa ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kunokubangela iingxaki ezininzi.
9. Ngaba ndinazo iindlela ezinempilo zokujamelana noxinzelelo, usizi, okanye umothuko ebomini bam?
Ubomi busiphosela kumava alungileyo nangalunganga. Amava amnandi yinto esinokuyonwabela nje ngalo mzuzu njengoko sisiya phambili. Okubi, nangona kunjalo, kunokunamathela kwaye kubangele iingxaki ezininzi kwimpilo yomntu kunye nomgangatho wobomi.
Iindlela zokuziphatha ezinempilo zokuhamba ngoxinzelelo, usizi, kunye noxinzelelo kubalulekile ekusetyenzisweni kweziganeko ezimbi kunye nokuqhubeka nokuqhubela phambili ebomini. Zizakhono oza kuzisebenzisa ubomi bakho bonke.
10. Ndiyakwazi ukuzithanda ngazo zonke iimpawu zam ezintle nezimbi?
Uya zithande ngokwenene ? Konke okuhle nokubi? Zonke ii izinto ezikwenza ube ngulo mntu unguye ?
Uhambo lokuzithanda lude kwaye luyajikeleza, kodwa luzisa uxolo, ulonwabo, kunye nokuzithemba xa sele ukwazi ukwamkela zonke iziqwenga zakho.
Abantu bayathanda ukungcwaba into yabo engathandekiyo kwaye bayiphephe ukuze ingabenzakalisi, kodwa ngokwenza njalo bayakuphepha ukukhula kunye nothando olubangelwa kukuphiliswa.
11. Ngaba ubumoya bubalulekile ebomini bam?
Yiyiphi indima edlalwa bubumoya ebomini bakho? Ngaba iyasebenza? Umntu ongacacanga? Ngaba uwile kwiinkolelo zakho zokomoya? Ngaba ungonwaba okanye uzive wanelisekile ngokubuyela kwinto oyikholelwayo?
Mhlawumbi awungowomoya kwaphela, kodwa endaweni yoko zichonge ikhowudi yokuziphatha okanye ifilosofi eye yakhanyisa njengesikhanyiso.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ukudibana neenkolelo zikabani kunye nokuhamba uye kuzo kunokunika isikhokelo xa kukho ndiziva ndilahlekile kwaye andonwabanga.
Kwaye nokuba awunguye umntu wokomoya, ukuphinda uhambisane nekhowudi yokuziphatha yangaphakathi kunokubonelela ngezibonelelo ezifanayo.
12. Ingaba kufanelekile ukuba ndibandakanye ezinye zeenkolelo zam ebomini bam?
Iinkqubo ezininzi zeenkolelo, nokuba zezomoya okanye zefilosofi, zibonisa inani elikhulu lezinto ezahlukeneyo. Ngamanye amaxesha afanelekileyo ebomini bakho, ngamanye amaxesha awanjalo.
Ndixelele into enomdla ngawe
Kufanelekile ukuchitha ixesha elithile uphinda uzifumana kwakhona ngezo nkolelo kunye nemibono ukubona ukuba akukho nto intsha enokufakwa.
Uluntu luye lwachitha amawaka eminyaka luzonwabisa nolwaneliseko. Oku akuyiyo imizila esiyifunayo i-blaze ngokwethu.
13. Kutheni ndizikholelwa kwaye ndiziva izinto endizenzayo?
'Ngoba?' lowo ngumbuzo onamandla. Kutheni usinceda ukuba siqonde ukuba kutheni sikholelwa, sicinga kwaye senza izinto ngendlela esenza ngayo. Okukhona ujonga ukuba kutheni le nto uyikholelwayo, kokukhona uya ukhula ngakumbi kwiingcinga neemvakalelo zakho.
Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni kunokukunceda ubone iingxaki ngaphambi kokuba zikhule, zikunike ulawulo olukhulu kubomi bakho, uxolo lwengqondo, ulonwabo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
14. Ngaba iinkolelo zam zindizisela uxolo olukhulu okanye imbambano?
Njengoko sikhula ebomini, sinokufumanisa ukuba iinkolelo ezindala esasiziphatha zazingasasebenzi kakuhle. Thatha ixesha lokujonga ukuba loluphi uncedo olunegalelo kubomi bakho.
Ngaba bakuzisa uxolo? Intuthuzelo? Uluhlu? Okanye ngaba banegalelo elibi kubomi bakho? Ukwenza uzive ungalunganga? Ukuvala iimbono zakho? Ukukutyhala kude nabantu obathandayo kwaye obakhathaleleyo?
15. Ngaba kubalulekile ukuba ndidlale indima kuhambo lwesintu?
Asinguye wonke umntu kufuneka ukuba umkhondo wendlela. Baninzi abantu abakhuthaza ukuthetha nokuma ngenyaniso yakho, engengomyalezo ombi ngokubanzi, kodwa isenokungabi ngumyalezo olungele wena.
Asinguye wonke umntu ingayi umkhondo wendlela. Asinguye wonke umntu ofuna ukuba yinkokeli. Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ufumane olwakho uxolo okanye uhambe emva kwabantu abasele betshisa iindlela.
16. Yeyiphi indima ekufanele ukuba ndiyayidlala kolo hambo? Ukuba kukhona enye?
Ukuba uyafuna ukudlala indima, inyathelo elilandelayo kukuzama ukuchonga i-niche yakho. Abantu bahlala bekwenziwa kwaye bakhokelwa ngamava abo obomi. Yindawo elungileyo ukuba uqale ukhangele ukuze ubone ukuba ngaba kukho umkhondo owenza ingqiqo kuwe nakubomi bakho.
Abantu abaninzi abayazi indawo abaya kuyo ngaphambi kokuba baqale indlela yabo yobomi. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Ngapha koko, abanokungazi ukuba indawo yabo bayokukhetha nokuba bade baqale ukuhamba ngendlela efanelekileyo.
17. Ngaba ndiziva ndibizwa ukuba ndenze into endingayenziyo?
Intuition idlala indima enkulu kwindlela esibuphatha ngayo ubomi bethu, nokuba asiyivumi okanye siyiqonde.
Ngamanye amaxesha siziva nje ukuba into ilungile okanye ayilunganga kuthi. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba kukutsala into esivakalelwa ngayo .
Ngaba uziva ubizo lokwenza into ongayenziyo? Ukuphendula umnxeba ongawukhathaleli kunokukunceda ukukhokele kwindlela yakho eya kulonwabo kunye nokuzaliseka.
18. Ngaba ndisebenzela ukuba lolona hlobo lubalaseleyo lomntu ndinokuba lulo?
Ukuziphucula kukuzicwangcisela ngokwakho ukuba ube yinguqulelo efanelekileyo kuwe. Zininzi izibonelelo zokuzinceda kunye neencwadi ngaphandle apho ezifuna abantu babhalisele indlela yabo yokucinga, ukuze babe njengabo.
Nangona ungasebenzisa ezinye izinto njengesikhokelo, umntu ngamnye kufuneka afumanise ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba lolona hlobo luhle ngokwabo.
Oko kunokuthetha ukusebenza kwimpilo yomzimba nengqondo, oko kunokuthetha ukusebenzela ukuphucula ubomi bomntu okanye bobungcali. Impendulo yalo mbuzo yahlukile njengokuba unjalo!
19. Ngaba ndizinza kwiindawo zobomi bam apho bendifanele ukufikelela khona ngaphezulu?
Baninzi abantu abadibanisa ukungafumani nantoni na embi ngokulunga. Ukungathathi hlangothi, amava aphathekayo akukho nto imbi kodwa akukho nto ilungileyo yindlela eqinisekileyo yokwenza dikwa ungonwabi .
Abantu abaye babanobubi obuninzi ebomini babo bahlala bedida ukungabikho kokulungileyo okanye okubi njengento elungileyo, kodwa ayisiyiyo. Indawo yokungathathi hlangothi ayiboneleli ngento efunwa ngumntu wonke-ukuzaliseka.
Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba wonke umntu kufuneka aphakame abaleke amagqabi akhe afike kumasimi aluhlaza? Hayi. Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba kufuneka sithathe isitokhwe kwaye siqinisekise ukuba oko sinako ebomini bethu kunika isibonelelo esifanelekileyo esingashukumiyo kubundilele.
20. Ingaba ndinomkhomba-ndlela wendlela endiza kuphuhla ngayo?
Ukuqhubela phambili kubomi bobuqu kunye nobungcali bomntu kuya kufuna imephu yendlela ukufumana indawo ekuyiwa kuyo.
Imephu yendlela ayikho malunga nokubeka iinjongo. Imalunga nokucwangciswa kwamanyathelo ayakuthathwa ukuze ufike apho ufuna ukuba khona kunye nexesha ekufuneka lifike ngalo lokufika. Imephu yendlela inokusebenzela ukomelela, ikhondo lomsebenzi, intlalontle kunye nocwangciso lomntu.
Uphando ngendlela yokufezekisa iinjongo lunokukunceda ukuthandabuza kunye noxinzelelo, njengoko unesicwangciso esibambekayo esisekufezekiseni iinjongo zakho onokuthi ubuyele kuzo xa ungathandabuzeki.
21. Yintoni endinqandayo ekubekeni nasekusebenzeleni iinjongo zam?
Owona mqobo mkhulu abantu abaza kujongana nawo yingqondo yabo. Ingqondo iyakuthanda ukugcina bonke ubunzima, ukusilela, kunye namagama abantu ababi abazama ukusidiliza. Kunzima ukuvala ezo ngcinga zimbi kwaye uzityhalele phambili ukuya empumelelweni.
Ngamanye amaxesha ingaphezulu koko. Mhlawumbi awunakho ukufikelela kwizibonelelo eziyimfuneko okanye uswele ulwazi ngendlela yokuqhubeka.
Umntu makayeke ukubuza ukuba yintoni na ebathintelayo ekubeni benze inkqubela phambili ukuze bafumane isisombululo kule ngxaki kwaye baqhubele phambili.
22. Yintoni endiyiphephayo ebomini bam ngoku?
Ukuthintela inkunkuma kunye nombulali wesona sixhobo sixabisekileyo onaso- ixesha. Ufumana kuphela iiyure ezingamashumi amabini anesine kusuku ngalunye lweentsuku zakho, kwaye kuphela iintsuku ezininzi ebomini bakho. Nje ukuba badlule, bemkile.
Abantu bachitha ixesha elininzi bephepha uxanduva kunye nokudibana kuba ayonwabanga kubo. Ingxaki kukuba inkqubela phambili enentsingiselo iyenziwa kwindawo yokungakhululeki.
Umntu kufuneka azame ukujongana kwaye enze umzamo osebenzayo ukoyisa imiceli mngeni yabo endaweni yokuphepha.
23. Ngaba ndinomfanekiso ngqondweni wekamva lam?
Ufuna ukuba ngubani kwixesha elizayo? Ufuna ukuba phi kwixa elizayo? Umfanekiso oqinisekileyo wengqondo yakho ngekamva lakho unokukunceda ucwangcise indlela efanelekileyo eya empumelelweni.
Nokuba awukwazi ukuchaza umfanekiso ocacileyo wekamva elikude, unokujolisa kwiminyaka emibini ezayo ukuze uhambe kwindlela yakho.
24. Ngaba ndenza le nto ndifuna ukuyenza kunye nam nobomi bam?
Abantu bahlala befumanisa ukuba balindelwe ngabahlobo babo, usapho kunye noluntu. Oko akuthethi ukuba kungqinelane nento ekufaneleyo. Akukho mntu ngaphandle kokuba ungathatha isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi eyona nto ilungele ubomi bakho.
Umntu makayeke kwaye ngamaxesha athile athathe isitokhwe iinjongo zabo , ubomi, kunye nolwalathiso lokuqinisekisa ukuba ezi zinto ziyahambelana noko bafuna zona ngokwabo.
Awungekhe uphile amaphupha kunye neminqweno yomnye umntu kwaye ulindele ukuba uzive wonwabile, uphumelele kwaye wanelisekile.
25. Yintoni enokundinceda ndizive ndonwabile ngobomi bam?
Uvavanyo lwento umntu avakalelwa kukuba bayaphoswa ebomini yindlela elungileyo yokuqala ukwakha isicwangciso solonwabo olukhulu nolonwabo.
Oko kunokubandakanya utshintsho lomsebenzi, ukukhula kobudlelwane nabanye abantu, ukuphuma kwimeko yoxinzelelo, ukulungisa imicimbi yezempilo, ukuhamba, okanye utshintsho nje kwindlela umntu abuphila ngayo ubomi bakhe.
26. Ingaba ndiphila ngokunyanisekileyo kum, iinkolelo zam kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni?
Abantu bahlala bephenjelelwa ngabantu ababangqongileyo. Inokubangela ukuba bakhule bevela kude kunene le nto bayiyo, into abakholelwa kuyo, nokuba babambe njani ukuba bayinyani. Oku kunokubangela ukungonwabi kunye nokungonwabi.
Khula ukude kakhulu kumaxabiso akho asisiseko kwaye unokufumanisa ukuba ushiya indawo ebalulekileyo kuwe ngasemva.
27. Ingaba abantu bandibona ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunendlela endizibona ngayo?
Nangona kukubi ukuzilungisa ukuze uhlangane nokulindelwe ngabanye abantu, kufanelekile ukuvavanya ukuba kukho nakuphi na ukungangqinelani kwimbono yomntu ngokwakhe ngokuchasene nendlela abanye abakubona ngayo.
Isizathu kukuba ubudlelwane obunempilo buhlala busekwe kukuthembana kunye unxibelelwano . Ukuba kukho ukungangqinelani, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho ingxaki ekuthembeni okanye kunxibelelwano.
Mhlawumbi umntu akaziva ekhululekile ekubeni eyinyani. Mhlawumbi enye okanye enye ayichazi ngokucacileyo ukuba bangobani kunye nolindelo lwabo.
Oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka utshintshe ukuhlangabezana nokulindelweyo, kodwa kunokunceda ukuseka ukuthembana okukhulu kunye nolwalamano oluza kubonelela ngesibonelelo esihle ebomini bakho.
28. Ngaba ndithetha izinto ezifuna ukuthethwa?
Kukho amaxesha okuba ungathethi. Ukuthintela iincoko ezifuna ukwenzeka kukulandela ngokukhawuleza ubudlelwane obungaphumeleli kunye nokungonwabi.
Abantu abaninzi bayaziphepha iingxoxo ezingathandekiyo kuba abafuni ukushukumisa isikhephe okanye ukubonwa njengomntu ombi.
Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ubeke umngcipheko kuyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka kubekho impikiswano yokufikelela ezantsi kwinyaniso kwaye ufumane isisombululo esifanelekileyo.
29. Ndinemida eyomeleleyo ngokwaneleyo ukuze ndihlale ndisempilweni kwaye ndilandele iinjongo zam?
Abantu banokuba nzima. Zirhabaxa kwaye zirhabaxa, ngamanye amaxesha zingenanceba kwaye zingenabubele.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ikwangabantu esibabiza ngokuba ngabahlobo kunye namalungu osapho. Mhlawumbi abanikeli uhlobo lwenkxaso okanye ububele esinethemba lokuba banokunikela ngalo.
Ngelixa kunokuba kuhle ukuba abantu bangazama ukuba nobubele okanye baqonde ngakumbi, ayisiyonto esifanele ukuyilindela. Ukuphuhliswa komntu kwimida yakhe kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukushenxisa ukungakhathali, ukugcina impilo yengqondo yomntu, kunye nokuqhubeka nokuqhubela phambili.
30. Ndingavuya ndonwabe bubomi bam ukuba umhlaba ungaphela ngomso?
Ngaba wonwabile kwaye wanelisekile yindlela oye wabuphila ngayo ubomi bakho? Ngaba yinto onokuyijonga emva ngekratshi novuyo?
Ubomi bunzima kwaye sonke senza iimpazamo ezibuhlungu, ngamanye amaxesha eziziziyatha. Kodwa akukaze kube semva kwexesha ukuqala ukuphila ubomi obungcono kwaye shiya uphawu oluqinisekileyo emhlabeni !
Musa ukuvumela ixesha lakho elidlulileyo lichaze ikamva lakho. Sonke sinokuba ngcono, sonwabe ngakumbi kwaye silunge ngakumbi!
