Emva phaya ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yoo-1980, uphando ezikolweni lwakhokelela kwisayikholojisti uGqirha Carol Dweck kunye noogxa bakhe kwisiphelo esinomdla esitshintshe ngokupheleleyo indlela esicinga ngayo ukuba iingqondo zethu zisebenza njani.
Ukuba awuzange uve malunga nomxholo we Ingqondo yokukhula , into oza kuyifunda inokutshintsha indlela ozijonga ngayo kunye nehlabathi ngonaphakade. Andibaxi.
Ukujonga ngokufutshane iZiphumo
Uphando luqale xa uGqirha Dweck efuna ukufumanisa ukuba abantwana bajongana njani nomceli mngeni kunye nobunzima.
Uye waqaphela ukuba ngelixa abanye abantwana bebuya kubuya kusilelo oluncinci kunye nokusilela, abanye bayabathatha ngentliziyo kwaye ukusebenza kwabo kwikamva kuya kuchaphazeleka.
Ngokufunda indlela abaziphethe ngayo amawaka abantwana, uGqirha Dweck wafikelela kwisigqibo sokuba, xa kufikwa kwiinkolelo malunga nobukrelekrele kunye nokufunda, abantu Ingqondo yokukhula okanye a ingqondo esisigxina.
Ukuba unengqondo yokukhula, oko kuthetha ukuba unguye ukuqonda izinto ezenzeka kuwe ngenkolelo yokuba iitalente zakho azilungiswanga, kodwa zinamanzi.
Uyakholelwa ukuba ngokusebenza nzima, ukuzinikela, kunye nokucela uncedo kwabo bakungqongileyo, unako phucula ubukrelekrele bakho kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukufunda izakhono ezintsha.
ujonge ntoni emfaneni
Nguwe ungakhathazeki malunga nokuba abanye bacinga ntoni xa uhlangabezana nokubuyela umva, njengoko ubona kuyinxalenye yekhosi kunye nenxalenye yendalo yenkqubo yokufunda. Ubeka amandla akho ekufundeni kwaye ungakhathazeki.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba unengqondo engatshintshiyo, uyakholelwa ukuba wazalwa unezipho kunye neetalente zakho kwaye akukho nto unokuyenza ukuzitshintsha. Ukrelekrele ngokwendalo, okanye awunguye, kwaye akukho sixa sokuzama ukwenza umohluko kuloo nto.
Oko kuthetha ukuba awunazinjongo zingako zokuzityhala. Eyona nto iphambili kuwe kukuthintela ukusilela, kwaye uyazi ukuba ukufunda into entsha kuya kubandakanya ukuphazamiseka.
Ayenzelwanga Abantwana Bodwa
Nangona uphando lwaluqhutyelwa ekuqaleni kubantwana abakwiminyaka yokuhamba isikolo, kuye kwaqatshelwa ukuba ezi ngqondo ziyasilandela ebudaleni kwaye zinokuba nefuthe kubomi bethu bobuchwephesha nakwimpilo yethu yobuqu.
Ezi ngqondo azikhawulelwanga kwindlela esiluthatha ngayo ulwazi, kodwa zinokusebenza nakwiimpawu zethu zobuntu. Ukuba siqinisekile ukuba sizalwe ngendlela ethile, enjengokungahlali nabantu okanye ukuba neentloni, kwaye kunjalo, ke, ndiza kuthanda makube njalo.
Kodwa ukuba siyayamkela imbono yokuba, ngomzamo omncinci, singakhula kwaye siguquke kwaye sizibumbe, emva koko sinokulufikelela utshintsho ebesingacingi ukuba lunokwenzeka.
Imfundo nokufunda akuyeki xa ushiya isikolo okanye eyunivesithi. Ubomi sisifundo esinye eside, kwaye ukuba asivulelekanga ekwamkeleni nasekwamkeleni ukungaphumeleli njengophawu lokuba siya phambili, emva koko sinokuma.
Ukuba unokuziqeqesha ukuba ubone umhlaba ngengqondo yokukhula kunye nokubanokwenzeka, uya kumangaliswa zizibonelelo oya kuthi uzivule kubudlelwane bakho, umsebenzi, ulonwabo kunye nempilo. Apha ngezantsi zimbalwa.
Izibonelelo zokukhula kwengqondo
1. Ungabondla ubudlelwane bakho
Ugqirha Dweck wakhankanya ukuba ukukhula kwengqondo kungenza umahluko omkhulu kuzo zonke iintlobo zobudlelwane.
Umntu onengqondo esisigxina ulindele ukuba ubudlelwane bezothando bufezeke, kwaye uyala ukwamkela umbono wokuba ubudlelwane obunempumelelo buya kufuna umsebenzi. Kubo, oko kuya kuthetha ukuba inesiphene esibulalayo.
Ukuba bayakholelwa ukuba sonke siza kweli hlabathi senziwe ngokupheleleyo kwaye singakwazi ukufunda nokuziqhelanisa, ke ngoko, ngokufanelekileyo, bakholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane obungenasiphelo buya kuhlala bunjalo.
Bafuna ukubekwa ngokuqinileyo kumanqwanqwa ngumthandi wabo, kwaye babona nakuphi na ukungavisisani okuyintlekele kunokuba kungokwemvelo kwaye kungaphepheki.
Umntu onengqondo yokukhula, nangona kunjalo, uyaqonda ukuba abantu ababini abahlanganayo baya kuhlala benomahluko wabo.
Bafumana inyani yokuba ubudlelwane buquka omabini amaqela afunda ngomnye kunye nokukhula kunye, ukuphuhlisa izakhono abazidingayo ukuze basebenze kakuhle njengeqela.
Oku akunjalo nje ngobudlelwane bezothando. UPlato kwaye ubudlelwane bosapho buyafuna ukusebenza kunye nokondliwa, into esisigxina engqondweni ukuba kunzima ukuyiqonda.
2. Uzigweba wena kunye nabanye ngokuNcinci
Ukuba sinengqondo esisigxina, i-reflex yethu ihlala igweba kwaye iphonononge izinto eziqhubekayo ngathi.
Yonke into eyenzekayo isetyenziselwa ukuvavanya izinto, nokuba singabantu abalungileyo okanye hayi okanye senza ngcono kunomntu kwidesika elandelayo.
Ingqondo yokukhula ayinalo ixesha lokuchitha kuyo evakalisa umgwebo okanye kwinto eyenziwa ngabantu abanye ixakeke kakhulu kugxila kwindlela enokwenza ngayo inkqubela phambili.
3. Uyaphumelela xa ugxekwa ngendlela eyakhayo
Zimbalwa izakhono ezibaluleke ngakumbi kunokwazi yamkela ukugxeka okwakhayo kwaye uyisebenzise njengeqonga lokukhula. Ukuba ubona ukugxekwa njengethuba lokuphucula kunokuba ulithathe ngentliziyo, akusayi kuyeka.
Ngendlela efanayo, ukukhula kwengqondo kuthetha ukuba awudingi kuqinisekiswa rhoqo ukukuqinisekisa ukuba ufumana izinto ngokuchanekileyo.
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4. Uyaphola kwaye Ukonwabele ukukhwela
Ukuba uhlala ukhathazeka ngokungaphumeleli, awusoze wonwabe.
Njengoko uDweck ebeka, 'Akufuneki ucinge ukuba sele uyinto entle ukuba ufuna ukuyenza kwaye uyonwabele ukuyenza.'
Kuba le nto ujolise kuyo yinxalenye yokufunda, akunamsebenzi nokuba uyaphumelela okanye ungaphumelela usenokuba nexesha elimnandi lokudubula.
Oko kuthetha ukuba ungazama imidlalo emitsha okanye izinto ezintsha ozithandayo ngaphandle kwentloni ngenxa yokuswela amandla, uvula iingcango kuzo zonke iindlela zokuzonwabisa ongazange wazi ukuba zikhona.
5. Wenza owona msebenzi unzima kuLuhlu lwakho lwezinto oza kuzenza kuqala
Abo kuthi abaneengqondo ezinzileyo bagqwesa ekulibaziseni. Siza kuphawula zonke izinto ezilula kuluhlu lwethu lwezinto esinokuzenza ngamehlo ethu avaliweyo. Kwaye siya kubeka kude ukwenza nantoni na eya kuthi inyanzelise imodyuli yokucinga okanye umgudu kuba sinexhala lokuba asizukuvuka siye kumceli mngeni.
imali ebhankini 2018 imidlalo
Umntu onengqondo yokukhula, kwelinye icala, uvuyela umceli mngeni. Bancamathela ngqo kowona msebenzi unzima kuluhlu lwabo, bonwabela ithuba lokufunda into entsha kunye nokuphucula izakhono kunye nesiseko solwazi. Ingqondo yokukhula inokwenza imimangaliso yokuvelisa.
6. Uyeke Ukucinezeleka
Nge-mindset esisigxina, kugxilwe rhoqo kwimpumelelo. Awunakuze uvumele imigangatho yakho ityibilike, kwaye uhlala ugqibelele ngenxa yento okholelwa ukuba impazamo iyakuthetha ngawe.
Xa ujonga umhlaba ngamehlo e-mindset esisigxina, isiphumo esinye sovavanyo esibi sichaza unaphakade. Ukuba leyo yindlela ojonga ngayo izinto, uxinzelelo alunakuphepheka.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba ungakwenza njani oko ndikhululekile ungaziva ukuba awusakhathali. Ngomqondo wokukhula, eyona nto ujolise kuyo kukuphucula, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngento efunwa ngomnye umntu. Inkululeko.
7. Wehlisa umngcipheko wokufumana uxinzelelo
Kubonakalisiwe kwizifundo ezahlukeneyo ukujonga ubomi ngelensi yengqondo ezinzileyo kunokunyusa umngcipheko wokudakumba.
Kusengqiqweni, xa ucinga ngako, njengoko uthatha nakuphi na ukubuyela umva ngakumbi. Ungaqala ukubuza ubuchule bakho kwaye ungubani na njengomntu.
Kwingqondo yokukhula, awusalindelanga ukugqibelela, ngenxa yoko ngekhe ube nakho ukuxhalaba noxinzelelo xa usilele.
8. Ufumana imbono engakumbi
Kwimeko yokukhula kwengqondo, unokuyiqonda into yokuba ukuqhekeka kobudlelwane okanye iziphumo ezimbi zoviwo azichazi ukuba ungubani njengomntu okanye kuthetha ukuba ilizwe liyaphela.
Uyazi ukuba ubukrelekrele bakho abunakushwankathelwa ngenani kwaye ukuzixabisa kwakho akuxhomekeki ekubeni ulwalamano lwakho lumi eluvavanyweni lwexesha.
9. Awuyoyiki Ukuphupha Kukhulu
Ukuba i-mindset yakho egxile kugxile kumanqaku akho ovavanyo alandelayo okanye uxhalabise ngokubanzi malunga nendlela oza kwenza ngayo kwiziganeko ezizodwa, ngekhe iphinde ibenokuphupha.
I-mindset esisigxina iyasaba ukuseta indawo yayo ephezulu kakhulu kuba icinga kuphela malunga nokuwela kude.
Ingqondo yokukhula iyakwazi ukugxila kwinjongo yokugqibela kwaye ayivumeli ukubuyela umva komntu ngamnye kukhuphe ikhosi.
Ingqondo yokukhula inentembelo yokudubula iinkwenkwezi, ngaphandle kokwazi ngqo ukuba izakuphelela phi.
Ukulungele Ukungena?
Kuvakala kukuhle, akunjalo? Akukho mntu uya kuba nengqondo yokukhula epheleleyo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi babo, kodwa ngomzamo kunye nokuzimisela, unokuzikhulula kancinane kancinane kwingqondo yakho esisigxina.
Isitshixo sokwenza utshintsho kwindlela ocinga ngayo kukuthatha kancinci. Njengokuba ungekhe ushiye isofa ngomso kwaye ubaleke umdyarho, awunakulindela ukuba ingqondo yakho isebenze ngendlela engakhange iqeqeshwe ngayo.
Inyathelo lokuqala kukwamkela ukuba ngaba ingqondo esisigxina ilawula ubomi bakho. Unokwenza oku ngokugcina umkhondo wokuziphatha kunye neengcinga zakho.
Amathuba sele unoluvo olulungileyo lokuba uthanda ngakumbi kwi-mindset okanye kwi-mindset yokukhula, kodwa Ijelo - kugxilwe kwindlela ophendula ngayo kwiingxaki kunye nokusilela - yindlela elungileyo yokufumanisa indlela ingqondo yakho esebenza ngayo kwiimeko ezithile.
Emva kokuba uqaphele iipateni zakho zokucinga, zama ukuzibamba nanini na xa uqala ukuba neengcinga zengqondo ezizinzileyo.
Xa imeko enzima izithintela, yenza ngabom iinzame zokuphendula ngendlela eya kukuvumela ukuba ukhule kwaye ufunde.
Rekhoda impumelelo yakho kwijenali yakho. Ulibale ukusilela. Khumbula, konke oku kukhula.
Elinye iqhinga elilungileyo kukuzama ukukhuthaza ukukhula kwengqondo kwabanye abantu, nokuba ngabantwana okanye ngabantu abadala. Gxila kumzamo abawenzayo kunye nezicwangciso abazisebenzisayo xa ubancoma, endaweni yokuthetha ngobukrelekrele babo bendalo okanye ubuchule babo.
Okukhona unceda abanye abantu ngaphandle, kokukhona uya kuzinceda.
