Usenokuba awuqapheli, kodwa ilizwe laseNtshona libonakala ngathi lisemngciphekweni wokuphazamiseka kwemithambo-luvo ngokudibeneyo.
Naphi na apho ujika khona, abantu banengxaki yokuxhalaba nokudakumba, abanye bafikelela kwinqanaba lokuba bakhubazeke ngokupheleleyo. Oku kuyabayeka ekukhokeleni nakuphi na ukubonakala kobomi 'obuqhelekileyo'.
Enye yezinto eziphambili ezinegalelo kuninzi loxinzelelo kukuba abantu, ngokubanzi, bafuna ukwazi ukuba bakhuselekile kwaye bakhuselekile, kwaye nantoni na esongela indawo yabo yokuthuthuzela iya kubaphazamisa.
Ingxaki apha, ewe, kukuba imimandla yentuthuzelo yinkohliso.
Akukho zicwangciso ziya kuze zivele ngendlela esifuna ukuba zenzeke ngayo, kwaye ukuzama ukulawula izinto ezahlukeneyo ukugcina imvakalelo yokuba 'sikhuselekile' kwaye sonwabile kuya kukhokelela kukudana.
Ukuba ungumntu othanda ukulawula zonke iinkcukacha ezincinci ebomini, oku kulandelayo kunokukunceda ukuba ucinge kwakhona.
Ukuba Ufuna Ukwenza Oothixo Bahleke, Baxelele Izicwangciso Zakho
Ngaba wakha waba nesicwangciso esisebenze ngokuchanekileyo njengoko ubucinga? Okanye ngaba bekusoloko kukho imeko ethile engalindelekanga ekufuneka ujongane nayo xa ivela?
Unokuba namabali amabi ukubalisa ngamaxesha owahambileyo, nokuba yinqwelomoya ephulukana nemithwalo yakho, okanye ugula ngogonyamelo ngenxa yeembaza ezithile.
Okanye mhlawumbi umzuzu wothando waphazanyiswa ngumkhono wobukhulu be-cocker spaniel etsiba ngenzondelelo kwindawo yokulala.
Oko kwathethi, olo hambo lwalunokuba lwaluzele ngamathuba amahle awakuzalisa ngovuyo nolonwabo, akunjalo?
Ukuba ubusazi kwangaphambili malunga nezinto eziza kwenzeka, ngaba ubuya kukhe uhambe naphina kwasekuqaleni?
Ukuncamathela ekucingeni kolawulo kunokukugulisa (kwaye konakalise ubudlelwane bakho)
Umnqweno wokuba kwihlabathi elikhuselekileyo, elinokuqikelelwa lingenza abantu baziphathe ngeendlela ezinamandla nezingachananga.
Kwabanye abantu, oku kunokubonakalisa kulawulo lokwenene kwabanye abantu ebomini babo ukuze amazwi nezenzo zabo zingaze zibangele ukumangaliswa okanye ukungonwabi.
Imiqathango efana nokuphazamiseka okunyanzelekileyo (OCD) kunokuvela xa abantu beziva ngathi abanalo ulawulo oluninzi ebomini babo njengoko bafuna.
Endaweni yoko, bazama ukulawula ngokupheleleyo izinto ezincinci ezibangqongileyo… njengokulungiselela izinongo zokupheka ngokwealfabhethi, okanye ukrozo lweepeni neepensile kwimiqolo ecocekileyo.
Oku kunokuba kukuthomalalisa okwangoku, kodwa ukuba wenza izinto ezinje kwaye ukhawulezisa iqabane lakho okanye abantwana ngenxa yokuphazamisa iodolo, oko kubangela umonakalo omkhulu.
Kwangokunjalo, xa abantu besiva ukuswela ulawulo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi babo, banokuba nengxaki yokutya. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba awukwazi ukulawula enye into, unokulawula into oyenzayo (okanye ungayityi), akunjalo?
Xa abantu bebambelela ekuzonwabiseni-okwangoku ukuzilimaza - imikhwa enje ngezi ukuze uphelise ixhala ngotshintsho , bayazenzakalisa kumanqanaba amaninzi.
Iziphazamiso ezinje ngezi zonakalisa umzimba kunye nengqondo, kwaye kuba ziya kuhlala zikhona iimpembelelo eziphazamisayo, kwanokuzama ukulawula izinto ezincinci kunokujongwa.
Oko emva koko kuya kubangela ixhala ukuba linyuke elinokuthi lenze izithethe zomntu ezizithobe ngakumbi.
Ukuba noxinzelelo kunye nexhala lonke ixesha konakalisa iindawo ezingenakubalwa zomzimba wakho kunye nengqondo yakho. Ubungqina boku ngoku buxakile.
Ukuzama ukulawula okungalawulekiyo nako ukufunxa okumangalisayo . Ukuhlala ulumkile rhoqo ukusabela kwizinto ezingalindelekanga zokuphelisa amandla akho kunye nokuyeka ukonwabela umzuzu.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukulinganisa indawo yangaphakathi yangaphakathi yokulawula: Ukufumana indawo emnandi
- Indlela yokujongana nolawulo olungaqhelekanga ebomini bakho
- Iindidi ezi-8 zokuLawula abantu onokuthi uhlangane nazo ebomini
- Izinto ezi-3 ekungafanelekanga ukuba uzinyamezele kulawulo lwabazali
- Iimpawu ezi-8 zaBantu aBomeleleyo
Utshintsho kunye neentlungu azinakuphepheka. Ukubandezeleka Kukhethwa.
Enye yezona ziphambili iinkolelo zefilosofi yamaBuddha Kukuba ekuphela kwento eqhubekayo kwindalo iphela lutshintsho.
Ngokubanzi, abantu abaluthandi utshintsho. Bayayithanda imimandla efudumeleyo, e-snuggly apho balawulayo, kwaye bakhuselwe… okungafaniyo kwaphela nehlabathi elikhulu, eliyoyikisayo, elithanda ukuphosa iibhola ezijikajikayo kuthi xa singazilindelanga.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sizama kangakanani, asisoze, SONKE siya kukwazi ukulawula izinto eziyimfuneko ebomini bethu. Ayizokuziphatha kwabanye abantu (kuba loo nto inguzwilakhe oxhaphazayo ngokweemvakalelo), hayi ukugcwala, hayi imozulu.
Yonke into iyatshintsha rhoqo, ngamanye amaxesha kushiyeka umnqwazi.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba uza kuziva umxholo kunye nobomi bakho ngokude ulawule zonke izinto eziguqukayo, uya kwindawo eyoluliweyo kwigumbi eli-squishy ngelixa unxibe i-ensemble enemikhono emide kakhulu.
Ukhetho Lolwakho
Sonke sinokukhetha xa kufikwa kwindlela esibujonga ngayo ubunzima kunye nokungonwabi kubomi bethu, kwaye ukhetho esilwenzayo lubonisa ukuba singakwazi na ukuhlangabezana notshintsho kunye nobunzima ngamandla nobabalo, okanye siwa phakathi.
Kwaye lukhetho.
YONKE into lukhetho.
Ndixelele into enomdla ngawe
Ngapha koko, ukhetho olwenzayo ebomini luhlala lukufikelela kulawulo lwakho. Nje ukuba kwenziwe ukhetho, ezinye izinto ezingaphaya kolawulo lwakho ziya kuqala ukuba nefuthe kwicala lakho lokuhamba.
Unokukhetha ukuqala ukuzama ukuba nosana kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa awungekhe ulawule ngokuchanekileyo xa- okanye nokuba ukhulelwe.
Unokukhetha ukubhala inoveli, kodwa ngekhe ulawule ukuba umpapashi angayithanda na okanye iya kuba sesona sithengisayo.
Unokukhetha ukufundisisa imbali yamandulo yamaGrike eyunivesithi, kodwa awukwazi ukulawula ukuba nini kwaye liphi isithuba somsebenzi wamaphupha onokuthi uvule okanye uza kuba ngumenzi-sicelo ophumeleleyo xa usenza njalo.
Wena unako , nangona kunjalo, khetha ukuyeka imfuno yakho yolawulo olupheleleyo kwizinto eziguquguqukayo zobomi.
Ukuba ungaqala ukubona xa yenza unolawulo oluthile kwaye nini suku , unokuthintela ukudideka kunye noxinzelelo olukhulu.
Okanye njengoko uSteve Maraboli ebeka:
Utshintsho olungakholelekiyo lwenzeka ebomini bakho xa uthatha isigqibo sokulawula into oyiyo yenza unamandla ngaphezulu kokulangazelela ukulawula into oyiyo sukuyenza. '
Kwaye khumbula ...
Ukuba uziva ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba awuzilawuli iingcinga zakho malunga noku - ngakumbi ukuba wena ndiziva ndibanjisiwe ngabo-ke jonga kuhlobo oluthile lokucebisa ukukunceda kuyo.
Iingcali zonyango zazi zonke iintlobo zeengcebiso kunye neendlela ezinokukunceda uzikhulule kwintlungu yengqondo yakho.
