Xa sicinga ngohlobo lweqabane esiza kugqiba nalo-okanye ngubani thina Ndifuna Ukuphelisa nge - mhlawumbi sicinga ngenkangeleko yazo kuqala.
Ubuntu babo kunye nokukhetha indlela yokuphila inokuba yinto yesibini ekutsaleni umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni esifuna ukuba nawo. Kwaye sifuna ukuba nomtsalane kwasekuqaleni.
Inyaniso kukuba, ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane obunempilo, bexesha elide, kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba uhambelana njani nomntu kunye nayo yonke imiba.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umtsalane womzimba mkhulu, kodwa ungakha ngokuhamba kwexesha - ubuntu bomntu bunqabile ukuba butshintshe!
Ke, umbuzo ngulo: ubaluleke kangakanani umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane ngokuthelekiswa nazo zonke ezinye iindlela zokuhambelana?
Ngaba ujongeka ubalulekile? Ngaba kufanelekile?
Kufuneka ulinde ixesha elingakanani ukuthandana emva kokwahlukana
1. Umtsalane uthatha iindlela ezininzi.
Khumbula ukuba ukutsala komzimba akuyiyo kuphela indlela yokukhanga! Kukho ezinye iindlela zokudibanisa neqabane lakho kwaye unomdla kuzo.
Ukuthanda umntu onaye kubalulekile, kodwa usenokwakha ubudlelwane obukhulu nomntu kwaye imeko yomzimba inokwakha ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Usenokungamthandi ngephanyazo umntu, kodwa banokukwenza ukuba uhleke kakuhle kwaye uzive ungoyena mntu ukweli gumbi. Olo luphawu olunomdla kakhulu kubuntu ekufuneka unalo, kunene?
Cinga ngendlela umntu akwenza uzive ngayo nokuba awutsali.
Uninzi lwethu luhlanjululwe ngengqondo ekucingeni ukuba kufuneka sidibane 'nohlobo lwethu olugqibeleleyo' kwaye ngokusisiseko sibeke blinkers xa siqala ukuthandana. Sivalela nabani na ongakulungeliyo ukungunda esikudalele kwiintloko zethu, kwaye asiziniki ezinye iindlela zokutsala ithuba.
Kodwa kufuneka ngoba…
2. Umtsalane wexesha elide ubaluleke ngakumbi.
Olunye umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni lixesha elifutshane kwaye unokuphuma uphume, ushiye nobabini niziva nididekile malunga nokuba yantlantsi phi.
Ukuba kuphela into oyithandayo malunga neqabane lakho yindlela abajongeka ngayo, sinoluvo lokuba ubudlelwane bakho bunokungahlali ixesha elide…
Nangona kukuhle ukutsala umdla kumntu onaye, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngendlela eya kusebenza ixesha elide.
Wonke umntu uthi kufuneka utshate umhlobo wakho osenyongweni - kuthekani ukuba banyanisile?
Ngokwenene ukwazi umntu kwaye umthande kuhamba ngaphaya kweembonakalo- kwaye yile nto ubudlelwane obuphilileyo, obuzinzileyo obakhelwe phezu kwabo.
3. Mhlawumbi ufuna intlantsi.
Masinyaniseke - uninzi lwethu lufuna ukuba nomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni kumaqabane ethu. Sifuna i-spark, kwaye sifuna ukulala ngesondo.
Kuba ezinye abantu, umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni ubaluleke ngaphezu kokuthatha ithuba kumntu abangatsalwanga kuye.
Wonke umntu unelungelo lokuthatha isigqibo malunga nabantu abathandana nabo, ke, ukuba uziva ngathi uyayifuna ngokwenene loo nto, kulungile ukuba ungabavumeli abantu ongaziva nabo!
Kuhle ukuhlala unengqondo evulekileyo kuba umtsalane wokwenene unokukhula ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kodwa lukhetho lwakho ukuba lingakanani ixesha kunye nomzamo ofuna ukutyala imali kuwo ukuze uvumele oko kutsala komzimba kukhule.
4. Ukuba isini sibalulekile, kufuneka ufumane indlela.
Ke, umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni mhlawumbi ayisiyiyo eyona nto ibalulekileyo kubudlelwane - kodwa iyabuchaphazela ubomi bakho bobulili.
Ukuba isondo sibalulekile kuwe, kuya kufuneka uthande umntu othile ukuze ube neentlobano zesini, ngokungaguquguqukiyo.
Ukuba uchitha ixesha elithile usazi umntu kwaye uqala ukumfumana enomtsalane ngezinye iindlela, usenokukwazi ukonwaba kunye.
Abanye abantu, nangona kunjalo, iqala ukuziva inyanzelekile…
Mhlawumbi uyasokola ukuthandana okanye ukusondelelana neqabane lakho kuba awutsalwa yindlela abajongeka ngayo. Kulungile ukuyamkela le nto kuwe!
Abanye bethu baziva benetyala lokwenyani umntu, kodwa kungcono ukunyaniseka wakube ufumanise ukuba umtsalane awonelanga ngaphandle kwento engaphaya komzimba.
Ngale ndlela, awuniki nabani na ithemba lobuxoki okanye ubakhokele. Ukunyaniseka nje malunga nento oyifunayo noyifunayo kubudlelwane, kwaye yeyona ndlela ilungileyo neyona ilungileyo yokujongana nale meko.
5. Gcina ulindelo lwakho lusengqiqweni.
Mhlawumbi awucingi ngomntu ngokwasemzimbeni ngenxa yokuba usete iindlela zakho.
Unokuba nohlobo oluhlala usiya kulo, okanye unokuzifanekisa nomntu ophawula konke iibhokisi-ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ngelixa kumnandi ukuba nemigangatho ephezulu, unokuzibamba ekwenzeni uxhulumaniso lokwenyani nomntu ongalilingani ncam ityala oyilinganisa nabo.
Cinga ukuba ngaba uyayinyani into oyifunayo kwiqabane lakho - kwaye ulinganise okubaluleke ngakumbi kuwe.
Ngaba uya kumntu oyi-100% yeempawu zobuntu ozithandayo, kodwa unomdla kuphela kuma-50% kubo?
zintoni ezinye iinyani ezimnandi ngam
Okanye uya kumntu oyi-100% yohlobo lwakho ngokwembonakalo kodwa ukhathaze kuphela i-50% yeebhokisi ezinxulumene nobuntu, amaxabiso kunye nendlela yokuphila?
Asinakukuxelela ukuba impendulo ithini, okanye kufanele ukuba yintoni, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uqwalasele eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuwe.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abantu banokucheba iinwele kwaye banxibe ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa ngekhe batshintshe amaxabiso abo ngobusuku obunye.
6. Umtsalane unokukhula ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Musa ukulibala ukuba ungaphuhlisa umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni komnye umntu njengoko ixesha lihamba!
Imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo izama ukusiqinisekisa ukuba sidinga iqabane elishushu, kufuneka sinxibe ngendlela ethile, kufuneka siphile ubusuku bosuku ... yonke loo nto iba ngaphezulu kwaye silibale ukuba ayizizo zonke izibini ezinomhla wokuqala wokuqhushumba!
Izibini ozibona kuyo yonke i-Instagram ezibonakala 'zigqibelele' zinokuba ziqale njengabahlobo nje.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazali bakho babengathandani kwangoko, kodwa bakhula bethandana njengoko bafumanisa ngakumbi.
Khumbula ukuba Umtsalane wokwenene ujikeleze ngaphaya kokuthanda indlela umntu ajongeka ngayo , kwaye inokukhula ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Uya kufikelela kwinqanaba apho ujonga khona umntu kwaye ungasacingi ukuba iimpumlo zabo zinkulu kakhulu okanye azingagutyungelwanga kwii-tatoo - endaweni yoko, uyabona ukuba balunge kangakanani, benza njani ukuba uhleke, kwaye ukhuseleke kangakanani zikwenza uzive.
7. Iinqobo ezisemgangathweni nendlela yokuphila zibaluleke ngakumbi.
Ke, yintoni ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane-ngaphandle kokubonakala?
Ukubamba amaxabiso afanayo, njengoko sichukumisile, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane bakho ngokwenene sebenza.
Ukuncoma umntu kulungile, kodwa ngaba nina neenkolelo ezifanayo? Ngaba ungumntu wosapho obabona abazali bakho kube kanye ngeveki- kwaye, ukuba kunjalo, ngaba kuya kuba yinto kuwe ukuba iqabane lakho likufumanisa kungaqhelekanga oko?
Mhlawumbi ungumntu wakusasa kwaye uyakuthanda ukuvukela iklasi yeyoga yango-6am ngoMgqibelo- ngaba oko kuya kuchaphazela izinto ukuba bafuna ukuba usele nabo bonke ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu?
Ungabacaphukela ukuba bachitha ubusuku ngokudlala kunye nabahlobo xa ufuna ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nesidlo sangokuhlwa esihle kunye.
Izinto ezinje zezi sihlala sizijongela ekungxameleni ukudibana nomntu onomdla kuye kwinqanaba lomzimba.
Ngelixa imincili yokuba kunye nomntu omthandayo iyamangalisa, umtsalane onzulu kunye nokuhambelana ziziseko zobudlelwane obomeleleyo nobusempilweni.
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Ke, kubaluleke kangakanani ukubonakala komtsalane kubudlelwane?
Ewe, oko kukuthi uthathe isigqibo.
Kuya kufuneka ucinge malunga nento oyixabise ngokwenyani, into oyifunayo kwiqabane lakho, kunye nendlela ofuna ukuziva ngayo kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umtsalane obonakalayo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kulwalamano, ungonwabile ukuvumela ezinye izinto zonxibelelwano zihambe. Ungonwaba ngokwenyani neqabane olithandayo ngokwenene, kwaye uzimisele ukwamkela ukuba awunalo unxibelelwano olunzulu.
zelina vega njenge aj lee
Ukuba oko kuvakala ngathi liphupha lakho elibi kakhulu, vumela umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni uthathe isihlalo sangasemva kancinci. Isenokubaluleka, kodwa ayifuni kuba yeyokuqala okanye eyona nto ibalulekileyo oyikhangela kwiqabane.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ubaluleke kangakanani kuwe? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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