Ukuhamba ngokwahlukana yinkunkuma entle, nokuba nguwe othathe isigqibo sokuphelisa izinto.
Kubalulekile ukuba uzinike ixesha elithile emva kokuba ubudlelwane buphelile, kodwa lide kangakanani ixesha elifanelekileyo lokulinda ngaphambi kokuba uphinde uthandane?
Awuyi kumangaliswa kukuva ukuba akukho sixa esithile sokulinda ngaphambi kokuba uphinde uthandane, kodwa kukho izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokutsiba ubuyele kwindawo yokuthandana ...
ukuziva uthathelwa ingqalelo kulwalamano
1. Fumana ukuvalwa.
Nokuba ugqibe izinto okanye hayi, ukuvalwa ngoba Izinto ezigqityiweyo ziphilile ngokwenene.
Awudingi ukuzingela i-ex yakho ukuze ufumane impendulo, nokuba. Ungaqhubekeka ngokwakho uze kwisisombululo malunga nokuba kutheni izinto ziphelile. Kungathatha ixesha, kodwa uza kufika apho.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ubudlelwane buphelile ngaphambi kokuba uziphose entsha. Ikwangumqondiso wentlonipho kokubini kuwe nakumntu wokuqala othandana naye emva kokuba nahlukene.
Ukuvalwa kuya kukunceda wenze ukhetho olusempilweni ngokuya phambili, endaweni yokuqikelela iimvakalelo zakho nge-ex yakho kumntu omtsha, okanye ngengozi usebenzisa umntu kuba ulangazelela ukuthandwa.
2. Zinike ixesha lokuphola.
Kuthatha ixesha ukufumana ngaphezulu komntu, nokuba ibubudlelwane bexesha elifutshane.
Xa sidlula ekwahlukaneni, asilahli kuphela umntu, siphulukana nekamva kunye nethemba esidibana nalo. Iiholide ebesizicwangcisile entlokweni yethu, ubomi esicinga ngabo, kunye nethemba lezinto zexesha elide.
Kuqhelekile ukuba ube nohlobo lwentlungu xa usiya ekwahlukaneni, yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba uzinike ixesha lokuqhubekeka kunye nokuchacha.
Unokuziva ungaphilanga emzimbeni, unzima impilo yakho yengqondo, okanye unengxaki yokuzithemba.
Nokuba uziva njani emva koqhawulo-mtshato, thatha ixesha lakho ngaphambi kokuba uphinde uye kwimihla kwakhona. Uyazi xa uziva ulungile kwaye akufuneki uzame ukuyikhawulezisa okanye ukuyinyanzela ngaphambi kokuba uzive ukulungele.
3. Dlula kwisinqandamathe sakho.
Oku kunokubonakala kungenakwenzeka, kodwa yinto onokuyenza-okanye ubuncinci usebenzele ukuyifumana, okwangoku.
Eli linyathelo elibalulekileyo lokuqalisa ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ukuthandana kwakhona, nokuba awukho ngokupheleleyo ngaphezulu kwabo ekuqaleni.
Ukuba akunjalo, uya kudibana nomntu ukuba enze i-ex yakho ibe nomona (nokuba uyayazi okanye uyayazi), engalunganga nakubani na.
Zama ukuya kwindawo esempilweni ngokubhekisele kwi-ex yakho ngaphambi kokuba ufike kwindawo yokuthandana, kwaye uya kwenza ukhetho olungcono, olusempilweni.
4. Zingenele ngokwakho.
Xa sihamba phakathi kwentlungu (kunye nezicubu ezingathandekiyo) zokwahlukana, sinokuziva silahlekile.
Siyazonwabela ezi mvakalelo kwaye sizivumele sizibukise njengabo bonke abadlali abonwabileyo esibona kwiimuvi.
Ixesha liyaqhubeka, kodwa asibonakali ngathi siya ndawo. Iinyanga zingadlula ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zitshintshile, izenzo zakho azikababambi kwaye usaguqa kwiNetflix kunye noBen noJerry.
Asithethi 'ngemihla ebekiweyo,' kodwa yenza inqaku lexesha kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokumisa kwaye uvavanye ukuba unjani ngokwenene imvakalelo.
5. Thetha nosapho kunye nabahlobo.
Zijikeleze nabantu obathandayo kwaye ungoyiki ukubacela uncedo-okanye nokuba yinkampani nje.
Xa usebudlelwaneni, uqhele ukuhlala nomntu, kwaye kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo kwaye ebuhlungu ukuba ngequbuliso ube wedwa.
Mema abahlobo ukuba bahlale endlwini yakho ukuba usandula ukuhlala wedwa, fumana umntu oza kukugcina ukonwatyiswa ngokuhlwa kwangoLwesithathu oqhele ukuchitha usenza iklasi yodongwe ngeveki kunye ne-ex yakho.
Ukuba nabantu obathandayo abakungqongileyo kuya kukunceda ufumane uhlengahlengiso olukhulu lokwahlukana. Baza kubonelela ngenkxaso, uthando, kunye nokuqinisekiswa, ezizezinye zezinto abantu abaninzi abaziphosa kakhulu malunga neex zabo.
Ngokubathanda abantu esibathandayo abasibonelela ngezi zinto, sinokuchonga ngokufanelekileyo indlela esivakalelwa ngayo kwaye sikulungele na ukuthandana kwakhona.
6. Khumbula, ayilokhuphiswano.
Usenokuba ubone into kwi-Instagram malunga ne-ex yakho, okanye weva kubahlobo ukuba bayathandana kwakhona. Zikhumbuze ukuba eso sisigqibo sabo kwaye akukho nanye ishishini lakho.
Awunalo nofifi lokuba ngaba ngokwenene bakulungele ukuthandana, okanye ukuba ngaba ndisathandana ngokugeza kwaye uzama ngamandla ukudlula kuwe. Inyaniso, ayinamsebenzi nokuba yeyiphi na indlela.
Wonke umntu uhamba ngendlela yakhe, ngesantya sakhe. Awudingi ukuthandana ukungqina inqaku, kwaye akufuneki kubekho 'ugqatso' olungenampilo lokugqagqana ngokukhawuleza.
7. Gxila kuwe-hayi, nyhani!
Kusenokuvakala kungaqhelekanga ukuba kufuneka ukuqhele ukuhlala wedwa ngaphambi kokuba ube ukulungele ngokwenene ukuba kunye nomnye umntu, kodwa sithembe, kubalulekile.
Ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba, xa uqala ukuthandana kwakhona, uyenza ukongeza into ebomini bakho, hayi ukugcwalisa isikhewu.
Uninzi lwethu lutsibela ubudlelwane 'bokugcwalisa' kwakamsinya, ukufuna ukuvala isikhewu esishiyekileyo ex yethu kuba siyoyika ukuhlala sodwa.
Ukwahlukana kunokuba nobundlongondlongo, kodwa kukunika elona thuba lilungileyo lokuziqhelanisa nokuba wedwa, kwaye uzilungele xa unguye.
Okukhona usonwabela wedwa ixesha, kokukhona ulixabisa - nto leyo oya kuthi ubambelele kulwalamano lwakho olulandelayo, kwaye yindawo esempilweni kakhulu ukuba ube.
Ngokulinganayo, kokukhona ubuzalisa ubomi bakho ngezinto ozithandayo, kunye nezinto ye ngokwakho, ukuxhomekeka kancinci komnye umntu uya kuba kwaye ngcono amathuba akho okwenza uxhulumaniso lokwenyani nomntu olandelayo oza kuthandana naye.
8. Jongana nokuziphatha kwakho kwaye ufunde kubo.
Mhlawumbi ubudlelwane buphelile ngenxa yokuba ugcine Ukuyihlaziya , okanye ngenxa yokuba ungaze ubathembe ngokupheleleyo, nangona bengazange benze nto yokungathembeki.
Kubalulekile, kwaye usempilweni, ukulungisa naziphi na iindlela zokuziphatha ezingamkelekanga onokuthi uziphathe kulwalamano lwakho olulandelayo - ngaphambi kokuba uphele kuyo.
Unokuqonda ukuba unemicimbi emikhulu yokuthembela kubudlelwane bakho bangaphambili. Oku akunakulindeleka ukuba ube phantsi kwi-ex yakho yodwa, ngakumbi ukuba zange bakunike isizathu sokukhathazeka.
Endaweni yoko, yinto evela kuwe, nangasiphi na isizathu (ubuntwana, ukwaliwa, ukukopela okudlulileyo, njl.njl.) Kwaye yinto ekufuneka uyenzile ukwenzela ukuba ingachaphazeli ubudlelwane bakho bexesha elizayo.
Nje ukuba uthathe ixesha lokusebenza ngokwakho (hayi ukuba ubuyingxaki 'kubudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo), ungaqala ukucinga ngokuqhubeka nokuya kwimihla.
9. Vavanya amanzi.
Ke, uyagqitha kwintlungu yakho. Asikukhuthazi ukuba uqalise kubudlelwane obugcweleyo, kodwa zikhona izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza ukuze ubone indlela oziva ngayo ngokuthandana kwakhona.
Khuphela usetyenziso lokuthandana. Oko kukodwa kunokukwenza uzive unetyala kwaye ulusizi, nto leyo engumqondiso wokuba awukakulungeli. Nangona kunjalo, inokuziva yoyikisa ngendlela enomdla!
Zama ukuseta izinto ozikhethayo ukuze zingabandakanyi i-ex yakho (umzekelo, ukuseta umda wobudala ukuya kuma-31 ubuncinci ukuba i-ex yakho ingama-30, njengoko oko kuya kubathintela ekuveleni ukuba bakwinkqubo yokuthandana!) .
Jonga ukuba kunjani ukudibana nabantu, ukuncokola nabantu, kunye nokudlala ngothando. Ukuba uziva ungaqhelekanga, yishiye okwangoku. Ungabuyela kuyo xa sele ukulungele. Okanye, ukuba uziva ngathi kungonwabisa, yiya kumhla okanye emibini.
10. Musa ukuyishiya ixesha elide.
Ngelixa kungekho sixa sibekiweyo sicetyisiweyo sokulilela ubudlelwane bakho obudala, zama ukungabushiyi kakhulu.
Ukuba indawo yakho ekubhekiswa kuyo kuphela liqabane lonyaka okanye elidlulileyo, ubeka emngciphekweni wokubathanda kwaye uqiniseke ukuba usabathanda. Mhlawumbi awunalo, awuzange uthandane nomnye umntu ixesha elide!
Unokukufumanisa kunzima ukuthandana kwakhona-oku kulungile, kodwa mhlawumbi akunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba ucinga kangakanani ukuba ufuna ukwenza amadinga, uloyiko lwakho luyakhula ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye uzive usoyika kakhulu okanye unxanelwe ukukwenza.
Sukungxama, ewe, kodwa ungazivumeli uziqhekeze kwintlungu yakho kwaye uzithintele ekuqhubekeni.
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