Sonke sivile ngentetho ‘Izichasi ziyatsala,’ kodwa ngaba ngenene kusebenza ukuthandana mihla?
Izinto zitshintshile kakhulu kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo enkosi ngokunyuka kweenkqubo zokuthandana kunye neesayithi, kunye nefuthe i-Instagram ebenalo kwindlela esibajonga ngayo abanye abantu.
Ngaba sifuna umntu onokusicelomngeni kwaye ophethe amaxabiso ahlukeneyo, okanye kungcono ukufumana umntu ofana nathi kwaye ubhejo olukhuselekileyo?
Ngaba izichasi ziyatsala? Makhe sihlolisise iingxoxo ezahlukeneyo ngokuchasene.
EWE-Izichaso luhlobo olulungileyo lomceli mngeni.
Ukuthandana nomntu owahluke kakhulu kuwe kunokuba yindlela enkulu yokucela umngeni kulindelo lwakho kubudlelwane.
indlela yokwenza isoka likukhumbule njengegeza
Unokucinga ukuba uyayazi into oyifunayo, kodwa ukudibana nomntu ochasene ngqo nawe nayo yonke into obucinga ukuba uyayifuna kunokuba yinto enomdla!
Ungafumanisa ukuba uzonwabela izinto ezintsha, ungafunda okuninzi ngawe apha endleleni, kwaye ungaqonda ukuba kukho isizathu sokuba izinto zingaze ziphume xa uthandana nomntu ‘oludidi lwakho.’
Musa ukoyika ukuya kumhla nomntu eyahlukileyo kakhulu kuwe. Uya kufumana ngokukhawuleza umhlaba oqhelekileyo kwaye uya kuba nakho ukubangxama ukuba ezona zinto zibalulekileyo Ingaba kukho.
Unokwenza, umzekelo, ukuba uhluke ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle komnqweno wakho wokuzibophelela kwaye ube nabantwana ngaxa lithile.
Logama amaxabiso asisiseko ophetheyo efanayo, okanye afanayo ngokwaneleyo, yamkela inyani yokuba ngenye indlela uchasane ngokupheleleyo! Ungothuka kamnandi…
EWE-Izichasi zibonelela ngamava avula amehlo.
Ukuchitha ixesha nomntu ohluke kakhulu kuwe kunokuba kuhle.
Uzimisele kakhulu kwiindlela zakho kwaye uhlala unabantu abathandana kakhulu nawe, abanomdla ofanayo kakhulu, ngoko awunakuze ufumane enye into ekhoyo ngaphandle!
Ukudibana nomntu ochasene kakhulu neminqweno yakho kunokubonakala kungaqhelekanga - unokucinga ukuba awuzukufana kakhulu, okanye indlela yakho yokuphila ayizukufana.
Nangona kunjalo, uya kuvulwa amehlo kwihlabathi elitsha kwaye unokugqibela ngokuguqulwa kwaye ugqibezele ukuthanda izinto ongazange ucinge ukuba unomdla kuzo!
EWE-Izichasi zinokukhokelela kubudlelwane obulunge ngakumbi.
Abantu ababini abanobungqongqo obunamandla, abanenkani ye-alpha banokuba nayo yonke imfumba yothando-kodwa ngaba baya kusebenza ixesha elide?
Ukuba sikhona ifana kakhulu kwiqabane lethu ngeendlela ezinjengeenkani kunye nokungakwazi ukuba nengqondo evulekileyo, umzekelo, siya kukhawuleza sifike kwinqanaba apho sixabana nje ngenxa yalo.
Le ayisiyiyo eyona nto intle kulwalamano kunye namacebo oza kuthi ungasebenzi kakuhle kakhulu ixesha elide.
Ke, mhlawumbi umntu ochasene nawe angasebenza ngokunyanisekileyo?
Ukuba u-alpha othanda ukuthatha izigqibo kwaye akunakulindeleka ukuba atshintshe iindlela zabo, ungadibana kakuhle nomntu okuthiyileyo ukwenza izigqibo kwaye uyonwabile ngokuvumela omnye umntu akhokele.
Olu hlobo lwentsebenziswano lulunge ngakumbi kwaye lunezinto ezininzi ezihlala zihleli!
HAYI-Izichasi zinokufumana ubunzima kunxibelelwano.
Ukuba uneentlobo zobuntu ezahlukileyo kakhulu, wena neqabane lakho ninokukhawuleza niqonde ukuba oku kudala imiba ethile yonxibelelwano.
Ukuba uyathanda ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye ukhetha ukulungisa imiba, kodwa iqabane lakho lichasene ngokupheleleyo kwaye lizivalele nje, uya kufumana umzabalazo wokwenza unxibelelwano lokwenyani, oluhlala ixesha elide kunye nabo.
Kuhle kakhulu ukuba nezinto zokuzonwabisa ezahlukeneyo kunye nokuba neempawu ezilinganayo ngaphandle, kodwa Iindlela zonxibelelwano zibaluleke ngakumbi ngokubhekisele ekusebenzeni njengesibini.
Cinga ngokukhetha iqabane elinxibelelana ngendlela efanayo nawe, kodwa unomdla okwahlukileyo kumculo okanye kwezemidlalo - ngaloo ndlela, unokuwamkela umahluko ngaphandle kokukhathazeka malunga nendlela oza kuyisingatha ngayo nayiphi na imiba kunye njengesibini.
Hayi-Iilwimi ezichaseneyo zothando zinokubangela iingxaki.
Ke, thanda iilwimi zingaphezulu nje kwegama eliyimfihlo kwi-Instagram!
Babonisa iindlela esithanda ukufumana (kwaye sinike) uthando kwaye zezona zinto ziphambili ekuziva sizolile kwaye sizinzile kubudlelwane bethu.
Kulungile ukuba wena neqabane lakho uneelwimi ezahlukeneyo zothando (kuyinto eqhelekileyo, eneneni!), Kodwa okubalulekileyo kukulungela kwakho ukufezekisa iimfuno zomnye nomnye.
I-scott disick net efanelekileyo i-2018
Omnye wenu angadinga ukusondelelana ngokomzimba ukuze azive exatyisiwe- oku kulungile, ngaphandle kokuba omnye umntu kubudlelwane akonwabanga yile nto kwaye uyala ukuyinika.
Kulapho uninzi lwezibini zinemicimbi, kuba zahluke kakhulu kwindalo kangangokuba azinakuyenza isebenze.
Kufuneka ube nakho ukwenza ukuba iqabane lakho lizive likhuselekile, lizithembile, kwaye lithandwa kubudlelwane bakho, nangona kunjalo zifana okanye zichasene nezinto ozithandayo kunye nendlela ophila ngayo.
HAYI - Izichasi zinokufumana ukungqubana kwendlela yokuphila.
Kulungile, ke ukuthandana ngokuchasene noku kunokukuvulela kwilizwe lezinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto onomdla ongazange uziqwalasele ngaphambili… kodwa oko kungakhokelela kwimicimbi ejikeleze indlela yokuphila.
Ukuba ungumntu onesidima othanda ukutya isidlo sangokuhlwa phambi kweTV, ubotshwe phantsi kwengubo, ungathanda ukufunda ngakumbi ngomntu o-DJ kwiklabhu yendawo kwaye othanda ukuphuma.
Kodwa, ngaba iya kuhlala?
Iindlela zakho zokuphila zinokuchasene ngokupheleleyo, ezinokuba mnandi kwithuba nje elifutshane, kodwa kuya kufuneka uphinde uvavanye ukuba ziyenzeka na izinto phakathi kwenu.
HAYI-Ukuchasana kunokukhokelela kulungelelwaniso oluninzi kakhulu.
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nichasene ngokupheleleyo, kuyakufuneka ufumane indawo eyonwabisayo ukuze izinto zisebenze ixesha elide.
Ngokwenyani, oko kuya kuthetha ukuba inani elifanelekileyo lokulalanisa.
Okanye isixa-mali esingalunganga ukuba ngaba mnye kuni kuphela ovumayo ukuzincama.
Ukuba omnye wenu kufuneka agcine izinto zihamba okanye atshintshe ngakumbi ukuze zilingane nolwalamano, izakuqala ukuzala inzondo kwangethuba.
Nangona kunjalo kuyonwabisa kwaye kumnandi ukuchitha ixesha nomntu ohluke kakhulu kuwe, uya kuphelela ekukhathazekeni kwaye Inomsindo wokuba kufuneka uzitshintshe ukuze ulingane nelizwe labo.
Isitshixo sokwenza olu hlobo lobudlelwane lusebenze, ewe, lunxibelelwano oluthembekileyo.
Kuya kufuneka ukuba ube nengxoxo enzulu malunga nefuthe umahluko onawo kuwe, kunye nolwalamano, kwaye ufumane indlela yokuqhubela phambili- ukuze nobabini nive ngathi nikwiinyawo!
Khumbula: awukahlukanga kangako.
Siphonononge i-positives ezi-3 kunye nee-4 ezimbi ekuzameni ukuphendula umbuzo othi 'ngaba izichasi ziyatsala?'
Kodwa uchasene kangakanani… ngokwenene?
Usenokucinga ukuba iqabane lakho lichasene nawe ngenxa yendlela abajonga ngayo okanye abanxiba okanye abaziphatha ngayo.
Banokuthi phithi libhola ngendlela ongazange ucinge ngayo. Mhlawumbi uziva ngathi soze bawuxabise umculo weklasikhi ngendlela owenza ngayo.
Nangona kunjalo, nje ukuba ukhulule umva umba othile wenqanaba lomphakamo wobomi bakho kunye nobuntu bakho, unokuqonda ukuba awukahlukanga njengokuba ubuqala ukucinga.
Unokufumanisa ukuba ukhe waya kwiindawo ezifanayo, okanye uthanda ii-movie ezifanayo.
ndingafuni ukukhula ngengxaki
Nobabini ninokuyithanda ngasese imidlalo yebhodi kwaye ungaze nje uxelele abantu kuba awufuni ukubonakala ungumbono.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kuqala ukuqaphela ukufana okungakumbi nangakumbi.
Uya kuqala ukukhuhla omnye komnye kwaye umdla wakho ungaqala ukudibana njengoko nichitha ixesha elininzi kunye nisenza izinto ezithandanayo.
Unokuphela utyale imali kwiqela labo lebhola emva kokuchitha ixesha elide nibukele imidlalo kunye!
Uyakuqaphela kwakhona izizathu zokuba uqale utsaleleke kubo - ezi ziya kubonakala ngakumbi ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Mhlawumbi ubazi ngokungakhathali ngenxa yokuba ungathi ngandlela thile bakhuliswe ngendlela efanayo kuwe, okanye kuba uziva nje ukuba izinto ziya kuhamba kakuhle phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Ubutsala umdla omnye komnye ngesizathu kwaye, njengoko nisiya nisazana ngakumbi kwaye niphinda niphindaphinde iindawo ezingaphezulu, ninokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba nifana kangakanani phantsi kwazo zonke.
Kwaye, kanye apho, kulapho uthando lokwenene lulele kwaye ubudlelwane obumangalisayo bazalwa.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga nokuba ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba wena kunye nomntu ohluke kakhulu ukuba nisebenze njengesibini? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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