Sakhe sasikhona ngaphambili - ucinga ukuba umntu othile uyadlala ngawe, ke wenza intshukumo kwaye udutyulwe.
Kuvela ukuba babenobuhlobo nje!
Uzifunde njani iimpawu ezingalunganga kangaka?
Ewe, kulula kakhulu kunokuba ucinga, yiyo loo nto ke sidibanise esi sikhokelo siluncedo ukuze ukwazi ukubona umahluko phakathi kokudlala ngothando nokuba nobuhlobo nje.
1. Benza kucace ukuba abatshatanga.
Ukuguqula imeko-ukuba uzama ukufumana umntu ukuba aqonde ukuba ukuzo, ungenza ntoni?
Ewe, ungaqala ngokwenza kucace ukuba awutshatanga.
Ukuba sele bekhankanyile ukuba abatshatanga, kodwa ngobuqili bayilahlile kwincoko, bafuna ukuba uyazi- ngesizathu.
Le yindlela yabo yokwazisa ukuba ithini imida yabo (okanye ukusilela kwabo) - bafuna ukuba uyazi ukuze utolike isenzo sabo njengokudlala ngothando kwaye ungabi nobuhlobo kuphela.
Umntu onobuhlobo Andisayi kuva sidingo sokuveza imeko yobudlelwane babo, okanye banokukhankanya neqabane labo xa bedlula.
2. Bayazika nawe.
Njengoko ujinga ngakumbi, ungaqaphela ukuba baqala ukubuza imibuzo emininzi yobuqu, babelane ngeengcinga ezinengqiqo ngakumbi, kwaye babuze uluvo lwakho kwizihloko ezininzi ezibaluleke kubo.
Le yindlela yabo yokujonga ukuba ungonela kangakanani kwimpilo yabo, kunye nokwazisa ukuba banomdla.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuba neengxoxo ezinzulu kunye nomhlobo osondeleyo, kodwa ukuba lo mntu uza kuphuma ukubonisa ukuba uyakhathala kwaye unomdla kuwe nakwiingcinga zakho, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba bayadlala nawe!
Umntu onobuhlobo kunokwenzeka ukuba unamathele kwintetho encinci okanye izihloko ezingaqhelekanga zencoko ezingafumani buqu.
3. Banxibelelana ngamehlo.
Ukudibana kwamehlo yindlela entle yokwazisa umntu ukuba unomdla kubo, ke ukuba umntu ocinga ngaye uphume ngendlela yakhe ukuze akunike uqhakamshelwano lwamehlo, banokukuthanda.
Abantu abaninzi badibana ngamehlo, kodwa ukuba uqaphela ukuba benza iinzame zokubamba ukujonga kwakho, unokuqiniseka ukuba bayadlala ngawe kwaye bangabi ngabahlobo nje.
Umntu onobuhlobo akunakwenzeka ukuba ubambe amehlo akho ixesha elide. Kungokwemvelo, endaweni yoko, ukuba amehlo abo ajikeleze igumbi okanye ngefestile ngaphambi kokuba baphindele kuwe.
4. Umzimba wabo bayayinika.
Kukho isizathu sokuba abantu abaninzi bafunde ulwimi lomzimba! Indlela esihlala ngayo, into esiyenzayo ngeengalo zethu, kunye nendlela esiyijonga ngayo imizimba yethu zonke iimpawu ezibonisa indlela esisebenza ngayo ngokwenene uzive ngomntu esidibana naye.
Ukuba ukunye nomhlobo osenyongweni okanye ilungu losapho, nobabini niyakube nibonisa ulwimi lomzimba olubandayo.
Ukuba umntu ocinga ukuba angakunqwenela ubonakala ngathi uziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo ekujikelezeni kunokuba ujonge abahlobo bakho, kukho isizathu.
Ungaqaphela ukuba bajongise imizimba yabo kuwe, banokukhomba iinyawo zakho zombini kwicala lakho (oku kuthetha ukuba banikele ingqalelo kuwe kwaye bafuna ukusondela!), Okanye basenokuhamba-hamba, bedlala ngeenwele zabo kwaye uzama ukufumana ingqalelo yakho.
Ukuba bayaziphathaphatha, bakhotha imilebe yabo okanye babethe iinkophe zabo, umzekelo, ngokuqinisekileyo bayadlala ngawe!
Ngokulinganayo, ukuba baqala ukwenza le nto uyenzayo kwaye ukopa izenzo zakho (oku kubizwa ngokuba yi 'mirroring'), bakuni.
Umntu onobuhlobo uya kuhlala okanye eme kakhulu njengoko umhlobo enokuzola-phumla, ethembele emva, ngaphandle kokuchukumisa ngokugqithiseleyo ubuso okanye iinwele.
5. Banika ingqalelo eninzi.
Ngaba uziva ngathi bakunika ingqalelo ngakumbi kunabahlobo bakho abaninzi?
Ukuba bayadlala ngawe, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nengqwalaselo yabo epheleleyo. Bayakuchukunyiswa yile nto uyithethayo kwaye bajonge ekudlaleni ngothando kangangokuba abayi kuba semnxebeni, bajonge abanye abantu, okanye baqaqambe phakathi kwincoko yakho!
Endaweni yoko, baya kugxila ngokupheleleyo kuwe - kwaye kuphela wena.
Umntu onobuhlobo izakubandakanya abantu abaninzi ukuba ukwisicwangciso seqela okanye uvumele ingqondo yabo ibhadule kude kwincoko.
6. Bayakuleqa.
Ngaba uziva ngathi uyalukuhlwa okanye uyasukelwa? Ukuba ukhululekile ngayo, oku kunokuba yimvakalelo emnandi enjalo! Ukuba uyabathanda, kuhle ukuba udlalwe ngale ndlela.
Mhlawumbi benza iinzame zokukubona, bathumele imiyalezo rhoqo, okanye bafumane izizathu zokungqubeka kuwe.
Ukuba bayahamba bechitha ixesha kunye nawe kwaye bancokole nawe, kukho ithuba elihle kakhulu lokuba bayakuthanda kwaye bayadlala nawe.
Umntu onobuhlobo akazukufuna unxibelelwano olongezelelweyo baya kukubona nje xa bekubona.
7. Benza ngokwahlukileyo xa bekungqongile kunabanye.
Baziphatha njani xa bephakathi kwabanye abantu? Le yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuxelela ukuba umntu uziva njani ngawe!
Sonke sixhomekeke kumntu omnye kwaye saziva sikhethekile kwaye siyathandwa, kuphela ukubabona nabahlobo babo kwaye siqonde ukuba banjalo nabantu bonke! Ayisiyoyona mvakalelo ilungileyo, kodwa iyanceda ukuba wazi apho umi khona.
Ngokulinganayo, unokuqonda ukuba bakuvulele indlela engaphezulu kunaleyo bayenza ngayo nabanye abantu, okanye banochuku nje kuwe.
Qaphela indlela abaziphatha ngayo nabanye abantu xa kuthelekiswa nawe kwaye uya kufumanisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo zabo zokwenyani.
Umntu onobuhlobo uphatha wonke umntu ngendlela efanayo.
8. Bayakuthambisa ngoncoma.
Ewe, abahlobo kunye nosapho bayasincoma, ke oku kukodwa akusilo uphawu olucacileyo lokuba umntu uyakuthanda kwaye uzama ukudlala ngothando nawe.
Kodwa, uyakuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntu ngu ukudlala ngothando nawe ngendlela abakuncomela ngayo.
Mhlawumbi baphuma kwindlela yabo ukuze uzive ulungile, okanye bakumangalise ngamagqabaza amnandi kwisinxibo sakho.
Banokuphindaphinda ukukhankanya izinto abazithandayo ngawe ngendlela enesidlele, mhlawumbi bakuxelele ukuba mahle kangakanani amehlo akho, okanye ukuba ulunge kangakanani ubumnandi bakho!
Ukuba benza amagqabantshintshi anokungavunywa ngabahlobo bakho, unokuqiniseka ukuba bayadlala ngawe kwaye bazama ukukwazisa ukuba banomdla wokuba ngaphezulu kwabahlobo nje.
Umntu onobuhlobo inokulahla ukuncoma ngokufuthi, kodwa ayizukuba yinto yesiqhelo kwaye ngekhe ibe ngendlela yokucebisa (ngaphandle kokuba benjengawo wonke umntu).
9. Zichukumisekile kakhulu kuwe.
Kuyafana nolwimi lomzimba, indlela achukumiseka ngayo umntu okujikelezileyo sisalathiso esicacileyo seemvakalelo zakhe ngawe.
Ewe, mhlawumbi uyabachukumisa abahlobo bakho ngexesha lencoko, ke ukukhanya okukhanyayo engalweni akuthethi uthando lokwenene! Ukuma kancinci, nangona kunjalo, kunokuba sisindululo sokuba kukho enye into eqhubekayo.
Jonga ukuthintwa kwethanga, amaqhuqhuva amadolo- kunye neenyawo ezincinci phantsi kwetafile.
Ukuba bafumana izizathu zokukuthinta, mhlawumbi ukugcina umnxeba ixesha elide kunesiqhelo kwaye ‘ngempazamo’ ukuxubha rhoqo, ngokuqinisekileyo bayakuthanda!
Bafuna ukusondela kuwe kwaye baya kufumana nasiphi na isizathu sokwenza njalo, njengokuhambisa iinwele ebusweni bakho, ukudlala ngezinto zakho zokuhombisa, okanye ukuphumla isandla edolweni okwemizuzu embalwa.
Umntu onobuhlobo akunakulindeleka ukuba ungakhethi bucala ukongeza ukubamba ngokwasemzimbeni, nangona kunokuba nokuthinta wonke umntu kubandakanya nawe.
10. Zonke zizinto ezilandelwayo.
Ukudlala ngothando akuthethi ukuba kube yinto nje enye! Ngokwesiqhelo iyinto eqhubekayo ngakumbi, yiyo loo nto ukulandela kungumqondiso olungileyo wokujonga.
Ukuba umntu ocinga ngaye wenza iinzame zokungena nawe rhoqo kwaye alandele umhla ngombhalo, uyakuthanda.
Bazama ukudlala ngothando kwaye bakwazise ukuba banomdla. Nabani na onokuya kumhla, kodwa abantu bathumela kuphela umyalezo emva koko okanye bacebise ngomnye umhla ukuba bayakuthanda.
Ukuba benza iinzame zokuthetha nawe, bakusukele ngeengcebiso ezizezinye ukuba omnye wenu urhoxisile usuku, okanye ubhekise kumaxesha enikhe nachitha kunye, bayadlala!
Umntu onobuhlobo inokuhlala inxibelelana nawe, kodwa ubunjani boku kulandelwa kunokwenzeka ukuba bube bufutshane kunye nenqanaba lomphezulu.
11. Baqhula kakhulu.
Olunye ugculelo olulula okanye ibanter nayo inokuba luphawu lokudlala ngothando. Le yindlela yabo yokuqhula ngobunono kunye nokwazisa ukuba bakukhathalele.
Ukuba yenziwa ngendlela ye-pally kakhulu, kusenokwenzeka ukuba bakubone njengomhlobo (ukuba bayakuhlekisa ngenkangeleko yakho, umzekelo). Kodwa ukuba benza iziqhulo ezithandekayo kwaye bahlekise ngeenxa zonke kuwe, mhlawumbi bazama ukudlala ngothando.
Kunokuba ngenkohliso ngenene ukuxelela ukuba umntu othile udlala nje ngawe, ke, ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntu othile ukuqhula kakhulu, kufanelekile ukukhangela eminye imiqondiso (njengale ikolu luhlu) ukubona ukuba zeziphi na iimvakalelo zabo zokwenyani.
Umntu onobuhlobo akunakulindeleka ukuba udlale ngendlela edlalayo ecebisa umtsalane.
12. Bafumana izizathu zokuthetha nawe.
Mhlawumbi bafumana izizathu zokuchitha ixesha kunye nawe, okanye bahlala bebonakala ngathi bafuna njalo eyakho nceda ngokukodwa.
Ukuba bahlala beza kuwe bezokufumana izinto ngokulula komnye umntu, bazama ukudlala ngothando.
Oku kunokuba becela uncedo lokuhambisa indlu, nangona abazali babo behlala kufutshane kwaye baya kube benikezele, okanye becela iingcebiso zakho ngendawo elungileyo yokuya edolophini, nangona uGoogle ebekhona ukunceda.
Ukuba bafuna ingcebiso yakho okanye uncedo xa bengadingi njalo, bayadlala ngawe hayi nje ukuba banobuhlobo, sithembe.
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