Uninzi lwethu lwalukhe lwakhona ngaphambili - loo mzuzu ungathandekiyo apho uqaphela ukuba ubona umhlobo wakho osenyongweni njengento engaphezulu.
Mhlawumbi umtsalane ubukhula okwexeshana, okanye mhlawumbi ukubethile njengelori.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, inokudideka kwaye inokubeka uxinzelelo kubuhlobo.
Musa ukoyika! Sibeke ndawonye ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nale mvakalelo kwaye siqhubele phambili, nokuba ngaba sisibini, njengabahlobo, okanye sisodwa.
1. Nika ixesha.
Khumbula ukuba iimvakalelo zethu zinokuza zidlule, kwaye ubungakanani bezinto esizivayo namhlanje zisenokungafani nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngomso.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngokuchanekileyo Njani Uziva malunga nomhlobo wakho, zama ukunika ixesha. Mhlawumbi kuzisa uluhlu olukhulu lweemvakalelo ezothusayo kuwe, kwaye unokuziva ungonwabanga xa ubangqongile ngalo mzuzu, kodwa zama ukulinda uphume.
Iimvakalelo zakho zisenokuba ziye zavela ngenxa yeemeko ezithile- mhlawumbi uyaphuma ekwahlukaneni kwaye loo mhlobo ebenenkxaso yokwenene, mhlawumbi uzibonisa iimvakalelo zakho nge-ex kubo, okanye mhlawumbi nobabini benxile kwaye nancamisana.
Yintoni le, unokuziva indlela oyiyo ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi.
Musa ukwenza naziphi na izigqibo ngokungxama ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela oziva ngayo ngoku! Yinike ixesha elincinci uqhubeke ujinga nabo njengesiqhelo ubone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.
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Ukuba uvakalelo luyaphela, mhlawumbi yayiluchuku nje oluncinci! Ukuba akukho njalo…
2. Thetha ngayo.
Thetha nomntu omthandayo nomthembileyo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Kunganzima kakhulu ukuyigcina yonke le nto ibhotile- uziva ngathi ufuna ukugcina imfihlo kumhlobo wakho osenyongweni, ekwenza uzive unetyala kwaye uneentloni, phantse.
Ukukuvumela konke kunye nomnye umntu kuya kukunceda ukuba uqhubekeke neemvakalelo zakho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye.
Oku ayisiyonto ingaqhelekanga, ke umntu omthandayo uya kuba nethemba lokuba uya kukucebisa.
Ukwazi ukuba oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye uza kuyifumana, kunokwenza ukuba ukujongana nezinto ezilapha kube lula ngoku.
3. Ukulinganisa iimvakalelo zabo.
Ukuba uye wathandana nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni kwaye abazi, banokuba neemvakalelo ngawe ngaloo nto wena andazi malunga.
Ngelixa kubalulekile ukuba ungafumani ithemba lakho phezulu, qaphela inyani yokuba oku akunakuba kwicala elinye.
Ngelixa uchitha ixesha nabo, jonga indlela abenza ngayo xa bekujikelezile. Ngaba ikhona into etshintshileyo kutshanje, bayekile ukuthandana nabanye abantu, ngaba bajonge ngokwahlukileyo?
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Mhlawumbi bavavanya amanzi kwaye abaqinisekanga ukuba mabenze ntoni ngeemvakalelo zabo?
Oku kunokuba nzima ukulinganisa, kodwa kufanelekile ukuzama. Uyayibona indlela abasabela ngayo ukuba ufumana isondo kubo, okanye mhlawumbi ukuba uyabamba ngendlela ethe-ethe kuneqhelekileyo.
Cebisa isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi ixesha elithile - khetha indawo yokutyela efanelekile kumhla kwaye ubone ukuba nobabini niyazitshintsha na indlela eniziphethe ngayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha sidinga ukuba semoyeni ofanelekileyo ukuze sikwazi ukujongana neemvakalelo zethu, kwaye isibane esikhanyisiweyo, isidlo sothando singayindawo efanelekileyo yokuvumela ezo mvakalelo ukuba zize phezulu!
Jonga indlela abenza ngayo-mhlawumbi benza ngokufana ncam nesiqhelo, okanye bahlekise ngokujikeleza kwaye basile ngenxa yokuba yintsimi engaqhelekanga kuwe. Mhlawumbi babonakala ngathi baneentloni, okanye benza iinzame zokwenyani zokuzibandakanya nawe.
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Jonga indlela izinto eziphuma ngayo ngaphandle kwaye uthembele amathumbu akho kule nto-ungafuna ngenene ukuba kubekho into phakathi kwakho, kodwa uya kwazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ayikho.
4. Fumana umbono.
Ukuthandana nabanye abantu kuya kuba yinto ozenzela yona ngokwakho - akufuneki kube malunga nokwenzakalisa omnye umntu.
Kule meko, unokuzama ukuhlangana neminye imihla embalwa enokubakho. Oku ngokuqinisekileyo akufuneki ukuba uzame ukwenza umhlobo wakho osenyongweni abe nomona, njengoko oko kungalunganga nokuziphatha okukhohlisayo.
Endaweni yoko, imalunga nokubona ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zomhlobo wakho osenyongweni ziyinyani okanye ukuba ungaziva ezo zinto zintle zomntu ngomhla we-2!
Ngamanye amaxesha, sicinga ukuba siyathandana nomntu ngenxa yokuba ngubani. Nangona kunjalo, inokuba kukuqikelelwa kweemvakalelo kumntu ozinzileyo kwaye okhuselekileyo, umntu esimthembayo, umntu oqinisekisa isidingo sethu sokuhoywa nothando.
Ke ngekhe ungamthandi umhlobo wakho osenyongweni ungathanda nje umbono wokuba kunye nomntu ofana naye. Yiyo loo nto ukudibana nabanye abantu kunokukunceda uchonge ukuba kanjani ngokwenene zive.
Usenokuvela kude kumhla ubathande ngokwenene kwaye ufuna ukubona ukuba izinto zihamba njani, zikhuselekile kulwazi lokuba 'iimvakalelo zakho' kumhlobo wakho osenyongweni bezingeyiyo le uyicingayo.
Okanye, usenokuza uzive ugula xa ucinga ngokuncamisa omnye umntu xa uthandana nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, uyazi ukuba uziva njani kwaye ungaqala ukuya phambili…
5. Baxelele indlela oziva ngayo.
Ngexesha elithile, unokufuna ukucinga ngokuxelela umhlobo wakho osenyongweni uthandana nabo.
Ingaziva iyothusa kwaye yoyikisa, kodwa kuye kufike ixesha apho kufuneka yenziwe.
Banciphise, endaweni yokukhwaza 'Ndiyakuthanda' okanye ucwangcise isenzo sothando. Ezo zinto zinokuba mnandi kakhulu kwaye banexesha nendawo (ikakhulu, ii-com com kunye nabahlobo), kodwa banokuba namandla kakhulu!
Khawufane ucinge indlela onokufuna ngayo ukuba umhlobo wakho osenyongweni akuxelele ukuba imeko ibuyiselwe umva- mhlawumbi kwenye indawo yabucala kunye nokuzola.
Bazise nje ukuba ucinga ukuba uneemvakalelo ngabo kwaye, ngelixa ungafuni ukonakalisa ubuhlobo, ufuna ukwazi ukuba umi phi.
Ungaze ubasole okanye ube nomsindo ukuba abaziva bengafani - ungayicombulula loo nto emva koko, kodwa ayilotyala lomhlobo wakho ukuba abafuni kwa into inye. Hlala uzolile xa uthetha kwaye uhloniphe iimvakalelo zabo.
Olunye ukhetho kukuba bacele ixesha elithile lokuqhubekeka. Enye into kukuba bakuxelele kwangoko ukuba abaziva ngendlela efanayo. Ewe kunjalo, ukhetho oluchanekileyo kukuba bakubambe ngokundanga nangokuphuza okukhulu.
6. Yiba nomonde.
Ukuba bakuxelele ukuba badinga ixesha, hlonipha loo nto. Musa ukungenela ugqatso okanye ujongane nabo, kwaye musa ukubeka uxinzelelo kubo kwaye ufune impendulo kwisithuba seeyure ezingama-24.
Banike indawo kwaye mabavumele ukuba beze kuwe xa bekulungele. Sebenzisa eli xesha ukwahlukana ukuze uzikhumbuze ukuba, nangona izinto zenzeka, ufuna lo mntu ebomini bakho.
Ukuziva ungamkelwa kubuhlungu, kodwa kuya kuba lula, kwaye uza kubuyela kwindlela izinto ezazingayo ngaphambili.
Ngokulinganayo, banokuziva ngendlela efanayo nawe, ke zama ukungazami kakhulu ngexesha lesigaba sokulinda. Ukuba bayabuya kwaye bafuna ukunika izinto, ziyamangalisa! Ukuba akukho njalo…
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7. Ukufumana ukuvalwa nokuqhubeka.
Ke, bayenza yacaca into yokuba abavakalelwa ngendlela efanayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kuyothusa kuwe, kodwa qaphela ukuba banokuziva bengakhululekanga okanye bengaqiniseki ukuba mabenze njani.
Jongana nazo naziphi na iimvakalelo ezibi ngasese kunokuba ubangxolise.
Sebenzisa oku njengokuvalwa oyifunayo ukuze uqhubeke. Uyenzile yonke into onokuyenza - ubunyanisekile kwaye awunakunyanzela umntu ukuba abe neemvakalelo ngawe, nokuba zinokuhendeka njani ngelo xesha.
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Nika indawo omnye komnye okwethutyana. Kuya kufuneka ujongane nezi mvakalelo ukude nazo, kwaye uphilise ngokufanelekileyo ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele ekubeni ngumhlobo kwakhona.
Khumbula ukuba uyamthanda lo mntu njengomhlobo, ngokunjalo onothando kubo, ke awulahlekanga ngabo ebomini bakho ngokulungileyo.
Xa uqala ukubonana kwakhona, mhlawumbi yenza imigaqo-siseko-ungabacela ukuba bangathethi ngemihla yabo ephambi kwakho, ubuncinci ekuqaleni, okanye bavumelane ukuba nihlala kunye ngokwamaqela ukuqala.
Bangumhlobo wakho kwaye bazakufuna ukunceda kangangoko banako kwaye banomdla kakhulu kwizinto zokubuyela esiqhelweni, ke vula into oyifunayo kwaye uya kuba usendleleni yokuqhubela phambili kwaye abahlobo abasenyongweni kwakhona.
8. Abahlobo baselibhaso.
Abantu abaninzi bayabambeka kwingcinga 'yendawo yomhlobo' kwaye banokuzibandakanya ekwenqabeni nasehlazweni, ngaloo ndlela bonakalise obo buhlobo.
Khumbula ukuba akukho nto injenge-friendzone! Yinto nje eyenziwe ngabantu abaziva bekrakra kakhulu kwaye bebona kuphela ukuxabiseka kwabantu ukuba banokuba kunye nabo kwezothando.
Kusekho ukuxabiseka okungako kokuba 'nomhlobo nje' womhlobo - ayisiyiyo 'ubudlelwane okanye akukho nto,' kwaye ubumthanda lo mntu njengomhlobo ngaphambi kokuba uvelise iimvakalelo ngabo, kunjalo.
Zama ukuba ungavumeli nayiphi na le nto ingene endleleni yobuhlobo bakho ukuba izinto azihambi ngendlela ofuna ngayo.
Landela ingcebiso yethu, zinike lonke isithuba olifunayo, kwaye kungekudala uza kubuyela ekubeni ngabahlobo abasenyongweni kwakhona.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ngeemvakalelo onazo kumhlobo wakho osenyongweni? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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