Ngaba uqhelene nomxholo wokudinwa kwemfesane?
Yimeko ehlala ifikela abanonopheli abafana nabongikazi kunye nabantu abasoloko bechaphazeleka kukubandezeleka nokuba kungabantu okanye izilwanyana. Banemfesane kakhulu kwaye benovelwano kuxinzelelo lwabanye kangangokuba bade bagqibe kukothuka kwaye bothuke yiyo, ebangela ukuba babuye umva ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Ngokwenyani iyancipha kwaye iyancipha imfesane yabo ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwaye ekugqibeleni ingakhokelela kukungakhathali okupheleleyo ukuba ayigcinwanga kukhangelo lokuzinakekela rhoqo kunye nonyango.
Into eyenzekayo kukuba, la mava akakhawulelwanga kwabo basebenza kwiiwadi zengozi, yimeko yokwenyani kakhulu Iimfesane umzabalazo. Zihambelana kakhulu neemvakalelo zabanye abantu, ngalo lonke ixesha, kangangokuba amaxesha amaninzi ekuphela kwendlela yokuzisindisa kolo hlaselo lukhulu lukukuba 'ndindisholo.'
Ukuziva ubukhali kunye nokwazisa kutsalwa kungeniswe ngaphakathi, kwaye ikhaka lokhuselo liza kuthintela amaza angenakuphela enzonzobila, unxunguphalo, ukuphelelwa lithemba, umsindo, kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezithi zityibilike kulawulo ngalunye rhoqo. Abaninzi baziva ukuba banokukhetha ezimbini kuphela kwiimeko ezinje: beka ezo ndonga phezulu, okanye uzitshise ziphele.
ungayincoma njani inkangeleko yakhe
Ummandla Wengozi
Ukuba yimpembelelo inezibonelelo zayo, kodwa ikwanendleko ezinkulu: xa unomdla kakhulu koko uziva kuko wonke umntu, iimeko ezinje ngoxinzelelo olukhulu, uxinzelelo, ukuphazamiseka ekutyeni, kunye neentlungu zomzimba ezinokubonakalisa rhoqo, kwaye akukho ivela ngaphakathi kuwe! Kufana nomsinga odudumayo weempembelelo zangaphandle ezingena ngaphakathi kuwe kuzo zonke iindlela kwaye akukaze kubonakale kuyekelela. Xa ujongana nolo hlobo lweemeko, ukurhoxa kunye nokwenza i-cocoon ekhuselayo kubonakala ngathi yeyona nto ikrelekrele kakhulu nekhuselekileyo, akunjalo?
Ewe, ewe kunye nohayi. Uyabona, xa abantu bebeka iindonga, abagcini nje ukugcina iimvakalelo zangaphandle zingatyibiliki kubo - bayazigcina iimvakalelo zabo nazo. I-Empaths, edla ngokuba yimfesane kunye nokuqonda kwabantu, inokujika ibe ziimishini ezizenzekelayo ezinokukwazi ukuwela isidumbu sesihlobo senze isandwich kwaye ingabethi ijwabu leso.
Kulungile, mhlawumbi loo nto iyinto ebaxiweyo, kodwa kunjalo.
Ukucima umva nokubuyela umva ngaphakathi kuyingozi kwimpilo yomntu ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo njengokuba yimithambo ekrwada, eveziweyo ehlala ikhutshwe ngamandla omntu wonke. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokuziva kukhuselekile kwaye kukhululeke ukuba ndindisholo, kodwa uyazenzakalisa ngaphezu kokulungileyo, kwaye unokwenzakalisa wonke umntu okujikelezileyo kwinkqubo.
Izinto oza kuzenza ukuba uyadika
Ngokuvala kwaye uhlakulele ukungakhathali endaweni yovelwano, unokuzibandeza uvuyo oluncinci olwenza ubomi bakho bube nenjongo yokuphila. Uyakuthanda ukufunda? Ukuzoba? Ukubaleka? Xa uvala, uninzi lwezo zinto alusayi kuphinda lubaluleke kwaye uya kusuka nje ubethwe nje phambi kweTV kangangeeyure ngexesha kuba awunakukhathazeka ukwenza enye into.
Ngaphezulu koko, xa uvimba iimvakalelo zabanye abantu kwilinge lokuzisindisa, uyakuba uthintela nabantu abasondele kuwe. Ungazifumana unganqweneli kwenza ntlungu malunga neqabane / iqabane lakho, ngakumbi ukuba ngaba 'baswele' ngokweemvakalelo emehlweni akho (nto leyo iqheleke ngokupheleleyo xa umntu ekhulula umntu).
Abantwana bakho, ukuba unabo, banokuba ziingcwangu zokucaphuka endaweni yezona zinto zibuthathaka. Abahlobo bakho banokufumanisa ukuba abanakuthetha nawe kuba yonke into abayithethayo iyakucaphukisa, kwaye ungazibeka emngciphekweni wokuphulukana nomsebenzi ngenxa yokuba ungakwazi ukubeka inkathalo okanye umzamo onyanisekileyo kule nto uyenzayo.
Iimpawu ezifihlakeleyo zomntu osebenza naye uyakuthanda
Ngokurhoxa kwi cocoon engenamdla, unokuba uzisindisa kwintlungu kunye nokugcwala ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa uyazithintela ukuba uphile ngokwenyani. Uyakuba ligobolondo elingenamntu, uhambe ushukume, kodwa ungaziva ngokwenyani okanye uve nantoni na… kwaye imeko elusizi leyo yokwenene.
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Undoqo lulungelelwano
Ingavakala ngathi yinto ekulula ukuyithetha kunokwenziwa, kwaye ukuthi ibhalansi kulula ukuyifezekisa iya kuba yimfumba eyaziyo ukuba yintoni, kodwa inokwenziwa, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza njalo.
Kukho umhlaba ophakathi owonwabileyo phakathi kokuhluthwa ziimvakalelo zabanye abantu kunye nokuzikhathaza ngokupheleleyo, ke kuya kufuneka ufumane ukuba umda wakho ungakanani na ukuze ube nakho ukunyamezela ukuhlaselwa, kwaye zeziphi iindlela ezisebenza ngokukuko kukhathalelo nokuzalisa nokuzaliswa .
Inye kuphela into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuyenza kukuthathela ingqalelo iimeko (nabantu) kukuseze Okuninzi. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uhambo oluya kwindawo yokuthenga lushiya ufuna ukulala phantsi kumgxobhozo we-comatose iintsuku ezimbalwa, mhlawumbi kungcono ukuphepha ukuya khona. Kwangokunjalo, ukuba ixesha olichithe nomhlobo othile okanye ilungu losapho liyakuphelisa kwaye likujike ube sisiphithiphithi, uxhalabile, unganqwenela ukunciphisa ixesha lakho nabo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
wazi njani ukuba uyandithanda
Ezinye iimfesane ukujika ekusebenziseni iziyobisi okanye iziyobisi ukwenzela ukuba bazilungiselele ngokuchasene nobuqhetseba obuthulula abantu abanetyhefu, kodwa eso sisilungiso sethutyana esiza kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo sibangele ingozi ekuhambeni kwexesha. Nanini na apho kufanelekileyo, gcina kuphela ubudlelwane nabantu abonyusa ubomi bakho - funda ukubalahla abo bakunyibilikayo kwaye bakutyhefe.
Ukongeza ekuthinteleni iimeko ezikutshabalalisayo okanye ezikubangela iintlungu, enye into entle onokuyenza kukudala indawo ebonakalayo ekhuselekileyo yokubuyela kuyo. Igumbi lokulala lilungile, njengoko unokutshixa ngokoqobo umnyango kwaye ubenendawo yakho xa uyifuna, ngakumbi ukuba uxhoma uphawu olukhulu 'ungaphazamisi' ngaphambili ukuze abanye bazi ukuba bakushiye xa ungene Pha.
Hombisa indawo yakho ngendlela ezolileyo kunye nomoya, ungangxoli. Imibala emthubi, ukuphindaphinda imibala, izityalo eziluhlaza, kunye nezibane ezinokuthi zinciphise okanye zikhanyise ngokuxhomekeke kwiimfuno zakho zonke zinokunceda ngokucacileyo.
Buyela kule ndawo xa uziva uxakekile kwaye uzame ukugxila ekuphefumlweni kwakho. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ulahleka kwiingcinga zakho ngokulula, zama ukucamngca okukhokelwayo endaweni yoko. Oku kuya kukunceda ufunde ukwahlula phakathi kweemvakalelo zakho, kunye nabanye abantu, onokuthi uphathe ungakhange uqaphele.
Ukucamngca okunxibelelana kwakhona nomzimba wakho kunokuba nakho ukusebenza ngokukuko ekuthomalaliseni ulwalamano lweemvakalelo. Uninzi lwee-empaths zihlala ezintlokweni zazo nakwimeko yokomoya ixesha elininzi, ke ukubuyela kumhlaba wenyama kunokwenza isiseko esifuneka kakhulu. I-Yoga kunye ne-Tai Chi ziindlela ezimbini ezintle zokwenza ziqinise : ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba unxibelelana ngokwasemhlabeni nomhlaba xa usenza ukuma kunye nokuhamba, kodwa ekubeni ujolise ngokupheleleyo kwinto eyenziwa ngumzimba wakho, kunye nendlela ophefumla ngayo ohamba ngayo kuwe, awubethwa ziimvakalelo zabanye abantu. Konke malunga NAWE: amandla akho, ukuzola kwakho, impilo yakho.
Kutheni u roman elawula enxibe ivesti
Akukho fomula inye eya kusebenza kuwo wonke umntu, njengoko imibundu yabantu ngokweemvakalelo kunye nemibono yokuzizalisa yohlukile zonke. Kuya kufuneka uzame inani lokwahluka ukukhusela kunye neendlela zokuzinakekela ngaphambi kokuba ufumane umhlaba ophakathi wobugqi ofanelekileyo, kwaye oko kulungile!
Ukuba uchithe iminyaka usonganyelwa ziingcinga neemvakalelo zabanye abantu, kuyakuthatha ixesha ukuba ufunde ukwahlula ezizezakho kwaye zezabo, kwaye uphinde uhlele ukuba yintoni ekwenza uzive ukhuselekile, wonwabile kwaye usempilweni.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba xa unako, zama ukutya kakuhle, kwaye ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ukuhlala phantsi kweebhulukhwe zangaphantsi, ukugalela itshizi nokubukela iikhathuni kuyinxalenye 'yendawo yokonwaba' yakho, nayo loo nto ilungile.
Akukho kugweba, apha.
