'Sooooo… Ndinguvelwano.'
'Uyintoni ?!'
'Yeka.'
Isandi esiqhelekileyo?
'Ukuphuma' akunakuze kube lula: vele ubuze nabani na okhe wasokola nokuvuma indalo yabo kwabo babangqongileyo.
Sinethamsanqa, ubuncinci, ukuba ukwamkelwa kuqhelwaniso olwahlukeneyo ngokwesini, isini, kunye nobudlelwane kuphuculwe ngokucacileyo kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo okanye njalo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngaphandle kweentlobo ezithile zengqondo ezivaliweyo, kunzima ukuphikisana nomntu xa bekuxelela ukuba banomdla kumntu wesini esifanayo, okanye abachazi ubuni ababelwe kubo ukuzalwa.
Le micimbi ibambekayo ejongene nabantu abangenakubalwa, kwaye banethemba lokufumana inkxaso kunye nokuqonda yonke imihla.
Kwahlukile kancinci xa ubaxelela ukuba ungaziva ukuba baziva njani, nokuba ukude.
Lo ngumbono ongaphathekiyo nonqabileyo, kwaye uninzi lwabantu lunobunzima ngokunxulumene neemeko ezingakhange zizibonele ngokwazo.
Makhe siphicothe ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba nemfesane, kunye nendlela yokuchaza amava ethu kwabo bakwiingingqi zethu zentlalo.
Ngethemba, ngokuqala incoko kwaye sizame ukuphelisa uloyiko kunye nokuthandabuza, singasebenzela kwinqanaba eliphezulu lokuqonda kunye ukwamkelwa .
Kuthetha Ukuthini Ukuba yiEmpath?
Ngamagama alula, ukuba novelwano kuthetha ukuba sinako ukuziva iimvakalelo zabanye abantu.
Ngoku, i-spectrum spectrum ibanzi, ke abantu abahlukeneyo baya kuba namandla ahlukeneyo.
Umzekelo, umntu omnye unokuba nje 'novakalelo lwesisu' xa umntu abethetha naye ecaphukile, nokuba uqhuba ngendlela eqhelekileyo.
Omnye unokubethwa ngosizi okanye ingqumbo kwaye ungazi ukuba ivelaphi - ukuba umntu okufuphi kubo uneentlungu ezingathethekiyo.
… Nayo yonke into ephakathi.
Abanye bafumana uvelwano olunje kangangokuba bathathe oko bakuva ngathi ziimvakalelo zabo.
Esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba uninzi lwee-empaths zisebenze ekhaya, okanye zithande ukuba njalo loners abangashiyi indlu rhoqo.
andinabahlobo kwaye andinabomi
Cinga malunga nokuba bangaphi abantu onokuthi udlule kubo esitratweni, okanye unokuxinana kuwe ngakwinqwelomoya egcwele abantu Okanye ujikeleze xa uhamba kwindawo yokuthenga.
Ngoku khawufane ucinge uziva phantse zonke iimvakalelo zabo njengoko bedlula kuwe. Amakhulu, kwanamawaka eemvakalelo, ekubetha kuwo onke amacala, ngokudibana (kunye nokudideka) amaza.
Unokuqonda uloyiko komnye umntu kunye nolonwabo oluvela komnye umntu. Unokufumana i-pings yoxinzelelo okanye umsindo oya kuthi emva koko uchasane nemincili okanye uthando olungalawulekiyo.
Ngokusisiseko iyalingana ngokweemvakalelo nokubetha elwandle, ukuzama ukugcina intloko yakho ngaphezulu kwamanzi ngelixa umoya uvuthuza onke amaza akungqongileyo ukuze ungakwazi ukuphefumla.
Uvelwano olunzulu lunokubonakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni. Ukuthatha iimvakalelo zabanye abantu kuthetha ukuba unokuthatha uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, okanye isifo sengqondo.
Ezinye iimfesane ziyaphazamiseka yiyo yonke into eziva ngayo ukuba zikhulisa iimeko ezizimeleyo ngenxa yokudinwa kakhulu kunye nerhafu yomzimba / yeemvakalelo.
Kananjalo, uninzi lweemfesane zifuna ixesha elininzi lokunciphisa kunye nokuzikhathalela. Iindawo ezizolileyo, ukuba wedwa, ukutya okuphilisayo, kunye ixesha elichithwe kwindalo Zonke zibaluleke kakhulu- ayisiyoncedo nje kuphela.
Konke oku kwenza ukuba ube sisandi esivakalayo, kodwa loo nto ayisiyiyo imeko.
Kukwakho nezibonelelo ezininzi kubuchule obunzulu bokuqonda. Uninzi lunabacebisi abanesiphiwo, ngakumbi ukuba bafundile indlela yokuzikhusela ukuze bangoyiki.
Ukuba luvelwano kukwaluncedo olukhulu xa kufikwa kunxibelelwano neqabane lakho, abantwana, kwanezilwanyana.
Abo banobunzima bokuthetha ngomlomo banokuzifumana beqondwa kwangoko ngaphandle kokuthetha igama elinye, kuba omnye umntu angaziva ukuba uziva njani, kwaye aphendule ngohlobo.
Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokuSondela kuBantu ngolu Lwazi?
Ukuzoba ngamava am, elona xesha lilungileyo lokuthetha ngobume bakho bovelwano kubonakala ngathi xa ufumana amava okwabelana ngomntu.
Oku kusebenza ngakumbi kakuhle nabantu abaqhele ukuthandabuza ngesihloko.
Ndiza kukunika umzekelo.
Kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, ndasebenza nomntu owayengathandabuzi kwaphela malunga nantoni na ekude ngokomoya.
Ngapha koko, waye wadlulela ngaphaya kokuthandabuza ukuya kwindelelo kunye nokuhlekisa nanini na xa umntu eze nesihloko angakholelwa kuso.
Waye stoic kakhulu, kwaye kwakungekho lula ukuxelela ukuba luhlobo luni lwemo awayekuyo ukusuka kolunye usuku ukuya kolulandelayo.
Ngesi sihlandlo, sincokole ngokufutshane ngexesha lesidlo sasemini, kwaye ndinokuqonda ukuba kukho into emkhathazayo.
Ngokuphandle, wayebonakala elungile: isiqu sakhe, isiqu sakhe… kodwa ndaya phambili ndambuza ukuba ulungile na.
Wayebonakala emangalisiwe ngumbuzo, wathi uphilile, kwaye wabuza ukuba kutheni ndibuze.
Ndamxelela ukuba wayeka amagagasi omsindo kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kwaye ndandikhona ukuba wayeziva efuna ukuthetha.
umyeni wam unemvakalelo kwaye unomsindo ngalo lonke ixesha
Impendulo yakhe yayikukuthula kakhulu, emva koko wahamba engakhange athethe ...
Wandiphepha iintsuku ezimbalwa, kwaye ekugqibeleni wandithumelela i-imeyile endazisa ukuba yena nomlingane wakhe bohlukene nje phambi kokuba sithethe.
Ndandimtyhafisile ngokumcela, kuba wayezidla ngokuba ekwazi ukugcina i-facade ezolileyo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kuba wayediniwe kukwahlukana, wayengenamandla okwenza amava kwaye azame ukuwenza ngamehlo ososayensi, kwaye Ndayihlonipha loo nto .
Siye sahlala sancokola nje kancinci sade sikuphephe nokunciphisa ukungonwabi, ndemka ndathatha omnye umsebenzi kungekudala emva koko.
Kuthathe iminyaka ukuba afikelele kum malunga nala mava, kwaye nangona wayesenobunzima ekukholelweni kumandla okuba novelwano, wayengenakuphika ukuba kwakumothusile ekuqwalaseleni ukuma kwakhe kwizinto ezininzi.
Ndixoxe ngamakhono okuba novelwano nabantu abaninzi kule minyaka idlulileyo, kwaye ihlala ihamba ngcono xa ndinokuyiphakamisa ngokusekwe kumava abambekayo, kunokuba ndiyiphazamise ngokungacwangciswanga ngelixa ndinekofu. (Oko kunokuthathwa ngaphandle komxholo kwaye kube nzima ngokwenene.)
Inye into ekufanele ukuba ikhankanyiwe kukuba kukho amaxesha amakhulu, kunye namaxesha angaphantsi kokulungeleyo ukuba uthethe ngokuba yimpembelelo.
Ukubiza umntu ngaphandle xa usazi ukuba bayaxoka kuwe kudidi lokugqibela.
Kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuluma ulwimi lwakho xa usazi umntu exoka ebusweni bakho kuba ungaziva ukunganyaniseki kuvela kubo ngamaza, kodwa kukho indlela elungileyo kunye nendlela engeyiyo yokusondela kuloo nto.
Ukuthi 'Ndiyazi ukuba uyandixokisa kuba ndinguvelwano kwaye ndiyayiva le nto uyivayo' inokubangela ukuzikhusela nobutshaba.
indlela yokujika umntu ngentlonelo
Indlela efana nale, 'Ndiyayiqonda into yokuba uthi ukuze ndigcine iimvakalelo zam, kodwa ndiyathemba ukuba uyazi ukuba ungahlala unyanisekile kum, nokuba kunzima' ayibeki sityholo kangako, kwaye ivumela indawo ukuba inyathele phezulu.
Xa unamathandabuzo malunga nokuba ungazixoxa njani ezi zinto nomntu, bhenela kumava akho nabo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kwaye uzame ukuqonda ukuba bangathanda ukuba bafikelwe njani.
Ke themba intuition yakho .
Olunye ufundo olubalulekileyo lokufunda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iingcebiso ezili-17 zokuSinda kwiiMpilo kunye naBantu abaPhezulu kakhulu
- Imizabalazo yeemfazwe ezili-11 zijongana nesiseko semihla ngemihla
- Ukutyibilika ngokutyibilika Kokungakhathali: Isilumkiso kubo bonke abantu
- Umzuzwana Uyaqonda ukuba uyi-Empath
- Xa iiMpaths ezimbini ziwa eluthandweni
Ngaba KUFUNEKA ndixelele abantu ukuba ndinguMphefumlo?
Njengalo naluphi na olunye ucezu lolwazi lomntu, nokuba uyenza okanye awuvumi ubuchule bakho bokuqonda kwabanye kuxhomekeke kuwe. Akukho sinyanzelo sokuba wenze njalo.
Ukuba uziva ungonwabanga malunga nethemba lokuxelela abantu ngale nkalo yesiqu sakho, ke musa.
Akukho mithetho malunga nokuba ungabaxeleli na abantu malunga nokuba unamava anjani: ibali lomntu wonke lelakhe, kwaye lukhetho lwakho ngendlela othanda ukuba ivele ngayo.
Kukho, ewe, ubuchule kunye neengozi zokuxelela abanye ngokuchaseneyo nokugcina olu lwazi kuwe.
Okuninzi kuxhomekeke ekubeni ukwimeko enokubanakho ukukunika inkxaso kunye nokuqonda, okanye inokukugxotha ngenxa yokunyaniseka kwakho.
Iinkonzo ezinokubakho:
- Ungafumanisa ukuba abanye abakwisangqa sakho sentlalo naziimfesane, kuba ngoku baziva 'bekhuselekile' ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangavulela omnye ngamava ekwabelwana ngawo.
- Inqanaba elikhulu lokuqonda kwabo bakungqongileyo: ngoku ukuba bayazi ukuba uziva njani rhoqo, baya kuba kwimeko engcono yokubonelela ngenkxaso njengoko kufuneka.
- Imbeko enkulu emsebenzini. Umqeshi wakho angakwazi ukukunika indawo yakho yeofisi, kwaye abantu osebenza nabo banokuyeka ukukulahla ngokweemvakalelo ngaphandle kokubuza kuqala.
- Ukuba nabanye babone kwaye babuxabise ubuchule bakho.
- Ukuvula amanqanaba amatsha okusondelelana kunye nobuhlobo kubudlelwane bakho.
Izinto ezinokubakho:
- Ukuba namava akho ancitshisiwe okanye acocwe njengokuba ushukunyiswa kakhulu okanye Ukufuna ingqalelo .
- Unokubangela ukuba abo bangazukukuqonda, kwaye bakhethe ukuzikhwebula kuwe 'xa kunokwenzeka' ungene ebomini babo.
- Ukuthathwa njengongazinzanga ngokwasemphefumlweni okanye ngokwasengqondweni ngabo bangakholelwayo kwiimfesane okanye bengavumi nokwamkela ukuba kungenzeka ukuba uthetha inyani.
Unokukhetha ukuxelela kuphela abantu abambalwa, abathembekileyo ukuba uyi-empath, okanye unokukhetha ukuyigcina kuwe okwangoku.
Kukho imeko apho unokufumana ingqiqo enamandla yokuba kufanele vula malunga nayo, ngelo xesha kulungile ukulandela elo thuku.
Abanye bathetha kuphela ezo zinto ngokungaziwayo, kwiiblogi okanye iiakhawunti ze-Twitter, kwaye kunjalo.
Kuthathe mna ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-40 ukuvula * uninzi * lwabantu malunga nobuchule bam, ngolwazi olupheleleyo lokuba kukho abantu abangasokuze balufumane.
Ndiyayiqonda kwaye ndiyayihlonipha loo nto.
Ekugqibeleni, kuyehla kwindlela okhululeke ngayo kunye nabantu abaninzi abakungqongileyo besazi le nto yobuqu-kwaye enokubangela iyantlukwano-inyaniso ngawe.
Kuthekani Ukuba Awayikholelwa Kum? (Nditsho nabanyangi?)
Andizukuxoka kuwe: kusoloko kukho umngcipheko wokuba bangakukholelwa.
Isitshixo apha kukuthetha-thethana ngomgca ophilileyo phakathi kokwamkela / ukuhlonipha ukungakholelwa kwabanye abantu, kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba ukwindawo apho uthathwe ngokungathí sina.
Ukuba ugqirha wakho akakholelwa kumava akho obabalo, impendulo ilula: fumana omnye ugqirha.
Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezinje ngokudimazeka, nokuba buhlungu, njengengcali yokhathalelo lwempilo engakholelwayo kuwe.
Ufanele ukuviwa, kwaye uphulaphulwe, kwaye amava akho aqinisekiswe.
Ingcali yakho inokuba yinto eyoyikisayo, kodwa ukuba ayisebenzi inyaniso yakho okanye izama ukukwenza ukuba ucinge ukuba uyaphosisa kuba amava akho angahambelani nemibono yabo, ngekhe ulushiye ukhathalelo lwabo.
Baninzi abacebisi, iingcali zeengqondo, oogqirha bengqondo, kunye noochwephesha kwezengqondo abakholelwa kubuchule bokubonelela.
Ngapha koko, uninzi lwezo zonyango Ngaba ziimfesane ngokwazo , ekusenokwenzeka ukuba inegalelo kuyo iindlela zabo zomsebenzi abazikhethileyo .
Kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukuhamba kwihlabathi elinemvakalelo kakhulu ngaphandle kokuzama ukuthulula itoni yamandla ekuqinisekiseni abanye abantu ukuba amava akho ayinyani, kwaye ayasebenza.
Ukuba unengqondo kunye neemvakalelo zokwenza njalo, zive ukhululekile ukubanika inqwaba yeekhonkco amanqaku enzululwazi lonto ukuxhasa amandla okuqonda . Emva koko mabenze owabo umsebenzi.
Nangona kunokuba kukuhenda ukuzama ukukholisa kunye nokufundisa abanye ngamava akho, ayingomsebenzi wakho ukwenza njalo.
Kuyadinisa ngokupheleleyo ukuzama ukwenza ukuba abanye baqonde ukuba abakulungelanga ukubeka amandla ekwenzeni njalo.
usola abanye ngeempazamo zakho zokusebenza kwengqondo
Oku kuya kubagqirha, amalungu osapho, amaqabane, izihlobo, abantu osebenza nabo, kwaye malunga nawo wonke umntu onokuthi uhlangane naye rhoqo.
Kuthekani Ukuba Azixhasi?
Ukwanda kwinqanaba elingaphambili, kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba abanye abantu bangangabi ngabo bonke ovelwano kwinjongo yethu.
Kungafuneka samkele ukuba abanye babona bantu basondeleyo kuthi, esibakhathalele kakhulu, ngekhe bakwazi ukusinika inkxaso esiyidingayo, xa siyifuna.
Oku kuhlala kubangelwa kukukhetha kwabo, kwanoloyiko. Xa umntu engakwazi ukunxulumana nemeko ethile, baya kuhlala bezama ukuthulisa abanye okanye babatyhalele kude ukuze iindawo zabo zokuthuthuzela zingabekwa emngciphekweni.
Ewe kuyacaphukisa oku, kodwa kubalulekile nako yiba nemfesane ngento abanokuyo.
Abo banobunzima ekwamkeleni amandla akho okuba novelwano banokuhamba ngengxwabangxwaba enkulu yokomoya, okanye baneminye imibandela yobuqu eyenzekayo esingayaziyo.
Ukuba ujongene nale meko, eyona nto iphambili kukufumana isizwe sakho.
Oku kunokuthetha ukufumana amaqela amatsha abahlobo ukuba basebenzisane nabo, abaqeqeshi abatsha bezempilo abaya kukuthatha ngokungathí sina, kwanomsebenzi omtsha ukuba umqeshi wakho ungomnye wabo bantu bangakwaziyo / abayi kukukholelwa okanye baxhase inyani yakho.
Kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungalwela usuku eofisini xa ujongene neemvakalelo ezixineneyo ezivela kuwo onke amacala, ungaze ucinge ngokufuna ukukhusela ukudinwa kwakho kumphathi ocinga ukuba wenza yonke into.
Abanye abantu abanosapho olugcinakeleyo okanye abakholwayo banokoyika ukungakholelwa nje kuphela, kodwa batyholwa ngokungalunganga, ukulahlekiswa, okanye nokuba babi ukuba beza ngaphambili kwaye baveze indlela abavakalelwa ngayo .
Kwezo meko, kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukuthetha nomcebisi othembekileyo owaziyo ukuba uyi-empath, okholelwayo kwaye akuxhase, kwaye ubuze iingcebiso zabo malunga nendlela yokuthetha nabantu obathandayo ngendlela engoyiki. okanye ubenze bangabikho.
Ukuba bayandikholelwa, bangayenza ntoni ukuze babe nenkxaso?
Ukuba bayayamkela le nto ubixelele yona, sele bethathe inyathelo elikhulu lokuba bayakuxhasa, kwaye kuyamangalisa.
Ngoku ukukhula okwenyani kunokwenzeka emacaleni onke.
Okokuqala nokuphambili, baqinisekise ukuba-nangona kunjalo Imvakalelo 8 -AWUZIVA ukuba babelana ngesondo, kwaye awuzifundi iingqondo zabo ngokungathi bahluza nge-imeyile.
Khumbula ukuba abo bangakhange babenalo uhlobo loqhakamshelwano olwenzileyo banokungayiqondi kakuhle into oyiyo (okanye ongenayo).
Nangona banokuba nobunzima ngokunxulumene nobuchule bokuqonda, oko akuthethi ukuba abanakuba ngumgca wenkxaso kunye nokuzikhusela kuwe. Kulapho unxibelelwano olucacileyo luza kusebenza khona.
Zonke iimpembelelo zineemfuno ezahlukeneyo, ke ngoko akukho sisombululo sisinye-apha. Kubalulekile ukuba unqume into oyifunayo kubani, ukuze uzive uzolile kwaye ukhuselekile.
Umzekelo, umntu omnye unokufuna ukuba iqabane lakhe libe ngumgca wokuzikhusela ukubanceda ukuba bababeke kwi-negativity okanye inkohlakalo kwiifilimu, iinkqubo zeTV, okanye ezincwadini.
Omnye unokufuna abahlobo babo okanye amalungu osapho ukuba ancede ekunyamekeleni abantwana babo xa bexakwe yinto yonke ejikeleze bona.
Misela ukuba zeziphi iindawo zakho ezibuhlungu, unokuthi uhlakulele njani ukuzikhathalela, kunye nendlela abanokukunceda ngayo abo bakuthandayo.
Emva koko baxelele.
Khumbula ukuba uzimisele kangakanani ukunceda abo ubathandayo? Ngokuqinisekileyo bavakalelwa ngendlela efanayo ngawe.
Banike ithuba lokuba boyike, kwaye banokukothusa.
