Ukuba u-empath, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube 'kwimowudi' kwimodi rhoqo kunoko.
Ukwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye abantu kulungile xa kuziwa ekubaxhaseni, kodwa xa uziva uthe iimvakalelo ngokungathi zezakho, yenye imeko kwaphela.
… Kwaye ukuba uhlala uhlala kwindawo apho ujikelezwe ngabantu abaninzi, uya kuziva yonke into abayivayo, kwaye uphele unyibilika ngokupheleleyo.
(Ndinguvelwano nam, ke ndibhalela oku ngamava am.)
Siyazi ukuba uninzi lwe ixesha lodwa kunye nokhathalelo lobuqu luyafuneka ukuze udodobalise, uyeke iimvakalelo zabanye abantu, kwaye uzenzele umhlaba.
Ngokwenyani, konke oko akufuneki kuphela: ngokuqinisekileyo ibalulekile.
Ukuba kwindalo yenye yezona zinto zokuthomalalisa i-empath inokwenza intlalontle yethu: imvakalelo, ngokomoya nangokomzimba.
Kutheni indalo? Ewe, ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, zonke esi siza kuthi singene nzulu kuzo.
1. Ukuthantamisa kuyo yonke into: Ayisiyiyo nje Imvakalelo
I-avareji yempathiso ayithathi nje (kwaye iziva) iimvakalelo zabanye abantu - uninzi lwethu lubaxhalabisayo kuzo zonke iintlobo zezinto ezikhuthazayo ngokomzimba ngokunjalo.
Ingxolo, izibane eziqaqambileyo, ukuvumba okuqinileyo, kunye nokuthungwa zimbalwa izinto ezinokusongamela .
Uninzi lwethu lukwanokutya okanye ukungangqinelani nendawo esihlala kuyo, kwaye singagula emva kokuvezwa yimichiza ethile.
Ukuba ngaphandle kwindalo kuyasibuyisela. Kuba asithintelwa yingxolo, ukukhanya okungeyonyani, kunye nesiqholo sabanye abantu esiphuma kuwo onke amacala, izivamvo zethu zingabuyela kwimeko yazo yendalo, yokungathathi cala.
Ivumba elingathath'icala, izandi ezimbalwa ezivakalayo kunye nezibane ezingathandekiyo, akukho zihlwele zabantu ezisibhinqileyo… akumangalisi ukuba uninzi lwethu lukhethe ukuhlala kwindawo ezinendalo kangangoko! Nantoni na enye into ibuhlungu.
2. Ukuthula nokuzola kusivumela ukuba sive iimvakalelo zethu: ayinguye wonke umntu
Uninzi lwee-empaths zinobunzima bokuqonda ukuba iimvakalelo esizivayo zezethu na.
Malunga naye nawuphi na umntu onovelwano oza kudibana naye uya kufumana amaxesha apho bezele luxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, okanye usizi, kodwa akanakukuxelela ukuba kutheni.
Rhoqo kunokuba kunjalo, kungenxa yokuba sithathe oko abantu abasingqongileyo besiva, kwaye sibonakalisa ezo mvakalelo kunye noxinzelelo njengolwethu. Ngokwenene sithatha ukubandezeleka kwabanye abantu.
Xa siphuma kwindalo, konke oko kuyama.
Singazonwabela kubo bonke obo buhle ngaphandle kokuxhuzulwa yimicimbi yabanye abantu evela macala onke.
Nje ukuba sikhululeke kubundlobongela bomntu wonke, sinexesha kunye nendawo yokucinga kunye nokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo zethu.
Iingxaki zethu zihlala kwisitulo esingasemva kwabo sibakhathaleleyo, njengoko sithanda ukubabambela indawo kwaye sibancede kwimicimbi yabo endaweni yokubeka ezethu iimfuno kuqala.
Esi sithuba, eli xesha lifunwa ngamandla lodwa ngoxolo nokuzola, lisivumela ukuba singene kuthi.
Sinokushicilela, okanye sihlale sithe cwaka kwaye sicinge ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zobomi bethu.
Sinezithuba zokuya kuyo yonke into ukusuka kulwaneliseko kunye nolwalamano lwethu kunye nokwoneliseka ngumsebenzi. Akukho ziphazamiso, akukho mfuneko.
Thina nje, neengcinga zethu kunye neemvakalelo zethu.
3. Livakalelwa “NjengeKhaya”
Indalo iyasivuselela kumanqanaba angenakubalwa, kodwa ngakumbi kwi-empaths, kukho imeko yokuphelela ekubeni 'likhaya.'
Ngokungafaniyo naphi na kwenye indawo, imeko yendalo ayinazo zonke izinto ezisifaka kuthi yonke imihla. Akukho kunganaki. Akukho mandla izinto ezibangela iimvakalelo (kubandakanya nezimvo zentiyo kwimidiya yoluntu).
Kuyatshiwo ukuba umntu ophakathi namhlanje uchanabeke kwiindaba ezininzi kunokuba umntu othile kwixesha le-Victoriya ebeya kufunda unyaka wonke…
… Kuthathelwa ingqalelo ukuba zingakanani ezo ndaba zibuhlungu kwaye zibuhlungu, ayimangalisi into yokuba kutheni iimfesane zonganyelwe.
Xa ukwindalo, akukho nanye kuloo nto.
Kungakho iinyamakazi ezigawula imithi yemisedare kufutshane, okanye iintaka eziza kusondela zize zitye imbewu ezandleni zakho.
Ngentwasahlobo nasehlotyeni, iintyatyambo zasendle ziyanda, kwaye kukho isymphony yee-hues zamagqabi kanye ukujikeleza kwekwindla.
Ixesha lasebusika lide lizole, xa ikhephu ligubungele umhlaba kwaye konke okunokuviwa kukugqabhuka kweenkuni kwindawo yomlilo, kwaye amaphepha ayaguqulwa njengoko ufunda.
Luxolo.
Kwabanye, ukuba kwindalo yendalo kuvakala ngathi 'likhaya' kunayo nayiphi na imeko yasekhaya esakha sayifumana. Akukho sidingo sokwenza amandla okuba kunye nabanye: sinokuqiniseka ngokupheleleyo.
4. Uninzi lwethu luyavana ngokwenene nezilwanyana
Isibonelelo esikhulu sokuchitha ixesha kwindalo kukuzonwabisa kunye nezilwanyana.
Bambalwa kakhulu abantu abakwaziyo thanda ngokungathandabuzekiyo , kodwa izilwanyana zibonakala zingenangxaki ekwenzeni oku. Ukuba wakha wanobuhlobo obusondeleyo ngokumangalisayo kunye neqabane elinoboya okanye elineentsiba, uyazi kakuhle ukuba ndithetha ukuthini.
Izilwanyana azikhathali ukuba zikhangeleka njani, ukuba sipholile kangakanani (okanye asikho), okanye nokuba asiyiyo intlalontle. Amandla abo asebenzisana nawethu kwinqanaba elinzulu emphefumlweni, kwaye bayasibona njengoko sinjalo… kwaye bayasithanda ngenxa yoko.
Kanye njengokuba sibathanda.
Kukho into enomlingo malunga nokunxibelelana nezilwanyana zasendle, kodwa ukuchitha ixesha nabantu basekhaya kwifama yokuhlangula okanye kwindawo yokugcina izinto kuyinto entle.
Ukufunda okubaluleke ngakumbi kweempaths (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
indlela yokujongana nabantu abaneenkani
- Iingcebiso ezili-17 zokuSinda kwiiMpilo kunye naBantu abaPhezulu kakhulu
- Imizabalazo yeemfazwe ezili-11 zijongana nesiseko semihla ngemihla
- Icala elimnyama leempaths
- Umzuzwana Uyaqonda ukuba uyi-Empath
- Iimpawu ze-4 Uyi-Impathrive Empath (Ayisiyiyo nje i-Empath)
- Iindlela ezi-3 ezizezinye zeempathazi ezidiniweyo kukuzikhusela
5. Ukuzilolonga kwindalo kuyasiphilisa
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kubaluleke kakhulu kwimimandla. Ukuthwala ixhala labanye kunye nokungakhathali kunokusithathela umthwalo, kuba amandla amabi anokugqibela ngokugcinwa njengeetyhefu emizimbeni yethu ngaphandle kokuba sifunde ukuzikhulula.
Ukusebenza ngokwasemzimbeni kubonelela ngolo hlobo.
Xa ii-empaths zihamba (okanye zibaleka) kwisixeko esikhulu, okanye ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, sisajikelezwe yitoni yabantu.
Ngenxa yoko, sinokukhupha isuntswana elifanelekileyo le-blergh egciniweyo xa sisenza imithambo kolo hlobo lwendalo, kodwa sikhawuleze saphinda saphinda saphinda sabuya sabuya sabuya sabuya sabuya nomngxuma omtsha.
Cinga nje ngomntu osela iqela lejusi yendalo ukuze acoce umzimba wakhe, kodwa emva koko ayilandele ngesoda kunye nevodka chaser. Isisiseko esilungisa imizamo elungileyo.
Xa uhamba, uhamba intaba, okanye ubaleka ngaphandle kwindawo yendalo, kukho kuphela ukulunga kokuntywila. Umoya omtsha, isandi sentaka, ukusebeza komoya ngamagqabi, kunye namanzi abalekayo ukuba sikufuphi nomlambo okanye ichibi.
Ukongeza, ukwenza imithambo kwindalo kuyasinceda ukuze sihlale sikho. Kulula ukuyiphawula xa uhamba okanye ubaleka kwindawo esembindini wedolophu: kufuneka kuphela sigxile ekungasebenzini nabanye abantu, okanye ukubethwa ziimoto.
Ukuhamba ehlathini kufuna uhoyo rhoqo, kodwa ngendlela elungileyo…
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka sijonge phantsi emhlabeni ukuze siqiniseke ukuba asikhubeki kwiingcambu zomthi okanye sinyathela amasele, kodwa kusoloko kuninzi esikubonayo okusingqongileyo.
Singawagcina amehlo ethu evulekile ngenxa yeenyamakazi okanye iintaka ezinomdla, ubomi bezityalo ezizodwa, okanye amakhowa akroba kwiigodo ezibolileyo. Ekuphela kwezinto esizibonayo zisijikelezile zintle kwaye kuyakhuthaza .
6. Uqhakamshelwano noMhlaba luyasisiseko kwaye luyaphilisa
Izifundo zesayensi zibonisa Ukunxibelelana nomhlaba ngokwasemzimbeni - okwaziwa njenge “ umhlaba ”Okanye“ umhlaba ”- uneziphumo ezothusayo kwimpilo-ntle yethu.
Senziwe ngeeathom. Iseli nganye emizimbeni yethu yenziwe zii-atom, kwaye ezo zigcwele ii-oodle zezinto ezinje ngeeproton ezilungileyo kunye nee-elektroni ezimbi.
Xa sikhe sachaphazeleka ixesha elide kwiindawo ezinetyhefu, umothuko, uxinzelelo kunye nokudumba, uninzi lweeathom zethu zilahlekelwa zii-elektronon, ezijika zibe ziiradicals simahla.
Oku kuyonakalisa kakhulu, kwaye kunokuba negalelo kuzo zonke iintlobo zemicimbi yezempilo engathandekiyo.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba banokuchasana nee-antioxidants, ezinefuthe lokunciphisa.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba yeyiphi enye ye-antioxidants esebenzayo phaya? Ngokucacileyo, umhlaba we-electromagnetic field.
Xa ulusu lwethu ludibana noMhlaba, sifunxa ii-elektroni ezihlawuliswe kakubi iplanethi yethu iphuma ngokwemvelo.
Ezi elektroni ziyazola ezo radicals zasimahla, zithomalalise amajoni ethu oxinzelelo, kwaye zisiphilise kwinqanaba leselula.
Ukuba unomdla wokufunda ngakumbi, phanda kuphando olwenziwe yi-Nobel Prize-physicist URichard Feynman .
7. Singagxila ekugcwaliseni amandla ethu
Into malunga neemfesane kukuba sinika, kwaye sinike, kwaye sinike: kungekuphela ngenxa yokuba sifuna, kodwa ngenxa yokuba sifuna. Yindlela esixhonywe ngayo.
Ii-Empaths ziyafuna wenze umhlaba ube yindawo engcono , kwaye sihlala siphela sizincama ukuya kwinqanaba lokophuka kufutshane Phambi kokuba siqaphele nokuba sidiniwe kangakanani. Ukubakho kubahlobo, ukuzithandela kwimibutho yesisa, ukunceda nangayiphi na indlela esinokuthi ngayo…
Ukuzingca yinto ecekisekayo ukuya kumndilili ophakathi, kwaye uninzi lwethu luziva lunetyala ukuba asisebenzi ngokungakhathali ekusebenzeni kwabanye.
Xa siphuma kwindalo, kuya kufana nokuba sinikwe 'imvume' yokujonga ixesha namandla ethu kuthi.
Ngokucacileyo, akukho mntu ungomnye! Siphume apha sedwa (okanye mhlawumbi kunye neqabane okanye umhlobo othandekayo), kodwa sinokuzibeka kwimodi yokuphinda uyenze ngokutsha ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala ngokwenza njalo.
8. Izandi Zokudambisa Zendalo Zithomalalisile
Kukho isizathu sokuba abantu abaninzi bacamngce ngesandi samaza olwandle, ukurhawuzela komoya phakathi kwamagqabi emithi, ukuntyiloza kweentaka, kunye nemililo edanyazayo…
… Ezi zandi zikhuthaza isixa esimangalisayo sokuzola, njengoko zithomalalisa kwaye zithambile, kunokuba zibambe.
Xa uhlala esixekweni, uhlaselwa zizo zonke iintlobo zengxolo yonke iyure enye yosuku olunye.
Emva kwethutyana, uninzi lwabantu lufunda ukuyikhupha: banokulala nge-ambulensi kunye neeselfowuni zamapolisa, kwaye abajoli kwiingcinga zabo ngokukhala kweefowuni eziphathwayo kunye nezikhalazo ezingahleliwe.
Impaths ezihlala ezixekweni zikhona zikwimeko yokuvusa imvakalelo rhoqo kunye ne-hypervigilance.
Akukho kulungiswa kwento ngaphandle: asinakho ukuyenza loo nto ngaphandle kokuba sisebenzisa amayeza asindayo ngokwaneleyo ukuba singakwazi ukoyisa ngaphandle koxinzelelo ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba ngaphandle ehlathini, okanye ukuchitha ixesha uhleli nje ngaselwandle (okanye echibini, okanye emlanjeni) kusithobisa kwinqanaba elisisiseko.
9. Ihlabathi lale mihla lingakhathaza
Uyawazi la mabali amangalisayo ngabantu abaye bayishiya imisebenzi yabo, bafudukela kwiikhabhathi embindini wendawo, baba ngamafama, amakhambi, okanye abantu bezandla?
wazi njani ukuba intombazana iyandithanda
Amathuba kukuba ziimfesane ezingasenakuthatha ilizwe langoku.
Uninzi lwabantu abanovelwano (ndibandakanyile) aluziva ekhaya kule nkulungwane.
Kuyaphambana, kufuna ngenkani, kwaye kuyadinisa ngokupheleleyo, kwaye akuqhelekanga ukuba iimfesane zilangazelele ubomi obulula obunxulunyaniswa nexesha elidlulileyo.
… Nje ukuba sinamanzi ashushu, ikofu elungileyo, kunye nokunqongophala kwe-septicemia.
Kukho into enokuthula ngokumangalisayo malunga nobomi obulula obungenayo imidiya yoluntu kunye nezaziso zefowuni. Ukusebenza ngezandla kukwanelisa kakhulu, njengokukhulisa ukutya kukabani, okanye ukulungisa amayeza kwizityalo eziqokelelwe ehlathini.
Ukunxibelelana nendalo yendalo yindlela yokuphila engakumbi yabantu, njengoko sinokusebenza nabanye ngelixa sithetha nabo, endaweni yokuthumela imiyalezo kwigumbi lonke.
Singachitha ixesha kunye nezilwanyana kunye nezinambuzane, siphefumle umoya ococekileyo, kwaye sitye ukutya okunesondlo esikukhulile thina.
Isenokungabi 'njengokuphola' njengokujongwa njengeyona mpembelelo inkulu ye-Instagram, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ikhuthaza uxinzelelo oluncinci.
Ukuba uyi-empath, ucinga ukuba yeyiphi indlela eyonelisayo neyonwabisayo yokuphila: ukuhamba yonke imihla kuhambo oluxineneyo loluntu kunye neentsuku ezingapheliyo ezichithwe ujonge kwiscreen?
Okanye ukuchitha elo xesha linikezelwe kubugcisa uyakuthanda , ngakumbi ukuba ikuvumela ukuba ubukele ilanga kunye nengoma yehlathi?
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