Uninzi lweemfesane ziya kuthi, xa lubuzwa, mhlawumbi zibhale ngokwazo njenge-introvert okanye ngoqheliselo olungenisiweyo.
Kukho, nangona kunjalo, inani elincinci leemfesane kunye abantu abanovelwano ngubani ogqithisileyo.
Usenokuba awuzange ucinge ngawe ngale migaqo ngaphambili, kodwa ukuba ungachonga uninzi lwala manqaku alandelayo, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ungumbono okhuselweyo.
1. Uziva uphilile xa ujikeleze abanye, kodwa ubukhulu becala kumaqela amancinci
Njenge-extrovert, uyakonwabela ukuchitha ixesha nabanye abantu kwaye unokwenza ngokulula xa ungekho iiyure xa uhlala nabahlobo.
Ayinamsebenzi nokuba uyangena na endle, ufumana ukutya, okanye udlala umdlalo othile, uyakuthanda ukuba phakathi kwabanye.
Ukhetha, nangona kunjalo, ukhetha ukugcina ubukhulu beqela buncinci xa udibana nabantu kuba ukufumanisa kulula kakhulu ukujongana nako.
Ukuxubusha kwakho kunye nobuchule bakho njengobungqina bobabini kuthetha ukuba uthambisa amandla abo bakungqongileyo kwaye kubalulekile kuwe ukuba ugcine oku kulungelelana.
Amandla amaninzi ahlukeneyo kwaye kufana nokongeza ngakumbi nangakumbi izithako kwi-cocktail - ekugqibeleni iyaphela njengengxaki engathandekiyo.
2. Ukhethe kakhulu ukuba uchitha ixesha nabani
Njengokuba ukonwabela ukuba phakathi kwabanye, awuyi kuhlala ulungele nawuphi na umntu omdala.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uyi-empath kwaye oku kukwenza ukuba ubuthathaka kakhulu kukungcangcazela okunikezelwa ngabanye.
Ukuba unokukhetha phakathi kokuba phakathi kwenkampani nomntu onamandla amabi kunye nokuba wedwa, ungathatha indlela eyedwa ngalo lonke ixesha.
Umyeni undilahlile ngenxa yomnye umfazi
Uyonwabile ukudibana nabantu abatsha, kodwa ukuba kuyakhawuleza ukucaca ukuba banikezela nge-vibe engangqinelaniyo neyakho, ufumana isingxengxezo sokuhamba.
3. Ukhethe kakhulu malunga nokuchitha ixesha usenza
Ngelixa i-extrovert yakho esemgangathweni ingavuya ukuhamba nabanye nakowuphi na umsebenzi ophakanyisiweyo, amandla ngaphakathi kuwe akufumanisa kunzima ukufumana into ongenamdla kuyo.
Kuvakala ukuba yinyani ukuthatha inxaxheba kwinto ongathanda ukungayenzi, kwaye ke wonwabile ukwala isimemo ukuba asihambi esikhepheni sakho.
Oku akuthethi ukuba uyafuna kwaye awunangqondo - uyazi nje nini kwaye nini ungathi ewe.
4. Unamava oMjikelo waMandla
Impathisi eyandisiweyo kufuneka ijongane nengxaki enomdla kakhulu enokuthi ikhokelele ekutshintsheni ngesiquphe nangokugabadeleyo kumanqanaba amandla.
Njenge-extrovert, uyakwazi ukuzalisa iibhetri zakho ngokunxibelelana nabanye, kodwa njenge-empath, ufumana amandla kuwo onke amalungu akujikelezileyo.
Ngelixa unokuhamba ngokulula iintsuku okanye iiveki kwimowudi ye-extrovert, kuya kuhlala kusiza indawo apho ibhetri yakho igcwele ngaphezulu kwaye ujikeleze isekethe.
Inzondelelo yakho kunye nemincili yokubona abanye abantu phantse ngephanyazo ziwela njengoko usokola ukufumana amanye amandla, kwaye uyarhoxa ngokwakho.
Okwexeshana, icala lakho elikhutshiweyo liya kwi-hiatus ukuvumela amandla akho ukuba aphume kwakhona.
Ngelixa unokufuna ukubalekela kumqolomba wakho wangaphakathi ixesha elincinci, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba ikhefu leengqondo kangangeveki okanye nangaphezulu.
Ngeli xesha, uphantse wehla kwi-radar ukuya kuthi ga ekuhlaleni.
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- Ungabusebenzisa njani ukumamela okunyanzelekileyo ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obukhulu bomntu
- Kutheni umhlaba ufuna abaSebenzi bokuKhanya ngoku ngakumbi kunakuqala
5. Ungathanda ukucwangcisa imisitho kwangaphambili
Njengokuba ukonwabela ukuphuma kunye nokuhamba nabanye abantu, uziva unesidingo sokucwangcisa ezo ndibano kwangethuba.
Nokuba kusisaziso semini okanye ezimbini, uyathanda ukukwazi ukuba diarize kwaye uzilungiselele ngokwengqondo imithendeleko ezayo.
Isizathu soku kungenxa yokuba uyazi ukuba kulula kangakanani kwi-empath yakho yangaphakathi yokonganyelwa.
Ezinye iimeko ziya kubandakanya inani elikhulu labahlobo, ezinye ziya kuthetha ukuphonononga iindawo ezintsha ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ezinye, zisenokuthetha ukudibana nabantu abatsha ngokupheleleyo.
Zonke ezi zinto zinokuba yingozi kwi-emapth, ke uyathanda ukuba ufumane isilumkiso kwangaphambili ukuze wenze ikhaka lengqondo.
Oku indlela yokuphila yeklasikhi ye-emapth yinto othanda ukuyenza ngokwendalo.
6. Kufuneka Ukhululeke
Ngaphandle kokukhetha ukucwangciswa, uthanda ukuba nenkululeko yokuzikhethela.
Oku kuthetha ukuba ufumana iminyhadala enezinto ezilukhuni kakhulu ekunzima ukujongana nazo.
Uthanda izinto ukuba ziguquke ngokwendalo ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye nakwinyathelo elilandelayo kuhambo oluya kuthathwa kuphela xa luziva ulungile.
Indlela oyidibanisa ngayo le nto kunye nesidingo sakho sokucwangcisa ngokuza nombono ombi okude nokusekwa elityeni.
Usenokude uvumelane ngesiqalo kwaye ubone apho ubomi bukusa khona kuba, ngeli xesha, uya kuba nekhuselo lakho ukuze uphambane namandla angafunekiyo.
Xa uhamba kwihlabathi, umzekelo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubhukishe iinqwelomoya kunye neendawo ezimbalwa zokuhlala ze uvumele uhambo luhambe ukusuka apho kunokuya kwisikhephe ngenqanawa yokumisa kwangaphambili kunye nohambo.
Ngenxa yoku, uhlala uthatha indima yobunkokeli phakathi kwabahlobo bakho kuba uvumela intuition yakho ukuba ikukhokele kwaye, nabo, nabo.
7. Unecala lokuyila elingafihliyo
Ii-Empaths zihlala zinobuchule bokuyila ngaphakathi kuzo, kodwa zazo icala lokungenisa inokubabamba bangayibonakalisi.
Awunangxaki enjalo, nangona kunjalo, kwaye uzive usekhaya eqongeni okanye phambi kwabaphulaphuli.
Unokuba ngumdlali weqonga, umculi, umbhali okanye umbonisi kwimeko nganye, awoyiki ukunika iitalente zakho kwihlabathi elibanzi.
Awunantloni okanye ugcine iitalente zakho phantsi kwesongelo uphonononge iindlela zokuqhubeka uzibonakalise ngokufuna amathuba okuzibandakanya kuluntu olusebenzayo, olunobugcisa.
Vula ubusuku be-mic, imibongo yesibongo, imiboniso yobugcisa obusebenzayo, imidlalo yeqonga oziva ngathi uyayithanda le miboniso kunye nezinye ezifana nazo.
