Ngaba uchonga njenge-HSP okanye i-empath?
Ngaba ufumanisa ukuba le nxalenye yobuntu bakho ichaphazela ulwalamano lwakho, okanye amathuba akho kubudlelwane?
Ukuba novakalelo kakhulu kwinto eyenzekayo ngeenxa zonke ungaziva ngathi ngumqobo.
Ukuba uhlala neemvakalelo ezinje, ungalifumana njani ixesha lomnye umntu?
Ngethamsanqa, kukho indlela eya phambili. Kuthatha ukulungiswa kwakhona kunye nokunyamekela.
Nguwuphi umahluko phakathi kwe-HSPs kunye neempaths?
Unokucinga ukuba nobabini empath kunye ne-HSP ngaxeshanye, kodwa eneneni zahluke kakhulu.
I-HSP, okanye Umntu oPhezulu kakhulu Ichaphazeleka ngokunzulu kukusingqongileyo kunye namandla abangqongileyo.
Zinovelwano kutshintsho olufihlakeleyo. Oko kuthetha ukuba banokonganyelwa kukuzifumana bekwimimandla evuselela kakhulu.
I-empath, kwelinye icala, ichaphazeleka ngokunzulu ziimvakalelo zabanye abantu.
Cinga ngexesha lokugqibela umhlobo wakho okanye iqabane lalonwabile. Ukhe waluva ulonwabo kunye nabo?
Yiloo nto amava empaths mihla le.
Ewe kunjalo, kukwathetha ukuba baziva iimvakalelo ezimbi, ngokunzulu njengaye omnye umntu.
Zombini ezi ntlobo zabantu, nangona kunjalo, zilungiselelwe kakhulu kwihlabathi elibangqongileyo kwaye zithatha iimvakalelo ezibangqongileyo.
Ngaba ukubuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane?
Ukuba yimpembelelo okanye i-HSP ithetha ukuba uyakwazi ukuvana kakhulu neqabane lakho.
Oku kunokuba yinto entle, njengoko isibini esinokuqonda iimvakalelo zamanye kunye namandla sinokuvana kunye, ngokulula.
Nangona kunjalo, inokuba nokuhlaselwa kwayo.
Ukuba usemva kokuthandana, usenokukufumanisa kunzima ukufumana umntu okuqonda ngokwenene.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uphawulwe ‘njengonobuntununtunu’ ngabanye.
Okwangoku, kunokuba ngathi akukho mntu ngaphandle okufumanayo.
Ukuba sele ulwalamano, imeko yakho inokubangela iimpikiswano okanye iingxaki ngomnye wakho obalulekileyo.
ngekhe andibuze
Basenokungakwazi ukuqonda ubunjani bakho, kwaye bakufumanise kuyacaphukisa okanye kukukhathaza.
Nokuba yeyiphi na eyinyani kuwe, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ii-empaths kunye nee-HSPs zibe nolwalamano olunomdla noluzalisekayo nabanye.
Nazi izinto ezintandathu ‘ekufuneka uzenzile’ ukukunceda ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane obunempilo nobonwabisayo.
1. Qaphela umohluko phakathi kovelwano ngokweemvakalelo nangokuqonda
Xa kuziwa kuvelwano, kukho iintlobo ezimbini ezahlukeneyo.
Xa unokuqonda iimvakalelo zomntu, ngaphandle kokuzithatha ngokwakho, loo nto yaziwa njengovelwano lokuqonda.
Xa uziva ezo mvakalelo ngokwakho ngokungathi ubungulomntu, lulo uvelwano lweemvakalelo.
Kukho indawo yabo bobabini kubudlelwane, kodwa kuya kufuneka ubazazi zombini.
Xa uqala ukuziva uphantsi okanye wonwabile ngendlela engaqondakaliyo, zibuze ‘ngaba ziimvakalelo zam ezi okanye ngamaqabane am?’
Ukwazi ukuxelela umahluko kuya kukusindisa kwiintlungu ezininzi.
2. Mamela izimvo zeqabane lakho, kodwa yazi ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba uzithathe
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yalo naluphi na ulwalamano lunxibelelwano .
wonke umntu unoxanduva lwezenzo zakhe
Iqabane lakho liya kuba neembono, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha azizukungqamana nezakho.
Ukuba baziva beqinile ngento ethile, unokuzibona uvumelana nembono yabo.
Oku kunokwenzeka nokuba into abayithethayo iphikisana kakhulu nexabiso lakho.
Oku akuthethi ukuba akufuneki umamele iqabane lakho. Kufuneka umamele, kwaye ukuxabise oko bakuthethayo.
Njengoko usenza, nangona kunjalo, khumbula ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uvumelane nabo ukuba awufuni.
Ukungavumelani akuthethi ukuba uyabathanda nangaphantsi.
3. Nika ingqalelo kwiqabane lakho njengokuba usenza izilwanyana zasekhaya
Kuyinyani eyaziwayo ukuba ii-empaths kunye nee-HSPs zinobudlelwane bendalo nezilwanyana.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwempathiso kunye nesilwanyana sasekhaya sisondele kakhulu ekungekho mntu unokuqhekeka kuso.
Ingxaki kukuba, ngamanye amaxesha amaqabane athandanayo aziva ngokungathi aza okwesibini kwizilwanyana zasekhaya.
Oku kunokubenza bazive bengathandwa kwaye bengafunwa, xa ungazimiselanga ukubatyhalela ngaphandle.
Yenza kucace kwiqabane lakho ukuba uyabathanda kanye njengezilwanyana zasekhaya ozithandayo.
Uthando oziva ngalo kubo mhlawumbi lwahlukile, kodwa alubalulekanga kangako, kunothando oluvakalayo kwizilwanyana zasekhaya.
Qiniseka ukuba uxelela iqabane lakho oku. Iya kubeka ingqondo yabo ngokukhululeka kwaye ibabonise ukuba uyakhathala ngeemvakalelo zabo.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo yokufunda ngokufunda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi)
- Iingcebiso ezili-17 zokuSinda kwiiMpilo kunye naBantu abaPhezulu kakhulu
- Icala elimnyama leempaths
- Iimpawu ze-4 Uyi-Impathrive Empath (Ayisiyiyo nje i-Empath)
- Iimpawu ze-7 Uyi-Empath yoKhuseleko
- Ungabusebenzisa njani ukumamela okunyanzelekileyo ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obukhulu bomntu
- Izinto ezi-4 zaBantu abaXhalabileyo
Thatha ixesha lakho
Ukuba novakalelo kakhulu kunokuba nzima. Njengoko uyamkela into eqhubekayo ngeenxa zonke kuwe, ikukhathaza ngokweemvakalelo.
Kukwanjalo ke nakubudlelwane. Njengokuba umthanda omnye umntu, kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuthatha ixesha ukwahlukana kunye nokuzidibanisa kwakhona.
Uyenza njani le nto iya kuba yeyakho kuwe.
Mhlawumbi uyathanda ukucamngca, ukuxhoma izilwanyana zasekhaya, okanye ukubukela inkqubo yeTV oyithandayo. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela yakho, qiniseka ukuba unexesha kunye nendawo yokwenza.
Thetha kwakhona kunye neqabane lakho. Bazise ukuba ubathanda kakhulu, kodwa udinga isithuba sokuqinisekisa ukuba uhlala unyanisekile kuwe.
Ukuba ubudlelwane busempilweni, iqabane lakho liya kuqonda ukuba uya kubuyela kubo xa sele ukulungele.
5. Musa ukuxinana ngaphandle
Kubo bonke ubudlelwane, bobabini abantu ababandakanyekayo badinga indawo ethile omnye komnye.
Xa omnye wenu eyi-empath okanye i-HSP, kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuchitha lonke ixesha ngokudibeneyo kuthetha ukuba uthatha i-vibes kunye neemvakalelo zabo nge-24/7.
Oko akunampilo nakowuphi na kuni.
Bala ukuba lingakanani na ixesha olifunayo ukuze uzigcine usempilweni ngokweemvakalelo.
Ngaba ufuna igumbi endlwini onokubuyela kulo xa izinto ziba ninzi?
Njani ngokulala- ngaba kufuneka ube nebhedi eyahlukileyo kwiqabane lakho?
Izidingo zakho ziya kuba zodwa, ke zicinga ngocoselelo.
Xa ubeka iqabane lakho, kwakhona cacisa ukuba ubakhathalele.
Le mida kufuneka izotywe kuba ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho busempilweni.
6. Thatha ukugxeka okwakhayo , kodwa ulumke xa ucelwa ukuba utshintshe
Kubo bonke ubudlelwane, kufuneka kubekho ukupha nokuthatha.
Umlingane wakho unokukunika ingxelo ngendlela abavakalelwa ngayo ukuba ubaphatha.
Kwi-empath okanye kwi-HSP, oku kunokuziva kunzima.
Ukuba banikezela ukugxeka, kufuneka bangonwabi, akunjalo?
Ayikho njalo. Ukuba iqabane lakho linika le ngxelo, amathuba okuba bafuna ukusebenza kubudlelwane bakho kwaye anigcine nobabini kunye.
ukuba nomdla wento ethile
Zama uthabathe le nto bayithethayo ngokwexabiso, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka kakhulu ukuba kuthetha ntoni kulwalamano lwakho luphela.
Nangona kunjalo, lumka ngabantu abanokuzama ukukutshintsha.
Ungaziva izinto zinzulu kakhulu kwaye ukhale ngokulula, kodwa yile nto uyiyo.
Abanye abantu baya kuzama ukukucela ukuba uyeke ukwenza ezi zinto ukuze bazive bekhululekile.
Ukuba bayayenza, musa ukunikezela. Imfesane yakho okanye indalo ye-HSP yeyakho, kwaye akukho mntu ufanele azame ukuyitshintsha.
Kufuphi
Kubudlelwane, kufuneka setha imida ziyimfuneko ukuze sonwabe. Kuya kufuneka uzikhathalele.
Ungazitshintshi nakubani na, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba unendawo oyifunayo ukuze uzigcine usempilweni.
Ngale ndlela, ungangoyena mntu ungoyena uthandana naye.
Ngoku, beka ezi zakhono uziqhelanise kwaye uya kubona ukuba luyaphumelela njani ubomi bakho bothando.
