Ngaba ukhe waphelisa ubudlelwane kwaye wacinga 'Wow, andikholelwa ukuba ndimoshe nje iminyaka emithathu YOBOMI BAM!'?
Ixesha lixabisekile, kwaye unalo kuphela. Ngokuqinisekileyo awunalo ixesha lokutyala imali kwi iqabane elingahambelaniyo neminqweno yakho ixesha elide kunye namaphupha.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyikhuphe yonke le nto esifubeni sakho ngomhla wokuqala (inyani, akukho mntu uyifunayo), kodwa sicebisa ukuba uphephe iingxaki ezinkulu apha endleleni ngokuxoxa ngezi zinto zilindelweyo ngaphambi kokuba uzimisele kakhulu neqabane lakho . Buza le mibuzo ilishumi yobudlelwane kwasekuqaleni ukukhusela iintlungu kunye nokuphosa amathuba.
ungaxelela njani ukuba intombazana enesithandwa iyakuthanda
1. Ngaba uyafuna ukuBopha iKnot? Kungekudala?
Umtshato wawulindelekile. Abantu ababini bayathandana kangangexesha elithile, emva koko bayehla ezantsi bathi: 'Ndiyavuma.' Hayi kwakhona. Kuya kusiba yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantu bakhethe ukungatshati. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba sele betshatile kwaye beqhawule umtshato. Qiniseka ukuba nobabini kwiphepha elinye. Inqaku lokuncamathela ngokuqinisekileyo linokwaphula isivumelwano. Sukucinga ukuba omabini la maqela akhangela ukuzibophelela ngokusemthethweni.
2. Ngaba unethemba lokufumana iMini-Me?
Asinguye wonke umntu ophuphayo ngendlu entle encinci enothango olumhlophe oluzele nge-pitter-patter yeenyawo ezincinci. Kwaye ayinguye wonke umntu onako ngokwasemzimbeni ukuba akwazi ukuzala kwakhona. Abantwana abangabo bonke abantu. Njengoko ukukhula kwamakhondo emisebenzi kubaluleke ngakumbi, abantu bakhetha ukungabinabo kwaphela abantwana. Ukuba ukuba nabantwana kunyanzelekile kuwe (okanye uchasene kwaphela), qiniseka ukuba iqabane lakho liyazi kwakamsinya kunokuba kamva.
3. Ufuna ukutyala phi iingcambu?
Ngaba uyiNew Yorker ebomini? Kungcono wazise iqabane lakho kuba unokuba nothando lokuba unxweme olusentshona lusondele kufutshane nosapho (jonga inqaku le-10). Inqaku lokuncamathela lihoywa ngokulula ukuba nobabini nihlala kwindawo enye ngoku, kodwa inokubuyisa intloko yayo embi phantsi kwendlela xa iqabane lakho ekugqibeleni libonisa ukuba uyathanda ukuhamba yonke iminyaka emibini ukuya kwemithathu okanye uyithiyile imozulu ebandayo.
4. AbaQokeleli beBhili bayankqonkqoza emnyango wakho?
Akukho mntu uthanda ukuthetha malunga nemithwalo, kodwa imali kunye namatyala ngababulali bobudlelwane buthule. Ukuba awuzange ube nale ncoko, thenga ibhotile yewayini kwaye ube nayo ngokuhlwanje! Nobabini kufuneka niyazi into eniza nayo etafileni. Yimalini onetyala lakho, kwaye sithini isicwangciso sokuyihlawula? Musa ukulinda de iholide yakho yomtshato ichaze ukuba unekhulu elikhulu kwiimali-mboleko zabafundi. Sukuyigcina iyimfihlo ukuba awukwazi ukulawula inkcitho yakho. Iya kukukhathaza kamva.
5. Yiya Ecaweni? Ziqhelanise neVoodoo?
Ukuba uqhuba inkolo, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba iqabane lakho labelane nawe ngalo? Yintoni efunekayo kwinkolo yakho, kwaye iya kubuchaphazela njani ubomi bakho? Uya kubakhulisa njani abantwana bakho? Nokuba iqabane lakho liyazi ngalo, usenokungaqondi ukuba kulindeleke ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kwaye bakholelwe. Fumana le ncoko ingathandekiyo phaya kwindawo evulekileyo kwakamsinya kunakwelixa elizayo.
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6. Ngubani Oya Kuhlamba Ezi Zitya?
Ukuba nobabini nigqiba kunye ixesha elide, ngubani oza kwenza ntoni malunga nendlu? Ngubani owondlula ibhedi? Ngubani opheka isidlo sangokuhlwa? Zihambile iintsuku xa umfazi egcina indlu eyedwa. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba omabini amaqabane ayavumelana kwizabelo zomsebenzi. Ngaba niyabahlulahlula imisebenzi yasekhaya okanye niyatshintshana? Ingabonakala njengendawo yokuthetha engenangqondo, kodwa linda de kube yiminyaka emibini ukusukela ngoku xa omabini amaqela enqabayo ukuhlamba izitya okanye ukubeka iimpahla phantsi.
7. Ngaba unamaphupha okuba yi-CEO?
Utyala imali kangakanani kwikhondo lakho lomsebenzi? Kuthekani ngeqabane lakho? Liza kulichaphazela njani ikamva lakho? Ngaba kufuneka uhambo kwaye malini? Luhlobo luni lokuzincama oluza kwenziwa ukunyuka kwileli yokudibana? Ukuba unabantwana, uya kulungelelanisa njani umsebenzi kunye nosapho? Ngaba ulindele ukuba iqabane lakho liwushiye umsebenzi wabo wabantwana? Yonke le mibuzo kufuneka iphendulwe kubo bobabini ababandakanyekayo ngaphambi kokuba uchithe iminyaka yobomi bakho ucinga ukuba wena neqabane lakho likho kwiphepha elinye.
ngaba amadoda ayarhuqa xa esiwa eluthandweni
8. Izinja? Iikati? Intlanzi?
Ngaba uyazicaphukela izinja? Ukunyanga iikati? Ngaba uyoyika iinyoka? Oku kunokubonakala ngathi ayisoze ibe yingxaki, kodwa ukuba ulindele ukuba iqabane lakho lincame iFido yakhe exabisekileyo emva kokuba ningene kunye, unokuba uvukile ngokungakhathali. Unokumangaliswa kukonwaba kobudlelwane obuphelelweyo kukungavisisani kwezilwanyana zasekhaya. Ungavumeli uchulumanco lobudlelwane obutsha ukukugcina ungavumeli isiqingatha sakho esingcono ukuba usazi ukuba awunakuma iinwele zasekhaya.
9. Intaba Ukuhamba Intaba Okanye Mai Tai Elunxwemeni?
Ngaba unomdla okanye uyathanda ukuhlala elunxwemeni? Iholide yinto ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane. Lithuba lakho lokuphumla kwaye uqhagamshele kwakhona. Ukuba uphupha ukunyuka intaba ngelixa iqabane lakho liphupha ngokulala elunxwemeni, kuyakubakho ingxaki. Sukuba nexhala. Nokuba awuvumelani, ukuba nje uyavuma ukulalanisa okanye ukutshintshana, izinto zisenokulunga. Isitshixo kukuthetha ngayo ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ucula kwiphepha elifanayo lomculo.
10.Uthando lokuchitha ixesha kunye neN Fam?
Sonke sinomakazi ophambeneyo okanye umama oxakekileyo. Umlingane wakho mhlawumbi ulindele ukuba uza kujongana nosapho lwakho amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ukuba ulindele ukuba umntakwenu ahlale nawe ihlobo okanye abazali bakho bangene xa sele bethathe umhlala-phantsi… kungcono uthethe ngoku! Ngaba ufuna ukuchitha yonke iKrisimesi endlwini kamama wakho okanye eholideyini nodadewenu? Kungcono ukunqanda umlo wexesha elizayo kwaye wazise iqabane lakho ngaphambili.
Uqhawulo-mtshato luyanda. Ngaba uyafuna ukuwela kula manani? Ngokuqinisekileyo awuphuphi ngokugcwalisa uqhawulo-mtshato okanye uqhawule umtshato xa uqala ubudlelwane. Nangona kungekho siqinisekiso sokuba ubudlelwane benu buya kuhlala, ngokuqinisekileyo niya kuma ethubeni angcono ukuba ninxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo omnye nomnye. Thetha malunga nokubalulekileyo kuwe kunye noko ukulindeleyo kwiqabane lakho. Zibekele impumelelo kwaye ubuze le mibuzo yobudlelwane ngoku ngaphambi kokuchitha ixesha lomnye nomnye!
Andiqinisekanga ukuba iqabane lakho likulungele ixesha elide? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
