Uluntu lwanamhlanje lubeka inani elihlekisayo lokugxininisa kwimfezeko.
Yonke indawo ojika kuyo, kukho izibhengezo kunye namanqaku akhuthaza yonke into ukusuka kulusu olugqibeleleyo ukuya kumakhaya afanelekileyo kunye nobudlelwane obugqibeleleyo.
Akumangalisi ukuba abantu baxakeke kukuxhalaba kunye nokudakumba xa kukho uxinzelelo oluninzi kuyo yonke into ukuba ibe yinto engathandekiyo ugqibelele lonke ixesha.
Nangona kunjalo, wonke umntu unoluvo lwakhe malunga nokuba yintoni ukugqibelela.
Kananjalo, kufuneka sizibuze ukuba zeziphi iinjongo esizabalazela zona?
Ngubani ogqibe ukuba yintoni egqibeleleyo nantoni na , kwaye kutheni emhlabeni izimvo zabo zibalulekile?
Eli nqaku liphonononga ifilosofi entle yaseJapan elahla umbono wokugqibelela, endaweni yoko ibhiyozela eyona nto ngokuqaqambileyo engafezekanga .
Yintoni iWabi-Sabi?
Ingcambu kwi UbuBuddha beZen , UWabi-Sabi ngumbulelo ongazenzisiyo wezinto ezingapheliyo, ezingagqibelelanga nezingagqitywanga.
Ibhiyozela ubuhle kwinto yendalo: ngaphandle kweziphene, kodwa kuba yabo.
Qwalasela isiqwenga esimnandi, esilahlwe ngesandla sombumbi waseJapan…
Kwaneziqwenga ezenziwe ngabaphathi ziya kuba nezitenxo ezincinci kwiimilo zazo. I-Glaze iya koma nangona inqwenela njalo, nokuba ifakiwe ngobuchule.
Into nganye egqityiweyo ingumsebenzi wobugcisa kwaye iya kugcinwa ngumniniyo.
Bayakuxabisa yonke i-glaze drip, yonke i-wonky rim okanye isiseko esingalinganiyo, kuba bayayithanda kanye njengokuba injalo .
Ngcono nangakumbi, bayalixabisa eli qhekeza kuba bayazi ukuba alinasiphelo. Le ndebe iya kuthi ekugqibeleni yaphule, ke bayonwabele ngakumbi ngalo mzuzu wangoku .
Xa iti inikezelwa kumsitho osesikweni wamaBuddha, igalelwa kwizitya okanye iikomityi ezinesiphene esihle.
Endaweni yokuba badelelwe ngenxa yokungafezeki kwabo, ezo ndebe ziyaxatyiswa kwaye zihlonitshwe ngenxa yeziphene zabo.
Bakhumbuza abo bathatha inxaxheba kulo msitho ukuba zonke izinto azifezekanga, kwaye yonke into ayinasiphelo, kwaye iyakube isiphelile.
Imibongo ngokuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo
I-chip nganye kunye nokuqhekeka kubalisa ibali. Yonke imingcele engalinganiyo icula iingoma malunga nezandla zothando ezenze udongwe.
Kananjalo, kufuneka bagcinwe ngokuchanekileyo njengoko benjalo, ngalo mzuzu, lo moya.
Thatha umzuzwana ucinge ngendlela ekumnandi ngayo ukongeza ifilosofi kuwo onke amabakala obomi bemihla ngemihla…
… Ukusuka emsebenzini esiwenzayo ukuya kwindlela esibujonga ngayo ubudlelwane bethu, amakhaya ethu, kwanemizimba yethu.
Yamkela Imizimba Yethu ’Ukuhlala Ungenasiphelo
Enye inkalo apho abantu abaninzi bazigxeka ngenxa yokungafezeki yinkangeleko yabo.
Zingaphi iintengiso ezichasene nokwaluphala okanye zedayi ozibonayo yonke imihla? Kuthekani malunga ne-anti-cellulite cream? Iikiti zokulahla iinwele ezingafunekiyo zangasemva?
Zonke ezo mveliso zijolise ekungakhuselekini kwabantu malunga nokubonakala kwabo, ngakumbi ngokubhekisele kwinkqubo yethu yokuguga yendalo.
UWabi-Sabi ukhuthaza abantu ukuba bakwamkele ukungagungqi kwaye baxabise izinto njengoko zinjalo kulo mzuzu, kwaye oku kufanelekile ngakumbi xa kuziwa kwimizimba yethu.
Le mizimba, njengeekomityi zodongwe eziyithandayo, zizitya nje zethutyana.
Ngendlela efanayo neeti ezintle eziphethe iti enevumba elimnandi, imizimba esihlala kuyo ngoku zizitya zokomoya.
Njengaleyo teacups, eya kuthi ichithe kwaye iphele kwaye ekugqibeleni yaphule, imizimba yethu iya konakala kwaye itshintshe de ekugqibeleni yaphule nayo.
Leyo yinxalenye nje yobukho bomntu bethutyana.
Nanini na xa ufumanisa ukuba ugxeka umba othile womzimba wakho, thatha umzuzwana kwaye ucinge ngendlela onokuthi ube noxabiso ngayo endaweni yoko.
Ngaba uyalila ngezinyawo okanye ingxowa yenomyayi ejikeleze amehlo akho?
… Cinga ngobuhle amehlo akho akuvumela ukuba ubhiyozele yonke imihla, kwaye ukhumbule ukuba umgca ngamnye wenziwa ngamawaka oncumo olunyanisekileyo kunye nokuhleka kwesisu.
Izibilini eziphawulwe zaza zacolwa emva kokukhulelwa ziye zanceda ukuzisa ubomi obutsha obutsha emhlabeni.
Imizimba ekhutshwe ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kwaye isenokungasebenzi ngendlela efanayo neyabanye, iseyizikhephe ezimangalisayo ezivumela abantu ukuba beve umculo, okanye bafumane imvula ekhanyayo kulusu lwabo, okanye bangcamle okona kutya kulungileyo.
Xa samkela ukungagungqi kwaye sihlakulela umbulelo kumzuzu wangoku, kuyamangalisa ukubona indlela umsindo, ukuzicekisa , ihlazo, kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezingasebenziyo ziyawa.
Endaweni yoko, bathathelwa indawo luxabiso, kunye nokuthamba kukwazi ukuba konke oku kokwexeshana.
Kananjalo, kubalulekile ukuba sikuxabise kwaye sikubhiyozele oko sinako, xa sinako.
Ukuba unayo ijenali, ukubhala into yonke imihla malunga nombulelo oziva ngomzimba wakho yeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yokubhiyozela iWabi-Sabi ebomini bakho.
Busuku ngabunye, phambi kokuba ulale, cinga ngezinto ezimbalwa ezenzelwe umzimba wakho omangalisayo ukuba uzifumane okanye wonwabe namhlanje, kwaye uqaphele.
Ukhe wathabatha uhambo olumnandi ngaphandle elangeni? Ngaba iinzwane zakho zazigobele xa usitya isidlo esimnandi?
Bhala phantsi, iyonke. Ixesha elingaphezulu, uyakufumanisa ukuba ukuxabisa kwakho kuya kudlula intetho yakho engeyiyo.
Kuya kuthatha ixesha, ngakumbi ukuba uqhele ukuzigxeka, kodwa kuyakwenzeka.
Ukwamkelwa kuzo zonke izinto kubalulekile
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, abantu abaninzi banengxaki yokuxhalaba kunye / okanye uxinzelelo kuba iinkalo zobomi babo azifezekanga njengoko becinga ukuba kufanelekile.
Yilapho esinye isifundo sefilosofi yamaBuddha singena:
'Iintlungu azinakuphepheka, kodwa ukubandezeleka akunakukhetha.'
Ukubandezeleka kuyenzeka xa sifuna enye into ingeyiyo njengoko injalo.
Xa samkela izinto njengoko zinjalo, kwaye sizama ukuxabisa konke esinako malunga nazo, ukuba ukubandezeleka kuyanyamalala.
Umntu angachitha ubomi bakhe bonke elila into yokuba azide zide ngokwaneleyo (okanye zide kakhulu), okanye azinabo ubunjani beenwele awayehlala ezifuna, okanye awuzange bawudle ilifa umbala wamehlo abaphuphile ngawo.
Ngokunjalo, banokuchitha lonke ixesha labo elinamaxabiso (kunye nelilinganiselweyo) bexambulisana ngemeko yamakhaya abo…
Kubo, indlu yabo ayinakuze icoceke ngokwaneleyo, icoceke ngokwaneleyo, okanye ifashoni ngokwaneleyo.
Inokuba bahlala kwigumbi elincinci endaweni yendlu enkulu.
Okanye, ukuba bahlala kwindlu enkulu, banokukhala ngento yokuba umhombiso wabo awunayo imibala efanelekileyo, amakhethini abo aphelelwe lixesha, kwaye isitya sabo sityiwe.
Konke oku kungazithembi kunokubathintela ekumemeni abahlobo ukuba bazokutya nabo.
Abantu abaninzi baneentloni ngokungafezeki kwamakhaya abo endaweni yokuba bahlale ekhaya, bebodwa kwaye belusizi, kunokuba semngciphekweni wokuziva bengonelanga ngokuba nenkampani ngaphezulu.
Nantsi into: ngekhe sazi ukuba ubomi bethu buza kuvela njani ukusuka kolunye usuku ukuya kolulandelayo.
Iimeko zinokutshintsha ngokubonakalayo: kunganyanzeleka ukuba sihambe ngomzuzwana, okanye isivunguvungu singonakalisa indawo yendlu, siyitshintshe ngonaphakade.
Obo bumdaka benziwa ngabantwana bakho kangangokuba unqwenela ukuba ucoce ngaphambi kokuba kufike inkampani?
Ewe, oko: ngaba ngenene kufuneka ubufihle ubungqina bokuba abantwana bafumana uvuyo kunye noyilo kumakhaya abo?
Ngaba kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuzama ukubabonisa abanye abantu ngemeko yekhaya elingenabala ngaphandle kokwamkela nokuxabisa ukungqubana kolonwabo okwenziwe kwindawo yoxolo kunye nokukhanya?
Nazi izinto ezintle ngokumangalisayo zokuzamkela:
- Indlu yakho ayinakuze icoceke ngokugqibeleleyo, kuba uhlala kuyo, kwaye ubomi bumdaka.
- Izinto zihamba zingena ziphuma kwisitayile ngalo lonke ixesha, ke ukuba unezinto ezisekhaya lakho ezikwenza wonwabe, kunokuba ube yintandokazi, zizonwabele!
- Unomzimba owunikiweyo, wobomi. Unokwazi ukutshintsha iinxalenye zayo ngoku, kodwa ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uyiqonde njengoko injalo, ngoku.
- Iimeko zobomi zinje. Yonke into iyatshintsha, yonke into ikwimeko engaguquguqukiyo yokuhamba, kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo uya kujongana neemeko ezahlukeneyo kwakhona kungekudala.
- Ngokwenene akukho sizathu sokucaphuka okanye ukuba nomsindo ukuba izinto zonakalisiwe okanye zaphukile. Kwakulixesha labo lekhefu, kwaye umonakalo uza ngokusetyenziswa.
- Umlingane wakho yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebantwini: hayi umbala wesofa yakho.
Khumbula ukuba Umsebenzi wokushicilela sichukumise ngaphambili, apho ukhuthazwe ukuba ubhale izinto ezimbalwa onomdla kuzo ngomzimba wakho?
Cinga ukukhankanya ezinye izinto ozithandayo malunga nekhaya lakho ngokunjalo.
Kulungile ukukhankanya ukungakhuseleki okanye ukusilela okubonakalayo, ukuba nje ugxininisa kwinto entle kwaye ekhethekileyo apho. Umzekelo:
'Isitiya sam sincinci, kodwa siyandivumela ndikhule iintyatyambo ezintle kunye nemifuno emnandi.'
Okanye mhlawumbi:
'Ikhitshi lam libubumdaka, kodwa ndipheke imiqulu yesinamoni nabantwana bam ngale mvakwemini kwaye ndiya kuhlala ndikhumbula uncumo lwabo xa sibangcamla'.
^ Kanjalo.
Zama ukuthatha umzuzwana ububone ubuhle kuyo yonke into engamanyala, yonke into ebhaliweyo eludongeni, umkhombe ngamnye wothuli.
Ikho, ukuba siyazivumela ukuba siyibone endaweni yokuyigxeka kwangoko kwaye siyigwebe.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Ungabamkela njani abanye ukuba banjani
- Kutheni Ndizicaphukela Kangaka?
- Ndingubani? Impendulo eBuddhist enzulu kulo mbuzo unomdla
Kuxabise ukungafani
Ukuba ukhe walunywa kwi-organic, itomato ye-heirloom ebisoloko ifudumele elangeni imini yonke, uyazi ukuba yenye yezona zinto zinencasa yamava okhe uhlangane nawo.
Ngokukrakra, kufana nokuthatha ukuluma kwelanga lasehlotyeni elimnandi, kunye nencasa ye-tomato-y oya kuze uhlangane nayo.
Kukwanokwenzeka ukuba itomato ye-heirloom oyikhethileyo ibinokuma okungaqhelekanga, ngokungafaniyo ne-unifomu, i-GMO, abo bakhuliswe ngamagreenhouse abafumaneka kwivenkile ethengisa ukutya.
Nangona kunjalo, yayinjani incasa efana nezo zakhutshwa kwangoko zanyanzeliswa ukuba zivuthwe kwiilori zothutho? Ezi zokugqibela ziyi-mealy, kwaye ngokusisiseko zinambitha njengekhadibhodi emile ngokungafaniyo yetumato.
Ikhaya lakho ngekhe lenze indlela eya kwitayile yemagazini yeVogue, kodwa igcwele ngobomi, nothando, nomculo, kunye novuyo.
Ngaba uneentloni kuba unefanitshala engalinganiyo? Kutheni le nto kubalulekile ukuba ihambelane?
Ngaba ikhululekile? Ngaba indawo yakho ikunika ithuba lokuchitha ixesha kunye nabantu obathandayo?
Ngaba unayo iqabane lakho elithandekayo lezilwanyana elinendawo oyithandayo emhlabeni ekuloo nto kuthiwa 'imbi' esofeni, isongiwe ecaleni kwakho?
Yandisa uxabiso lomsebenzi wakho, ikhabethe lakho, kwanomzimba wakho.
I-wardrope yakho isenokungabikho kwimeko ekumgangatho wefashoni yakutshanje, kodwa amathuba okuba unxibe iimpahla ezifanelekileyo Ubuntu bakho obwahlukileyo , kwaye oko kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuya kuthi gqi kwinkangeleko, cinga ngabo bonke abantu abadumileyo abanayo (okanye ababenayo) into eyahlukileyo okanye engaqhelekanga malunga nendlela abajongeka ngayo, kunye nendlela eyenze ukuba babonakale kwisihlwele.
Abanye banokuyigxeka inkangeleko yabo, kodwa ezo mpawu zibenza ukuba babeyi…
… Nayo yonke into ngobuqaqawuli obahlukileyo kwaye yahlukile ngawe ikwenza ukuba ube ngubani.
Zama ukwamkela yonke into njengoko ichanekile njengoko bekufanele ukuba njalo.
Ukungafezeki kunye nokungagungqi kubudlelwane
Yonke into yobomi bethu ayinasiphelo. Le nyaniso iqinisa isidingo kuthi sonke sokuba sizixabise ngokwenyani izinto njengoko zinjalo, ngalo mzuzu.
Alukho ulwalamano oluya kuhlala 'lufezekile.'
Hayi phakathi kwabazali nabantwana, naphakathi kwamaqabane athandanayo okanye abahlobo abasondeleyo.
Kungenxa yokuba sonke sitshintsha rhoqo, kwaye zininzi izinto eziqhubekayo ebomini bethu ezichaphazela zonke iinkalo zobukho bethu.
Ukunxibelelana nomnye umntu ohamba notshintsho kuthetha ukuba kuya kuhlala kukho amaxesha oxinzelelo phakathi kwamava amnandi, nolonwabo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungazingcikivi xa kukho ukungavisisani kubudlelwane bomntu, okanye ukuba ayifani nezinto ezenzeka komnye umntu.
Olunye ulwalamano lwakho luhluke ngokupheleleyo kwindalo iphela, kwaye kunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungathelekisi ubomi bakho nobomnye umntu.
Khumbula ukuba uhlala ubona ubungqina obukhethwa ngabanye abantu ukuba babelane nawe: kuninzi okungaphaya okuqhubekayo phantsi komphezulu ongazaziyo.
Ukuba unako, thatha ikhefu kwimidiya yoluntu xa kunokwenzeka. Abantu bathambekele ekwabelaneni kuphela ngeyona nto ibalaseleyo kunye neqaqambileyo yobomi babo kwimithombo yabo yokutya, enika umbono ongeyonyani wokuba ubomi babo bunjani.
Ukuvezwa kolu hlaselo luhlala luhleli lokufezekiswa kobuxoki kumacala onke, ngalo lonke ixesha, kube negalelo elikhulu kukungazithembi kwabanye abantu kunye neminqweno yokuzabalazela ukufezekisa okwabo.
Endaweni yoko, jika ngaphakathi.
Yiba khona, khumbula, kwaye ube noxabiso olungachazekiyo lwayo yonke into kunye nawo wonke umntu ebomini bakho.
Ngokukodwa ii-bits 'eziphosakeleyo', njengoko ezo zihlala zibaluleke kakhulu, ekubuyiseleni.
Ukufezekisa Ngumba Wokhetho Lomntu Ngamnye
I-Huffington Post yaqhuba amanqaku athile anomdla kwithuba elidlulileyo malunga nokuba abantu kwihlabathi liphela bacinga ukuba loluphi na uhlobo, ukuya kuthi ga ngoku Abafazi kwaye Zamadoda Imizimba ichaphazelekayo.
Iziphumo zazinomdla, ukuba zaziphazamisa.
Abantu abavela kumazwe ali-18 ahlukeneyo bafotele ezi foto ukubonisa ngcono oko bakuthatha njengeyona mizimba yamadoda neyasetyhini ilungileyo, ngokwahlukeneyo.
Qikelela ukuba? Zonke izimvo zabo malunga nokugqibelela zazahlukile.
Abanye bakhetha ukuba indoda ixhomekeke, inesifuba esingenaboya kwaye ichaze i-abs, ngelixa abanye bekhetha yena isitokhwe, kunye neenwele ezininzi zesifuba.
Kwangokunjalo, abanye bathatha imifanekiso yabasetyhini ukuba babe nesifuba esaneleyo kunye nehips ezigobileyo, kunye nabanye bamenza wabonakala mncinci kwaye ulutsha.
Oku kuyayiphinda inyani yokuba ukugqibelela kukwisiso lombonisi.
Nditsho nezethu izimvo zokugqibelela kufuneka ziphinde zivavanywe: ngaba zizimvo zethu ngokwenene? Okanye ngaba baphenjelelwe ngabanye abantu?
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, oko kuthetha ntoni kwezethu izimvo? Ngamakhaya ethu, izinto zethu, kunye nobudlelwane bethu?
Cinga ngabo bonke abantu ohlukeneyo obaziyo, emva koko ucinge ngamakhaya abo, iimpahla zabo, imisebenzi yabo, ubudlelwane babo.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba kukho abantu ababini ubudlelwane babo obufanayo?
Ezinye izibini zinabantwana, ezinye azinabo. Ezinye zineqabane elinye, ezinye zine-polyamorous.
Kukho abo bakonwabelayo ukulwa nabalingane babo, kwaye abo bakhetha uxolo nokuzola.
Ukuba ubudlelwane buzalisekisa kuye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo, ke yile nto ibalulekileyo.
Ubuhle, uthando… ezo zezincinci zokungafezeki ekufuneka zibhiyozelwe, hayi nokuba isibini sikhangeleka silungile kumntu odlulayo, okanye ukuba sihambelana nenjongo yoluntu yokuba usapho 'lumele' ukuba lunjani.
I-Wabi-Sabi luvuyo kunye nokuzaliseka okufumanekayo xa usongiwe kunye nomntu omthandayo kwisiphithiphithi seengubo ezingafaniyo, ezigobileyo, ukukhanya kwelanga kuphalale izandla ezidibeneyo.
ungajongana njani nomntu ongayihloniphiyo imida
Ezo zandla zisenokuba ziye zakhazimla kwiinzipho, iicelluses, amanxeba, kunye neminwe engekhoyo…
… Kwaye bagqibelele kubuhle babo obunesiphako, obungafaniyo.
Ukushiya Ingcinga yokuGqibelela kukhulula ngokugqibeleleyo
Ubuya kuba ngubani ukuba ubungasoloko uzama ukuhlala kwiminqweno yomnye umntu?
Leliphi inqanaba lokonwaba onokulufumana ukuba ubunokuchitha lonke ixesha lokuvuka ubonga zonke izinto ezintle emhlabeni wakho, endaweni yokucinga kakhulu ngezinto ezimdaka ezifanele 'ukuthathwa', okanye amathanga afanele 'ukuqinisa'?
Umbhali uRichard Powell - incwadi yakhe I-Wabi Sabi elula Kufuneka ufundwe- unaso esi sicatshulwa ukuze wabelane ngaso:
“Ukwamkela umhlaba ungafezekanga, ungagqitywanga, kwaye udlulile, emva koko ungene nzulu ubhiyozele loo nyaniso, yinto engafaniyo nenkululeko.”
Kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo, ndandine phupha apho ndanikwa i-blade yengca kwibhokisi yomthi. Ndibhidekile xa ndiyibona, ndaza ndabuza onikayo ukuba ibaluleke ngantoni ngayo?
Impendulo yakhe yandothusa, kodwa yayintle kakhulu. Uthe:
Abantu kunqabile ukuba banike ingca ngaphezulu kwengcinga edlulayo. Bahamba phezu kwayo, bayisika ngaphandle kokunqumama, bayisebenzise ukondla izilwanyana, bayacaphuka xa ikhula ixesha elide. Kutheni le nto beza kuthatha ixesha lokuyicinga? Ingca nje, akunjalo?
Ukuba benze nje umzuzwana, bebeya kuqonda ukuba yonke intambo ngummangaliso omncinci kuye: nganye ingcwele, kwaye igqibelele ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ayinakuze ithathwe lula.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba ubomi bethu bebungaba bukhetheke kwaye bungcwele kangakanani na ukuba besixabisile kwaye sibhiyozela yonke into njengokuba injalo igqibelele kanye njengokuba injalo .
Ngaphandle kokungazithembi.
Ngaphandle kokugwetywa.
Ngaphandle kokuziva ungonelanga.
Kuvakala ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kuyasikhulula, akunjalo?
Masizame ukudibanisa iWabi-Sabi ebomini bethu, kwaye siyikhuthaze nakwabanye.
Yonke into esijikelezileyo ayifezekanga ngokungagungqiyo, kwimeko yotshintsho rhoqo.
Masicinge ngobubele ngayo yonke imiba, siyiphathe yonke (kunye nenye) ngokwamkela ngokupheleleyo kunye nokuthantamisa, kwaye sikuxabise konke esinako, ngelixa sinako.
