Emva kokuzicofa kweli nqaku, ubuncinci inxenye yakho kufuneka ekugqibeleni wamkele ukuba ukugqibelela akusoloko kuyinto elungileyo.
Inokugxilwa kumnqweno wokuzibekela imigangatho ephezulu, kodwa ithatha inyathelo elinye kude kakhulu.
Ukugqibelela okunetyhefu kwenzeka xa inqanaba elisempilweni lokulwa liba kwinqanaba lokulindela okungenampilo.
Kwaye ngoku, sijonga ngaphandle, uninzi lwethu lukujonga ukugqibelela njengento elungileyo…
Sisoloko sicinga nge wist indlela obuya kuba mnandi ngayo ubomi bethu ukuba besikwazi ukwenza enye imayile ukwenza izinto 'kunjalo nje.'
Siza kuhlala sibabiza abahlobo bethu okanye amalungu osapho njengabantu abagqibeleleyo kuba behamba ngaphezulu nangaphezulu kwaye beka umzamo ongaphezulu kunokuba besinokwenza kwimeko efanayo.
Asiziboni ezantsi. Sibona nje njengenzame yoku…
'Yenza okugqibelele'
Ngapha koko, yindlela esicwangciswe ngayo kubo bonke ubuntwana bethu, akunjalo?
'Zama ukuba ngoyena mntu ubalaseleyo kwaye ungoyena mntu unokuhlala usenza konke okusemandleni akho' yayingumyalezo owawutshisiwe kwii-psyche zethu.
Kwaye kulungile kwaye kuyathandeka njengomnqweno, kodwa inyani kukuba uninzi lwethu aluyithathi ngokoqobo.
Siyavuya ngokuhambahamba ebomini senza izinto ngokomndilili kakuhle… kwaye ixesha elininzi ziphuma zilungile.
Ukufuna ukugqibelela okwenyani, nangona kunjalo, ukufuna ukugqwesa kuzo zonke izinto kunokuba yinto ethe kratya.
Kuba ngokucacileyo akunakwenzeka ukufezekisa kunye nokugcina intsebenzo egqibeleleyo kuzo zonke izinto ngawo onke amaxesha, banoxanduva lokuziva bephoxekile.
Abagqibelele bakholelwa ukuba ixabiso labo kuphela kukuphumelela kwabo okanye kwinto abayenzela abanye abantu. Bahlala bexinekile yimvakalelo yokuziyeka (nabanye).
Kule ndawo iphambili yokufuna ukugqibelela, ukufuna ukufezekisa eyona nto intle kuyo yonke into iba ngumda omangalisayo.
Okuninzi kuncinci
Olu thintelo lunokuthatha ukugqibelela ukuya kwinqanaba lokukhubazeka- akukho nto iyenziwayo kwaphela uloyiko lokusilela .
Utyekelo lwabo lokucinga ngokugqithisileyo lukhokelela kuxinzelelo lokuba isiphumo asiyi kuhlangabezana neenqobo zabo ezichanekileyo.
… Ekugqibeleni, oku kungazithembi kuya kuthintela nasiphi na isenzo.
Yintoni abantu abagqibeleleyo abangayiboniyo kukuba iimpazamo ziyabanceda abantu ukuba bakhule kwaye baphuhle ngokomsebenzi kunye / okanye buqu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokuba nzima ukuzithatha kwaye zihlala zibuhlungu ngelo xesha, kodwa, phantse ngalo lonke ixesha, ekubonakaliseni kukho into elungileyo enokukhutshwa kwimeko.
Xa injongo yomntu kukungaze wenze impazamo, kukho ukutyekela ekubambeni 'kuhlalutyo lokukhubazeka,' okubangelwa kukuzijonga nzulu imeko ngenxa yokoyika ukungaphumeleli.
Njengombhali osomashishini kunye nenkuthazo uMichael Hyatt ubeka:
Ukugqibelela kungunina wokuzibekel 'amangomso izinto.
Ke, kude nokufezekisa ngaphezulu kuthi kunabantu abaqhuba ngokomndilili, yile nto unokuyicinga, ogqibeleleyo ngokufezekisa okungaphantsi- ukuphikisana okumangalisayo ngenene!
Ukugqabhuka Pond
Asingombandela nje kuphela onqunyelwe kwimfezeko ngokwabo ulindelo olungeyonyani zabanye ziyingxaki, ke isiphumo sisasazeka ngaphandle.
Phantse ngokungenakuphepheka, ubudlelwane nabahlobo, amaqabane, amalungu osapho, kunye nabalingane emsebenzini baya kuba phantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu xa kulindeleke kakhulu kubo.
Nokuba abo banotyekelo oluncinci lokugqibelela banokufumanisa ukuba ifuthe kumgangatho wabo bonke wobomi, unefuthe emsebenzini, esikolweni nakubudlelwane bobuqu.
Ke, njengoko besesitshilo, ukugqibelela ayisiyiyo inkuthazo esempilweni onokucinga ngayo.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela ebangela imiba yobudlelwane, inyani yile kunokubangela imiba yokwenene yempilo yengqondo : uxinzelelo, ukuphazamiseka kukutya, ixhala, ukuzenzakalisa.
Yintoni oonobangela bokugqibelela?
Njengoninzi lwemiba yengqondo, izizathu zihlala kunzima ukuzibamba.
Phantse rhoqo, nangona kunjalo, ngumzekelo wokuziphatha okufundileyo njengesiphumo sezinto zangaphandle. Kwaye ihlala isekelwe ebuntwaneni.
Ukuchasana noko ukulindeleyo, abazali nootitshala abanyanzelisa ukuba abantwana bazabalazele ukugqibelela - kwaye kweyona meko imbi kakhulu ukohlwaya abo bangaphantsi kwale migangatho ingqongqo-, eneneni, banegalelo ekucingeni ngendlela engafanelekanga nakwindlela yokuziphatha.
Utyekelo lokugqibelela luhlala luqiniswa yindawo yokupheka uxinzelelo kuseto lwezifundo.
Isidingo sokugqwesa sixutywe kubafundi kwaye isoyikiso seziphumo zokungaphumeleli kubomi babo bexesha elizayo siphindaphindwa rhoqo.
Kodwa ayisiyiyo kuphela esikolweni nakwikholeji- abantu abancinci bahlala betyhilwa ukuze baphumelele-kwezemidlalo, nabo.
Impembelelo yabo bazali banyanzelwayo kunye nabaqeqeshi abanamabhongo abajolise ngokungafanelekanga kwimpumelelo banokuthi, ngandlel 'ithile, ekugqibeleni baphazamise amandla omntu omncinci okuphumelela.
Nguwe lo?
Kungenzeka ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ukugqibelela kwakho kuyingxaki okanye uyazi nokuba indlela osebenza ngayo inempawu zolu hlobo lokuziphatha.
Ukukunceda uchonge isimilo esibonisa ukugqibelela, nazi ezinye zeempawu:
- Ndiziva ngathi ndisilele kuyo yonke into ngaphandle kwemizamo yokuphumelela.
- Ukujonga ngemithetho, uluhlu, kunye nemicimbi yomsebenzi.
- Unobunzima bokuphumla.
- Ukulwa nokwabelana ngeemvakalelo kunye neengcinga.
- Ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto xa ujongene nomsebenzi ngenxa yexhala lokuba awuzukukwazi ukuwugqiba ngokugqibeleleyo.
- Ukuthatha ulawulo olugqithisileyo kubudlelwane nosapho kunye / okanye abahlobo kunye / okanye osebenza nabo.
- Ukungathandabuzi nokuzama umsebenzi ngenxa yokoyika ukusilela.
Ukuba amanye okanye onke la manqaku ayangqinelana nobomi bakho, usenokuba nembono yokuba ukufuna kwakho imfezeko kukuchaphazela kangakanani.
Njengalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuziphatha, umnqweno wokugqibelela ulele kunye nobubanzi ukusuka kubumnene ukuya kubukhali.
Ke, kutheni kungenjalo thatha olu vavanyo Ukuchonga ukuba yeyiphi imimandla yobomi bakho echaphazelekayo kwaye kangakanani.
Nje ukuba ubenomlinganiso, uya kuba nakho ukuthatha amanyathelo athile ukoyisa ukuthanda kwakho ngokugqibeleleyo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- I-Wabi-Sabi: IJapan ikwamkela njani ukungafezeki
- Kutheni Ukuyeka Izinto Ozilindeleyo Kuya Kukhokelela Kulonwabo Olukhulu
- Imizekelo eli-12 yokuZiphatha okuKhangela ukuVunywa (+ Indlela yokuShiya iMfuno yakho yoQinisekiso)
- Indlela yokuyeka ukuziva unetyala kwiimpazamo ezidlulileyo
- Iindlela ezi-8 zabantu abaJolise kwiinkcukacha zahlukile kwabanye
- Unokonwaba njani kwaye waneliseke yile nto unayo ebomini
Iindlela ezi-8 zokoyisa utyekelo lokufuna ukugqibelela
Njengoko sele sibonile, indlela engenanto okanye engenanto yomntu ogqibeleleyo ayaneli nje ukuba namandla okuphelisa eyona mpumelelo, kodwa inoxinzelelo kwaye iyadinisa.
Ezi ziphumo zingathandekiyo azongeze kwimfezeko, andibi kunjalo?
Ukuba udiniwe ngawo wonke lo mzamo wongezelelekileyo kunye noxinzelelo olungafunekiyo kwaye uziva ngathi ubeka uxinzelelo olungafanelekanga kwabo bakungqongileyo, ungathanda ukuqaphela iindlela zokulungisa ulindelo lwakho olungqongqo kwaye woyise ukugqibelela kwakho.
Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zeendlela onokuphinda uziphathe ngayo indlela oziphethe ngayo ukuze uhambe ngaphaya kokuzama kwakho ukugqibelela…
Uvavanyo ngama-80%
Ungoyikiswa ziziphumo zokufezekisa okungaphantsi kokugqibeleleyo.
Ungazama ukuzama ukungafezeki- mhlawumbi ujonge i-80% endaweni ye-100 %- kunye nokuvavanya esona siphumo.
Uyakufumanisa ukuba abo bakungqongileyo ngekhe bawubone umahluko kodwa ke uya kube uzinike ukuphumla kwimfuno yakho yezona zilungileyo.
Cinga ngeempazamo zexesha elidlulileyo
Thatha ixesha uqaphele ezinye zeempazamo ezingalibalekiyo ozenzileyo ngaphambili. Ngokuqinisekileyo, impendulo egqibeleleyo yokugqibelela kwezi mpazamo iya kuzisola.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uziqwalasele ngononophelo ezi ziganeko, kuya kufuneka ubenakho ukufumanisa iziphumo ezithile ezilungileyo.
Mhlawumbi ufunde into okanye impazamo ithetha ukuba ubenakho ukuthatha elinye ithuba elizivezileyo ngenxa yempazamo yakho.
Inkqubo ye- egxile kokulungileyo Iziphumo zeempazamo zinokukunceda ukuba uzamnkele kwaye uzinike ikhefu ekuzohlwayeni xa zisenokwenzeka.
Yiba Nomusa Kuwe
Amathuba kukuba intloko yakho igcwele kukuzithetha okungalunganga, kusiwa ngumgxeki wangaphakathi ogweba ukusebenza kwakho ngokungqongqo.
Zama ukulungelelanisa obo bukhali ngelizwi elinovelwano ngakumbi.
Zixelele ukuba kulungile ukuba 'ulunge ngokwaneleyo' kwaye uzame ukuziphatha kakuhle xa usenza iimpazamo.
Ukumamela ilizwi elingaphakathi elibi kunye nokuzibetha malunga neempazamo kuya kuqinisa kuphela ukusebenza kwazo engqondweni yakho.
Jonga Oko Kwenziwa Ngabanye
Kunqabile ukuba sicebise abantu ukuba bazithelekise nabanye apha kwi-Conscious Rethink, kodwa kule meko ikhethekileyo iyavakala…
wazi njani ukuba uyayithanda inkwenkwe
… Xa kwenziwe ngendlela eyiyo.
Jonga ngeenxa zonke kubo bonke abantu abangazamiyo ukugqibelela. Abo bantu bazinza 'ngokwaneleyo.'
Babonakala njani kuwe? Ngaba bonke babuhlungu kwaye abanelisekanga ngenxa yokuba abahlali beyona nto ibhetele kwinto ethile?
Hayi.
Ngapha koko, bonwabe ngakumbi kunawe. Okungakumbi isimo esikhululekileyo ivumela ukuba bamkele xa izinto zinokungagqibi.
Banemigangatho esengqiqweni, bayazilungelelanisa naso nasiphi na isiphumo abasiphumezayo, baya phambili, kwaye abazibethi ngokwabo.
Ngoku zibuze: oku kundifundisa ntoni ngokugqibelela kwam? Ngaba igqibelele yonke into eqhekekileyo ukuba ibe yiyo?
Khetha into ibe nye kwi-Excel
Ukugqibelela kuhlala kugcwele kwikona nganye yobomi bomntu. Nangona kunjalo akukho mntu unokuba yimpumelelo ephezulu kuyo yonke into abayenzayo.
Ke, endaweni yoko, khetha into enye oyixabise kakhulu ebomini bakho. Emva koko jolisa ingqalelo yakho kunye namandla kuloo nto ukuze ube nokugqwesa kuyo.
Oku akuthethi ukuthatha iliso lakho kwibhola kwezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho kusafuneka ugcine izinto zikukhahlela kwindawo 'elungileyo ngokwaneleyo'.
Kodwa le ndlela iya kukunika indawo otyekele kuyo kwimfezeko- nokuba uzabalazela ukuqhubeka nokuphuculwa kwaye ungabi ngumgangatho ongenasiphoso.
Ke unokufezekisa ibhanti elimnyama kubugcisa bemfazwe obukhethiweyo, kodwa ungacingi umzuzwana omnye ukuba uza kuba yeyona nto ibalaseleyo emhlabeni, kungasathethwa ke ngeklasi yakho.
Okanye ungaphuma uphele uyokudlala ipiyano kwinqanaba lekhonsathi, kodwa ungakhathazeki ngenqaku elinye ngaphandle kwendawo ngexesha lomsebenzi.
Inkohliso Impazamo
Oku kunxulumene nokubuyela ekujongeni i-80% endaweni ye-100% kwaye luhlobo lonyango lokuvezwa.
Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukubona ukuba umhlaba usajika nangona ungafezekanga, yenza iimpazamo onokuthi uziphephe.
… Kodwa zenze zincinci okwangoku.
Yenza i-imeyile kwaye ubandakanye typo. Yibhake ngaphezulu le brownie uyenzayo. Shiya ikona enye yegumbi lakho lokulala ungcolile kwiveki yonke!
Isibhakabhaka asizukuwa. Ubomi buya kuqhubeka. Qaphela kwaye ufunde koku.
Yenza ubuGcisa obungafezekanga
Ukudala umsebenzi wobugcisa kunokuba ngokukhululeka okukhulu. Inokukugcina unamathele kumzuzu wangoku njengoko usebenzisa amandla akho okuyila.
Kwaye into ebalulekileyo ngobugcisa kukuba ayifuni ukugqibelela. Ubuhle bobugcisa buselisweni lombonisi. Akukho siqwenga sobugcisa sinokuthiwa sigqibelele.
Ke thenga i-canvas kunye neepeyinti zeoyile okanye udongwe oluthile uze ubone ukuba ungeza nantoni na.
Ukuba ukhetha ukuzoba okanye ukupeyinta, mhlawumbi zama i-cubism okanye i-impressionism njengoko ezi zitayile zingaxhomekeki kwisiphumo sokuba siyinyani yoko uzama ukukuveza.
Kwaye ubumba okanye imifanekiso eqingqiweyo iya kuhlala iqulethe iziphene kunye ne-sticky-outy bits, ke akufuneki ukuba uzikhathaze ngazo.
Xa ugqibile, ziqhenye wento oyenzileyo kunye nokungafezeki kwayo.
Diliza izinto
Olu tshintsho lulula lwendlela lunokukunceda woyise ukuthanda kwakho ngokugqibeleleyo inyathelo nenyathelo:
- Zibekele iinjongo ezinokufezekiseka.
- Yaphula imisebenzi enokubangela ukuba ibe nzima kumanyathelo anokulawulwa.
- Gxila kumsebenzi omnye ngexesha .
- Vuma ukuba ngumntu kuphela owenza iimpazamo.
- Qaphela ukuba uninzi lweempazamo luyanceda ekufundeni nasekukhuleni.
- Hlala unyanisekile malunga neziphumo ezinokubakho xa ujongene noloyiko lokusilela.
Umgca osezantsi
Ukusukela, njengoko besesitshilo, le patheni yokuziphatha ibilixesha elide ekwenzeni, ayizukulungiswa ngokukhawuleza.
Ngethemba, ngokwamkela ezinye zeengcebiso ezingasentla, kungekudala uza kuba nakho ukushenxa kwindlela engenanto okanye engenanto ebomini.
Kuya kufuneka uzikhumbuze rhoqo ukuba kulungile ukuba ungafezeki kwaye uzinike imvume yokunciphisa amehlo akho kwincopho yemfezeko obukhe wayibona njengeyona njongo ibalulekileyo.
Umbhali uHarriet B. Braiker ushwankathele ngokufanelekileyo isiphumo esibi sokugqibelela:
Ukulwela ukugqwesa kukushukumisela ukuba uzabalazele ukufezekisa kukudimazeka.
