Eyona nto ingcono kunolwalamano oluhle sisilayi sepayi yamazambane aswiti esenza indlela yayo kolo lwalamano. Le yinyaniso engenakuphikiswa. Kwaye ubudlelwane obulungileyo buvela ngokwazi indlela yokuhlangana kunye nexesha lokushiya omnye isihogo sodwa.
Ngamanye amagama: hloniphani ukuba nangona nibabini, kodwa nibe mnye kunye.
Cinga ngobuhlobo umngcelele wabaphangi be-snuggly, elowo nalowo uguqa kwiinqanawa zomnye, kodwa ukuhamba ngesondo elisondeleyo kunokuba sisikhephe esinye. Kuza kubakho amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, apho ukwahlula-hlulwa kwengqwalaselo kubaluleke kakhulu njengokusahlula ngokwamaxhoba empahla yegolide.
Le asiyonto ongenakuyiphatha. Yindalo. Singabaleka kuzo ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokulula ukuze ubuyele kwibhodi emnandi.
1. Usapho
Into yokuqala kufuneka uyenzele indawo kwi nayiphi na ubudlelwane-kwaye oko kubalulekile ukuba uthi ophethe into eposiweyo, ukunqwala unobhala wokuphuma, ukutshata emva kweminyaka esibhozo sithandana- lusapho.
Intsapho elungileyo, usapho olubi, ayinamsebenzi. Igama le-F likhona yonke indawo kwaye lifikelela konke. Ukudibana kwakhona (nokuba uyafuna okanye awufuni). Iindibano zeholide (nokuba uyabhiyozela okanye awuyibhiyozeli). Ukuyekiswa ngokungacwangciswanga ngenxa yokuba: a) babekummandla b) kwafuneka bachame c) bafuna imali okanye d) beve ukuba uyapheka.
Intsapho yomntu omthandayo iya kufana nomnenga ophethwe ngumnatha ophuma kwisaphetha senqanawe: ngamanye amaxesha ubungangamsha, ngamanye amaxesha makhulu ngokumangalisayo, akonwabanga, uyanuka kwaye uyangxola.
Umntu wakho omthandayo kuya kufuneka athambekele kulo mnenga amaxesha ngamaxesha. Uya kwenza okufanayo nakwakho. Nobabini kufuneka nijongane nale nto. Kuya kufuneka wamkele ukuba usapho ngamanye amaxesha luza kungena phakathi kwakho, ngawe, naphakathi kwakho.
2. Abantwana
Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ivelaphi. Ngaba yeyakho wedwa, inokuba yeyakho iqabane lakho, inokuba ingumba womanyano lwakho, inokuba ingumntwana wasebumelwaneni okrwada.
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Abantwana abanakuphepheka kobu bomi. Zidla ixesha. Baza kukutsalela kude umbono wokonwaba kwezothando njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuba utsalwe kuwo onke amalwandle oMhlaba.
Ukuba awukakulungeli ukwamkela ukuba kukho amaxesha omthandayo uya kujongana nemvume ethile okanye omnye umntwana (unyana, intombi, umtshana, umtshana, uthixo, iklasi, inkedama engahleliwe), ke awuzilungiselelanga kulwalamano.
Kuba kukho amaxesha, kufanelekile, xa umntwana ndiza kuthanda thatha indawo yonke enye into, ukuya kuthi ga ngoku kubandakanya ukubhukelwa kwesidlo sangokuhlwa kunye netikiti likaStevie Nicks onethemba lokwenza ubusuku obukhulu kunye nalo.
Jongana nayo, hayi ngokuchasene nayo, kwaye uya kufumana amanqanaba amatsha okuzaliseka kubudlelwane bakho.
3. Abahlobo
Abahlobo bayindibaniselwano engaqhelekanga yosapho kunye nabantwana, bethatha indawo yokuhlala kabini.
Yamkela ukuba bayakuphalaza baphume kwigunjana labo lokugcina imithwalo kunye nazo zonke iidesika, apho kuya kufuneka uzulazule kwindlela yakho uze ubenze ngoncumo.
Kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba umntu wakho omthandayo anyamalale, ngamanye amaxesha iintsuku (ezibizwa ngokuba 'luhambo lwabahlobo'). Ayisiyakho eyokwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ngale mvakwemini okanye ngobusuku ( abahlobo abalungileyo sukuvumela abahlobo ukuba benze iintsasa). Ukuba uyabazi ubunjani bomntu omthandayo kunye nabahlobo babo, kufanelekile ukuba ulunge.
4. Iimfuno eziZodwa
Kuza ixesha xa umntu wakho omthandayo ehamba ngolwandle esiqithini. Ayizukuhlala. Ayisiyonto ilindelweyo yokuba ujoyine i-tango ehamba ze elunxwemeni.
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Umntu omthandayo ufuna ixesha yedwa.
Ukuphindaphinda: umntu omthandayo ufuna ixesha yedwa. Yenzele indawo. Udinga ixesha lodwa. Ukuba nesithuba sokubakho ngokupheleleyo ngokwahlukileyo kubaluleke njengokuhlangana kunye. Oku akuthethi ukuba abafuni okanye abakudingi. Bayayenza. Ayililo lonke ixesha legazi.
Kananjalo, kufuneka baqhubeke nokuzifumana, kwaye amaxesha amaninzi ubuncwane bokungcwatywa buye bufumaneke ngamaxesha okuzimela. Ubuncwane bolu hlobo luyinzuzo kuni nobabini.
5. Imisebenzi
Ngelishwa ukuba thanda abaphangi ayizi nge-401K. Umntu omthandayo kufuneka asebenze. Kufuneka usebenze. Umsebenzi unokubandakanya ukuhlala emva kwexesha ngamanye amaxesha, okanye nakweempelaveki zokuya eofisini. Esi ayisosiphelo sehlabathi.
Kulapho ke unokufumana inkxaso, mhlawumbi uluncedo olwaneleyo ukubanceda emsebenzini ukuze umsebenzi unciphise ixesha lakho ngokukhawuleza njengoko kunokwenzeka. Unokubakhapha xa usiya e-ofisini uye kwenza iikopi ngelixa besenza umsebenzi onzima ngakumbi.
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6. Iimfuno
Usenokuba ngumntu wakusasa. Banokufuna ukuba uzivale de kungabikho ngaphambi kweshumi. Unokumvuyela uAdam Sandler kuyo nayiphi na into ayenzayo. Banokufa kancinci ngaphakathi ukuba abafiki kwinkulumbuso yarthouse ubuncinci kanye ngenyanga.
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Ubudlelwane bujikeleze iimfuno ezingasoloko zilungelelana.
Ukwenza indawo kwiimfuno zothandekayo wakho kuthetha ukwenza ukulalanisa (i-movie ka-Adam Sandler ayizukubabulala, kwaye unokwenza ngakumbi nge-cinema yokubonisa ebomini bakho), ngokwenza utshintsho (jonga esipilini unxibe mnyama? Ngaba uhlala unxiba abamnyama? Banxibe ntoni? Imibala eqaqambileyo? Umbala uyawondla umoya wabo. Nxiba ihempe ebomvu okwexeshana, ngenxa yokulunga!), Kwaye ukwamkele ukuba awusoloko uzalisekisa iimfuno zomntu omthandayo.
7. Ukudana kunye neNgxabano
Kulapho uncwina khona. Olu lusuku lwemvula, ukumuncwa komgcino wobudlelwane. Akunakuphepheka njengentsapho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo.
La ngamaxesha ovumayo ukuba awuvumelani kwaye ubuyela kwiinqanawa zakho zomkhosi ukuze unxibelelane ngomqondiso womsi ukuba kunyanzelekile. Kodwa nxibelelana nawe, kuba ngapha koko isithuba esiphakathi kwakho siya kukhula ukusuka kumgama ofunekayo ukuya kumsantsa wasendle ukujonga kwelinye icala lehlabathi.
Naluphi na ubudlelwane kufuneka buzimisele ukuzinika ubabalo lokuphuma ukuze bonke ababandakanyekayo babone ukuba yonke isenkulu kunamalungu ahlukeneyo.
8. Iinkolelo
Unokwabelana ngeenkolelo, kodwa akunako, kwaye nakwiinkolelo ezabelwana ngazo kukho ukungafani.
Ngemihla yakudala yokuhamba ngenqanawa, kwakukho abo babecinga ukuba umhlaba uthe tyaba, kanti uthando lwalusekhona phakathi kwabo kunye nabaphathi abangaphezulu. Kuya kufuneka wenze indawo yeenkolelo ezinokuthi, ngaphezulu, zibonakale ngathi azikubandakanyi.
Ekugqibeleni, uyaqonda ukuba nokuba umhlaba uthe tyaba, nihlangene ngomkhumbi ‘ukujikeleza kwaye’ ukuwujikeleza.
9. Iimvakalelo zangaphandle
Inyaniso yokuba umntu wakho omthandayo 'wayenobomi' yeyona nto inomdla kuwe kulo mntu. Siyayithanda indlela yokuzimela kunye nokuzimela kwabo sibamemayo ukuba basondele kuthi.
Ewe, ngoku xa nikunye, basathanda ukukhulisa indlwana kanomyayi, ukulwa i-octopi, intenetya ngoLwesine, kunye nokufunda iilwimi ezintsha ukuba asikho esinye isizathu ngaphandle kokongeza kunikezelo lwabo lwezithuko.
Umntu omthandayo unomdla ngaphandle kwakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka uyenzele indawo.
Okungakumbi, kuya kufuneka uyikhuthaze. Umntu omthandayo onomdla uhlala onwabile.
10. Ababini kuni
Abathandani. Ubuhlobo. Izibophelelo eziqhelekileyo. Naluphi na ulwalamano kufuneka lwenze indawo yokuhlangana.
Onke amaqela kufuneka aqonde ukuba iyunithi isebenza ngokukuko xa ikwazi ukudibana emva kokuba izibophelelo zosuku zidibene, nokuba zezobungcali okanye ziyonwabisa, kwaye ziyonwabele imvakalelo yokuhamba ngolwandle kunye.
Ngaba sifuna ingqwalaselo eyahlukileyo yamaqabane ethu ngalo lonke ixesha? Akunjalongo noko. Ngaphandle kokuba sibenza abantu abalwa nezibetho zokuzithemba okuphantsi. Nawuphi na ubudlelwane yindibaniselwano yokuhlangana kunye nokuzahlula, ukuhlonipha imida, izibophelelo, kunye nolonwabo oluyindalo lomntu ozinikezela kubumbano.
Yeyiphi indlela ye-hoity yokuthetha ukuba iinqanawa ezimbini ebusuku zinokuthetha ngakumbi malunga nokubona iminenga kunenqanawa enye eyedwa ehamba lonke ulwandle luhlaza. Yo ho!
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